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How to deal...
I've been infatuated with this guy for quite some time, but I just don't think it's going to happen between us...I think he's figured out that I like him, but he's said or done nothing. Rather than risk making things awkward between us by actually telling him, I'm almost thinking I'd rather just remain friends without him knowing for sure...I've tried so hard to get over him, but it's been next to impossible. Every time I see him, or if I'm around him, I go back to "drooling idiot" mode. Every time I think to myself "just stay away from him for awhile", I end up very badly wanting to just be in the same room with him. Every time I throw myself into a project, there's SOMETHING there that reminds me of him, and I get depressed...same thing with hanging out with friends and family...there's always something there that reminds me of him. I also find myself unconsciously trying to do things that I think would make him like me, and though they aren't necessarily bad or untrue to myself, I still feel like an idiot when I do it.
I'm stuck, I'm depressed, and I hate it.
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I've been in similiar situations before...
And honestly, my feelings drove me insane. Because, it's like you said, you try to move on but it's hard because you're always around that person. When you're not, it's too easy to pick up the phone and call.
Eventually, I just told the person how I felt. He had no idea how I had been feeling, even though I thought it was obvious. And while my feelings weren't returned... It was a lot easier for me to get over him and move on. There was a period where we didn't talk, because he understood that I needed to distance myself from him... But after that we remained friends. When we eventually drifted apart years later, it was for very different reasons.
So... While my advice may seem scary, and there is a chance that you won't have a happy ending... I have to ask, if you were able to get this off your chest, whether your feelings were reciprocated or not... Do you think you'd feel better than you do now?
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Remaining friends with this guy is a good idea for now since he's figured out that you like him but he still didn't do anything about it. Most guys that I know will jump on the wagon and take advantage of the fact that a girl likes them. It means an easy "conquer" for them.
Being a pal to him has more advantages than actually telling him straight out that you're infatuated with him. Along the course of your friendship you can show him various ways on how much you care about this person. Who knows? Maybe he will see what a wonderful person you truly are and decides to step things up further in your relationship. Sharing a special bond through frienship is a strong foundation for a firmer and more solid couple-relationship in the future.
You don't necessarily have to forget him. For now enjoy being friends with this guy. Share laughter and tears with him, embrace and live life with him. Act naturally around him
and concentrate on the positive attributes your friendship will bring forth.
Good luck and all the best for you!
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