Hello, all! I haven't had much life experience compared to some people, but I can give you my view of things, and I'll do my best to give an honest opinion. Ask me anything and I'll answer as best I can!
Myself, I'm a Nursing Assistant finishing up some classes before I start working. My interests include cooking, martial arts, music, video games, gardening, acting, reading, and paintball. My girlfriend is slowly pulling me into politics, but she's drawing me in none the less. =P I love her so much!
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Age: 23
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14/F. Which energy drink makes people hyper the most? Have you had anything that works really well? I have tryed Rockstar, Monster and Sobe but I wanted to know if anything works better than those. (link)
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Red Bull is one that always gets me crazy... If I have more than one I get so buzzed that I talk waaaaaaay faster than normal. I managed an all day class with only 1 hour of sleep once by having just one can. Also, Bawls works pretty good. I don't know if it has that taurine stuff in it like the others do, it's just straight caffiene! =P
Now go get hyper! Lol! Hope that helped! ^_~
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im 13 and a girl. A couple of months ago my friends asked this guy out for me. he said no.Latley he has been stairing at me, bumping into me, flirting with my friends in front of me. Also my friend calls him Mr.(my last name) when he calls her PP(perfect pitcher)and he doesnt care. When i asked him to stop he said no. Then in front of his best friend who hates me he said on a scale 1-10 of prettyness im a 3.5. Also he asks my friends if i still like him. when they ask about or talk to him about me he gets innoyed.Does he like me?or does he like one of my friends?(if he does like me)how do i make sure without being obious?
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Sounds like this guy has an ego, and most guys his age do... (assuming he's about 13-14) The hard part of finding a guy is finding one that respects you. This one obviously doesn't.
Sorry if this isn't the answer you're looking for, but my advice would be to not even bother with this guy. Don't worry if he likes you or your friend because any guy that has the balls (or lack thereof) to treat a girl like that isn't worth your time.
Hope that helped... There are MUCH better guys out there. Good luck!
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16/f My friend and I both like eachother. We've both expressed our feelings for eachother, but we've never kissed or anything else along those lines. I really want to start something with him, but the problem is that he's going to college and I won't be able to see him at school all the time anymore (he'll be about 2 hours away). How do I persuade him that we could work things out even if he goes to college? Anyone have any good reasons at why long term relationships can work? He doesn't believe that they can. (link)
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Long distance relationships are much harder to mantain, but in the end, waiting for someone you KNOW is worth the time can be a wonderful feeling. In a long distance relationship, you can really show someone how much they mean to you by simply waiting for them. Myself, as well as two of my best friends are in long distance relationships, and all of them are some of the strongest relationships I've ever seen.
Tell him that you can come and visit on weekends, tell him you'll write to him, tell him that you'll send hime "care packages" if he likes that. But most important of all: tell him that you are willing to wait for him, even though he may be far away. Tell him that you think the relationship is worth the effort.
Also... This might be hard to take... but perhaps he wants to "free himself," so to speak, as he's going into college. Maybe he wants to be single, I don't know... But keep that in mind.
Good luck! I hope that things work out well! ^_^
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First of all, there's this girl I know. She has a lot of guy friends and stuff, and she also has s boyfriend.
Well, I have a bad feeling that one of her best guy friends, who I like, likes her. I mean, he talks to her a lot more than he talks to me. I mean, she would never go out with him (she knows I like him), plus, her boyfriend is a close friend of this guy's. So, it's pretty much impossible for now.
But I can't help but feel jealous! I honestly just wanna go for the guy, but the whole jealousy thing holds me back. I've liked guys before that have liked her, so I guess that contributes to my paranoia.
Anyway, my question is, how can I stop being so jealous and get the guy? Thanks! (link)
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Well, look at it this way... She already has a boyfriend. This other guy who you like but likes your friend needs to take a hint and get back to reality. Normally, I hate guys that try to "wait in line" for their crush to break up and then pounce one her, but this is an interesting situation.
Your friend's relationship is a big factor in this because that is what's giving you a chance. Talk to the guy, ask him to come with you to a movie or something, show him that you're interested and that might help him realize that he can't have the other girl but he CAN have you. You need to realize that there is NOTHING he can do with her at this point, so there's really no reason to be jealous. What you're describing sounds more like frustration than jealousy, to tell the truth. You seem frustrated that the guy can't take a hint and let your friend have her relationship.
Good luck! However... If this guy can't or won't take the hint that the other girl is taken, rethink how much you really want a relationship with someone like that.
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ok, so my bf and i will just be talking and what not and he is lying on the couch and i just want to say to him" oh my god you are so effing hot i have every reason on earth to jump on top of you and furiously make out." But that would be wierd.... so how can i get to that place where i can actually do that. how can i "seduce him" into making out with me without sounding desperate?
PLEASE I NEED GUYS FOR THIS TOO!
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Why use words? Used actions! Facta, non verba!
Let him know that you really want it, and chances are that you'll get it. He's a guy, but maybe he's a bit timid. Watch a romantic movie while sitting on the couch with him. Snuggle up to him and if you find yourself laughing or crying or something because of the movie, look at him to see if he's doing the same. Once he looks at you, just reach up and flat-out kiss him, girl! Let him know by your reactions that you're REALLY enjoying it, and he'll most likely give you more.
^_~ Good luck! I hope that helps! Remember... Facta, non verba!! (deeds, not words!)
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okay so im bald and suffering from this sort of diasese that makes ur hair fall out but slowly grows back.
i just got invited to litterally 7 batmitzvahs, do you think i can wear bandanas or a hat in the jewish temple? ill rate (link)
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According to my Jewish friend...
If you're a Jewish man you must wear a kippah.
If you are a woman, then you can cover your head with something.
If you are not Jewish, you can wear something like a bandana or hat on your head.
If you are a married Jewish woman, your hair must be covered.
Hope that helps! And don't get mad at me if I'm wrong about these things... Someone else told me this. =P
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How important do you think ratings are? I have asked questions, and try to go back and rate all the answers. However, I notice that a lot of people do not give ratings. It seems like it should be a common courtesy when someone gives a detailed well thought out answer.
Also have you noticed that the ratings now show up next to the answers? I haven't found this to be true of all my answers that were rated, but at least some of them.
Nallie
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Like the others say, it's important for people to know how helpful their advice is. And even if it's not helpful and the person gives you a 1 (God forbid), at least you know that advice wasn't so great and you might think about giving it again in in the future. =P
I'm very new to Advicenators, but in the first few questions that I answered, I was rated 3 times! That made me feel that what I was doing was worthwhile, and made me want to answer more questions.
When I ask a question, I try to give the best ratings that I can do in all fairness. It's a way of saying "thank you for your time" I think.
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Hey i am 16 years old and i had this boyfriend and we were getting pretty serious but i would break up with him like everyday cause he would just do stupid stuff or ignore me sometimes in the hallways at skool...well he started to wanna do sexual stuff to eachother and he wanted to have sex and i felt so pressured so one day i ended up letting him finger me, and he just wanted more so i had a long talk with him telling him that i wanted to wait till marrige for sex..and 2 days later he broke up with me i was devistated and now he has been nothing but rude to me and the other night we were fighting and he had the nerve to ask me to wait for him over the summer after telling me that he hated me,he says that he needs time to matture and learn how to be a better b/f. well we got in another fight cause i found out he was trying to get close to some girl who is a well...whore and he got all mad and told me to forget waiting on him and i wouldn't let that happen.so he told me that i had all summer to find someone else and if not then we were gonna spend h.s together? i dont know what to think or what he wants? will you please help me i am so confused. did he just want sex? or does he really need to learn how to be matture? do i wait till summer is over and skool starts again for him? we havn't talked in over a week though...=( (link)
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Is he just after sex? Yes. Any guy that treats you like that for not giving in to him wants only one thing. Does he need to learn to be mature? Definately. He thinks that sex and manipulation is the way to get to a girl's heart. Yeah right.
Considering he went after some other girl who you have promptly labled as a "whore," I would say that he's not going to be waiting for you over the summer, so why should you wait for him? There are a lot better guys out there. If you're having trouble finding a mature guy that can treat you right, why bother having a bf right now? Guys your age aren't very mature in the first place, though they ALL think that they are. Wait a year or so and you might find a more mature guy.
If this sounded sarcastic, I'm sorry... Guys that just want a girl for sex sicken me. Hope I was of some help!
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My ex b/f i love him so much. but last summer i made the mistake of cheating on him when i was angry and upset. I made a bigger mistake by telling him. We broke up and usually i can deal with rejection and break up but it was hard on me. I thought i was over him but now as the skool yr comes to a end we talks to me and he was bringing back my old feelings.So the last few days he is on my mind constantly.i wanna know is there a way i can get over him or make him realize how i feel? (link)
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Make him realize how you feel? How does HE feel? Not to be harsh, but you are the one that cheated on him. While you were honest in telling him, he was probably very hurt. You were also hurt because you felt that the break up came as a result of something you did, and it didn't just happen by itself.
Talk to him about how you feel and asking him about his feelings would be the first step. But you need to be sesitive to the fact that you did hurt him enough to cause a break up. If he doesn't want to get back together, accept it. If that's the case as well, then you'll want to back off from spending time with him for a while, as that will make things harder for the both of you.
I don't mean this to be harsh, but that's the best advice I can give you. In the future, don't do anything out of anger when it comes to a relationship, as it will almost always lead to a situation like this.
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I always forget where I end up putting my stuff so I always have to look to find where its at.. I misplaced my sissors, my brush, and now my water today! How can I get ti where I dont forget easily? (link)
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When you're puting something down, say to yourself (or say it in your mind) "I'm putting the *object* here, now." Verbalize what you are doing, and it might help you to remember later on. Training yourself to put things back where they belong can be a help, and if something doesn't really have a place, make one. Tell yourself that this is where this particular object goes and get used to where you're putting it. Also, tidy up! Make sure you're not going to lose things in piles of random objects like I do! =P
Hope that helped!
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I met this guy over the internet and He talked to me and he said he liked me and wanted to see me so I decided to meet him and since I never had a boy friend be for this was somthing I would be excited about.We met up and the first thing I noticed was his eyes because he had beautiful eyes and that day we talked and just hanged out for a little while and then it was time to go and we kissed.After that day things started to change. When I would come on to my screen name he wouldnt I.M. me but instead I would I.M. him but we still both talked and this made me like him more. A few months later we decided to meet up again this is in January and it was really cold that day. It was on a Thursday. I went to the place we were goning to meet up and I waited their for 2 hours hoping he would come I was so cold but then I left and when I got home I went on my screen and saw that he wasent on I thought he lost intrest in me and I thought that was the reason why he left me waiting and the next week on Thursday I got sick and I couldnt eat with out throwing up that whole week. After I finally had a chance to speak to him and he told me an excuse saying that he couldnt come that he was busy but he said it in away I belived it so I still talked to him. Then at the end of March he tells me he likes some other girl and that he wants to be with her and I felt so bad because I felt like he took my heart and tore it right up that day while I was talking to him I had a panic attack. Then its April and he I.M. me asking me if I was single I said "yeah why" and says that he wanted to see me and I was just thinking is this worth it but I still loved him so I decied to give him one more chance so we make a day and I go and wait to find him not there and I was so pissed off because he would do this to me. One friday in may I finally said what I had to say because I was sick and tiered of it and I also told him I loved him and then instead of being sympathetic he tells me that when me and him met up after I left he messed with anothor girl, then he tells me hes in love with someother girl and we were cursing at each other too. Now things are deffanitly over between me and him yet I wanted to get revenge so bad Im having my friend playing him but when im on my friends screen name I do all the talking and he is so romantic with and I feel bad because I know its not me hes talking too. He even talks about me to this girl that is me but he dosent know it. I cant stop thinking about him I want to get over because I know he never liked me and he thinks im some nut but im just over emotional espeacialy when he was the first guy who showed me emotions liked that towards being romantic. I need to get over him because I have no feelings for any other guy just him and I even had feelings for him to engage in sexual activity and thats somthing I would never do because im afraid to but with him was diffrent for him I would do anything just to be with him but knowing his true feelings now makes me so sad.Please help me with this problem because I cant stop thinking about him and it hurts. Thank you (link)
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First impression is that he's using you as rebound. He's found other girls in other places and is comming back to you when those relationships fail. You're absolutely right: this guy is a jerk. He's probably not worth any effort, because a guy that cheats on you, and it sounds like he did, in this way will probably keep doing it. And you'll keep getting hurt. Guys like this are horrible, selfish, users that only care what they can get from a girl.
My advice would be to not contact this person any more. Don't let him use you. The thing you should concentrate on most preventing him from hurting you, and that means get your mind off of him. When you start to think about him, do something to get him out of your mind: call a friend, do an activity, read a book, but just keep distracting yourself from thoughts of him.
Good luck! Talk to your friends about it as well, and they'll help you to get your mind off things.
Oh, and if you're feeling up to it.. Block the asshole for good measure.
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ok i was wondering if magic really works and if it does what is a good website to get some good spells? (link)
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You can't simply go to a site and "get a spell." Magic, or Magick (however you preffer to spell it) does exist, but not in the form that you are probably thinking. Harry Potter, Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Charmed, and the rest are all fiction, but with some reality wound into it.
A person who believes that they can manipulate the "forces of magic" are being taken for quite a ride, as they are actually the ones being manipulated. A common myth is that of "white magic." Whether used with good or bad intent, all "magic" is evil by origin and cannot be used for good in ANY way. This is my belief, but in using magic, a person brings suffering upon others and upon himself. In the end, the person casting the spell is a lot worse off than the target.
I would HIGHLY recommend not to dabble in this, as you're dealing with a power far beyond anything most people can understand. I don't understand it. But I've studied the affects and causes of magic, though only from the viewpoints of a Catholic exorcist and have not looked much deeper than that. Why? Because it scared me shitless.
If you would like some books that will actually give you an explanation of real magic, then I would recommend books by Fr. Gabriele Amorth, who was once the head exorcist of Rome.
Please be careful, I don't know what your reasons are for looking into this, but this isn't just a hobbie or something like building model airplanes. This is something that can and WILL affect you for the rest of your life. Once you start, running from it will be near impossible.
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Why do lambs have tails but sheep don't? I saw a lamb it had a tail, but it's mom didn't. What's the deal. (link)
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Haha! ^_^ Sheep ranchers often cut the tails of sheep short. This is because the feces of the sheep get easily caught on the tail and cause health problems. They don't do it immediately after birth, so I wouldn't be surprised if the ewe had no tail and the lamb had one.
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i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person? (link)
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You're not a horrible person. Far from it! I personally believe that sex should be saved for marriage, but sex in itself and being pregnant is not a horrible thing. I'm a guy, but I would think that being pregnant is wonderful, though you might not be ready for it.
If you can't keep the baby, then the best thing to do is give it up for addoption, there are many MANY couples out there who cannot have children and would be more than happy to have your healthy baby. Perhaps once you have the baby, you might realize that you don't want to give him (or her) up. But be strong, and try not to stress about it. Stress will greatly increase the chances of a miscarriage, and that will cause horrible trauma to your mind and body.
First find out if your pregnant. If you are, THEN tell your parents and bf. No need for a false alarm. Once you do know if you're pregnant, you can easily get support from different groups and members of your family. I do suppose they might be upset, BUT... if they do truely love you, and I suspect that they do, they'll accept it and will probably be happy for you eventually.
The best thing you can do about information on miscarriages is to go to the doctor and find out. Don't be affraid to ask because they deal with things like this often. You can get a checkup for yourself, and if you're far enough along, for your baby as well.
Best of luck! It's going to be difficult, but this is really not a bad thing at all! ^_^ And to tell the truth, I'm happy for you!
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Hello Eustachius,
thanks for your response. Actually, the ex is in prison for trying to murder somebody--he ran a guy off the road and said guy is now paralyzed. The ex has crossed the line into psychopathic territory. His prison term may end as soon as mid 2007! Also, a couple of weeks before he ruined the other guy's life, he came at me in a parking lot and swerved off at the last minute.
My current boyfriend (I'm living with him and nobody knows where we are) fully knows about the ex and what he has done and what he's capable of. I had a restraining order before, when the ex took an axe and a sledgehammer to my former house, but it's obviously time to get another.
Any other advice? Thanks--musicfan (link)
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Ok, this is a lot more serious than I first thought. The prison will let you view what times the person is scheduled for release and whatnot, so you can keep an eye on that. You can still probably keep up a restraining order against him with what's been happening, and the police might even be able to keep tabs on where he is living after he's out.
If your ex knows where you live, and if you're in an appartment, then I would now recomend that you DO find a new place (since an appartment might be easier). Not too far, as you still need to work, but away from the area you are now. But it doesn't seem like the ex knows, so that's good. But keep a plan in mind in case something happens.
The restraining order might even be able to keep the people that know you from giving out your telephone number and address to this person, but I'm not sure. I think with issues like this the guy has to keep his noise clean for a year or so. And if he makes one wrong move, it's back to the slammer. I don't know everything you can do, but talk to the police, a lawyer, or someone that can tell you more opptions and figure out EVERYthing that you can do to protect yourself from this person.
Some people might not agree with this, but... Take some firearms classes, self defence, or something like that. If you really feel threatened by this guy, then you need to find ways to protect yourself when you're out and about. The good thing about a self defence class is that it can calm your nerves quite a bit and help you to relax and focus. At least it does with me...
Keep in touch! And please be careful! My family has gone through a similar situation, so I'll get some more info about things of this nature when I can.
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Hi-
this is a serious situation: I have a great boyfriend, but my ex boyfriend is extremely dangerous and I wonder if I should give up my present relationship and move out of town so my present guy is safe and I will be safe.
The ex is absolutely nuts and he has attempted to hurt someone in this community--I spend most of my time hiding out.
Any answers?
Thanks,
musicfan (I'm 40 years old and female). (link)
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My advice would be to not alter your life. That would let him know that he has control over you and would make him do more, perhaps even follow you to your new home.
Do you have proof that he's dangerous? Have you told him to leave you alone? If so, talk to the police about it and try to get a restraining order put out against him. That would not only protect you, but I think it would cover your bf too. Inform your neighbors about him and have them watch out for you as well. If you see him stay around other people, don't let him EVER catch you alone!
Good luck and be safe!
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would it be weird to talk to your dead grandmother portait about things? cause i know a friend that does it and it helps her or something (link)
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Not at all! Talking at the piture of your grandmother helps you to visualize her and focus on her better. I've done similar things before. Who knows? Maybe she'll hear you and tell the Big Guy Upstairs that you need some help. ^_~
Hope that helped!
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somebody spread a rumors that im bi please help what should i do? i was just playing around my friends all the time and i dont know why some people spread the rumors about im biosexual 100% straight!! help
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Rumors are nasty, and they're most often used for revenge. Many people who hear the rumor will spread it around and not even believe it. If you don't let it phase you, then it will probably go away quickly because it's intended to bother you. If it doesn't bother you, there's no point to spread rumors anymore. Besides, the person who started the rumor is probably a f***ing homophobe with nothing better to do.
I've joked around with my friends just for the sake of grossing out a guy that was homophobic, and it can be damn fun! =P
Take care! ^_~
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well I started dating this guy, lets call him Bob (lol).. I dated Bob before like 3 or 4 times.. I really liked him this time to.. We tried meetin each other cause we would never get to see each other.. but he always couldn't go.. well he emailed me and told me I think we jumped into our relationship to fast well I thought we would still be talkin so I was sorta ok with it.. but its 4 days and we ain't spoken a word.. I think he likes other girls and stuff.. I should move on and just forget about him..More I don't speak to him the less I think he cares..I can't even get him out of my head..Do you think I should forget about him or not? (link)
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Is this an online relationship? If it is, I understand how hard it is to keep up a relationship like that. It takes a great amount of commitment from both sides, as well as a lot of patience. But if the two people really love each other, it's just as worthwhile and wonderful as a face to face relationship.
Instead of waiting for him to contact you, get in touch with him yourself. Ask him where he wants this relationship to go and if he's still interested. Encourage him to speak his mind. Talking to him about it even if he doesn't want the relationship anymore will give you some peace of mind.
Good luck!
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okay, so i can't go a day without having to wash
my hair. i have friends who only wash their hair about..
2-3 times a month, and their hair is never oily or gross.
im white by the way, and so are they.
and of course they shower daily, but they dont
wash their hair and it always looks perfect.
they say they 'trained their hair' ?
is that possible.?
like to go every other day then wash it,
then every two days and then every three days etc?
if anyone know lemme know plz =] (link)
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You can't train your hair to be "non-oily" or something like that, but you can train it to part in a different place or move a certain way. I did that when I grew my hair out, and now it's parted in the middle with a pony tail. =P
Move your hair the way you want it and keep doing it that way for a few weeks or months and it will eventually train itself that way. I think...
Good luck!
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