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i ruined two relationships with one movement
last night i was talking to my ex's best friend's wife and i wanted to relive a memory i had with him which involved my ex telling me that if his friend (allen) did something he wouldn't tell allens gf (ashley) because allen doesnt tell his stuff to me and i thought that it was funny because to me it made it seem like my ex was trying to tell me that he was hiding something from me and i wouldnt find out. but i didnt realize that ashley would get offended by the " if allen did something my ex wouldnt tell ashley" part. so it made it seem like i was saying that allen was doing something behind her back and i was trying to tell her that allen didnt do anything bad because she was getting freaked out you know and i told her that he was a player before he met her but i wasnt trying to say that he was doing something bad and before i could clarify what i was saying she left and then this morning my ex tells me that ashley confronted allen and he told her everything and she left the house and allen was crying. so not only did i ruin my exs friends relationship (i really adored them as friends so they were my friends too) but i ruined the chance to get back with my ex bf since we loved each other but he wanted to wait until life was looking better for him. i know that my ex wont take me back after this stunt i pulled and i love him madly but i really want to fix the broken relationship with my friends since i feel like its my fault since it happened. is it really my fault?? and should i try to fix their relationship? its not right they are unhappy because of me so i want to make them happy again even if im not happy they should be happy. this is long i know but im really upset about what i did :(
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This question is very confusing. What 'stunt' did you pull?
You tried to express a funny memory, and your friend flew off the handle at you because she suspected her husband of all sorts of things... She's a nut/
Then, apparently, Allen 'confessed' everything! So he was in fact doing something bad behind Ashley's back? Yes? I've read your question three times and I'm still not sure...
How the hell is that your fault? Your friends are screwed up, insecure, distrustful and possibly, although it's very hard to tell from your question, unfaithful.
Don't do a thing. Don't interfere and don't try to fix it. If I've understood you correctly, they are screwed up beyond anyone abilities to help them. They either need to solve their own trust issues, or break up. That would have happened eventually regardless of anything you could ever say. They aren't unhappy because of you, they were unhappy because of themselves.
Explain yourself as best you can to your ex. If he cares for you and understands you aren't an evil person, surely he'll realize that this girl is just a nut who was ready to loose it over something, and you were just unlucky enough to provide the thing she needed.
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