Alot of my friends are virgins, but I'm not. I've had a few sexual relations actually. I don't feel the need to defend myself or feel bad about it because I'm 21 and on the right path in life. Now, my best friend is becoming good friends with one girl who hates me and is also a virgin! For the first time in my life, I feel slutty. They basically advertise to everyone how "good" they are and I know this other girl will talk bad about me to my best friend. My best friend has never judged me, but I feel like she will now. It's my life and I feel like they have this virgin club going on, and I'll just be left out. What should I do? Let this all go or salvage my friendship?
Your best friend could just be going through a phase. I remember going through a phase like this... I joined this Baptist church and started trying to be all 'godly.' At least... By the Baptist definition anyway.
Point being... I drove two of my bestest friends in the world away for a while. During my 'godly' phase, one friend came out of the closet concerning his sexual orientation... While the other became a single, teenage mother. Both were so afraid of being judged that not only did they not tell me what was happening in their lives, but they didn't talk to me for several years.
In the end... I learned that I wasn't being 'godly,' I was chasing after the approval of a group of people by following their rules. And that... If I really wanted to be like God... I had to love unconditionally. My friends and I started talking again... And though this might not happen for everyone, re-connecting was pretty easy. We're better friends now than we were before, and we've been friends now for... Um... Fifteen years, I think. Ha... It's been so long I can't really remember.
Anyway... How does my story apply to you? Well... I guess what I want to say is that... You've no reason to be ashamed of yourself, regardless of your sexual history. Don't let this new chick put you down. I'm NOT telling you to be mean... Just don't put up with it. If she starts talking smack about you or anyone else, treat her like the child she is and walk away. As for your friend...
Tell her that you feel like you're being judged. Don't ask her to choose between you and the new girl, just explain to her why you're upset. If she can't understand... Then maybe you should disappear for a little while and make some new friends. Remember that it doesn't mean the friendship is over... You may just have to wait until this phase has ended.
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My younger sister (22) and I (24) have always been pretty different and disagreed on many things. She is an extremely devote catholic (she intends on becoming a nun) and I’m really, just not. For the past few years we always just agreed to disagree and to not talk too much about things we know will only upset us both and disrupt family gatherings. This really works as far as I’m concerned: I don’t need to argue with her and I’m okay with disagreeing with her.
The trouble is lately she’s gotten downright belligerent about it. She sent out an e-mail to a whole bunch of people that included a lot of ‘facts’ about intelligent design and young earth (basically, she said evolution was nonsense and that the world is only 6,000 years old ‘cause the bible says so). I sent her (just her, not her whole list) some links that dispute that and point out some of the problems with the evidence she said she had of the world only being that old. Some of the stuff she included was just untrue, and I thought she should know it. In the past she’s always been pretty reasonable and we could have these sorts of conversations, even though we both know we disagree!
In response, she e-mailed everyone in my family telling them that I am going to hell, that I’ve rejected God, and that they should force me to move in with other more faithful family members because I can’t take care of myself and that I might do drugs or other awful things if someone doesn't stop me... and I could kill her! Not only is that bullshit! That was really painful for my parents, and grandparents and aunts and uncles to read! Some of them are religious and some aren’t, but it was still frightening and hateful and upset them! My littlest sister was in tears about it and asking everyone why she hates me.
I’m really livid! I don’t even know what to do with this much anger. I haven’t responded to her, although apparently my mom had a talk with her and told her that that was not cool, but I’m kind of at the point where I never want to speak to her ever again! I just think she’s a nasty, stupid, little monster for doing that.
Does anyone have any advice on what I can do about this and how to approach it? I just want things to be okay for my family. I don’t need us to all agree, I just need a bit of respect. Obviously I’m never going to try and talk sense to my sister again, but what do I do now?
I know how you feel... Half of my family is uber religious, while the other half just wants to live and let live. For example, right now I'm living with my Aunt and Uncle... Sometimes my Aunt will want to share something with me that she's learned in her Bible study class... And I sort of just have to bite my tongue and try not to flinch.
When it comes to people and their belief system... There are people willing to be open-minded, people willing to agree to disagree, and... Let's just say 'the rest.' Take this incident as a sign that the time when the two of you could agree to disagree has come to an end, though that end may only be temporary. The next time she says something, no matter how ignorant or misinformed, Bite. Your. Tongue. I know that sometimes the urge to educate someone is nearly unbearable... But she won't listen and the situation might turn ugly again.
If I were you... I would try to talk to her... But I would leave religion out of it. I might say something like, 'If you're worried about me, I would appreciate your discussing those worries with me. Broadcasting such an opinion to the entire family will just upset me, as well as many of our family members.' Talk about why you're upset and how she made you feel when she sent that email. Leave religion and nasty names out of the mix. I know that's really difficult, especially when you're angry. Maybe you should give yourself some time to calm down before you attempt that conversation.
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This is gonna be long...I'm just looking for opinions here, this is obviously something I need to figure out for myself. But, I need some outsiders to look at this situation for me. I'm too stuck in the middle to step out. I'm 21, and a girl.
Guy #1 - Jeremy. He's 23.
Jeremy and I have almost three and a half years of history together. Unfortunately the history isn't all positive. He was emotionally abusive for the entirety of our "official" relationship, and caused me some major issues (depression, anorexia). We dated for awhile in '05-'06, but broke up because he was having depression issues and couldn't handle our relationship on top of all that...but we never really broke up. We stayed friends with benefits for two years after that. We both felt that we had no time for a real relationship, and it wasn't really one until recently. At some point I realized he wasn't treating me well enough, so I wrote him a goodbye letter and told him I never wanted to see him again. He gave me back my key, and left. A week later, he called me and begged me for another chance at friendship, and after much hesitating, I agreed. He was like a completely different person. It seemed that he'd had some sort of epiphany while I was gone, and changed for the better. He started complimenting me, being really sweet, and just...yeah.
That would've been fine, except that Jeremy's family hates me. They threatened to cut him off financially if they ever saw me again at one point. He's had some major issues, including ankle surgery, a...sexual problem (blocked vein, or something), and because he's been couch-ridden and all that, we haven't been physically very close lately, and I've been hanging out with other people. The thing is, recently, Jeremy has become the sweetest man I've ever met. The other night, he came over and brought my favorite wine with two pounds of strawberries. We melted dark chocolate chips I had and dipped strawberries in chocolate all night, and cuddled. It was, like, perfect. He's doing and saying all these things now I used to dream about him doing, including playing with my hair like he never used to.
Guy #2 - Erik. He's 27.
I work as a barista in a coffee shop. Erik's one of the regulars. We started really hanging out one night after I'd come home from Jeremy's house and gone straight to the coffee shop, upset after having been kicked out by his parents. Erik asked why I looked so upset, so I bitched to him At some point, I said, jokingly, "I need a drink." He said, "well I can't help you with Jeremy's parents, but I can definitely help you with that." So that weekend we went to the bar and he bought me a drink. We talked, and connected, and he surprised me a lot. My first impression of him was quite wrong, as he came off as kind of a computer geek and nothing else...but he's really intelligent, strong, cute, likes to have fun, likes to laugh...He's also an amazing kisser. When I was little, I used to write little romance-type-stories, and the guys always used to tangle their fingers in the girl's hair when they kissed, and Erik does that exactly the way I envisioned it. He's like, freakishly perfect for me, aside from being a little out of shape...but guys I date always wind up at the gym with me anyway. Only problem I seem to be having is that he's shaping up to be quite possessive. Erik has been in California for a week. I hung out with Jeremy once while he was gone, AT my coffeeshop. Erik's friends called him and told him I was hanging out with Jeremy. When I called him later, I had nothing to hide, and I was about to tell him. But he was being so cold, I finally asked what his deal was, and then he said "I was informed that you were hanging out with Jeremy." I feel like his friends are stalking me, and it's a little creepy. Then again, I've never dated a guy who didn't become possessive and jealous if they didn't start out that way. Yes, I've already discussed this with him, but it's still a factor...it's drama I don't want or need. I'm in my last semester of my undergrad, and the last thing I need is to be distracted from my schooling.
Anyway, Erik's family appears to like me. Erik and I think alike. We're both Scorpios (not that I put much stock in that...Jeremy's Cancer.)...Erik has a job, has his life together, and doesn't mind whipping out the credit card every so often. He lives with his parents, but he's looking for his own place.
Jeremy has no income, still lives with his family...but even with all the crap going on in his life, he's taken me out to lunch, brought me strawberries, brought me chocolates...he's trying really hard to do everything he can for me...but I can't help wondering if he's not doing it because he thought he was losing me, and he'll just snap back to taking me for granted as soon as I commit.
Both guys know about each other. This is all out in the open. I took my time telling Jeremy about Erik, but when I finally did, after agreeing to not contact each other for a week, he said, "I'll be damned if I let Erik prance in with his contact lenses and web design and take you from me." Which, I hate to admit, is kind of romantic, in a way...Jeremy is a guy who doesn't apologize, doesn't chase girls, and doesn't beg, but he's done all of that recently for me.
The idea that the bad-boy is trying to be a good-guy to keep me close to him, is willing to overcome his commitment phobia and commit to me, has even threatened to leave his parents' house and never speak to them again if they didn't back off about me, and has basically turned into prince charming, is pretty enticing.
But I also feel that I can't ignore the fact that I have a thing for Erik...can I? I mean if my relationship with Jeremy were what it was supposed to be, that wouldn't have happened, would it? I'd like to just kind of see them both and figure out who I really want, but they both gave me the "me or him" ultimatum, so I have to make a decision quickly.
I admit, I'm a little afraid that going back to Jeremy will turn into what it was before. I'm afraid to lose him, and I almost feel that if we did get back together, it would be for good. I've had dreams about marrying him...
I'm also a little afraid that Erik will turn out to be some horrible jealous, possessive man, and that I'll be in a worse hell than I was before.
At least Jeremy can back off. He's willing to give me a week apart, knowing full well that I could be hanging out with Erik, and trusting that I'll make the right decision...but our history has been bad - he hasn't treated me right in the past, I've tried to kick him out, his family gives me headaches, and I just...argh.
I don't know who to pick, which way to turn, or how to go about picking.
Help me...
Okay... At some point, you mentioned that most of the guys that you date either start out jealous and/or possessive or gradually reveal themselves to be that way. Erik is all ready exuding the 'creepy vibe.' (Because that is creepy. And he's old enough to know better.) And Jeremy... I'd be seriously wary of anyone that's given you a complex in the past or abused you in any way, no matter how different they're acting.
Basicly... What I'm saying is that I'm noticing a pattern. I could be wrong... But it seems to me like you have a tendency to become attached to possessive and/or abusive guys.
My advice is this: if there is a pattern... Think about it. And kick both of these guys to the curb.
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22/male
I'll try to keep this short, here are the facts:
She's super cute, definitely a 10.
I'm an average looking guy, shy, but people tell me I'm really nice and sweet.
I've partied with her 3 times, and she has been nice to me in person even though I've been somewhat shy.
She has relationship problems, guys always treat her like crap for some reason.
I live an hour away now, but I move to her town in 4 months.
Recently, she's been talking to me quite a bit, and saying she wants to hang out with me. But I know she hangs out with a lot of guys. And she knows that I'm moving down to her town soon.
I think I'm probably a good change from her bad relationships. Is that unheard of for her to go for a guy like me? Could it last or am I just a stopgap until her next ahole guy?
I say: give her a chance.
She'll either realize that you're a catch or not. If not, her loss. There are plenty of girls out there that do go for shy, nice, sweet guys.
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I'm 18/f, and lately I haven't had any appetite at all. Sure, I get hungry, but then when I eat, it seems like I get full really quickly and I just can't eat whatever portion is there in front of me. I rarely eat more than half of whatever I get at restaurants. I do have unusual eating habits anyway: I'm very picky, and I have a chaotic eating schedule, and normally don't eat 3 meals a day. The things I just listed are nothing all that new, but the 'no appetite' thing is very recent, it's probably been about a month.
Anyone ever experienced this? I'm definitely not anorexic, but my parents are starting to think so because I hardly eat.
Just a thought... Could be that because you aren't eating three regular meals a day your stomach is shrinking. How about trying to eat more snacks? Like a piece of fruit or some crackers inbetween meals? While you still may not eat bigger portions, you'd be eating more often. (And really, healthy snacks aren't bad for you.)
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Im 13 and i want to get in better shape, not necesarily lose weight, though that would be nice. I play soccer between 3 and 6 days a week. in the winter, i ski on the weekends for 6 hours a day. my dad says i should get up at 5 and run but im tired when i wake up at 6, i dont know if i can do that. what are some good ways for me to exercise around my school and sports schedule?
How about buying a few aerobic's tapes? I don't know where you live... But if you're anywhere near a Ross, they only cost about five dollars a pop. It's something that will get you to move around, and you can do it whenever you want. Works for me :)
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as hard as i try, i cant stop biting my nails. I did for one year, then i started again, then i stopped, then 2 years later i stopped for a while, and now as hard as i try i just cant stop. I also bite my cuticuls, and im afraid i wont be able to stop until my nails are perminently dmamaged. any ideas??
I have a friend that was a chronic nail-biter. She used to bite her nails past the quick, until her fingers bled. What worked for her; going to the nail salon and having tips put on. Now her fingernails are too pretty to bite. :)
I know that sounds sort of expensive... But to have gel tips put on at Wal-Mart only costs $35. After that, to have them filled only costs $20. (You'd only have them filled maybe once or twice a month.) Anyway... It's a thought.
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so im going to get some tomorrow, my eyes need to be checked, a know nothing about this btw, so any advice? like do they hurt putting them on and taking them off? how much does it usually cost for eye exam and contacts. which contacts should i get? i really dont know a thing about this? let me know everything?
The eye doctor will probably start you out on soft lenses. I think my lenses costed about $100, but then again, that will vary depending on whether or not you have health insurance, and what type of health insurance you have.
As for putting them in and taking them out... It doesn't hurt or anything, it's just that putting them in might be a little awkward at first because you have to get used to sticking a foreign object in your eye. If you want, you can ask the doctor if one of the nurses will assist you while you put in your lenses for the first time. (They did this for me and I didn't even have to ask. I'm sure they wouldn't mind.)
My doctor gave me a schedule to wear my contact lenses. When you first start wearing them, you might only be able to have them in your eye for a few hours. Over the next several weeks you'd wear them for a little bit longer each day, until your eyes build a tolerance to the lenses and you can wear them comfortably all day.
The most common problem that I experienced was eye dryness. Ask your doctor what type of eyedrops he would recommend.
And lastly... Once you've put the actual lense in your eye, here is a tip to help them 'stick.' Look up, down, and from side to side. Good luck!
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I'm starting to get a bit concerned. I'm 18. My periods used to be not-so-regular, but more recently have become so. I used to skip a period every few months, and though I freaked myself out a few times - have ruled out pregnancy for obvious reasons (I'm a virgin). However, my period skipped last month, and while I expecting it this month - nothing yet. Saturday, I noticed a bit of brown discharge when I wiped, so I was expecting my period... nothing. I assumed it was just taking awhile to start, and that I would see something Sunday, but just more brown discharge. Hardly anything is "coming out", no cramps, no period, and I'm getting nervous. I have no pain, and I'm not feeling ill. Is it an infection? Is this something that is generally normal among women? Or is it something more serious?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
No... What you're experiencing is fairly common. I've had that happen a couple times over the past few years. And as for your period being irregular... That's also common when you're in your teens. Mine didn't become regular until I was about 22. If you're really concerned, and since you mentioned that your 18 anyway, it might be time to visit the gynocologist.
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Yesterday I tried using a new concealer called invisible concealer medium by covergirl. when i woke up this morning i had very small skin-colored yet notable bumps under my eyes, but no where else where i applied it. i did not remove it before i fell asleep. why would this happen and how can i prevent it from happening again? if i need to remove it, what is a good way to remove make-up?
The new concealer probably clogged the pores around your eyes. You might want to try looking for a concealer that is non-comedogenic. (Means won't clog pores or cause acne.) Just a tip... A lot of make-up manufacturers will advertise that their make-up is 'oil-free' and 'won't clog pores.' Unless 'non-comedogenic' is displayed somewhere on the bottle or packaging, that's a load of B.S.
I usually just use regular soap to take off my make-up. My dermatologist recommends Dove. Yes. The bar soap that you can buy at the grocery store. Works fine for me, and sometimes I wear A LOT of make-up.
And while I know that sometimes it's just soooo inconvienent... Make sure to wash your make-up off before you go to sleep.
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Okay,
I have no idea why the question comes up now, (It's been almost 8 months) I guess I'm just curious.
My exboyfriend and I dated for five years, I left him in May (I do not wish to discuss why) during our relationship we were miserable. One time while we were dating he mentioned we should get to know other people and he mentioned one girl that he liked back in high school, (He mentioned he liked her 5 years later by the way) meaning that he has no idea where she is etc. However I didn't think anything of it at the time because we were in a 5 year relationship and I always thought it would be impossible for him to cheat on me anyway seeing he NEVER left his apartment. Okay, Well I recently found him on Facebook and he is in a relationship with antoher girl and it's the same girl he mentioned while we were dating?!?!?! Not that I care really I don't, I moved on also but the fact that it occassionally crosses my mind... I wanted to know if he cheated on me. During our relationship he used to always say mean things to me like (I don't think this is working out, We don't have anything in common, We are two different people, We should move on etc) However, He never had the guts to leave me...and I eventually got fed up with him and left him.
What do you think?
Okay... Forgive me if I sound harsh but I have to say...
1. No one on this website can tell you whether he did cheat or not. If you really want to know the truth, just ask him.
2. I'm wondering if you're really over this guy. The reason I wonder is because I too once had a boyfriend that acted very strangely. I never considered that he may be cheating on me during our relationship. We were together on and off for about 2-3 years... And after the last time we broke up, my friend D. came to me with a confession. D. had been friends with my ex, but he was closer to me... He told me that he was fairly certain that my ex had cheated on me while were together with a woman that all three of us worked with. Maybe this information should have disturbed me... But it didn't. Because I was over him.
And I'd like to add that... If you're not over him, that's okay. You guys were together for a long time, so it stands to reason that it might take a while for the wounds to heal completely. If so, take your time. I don't know. I could be wrong. I just think that if it really bothers you, maybe you should think more about the 'why.'
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I am a 26 year old male with a bit of a quandary over a girl. As it stands now, she and I are just friends, and have been for a few months. About a month ago she said that she wanted to be just friends, but since then I still have been getting mixed signals from her. I would love to be able to pursue a relationship with her, but I'm not sure bringing up the topic again would be a good idea. I do enjoy the friendship and don't want to screw that up, but I am torturing myself over the issue. What should I do?
If you don't want to ruin the friendship, don't bring it up. If you don't want to torture yourself anymore, talk about it.
I know that doesn't make things any easier. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place and I am so sorry if I sound insensitive. It's just that I've been here before... And I can tell you that, most likely, if you've all ready told her how you feel and she shot you down-chances are that she hasn't changed her mind.
Doesn't mean you aren't a great guy... Which is why I think that you need to move on. Hey, wait a minute... What if you just took a break from the friendship for a while, until you got over her and were actually able to be friends without wanting something more? Or... Another question... Is her friendship really worth your sanity? Just a thought. It's your decision, those are just the only options that I could think of...
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I've been infatuated with this guy for quite some time, but I just don't think it's going to happen between us...I think he's figured out that I like him, but he's said or done nothing. Rather than risk making things awkward between us by actually telling him, I'm almost thinking I'd rather just remain friends without him knowing for sure...I've tried so hard to get over him, but it's been next to impossible. Every time I see him, or if I'm around him, I go back to "drooling idiot" mode. Every time I think to myself "just stay away from him for awhile", I end up very badly wanting to just be in the same room with him. Every time I throw myself into a project, there's SOMETHING there that reminds me of him, and I get depressed...same thing with hanging out with friends and family...there's always something there that reminds me of him. I also find myself unconsciously trying to do things that I think would make him like me, and though they aren't necessarily bad or untrue to myself, I still feel like an idiot when I do it.
I'm stuck, I'm depressed, and I hate it.
I've been in similiar situations before...
And honestly, my feelings drove me insane. Because, it's like you said, you try to move on but it's hard because you're always around that person. When you're not, it's too easy to pick up the phone and call.
Eventually, I just told the person how I felt. He had no idea how I had been feeling, even though I thought it was obvious. And while my feelings weren't returned... It was a lot easier for me to get over him and move on. There was a period where we didn't talk, because he understood that I needed to distance myself from him... But after that we remained friends. When we eventually drifted apart years later, it was for very different reasons.
So... While my advice may seem scary, and there is a chance that you won't have a happy ending... I have to ask, if you were able to get this off your chest, whether your feelings were reciprocated or not... Do you think you'd feel better than you do now?
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Hey everyone, I have an experience poll for you.
I'm 21 f, if it matters. I'm thinking about getting a tattoo. She was concerned about me being allergic to the ink, or something similar. She has some crazy allergies, so she's rightfully concerned that I'll react badly.
As far as I'm aware, I'm only allergic to pollen, certain types of mold, and cold weather (last one's kind of a joke). I'm not even allergic to cats. First, what are the chances of that actually happening?
My boss at work gave me the business card of the people who do his tattoos (he has something like sixteen, all over his body). I looked them up, and they have all sorts of medical licenses, and sterilization practices, so I think they'd be fine.
The tattoo I'm thinking of is maybe two inches in length, one inch in width, and would go at the base of my neck, where that bone is. It's a butterfly made out of music symbols (treble clef upper wings, bass clef lower wings, crescendo symbol for the body, whole note for the head, another crescendo symbol for the antennae) and some tribal-looking lines extending on either side.
I seem to have developed a problem with permanence recently, and I'm a little wary of getting this done because it would, in fact, be permanent. I want to, but I don't...I'm sure you know how it is. I'd love to do something that forces me to get over this phobia I'm developing, and this seems like the best way to do it.
Anyone have any experience with...well, ANY of this?
Thanks!
I'm allergic to different types of trees (including cedar), several types of grasses, molds, dusts, and highly allergic to cats. My skin is super, super sensitive on top of all that and I've never, never had a problem with tattoo inks. Like the last post said, just ask the tattoo artist. Infact, ask several.
As for your phobia... While I commend you for your courage... If this is a problem, maybe you should think about getting it somewhere else? If the tattoo is on the back of your neck, anytime you are in a professional setting you would be forced to wear your hair down to cover it. How about a place that would be easier to cover up? Like your upper arm, chest, back, or hips?
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Hello im 17 and im a female. Normally im the type that can read people very well but i came across this HUG problem! see im a new girl at this school, the girls here are all sl*ts. i hate to say it, even some of the guys are like the girls. Anyways thats not the point its just whats making this even harder for me.
There's this cute guy, his name starts with a 'J' and i really like him. We've been friends for a month now; before we just talk here an there. But like now were talking everyday in school and we text when were out. Well one day when i was freezing in history he let me wear his hoodie (this was in school) when class was over i said "Well i guess you would like your hoodie back" and started to take it off. but then he told me to keep it on and give it to him after school, then he gave me this sweet smile as we walked out of class together. Well when school was letting out i gave back his hoodie, in return he hugged me( you would know what a friend hug was, this hug was not no friends good bye hug, it felt like more.) Then the next day he waited for me after all my classes almost, It was soo sweet that i ended up calling him a sweetie (That got a smile from him like the one in history) I know these are signs he likes me, he even said so him self on the phone one day. But im afraid that he's just playing me and im just another score. I just dont know what to do, my heart is tell me one thing and my head is telling me another.
Please....Please.. help me! I cant figure this out.
below is some signs he has been giving me in the last few weeks.
* He called me Sweetie and sexy
* Walks me to my classes (or close to them)
* Sends me cute chain letters that has some form or ther other of love.
* Sits with me at lunch and in history.
* Talks to everyday (That includes texting)
* Giving me his stuff to wear (That hoodie wasnt the only thing he gave me to wear)
Give the guy a shot. Just be cautious... A player can only hurt you if you allow yourself to be played. Define your boundaries and give him a firm 'No,' if he tries to cross the line.
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I've been texting, talking, hanging out with this guy we'll call him Luke... We talked every night no matter what.. on the phone or texting and he was always the one making the effort.. it turned into serious flirting and i started to fall for him and i thought he was falling for me too by all the hints he was dropping.. well all the sudden he stopped and he's been super short with me or just never responds.. so i stopped making an effort n now he just doesnt even text me anymore and i have no idea what happened.. idk what to do if i should say something or just get over it and i have no idea why this would have happened.. any idea?
He's either taking a breather or has lost interest and is trying to give you a hint. Either way... Don't call him, don't text him, don't leave a comment on his Myspace page. Let him have his space. If he's just being antisocial, he'll eventually come back around. If not, his loss. Don't wait around, give some other lucky guy the opportunity to pay attention to you :)
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ok, this is going to be a little long but if you are interested then plz read and answer. So i am 21 year old girl who doesnt have much self confidence. I know im not ugly because i have heard million times how beautiful i am(not trying to sound conceded). I have never had a boyfriend and never madeout with a guy or anything. It's proabbly because i have such low self esteem. I really want a boyfriend and stuff but i have a hard time getting close to guys. I am too shy and sometimes when they talk to me i don't know what to say in return and then i feel like an idiot. The only time i get more comfortable with a guy is when i drink which is not often. I really want to get close to a guy but i am also very nervous to because i guess u can call me prude, but i don;t want to be im just not comfortable with the situation. One of the reasons being beccause i have never madeout with a guy before and i don't want to look like an idiot if i suck or dont do it right seeing as i am 21 years old and its weird that i have never madeout with anyone. I really wanna be less shy around guys and be more comfortable but i'm really shy and i want to get over that because it's driving me crazy that i don't have a boyfriend. PLEASE HELP!!!!
1. Don't stress out because you're 21 and don't have a boyfriend. This day in age... People are waiting. Women are putting off relationships to pursue careers, accomplish life goals, etc. Many are waiting until they're in their thirties to get married. My point is: don't rush. You've got plently of time to find Mr. Right.
2. Please work on your low self-esteem before getting into a relationship. Your self-image and whether or not you love yourself drasticly effects your relationships. Someone that does not know how to love themself has a hard time receiving love from others, as well as giving it.
How to boost your self-esteem? It's not easy. You can try reading some self help books or even look into therapy. This is something you will have to work on, it's a process, and it will take a while.
3. Don't worry about whether or not you're good at flirting or kissing. I've never been very good flirting, but I am a nice person and know how to be myself. A lot of guys respond to that alone. As for the physical stuff... To be perfectly honest, I don't think that anyone is good at it. Seriously. I've kissed a lot of guys and most of them were bad kissers. But after a while they get better at it.
Basicly, what I'm trying to tell you is this... Don't sweat it. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and the rest will fall into place. I promise :)
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I'll make this long story short by bulleting it.. Basically this girl doesnt like me... idk why...
- On one occasion she started talking about how me and my bf should get a room and she was just being rude and obnoxious.
- Another time she was trying to start trouble by loudly saying she was going to take our food and all this other nonsense.
- lastly, she bangs a window everytime she sees us. That was the last straw. I'm sick, so i just took my breakfast and pushed her out the way, so did my bf. and we left even though she was yelling all this stuff.
She goes to the same school im in.. so when she saw me and my bf she started getting in my face saying "You wanna push me?!" over.. and over.. and over..
all i said was "what do you gain from yelling? Nothing". so she lowered her voice.
moved on to my bf trying to start trouble with him then she spat at him.
Now supposedly she wants to fight me tomorrow. I SERIOUSLY dont know what her problem is... we dont even know her. Oh and she apparently hates us spanish people. I see this as such an immature attempt to ruin my fun. Either she's jealous of something, or just is a trouble maker.
ANy suggestions on what I should do?
I think she's either jealous... Or she has some serious emotional issues that cause her to act out this way. Either way, it's not your fault.
If she's just acting immature, ignore her. I know that her behavior makes you angry... But I doubt you're going to be able to reason with her. I don't think that sinking to her level will accomplish anything either. So... If she's going to act like a child, treat her like one. Simply walk away. If the harrassment becomes increasingly worse or she harms you physically... Talk to your parents/teachers/principal.
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i've been thinking about what i want to do, and i've always wanted to do something in fashion but not really fashion design. i just like to be around all that kind of stuff so does anyone know what kid of jobs are offered if you major in fashion merchandising? are they good jobs? i might also double major in Fashion Merchandising and Textiles & Clothing. i'm only a sophomore but yeah i'm just getting started.
thanks a ton!
Think of fashion merchandising as 'clothing marketing.' Basicly, your job would be to arrange clothing and accessories in such a way as to catch the customer's attention and drive sales. For example: let's say that it's summer time. What is a seasonal item that people buy a lot of during the summer? Bathing suits. First, you'd pull the brightly coloured bathing suits to the front of all the racks, to draw the customer's attention. Then to drive sales, you'd place items that could be purchased in addition to the bathing suit. Matching flip-flops, beach towels, beach bags, straw hats, etc. That's a simple example and a lot more goes into it... But you'd learn all about that in school.
So... You could work in a store... Or you could work for the corporate headquarters. Working for corporate would probably include a list of various jobs, including: buyer (the person responsible for picking out and buying the clothing from manufacturers and ensuring the distribution to various stores) visual presentation (making charts that would direct employees that work at the store level to arrange clothing in the aforementioned way) and many others... For example, I have a friend that worked as a district visual presentation... something. Basicly, his job was to drive around the different stores in his territory and direct the department supervisors in setting up their departments. Before that, he was part of a set-up crew that went to new stores and helped them set up the sales floor for the grand opening.
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I'm a travel and tourism student and i'm doing an assignment on Disney for my promotional materials unit in college.
The assignment is made up of about 25 pieces of criteria that I need to cover, i've done most of it but theres a few bits i'm stuck on for what to write in detail and was wondering if you could help.
- How Disney meets the needs of its customers
- Segments of the market that Disney COULD appropriately target
- Aspects of the marketing mix that Disney uses
(product, place, price, promotion)
- Promotional activities that Disney uses.
(advertising, direct marketing, displays, public relations, sponsorship, demonstrations, sales promotions, personal selling)
- Why Disney uses the types of promotions it does
I'm doing about Disney as a whole, not just the disney worlds/movies/merchandise but the studios, cruise lines etc... just everything Disney!
thankyou
I just wanted to comment on promotional activities that Disney uses...
When Pocahontas was released... Disney animators were sent on a tour of malls nationwide. The animators would show children how the main characters were drawn and skim over the steps of the animation process. I don't know when Disney last did such a promotion, but I'm sure there have been several since then.
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