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Confused about it all
Okay, the thing is, I'm confused. I know this is going to sound stupid, but I need to ask. People are always asking about tips on kissing and making out. I've never done either of those things, but what gets me muddled is the whole 'it comes naturally' thing. I mean, is it really based on instinct, or should i be worried about my first time doing all those things? (I'm having a hard time getting my point across here, work with me). People ask things like 'where should i put my hands' and 'what kind of kiss' and 'how do you french'. Are those things that you really need advice about, or do they really all come naturally and people only fret because they haven't done them? Is it better to have people tell you how-to's so it'll go better, or is it all going to come together anyway? I hope you don't find me too silly for asking, I'm just(like I stated before) confused! Thank you to all who choose to answer
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This is a COMMON problem, so don't feel foolish! It's alright, belive me! If people ask you, then that means that they have some type of trust in you! Getting back to the topic, there's a website I've been too that makes you sound like you know what you're doing! it's 'VirtualKiss.com' that site is a good resource.. Good luck, and I hope you aren't confused.. oh, and I hope I helped you out! -Ce
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It's natural to feel slightly apprehensive about kissing when you haven't done it, simply because it is unchartered territory. In such circumstances, people often want advice about what 'should' happen just to be reassured that they're normal. They don't ask for advice because they don't know what to do physically, I would imagine, because it is a pretty instinctual thing, but rather because, emotionally, they need reassurance that it isn't scary and they will be okay without choreographising the whole thing.
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they come naturally. and its true. you will know what to do dont worry hunny. and your not silly lol. dont worry hunny. it will happen! <3 k
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People genrelaly get all fussed about these things, especially before they have done them. As long as you're comfortable with whatever your actions are, you'll be fine and need no assistence. It's pretty hard to mess up kissing, for example. You just go with what you feel. Thinking too much during such actions will probably make the moment akward, anyway. People really generally worry for nothing.
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Oh boy, I remember being scared about kissing. But I never asked anyone else for advice for it, because I wanted my kisses to be personal. Well, the wait was worth it. The confusion died down. Everything just came so naturally. Your hands automatically go to wherever is right for the moment. Your eyes close. And if its the right person, you travel with the kiss. A kiss is something that does not require advice. Because advice gets thrown out a window in the moment. You don't think when you kiss someone, so its pointless to ask for advice.
I hope I helped.
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I've seen questions like those all over here and those particular ones are the ones I choose <i>not</i> to answer. <br>
I think for the most part, kissing does come naturally, but for some, their instincts are not as clear. No one can really tell you how to be a good kisser. And how-to's usually never work. You can't make someone a good kisser simply by telling them what to do. I don't think it works like that. <br>
I hate people who assume that <i>everyone</i> will know how to kiss their very first time just because it'll <i>come naturally</i>. First kisses are usually horrible anyway. Really the only thing that can make you a good kisser is practice. Don't expect your first kiss to be <i>amazing</i>. It usually never is.
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I think it really is all just a natural thing.If you try and force it or plan it out,it makes it that much more awkward and things can wind up going even worse!If you are in the right moment,the right place,with the right person,you will just feel that it's right.It's hard to explain.But it really is just something you should let come naturally.Hope that helps ya out some,if you have any more questions feel free to leave a note in my inbox!! ;)
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i can see how you are confused, but kissing is pretty much a "go with the flow" kind of thing. there isnt really guidelines on how to kiss, its just what you feel is right and/or what your kissing partner is doing. definently do not be worried, and since you are a beginner, dont jump all into frenching and such. its all going to come together, and you arent silly for asking.. its a big thing to be worried about ( even though you'll feel really dumb for worrying later)
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It really does come natural. You just have to follow your heart. It also helps to have a patient partner, who's willing to go slow and make sure that you are totally comfortable in everything you do.
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