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How to tell when a friend is a friend or more
I am a 26 year old male with a bit of a quandary over a girl. As it stands now, she and I are just friends, and have been for a few months. About a month ago she said that she wanted to be just friends, but since then I still have been getting mixed signals from her. I would love to be able to pursue a relationship with her, but I'm not sure bringing up the topic again would be a good idea. I do enjoy the friendship and don't want to screw that up, but I am torturing myself over the issue. What should I do?
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If you don't want to ruin the friendship, don't bring it up. If you don't want to torture yourself anymore, talk about it.
I know that doesn't make things any easier. You're stuck between a rock and a hard place and I am so sorry if I sound insensitive. It's just that I've been here before... And I can tell you that, most likely, if you've all ready told her how you feel and she shot you down-chances are that she hasn't changed her mind.
Doesn't mean you aren't a great guy... Which is why I think that you need to move on. Hey, wait a minute... What if you just took a break from the friendship for a while, until you got over her and were actually able to be friends without wanting something more? Or... Another question... Is her friendship really worth your sanity? Just a thought. It's your decision, those are just the only options that I could think of...
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telling her you have strong feelings for her may ruin your friendship, but you only live once. there is a chance that she likes you.read some of the flirting tips in the magazines she reads to see if she uses them. haha it sounds weird, but it seriously is a smart idea. also, hang out with her in a group and see how it goes. maybe she will pay more attention to you-more than friends-or maybe she will not-friends. I think if you dont tell her you will regret it when you are older and she is taken.
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you're right. bringing it up could ruin the friendship, and that would suck. just enjoy the friendship for a while. you two sound like really close friends, and girls tend to act flirtatious even when they dont mean it. just means their having fun.
just give it some time. if she does like you, and she knows you like her, then she'll come to you. just be happy. :)
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