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ok so last year i went out with this kid Ben right but he cheated on me now hes having a baby with the girl he cheated on me with. He called me about a month ago and told me he missed me and i told him my feelings i still had for him so i've been talking to him ever since and i kissed him a couple of times. and i dont know what to do cuz hes still with the pregnant girl and i know i shouldent even be talking to him but i need an outsider opinion.
P.S i ve also been seeing this other guy whose 22 im 16
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wow that's alot to deal with. I personally don't think you should continue to see Ben. Because if he cheated on you the first time, then most likely he'll do it again. Plus he has a kid. I don't know about the 22 year old. I find it kind of odd that he's dating a 16 yr. old. How come he can't date his peers? I hope i helped you and hopefully i didn't sound judgemental.
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Yes, you have to do what you know is right. dont ruin things for his pregnant girlfriend. she needs him more than anything right now, so let him worry about him and his baby and girlfriend right now. dont distract him and make him spend time with you which will take away time from the baby and his girlfriend. plz dont try and break him and his girlfriend up..thatz the saddest thing in the world bc she needz him right now and shell need him even more after she has the baby.
i kno itz hard to let him go, but just remember that you're helping someone else..and yull be helping the baby have a happier life if you let him go.
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I'm not sure what to say about Ben, because he seems like a player from what you've said, but I'd like to point out that most of the times girls like guys that are hard to get... say... too old for them or guys that already have girlfriends...! I'm the same way though. It just makes things more exciting. Now.. thw 22 year old thing I can kind of relate to. My friend Jonathan is 21 and I'm 16, he's such a nice guy and he's always watching out for me... but I have more feelings for him then he knows. He jokes around with me a lot asking if i want to makeout and stuff, but I always turn him down because I don't want to get him in trouble. You should think about that... the fact that if you get with the 22 year old and wind up having sex... it's rape... whether you willingly had sex or not and he could get in HUGE trouble .:.Macy.:. (Rate me!)
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Well, this is hard.. i dunno.. u gotta make up ur own mind own this which 1 do u love? as 4 tha 22 year old.. thats not good.. gurls who go out more than 2 years older r more likly to drink, smoke, get pregnate at an early page, I heard it on tha news =D...
Hope I helped & God Bless
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I think you really shouldnt even try to think about him any more. If he made this girl pregnant, then you might wind up pregnant also. forget it unless you want to wind up like that other girl. oh yeah, he also cheated on you, you probaly dont want that to happen again!!!
Evan
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Oh geez. Um, well I would probably not get into a relationship with Ben seeing as he seems to have a lot on his hands. And about this 22 year old.. I think that is too old. That's just my opinion and it's ultimitely up to you, but I don't think that a 16 and a 22 year old would mix very well.
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ok, ben, he cheated on you, and he does have the potentiality to do it again. think about it, you could be the one to get knocked up next, and the guy who you are currently seeing, can also impregnate you, and then you could be carrying his child, and the 22 year old, could also rape you.
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Hey im faye,...how old is this guy ben?..is he older than 22? I dont mean to be harsh but I honestly dont think that you should have kissed him...exspecially since he has a baby on the way..what you need to do is tell him ya your feelings are the same but with him haveiing a baby on the way you dont wanna get in the middle of things and you want his mind on his soon to come child...
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I believe that he has a responsibility to the girl he got pregnant, and especially since she is still carrying his child, I don't think you should be pursuing(spelling???) anything with him. He hurt you in the past, and anyone who cheats on their significant other, in the way this Ben guy did, should not have a second chance at being with you. Its not fair to you, and its not fair to the woman who is carrying his child. You will inevitably get hurt if you end up going back to him, and potentially YOU could get pregnant in the long run, too. There are so many things to think about in a situation like this, and that is what sucks so much. You have feelings for someone who you know isn't right for you. I might sound cliche, but there are so many other guys out there who will treat you so much better AND they haven't gotten other people pregnant. Keep that in your mind and stay strong. My suggestion is to move on. Any baggage that he carries (aka his child) would be placed upon your shoulders too if you ended up back with him also.
Hang in there, hun. If you need anymore advice, please feel free to leave me a question in my site, ok? I hope this helped.
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You are mad at him for cheating on you, but you are cheating on him with a guy 6 years older. Completly understandable. Why shouldn't you be talking to him? You talk to strangers... why not him!? Just don't get pregnant.
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