So there's this kid who goes to my school who started talking to me...he's not attractive and he's kinda nerdy.I decided to give him a chance and start "talking" to him.
He claimmed he liked me and I just kinda said that i would "maybe" like him back.
He continues to talk to me online for like 4 hours a night and asks me to hangout.Yet when we hangout,he doesn't really seem interested AT All and gives me no attention and then that makes my friends think he doesn't like me.He talks to lots of other girls,who don't like him like that. BUt he claims he definetly talks to me the most.Since he's really nerdy,he hasn't really had much experience with girls .But how am i supposed to know if he likes me? I don't wanna tell him i like him without him telling me first because I don't wanna look desperate because I'm the "better looking and more popular" one between us...
He proably does like you. Like you said he's kinda nerdy and maybe he's shy. And from my own personal experience, I found that telling a person your true feeling can be quite helpful. He may never tell you that he likes you or he may but it may take quite a while. He proably just needs to cozy towards you more. And if you're anxious to develop more in your friendship than, just go to a quiet place alone and tell him how you feel.What's the wrost that can happen? Either he'll tell you he feel the same way or he won't. But if he's don't feel the same way, you can move on, and find a guy who does like you. Sometimes we tend to waste valued time on those who whould never ever really be worth it... The best of luck to you
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When I met him he was basically a prostitute. He was willing to sell himself to anyone for 50 dollars. I watched him do it. Later I convinced him that this was wrong and that he should not do that. I think he still does from time to time. He thought I was rich so he didn't try to charge me. Instead made me feel like I was important. He even moved in with me and became my best friend and secret lover. I guess with time he lost all hope of getting money out of me. Then one day he just up and left. Moved in with someone else. Told me it was platonic, but I soon learned that he was lying. He played a crazy game of roller coaster with me as all good players do. Kept seeing me the whole time he lived with this other person. He would even make plans for the two of us to travel together. Once he offered to pretend we were on our gay honey moon if I would buy us a vacation to Hawaii. He said often that he always wanted me to be there for him. Some of it was real. I mean he no longer thought I was rich. So he does care about me. I know that. But not as much as I care about him. When I met him I picked him up, brushed him off, and got him off to a better start in life. And he wanted to repay me. The thing is he has always lead a double life. The kind of double life that many gay or bisexual men have lead throughout history. Not being aloud to be with the person of their choice because society will shame them. So they hook up with someone more acceptable to society and then forget that they are living a lie. He will never change. So my question is...Do I tell this person that he has been "cheating" on them with me for their entire relationship? Or do I just walk away and let the chips fall where they may?
Everyone in this discussion is over 18 years of age.
Thats really up to you but, I would just move on with my life and let that person learn like you did. Sometimes we dig holes in others yard but, we end up digging to far, and we tend to fall in. You were in the wrong as well because you were still seeing him why he was with the other person as well. So now you may feel scorned so you want to get revenge on him by telling his lover. Hey maybe I'm wrong, or right. But it's not our job to hand out karma. You shouldn't have started dating a male hooker anyway, have you every heard of the saying you can't turn a trick into a treat. Or have you read the passage in the bible about the man who married the prostitute. And gave her everything, but still she continued to sleep with other men. Mentally something is wrong with his head, and by helping him it's useless. No matter what you or the other person do he is going to continue to be a player. And my advice is for you to move on. I know my words sounds easy and the process of moving on is hard. But if you take it a step at a time and day by day it will happen. I been threw my share of messed up relationships so I know it sucks... The best of luck to you
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Okay well like I said in the past question that I asked . I had a hard time letting my ex boyfriend go . Well I finally am able to let my ex boyfriend go and im ready to moved forward with the guy that I been with for 10 months . But it feels like I waited to late . Because my boyfriend doesn't want to touch me like that . In school he does really touch me. But when we are walkin home he does . He doesn't say he loves me like he used to . He doesn't do anything like he used to . He is a wonderful person but I just feel he is not interested in me anymore. I tried to break up with him before but he didn't want to break up . But then again he asks like he doesn't want to be with me anymore . Im making some big changes in my life . I just went threw some things with my parents seperating and me living with my mom and grandparents now . So im trying to be more understanding . And last year it was like I pushed him away a lot and now I want him all ova me . But he says I got what I wished for .he says he loves me every now and thin . We don't really go anywhere he doesn't really buy me anything . The last time he brought me something was when we was gonna break up a while back. Ao basically I want to know should I let him go . Or should I stay with him. And what mistakes am I making . Thanks .
My opinion is... If you're unhappy maybe you should let go. If it's broken sometimes it can be fixed but... If there two many pieces loss maybe they'll always be... Your biggest promblem was jumping into another relationship before you move on and with that... You cause the new guy to resent you because you were not over your ex... And that's not fair to him in any kinda way... You should have just stayed alone or casually dated until you were over him... I'm not trying to get on your case... I was there before myself... We are all human... But sometimes we have to accept faults... It may never work out between you guys because, he was the rebound guy... And now that you're over your ex it may be to late to fix it... Next time don't make the mistake by jumping into something so quick... You have alot going on in your life and you need time to work on yourself... The best of luck to you
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So, there is this guy. I really like him- he is a bit older than me and has a son who doesn't live with him. We have hung out a few times, and every time has led to something sexual (but that doesn't seem like it is all he wants from me).
He tells me that he really likes me, and is blowing up my phone when he wants to. But, other times, I will text him throughout the day only to get a couple short responses or none at all. There have been a couple of times when he asked me to hang out and then "fell asleep".
I am wondering what I have done that is making the guys I am interested in lose interest in me. He says he isn't but, something is up.
From what you say maybe theres someone else in the picture guys tend to act differently when there involved with someone else. And also, you have to really evaluate your siuation, you said that everytime you're togeather you have sex. I mean that can be the main reason. You have to be able to offer a guy more than just sex... Now ask yourself this question... Do you two talk for hours when you're togeather? Have you really got to know him? Do you go to movies, walks at the park... Church... Picnic etc ETC... Have you met his son? His mom, Dad, anybody, friends, co-workers... Or is it always sexual... Guys tend to loose instrest if theres just sex honey... Sex don't make you stand out at all... Any women can give a guy sex... So if you think thats what it takes to keep a guy you're headed down the wrong road.
My suggestion is, I would put a stop to the sex... And I would try to get in his head and try to get to know him better... Because there could very well be someone else in the picture or you can just be I don't wanna be harsh but... A Booty Call! The best of luck to you
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I apologize if this is long or confusing.
Me and my ex met at the worst time of my life. He was with my sister and her boyfriend when i called my sister for help. He saw me balling my eyes out and still thought i was cute. When i was hanging out with my sister one time we ran into him and he then told my sisters boyfriend that he thought i was hot and wanted to date me. We hung out with my sister and her boyfriend once and we flirted alot and held hands and stuff. The next time we hung out my sisters boyfried pushed him to ask me out so he did and i said yes even though we didnt really know eachother. We were together for like three weeks then he dumped me he had alot of reasons but only one made sense and that was that we didnt really know eachother i felt the same. He said we would probly date again but its been months and we still havent. Hes hardly ever the one to start talking to me. He did come to my graduation party and he flirted with me alot but nothing sinse then.
Does he still like me? What do I do? I really really like him? I want him back.
my opinion is, maybe you should just move on. One movie I recomend all young ladies to see is, '' He's just not that into you'' It's a great movie and it give you great pointers. I think the guy is playing with your emotions and, it's either he wants you or not. It's no in between. Don't wait on him, he could be with someone else, or he's not ready to get into a relationship. Or whatever it is I don't think he's that into you right now. So my advice to you is to, move on. And if he comes around so be it but if not, SO BE It. The best of luck to you.
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ok this is wierd but i have been with my bf for 4 years. i love him but i am starting to think our relationship is not as strong as it used to be. now we met online in a group for wrestling fans. well in the past year i have been chattin with this one guy and we exchanged phone numbers nd we chat alot and we call each other and swap pix often ... i am starting to feel the same way i did before i moved in with my current bf. like, he anawesome guy and i think i may be falling for him ... but i still love my current bf. whatni wong with me? some one just tell me im insane. what am i feeling and why?
My opinion is, I feel that you are in the wrong for putting yourself in the position to fall for someone else. First of all you shouldn't have exchange numbers with someone else and you're already in a relationship and, you're living with someone. How would you have felt if your BF would have done that to you. And because you put yourself in that siuation you are now naturally gaining feeling with the other guy.
You need to be true to your boyfriend and yourself and figure out what you really want. Theres no such thing as having your cake and eating it to and, I think thats what you want. You need to figure out which one you really want to be with and then date that one an only that one.
And if you don't want to choose your current boyfriend. Than let hin Go. Let him have the choice to find a women that would be loyal to him because odviously you're not.
The grass may seem greener on the other side. But I have always played it on the safe side and Stayed on my side of the fence.
You may not agree with me and it don't matter I'm very blunt and I don't do what I do for ratings. The best of luck to you.
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I dated this guy for a year and then I broke up with him when I was 19 almost 20. I have always loved him and held on to feelings for him, but I broke his heart and he withdrew from me and finally I didn't hear from him at all for about 4 years. I broke up with him because I focused on his imperfections instead of all of his wonderful qualities. Also, he wanted to get married and I don't think that I was ready for that at 19 or 20 and was scared. I am 26 now and more prepared for marriage. The thing is he called me up out of the blue about a year ago and told me that he had been married for 2 years and was now seperating because she cheated on him. We have been friends for the past year and his divorce is final and now I want to tell him that I want us to get back together but don't know if I should write a letter, or tell him in person, or write a brief letter and then talk to him in person or what I should even say. I don't know how he will react to this. What should I do?
I think that you should tell him in person. I will and that's the best way I feel to give important news to someone. You might be a little nervous about talking to him but, What's the worst that can happen. He can only tell you no. But I will still be aware of the fact that he has just gotten out of a marriage. So please take your time and think wisely about that. And if you do get back with him. Please treat him right he seems like a great guy that has been threw bad things with women.
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About breakup: I cared very much about him, but he said he needed space/wasn't me it was him/need to get a better job, etc.
I am heartbroken, but I figured if he really cared about me, he wouldn't have cut me off like that, and it is time to move on.
I've looked around for other people to date, and it is probably too soon. I keep sabotaging anyone I talk to with either talking a little while and not responding, or making up some excuse not to go out with someone.
So to give up on it, I'm tempting myself to get a seasonal job at a ski resort, to throw myself into some good hard work in order to get over it. I thought if I was in a place that was fun, that I could choose later what I wanted to do.
The thing is, I don't know if I'm being impulsive or not. I have a decent place to live and a job now, I just feel down and I thought the change of pace would be better.
That, and I think I have the slightest hope that the ex might call and say he made a big mistake and wants me back. If I'm in Colorado or someplace else, it'd be harder to just move back. So I wonder if I'm holding myself back or not.
I've always been 'with' someone. Since I was 18, I've always had that guy that took care of me. I don't need taken care of now, but I just feel very alone.
Is finding new work in a new location going to be helpful? Should I consider doing something else?
I guess I need a sounding board on what I should do next.
I know how you are feeling all well and I know it sucks... No one should have to be heartbroken but its a part of life... ometimes we just meet people who's not right for us... And you're right if he love you unconditionally he would have never broken up with you... But what is best in my opinion for you is to be alone right now... You need to glue the broken peices of your boken heart back up... Ad there noone who can do it but you... And if your break up is recent getting into another relationship is bad idea... I honestly think that you should use your alone time to continue to find yourself... You said that you hae been in a relationship since you were 18... I'm not quite sure how old you are... But I can tell you I was just like you... I was in relationship to relationship starting at he age of 15... And about three years ago I meet the guy that I felt I would spend the rest of my life with... And when he broke up with me I felt life couldn't get more worse...
Do you know I would put my life on hold and wait for him to come back... And a year and a half later he never did... So never put your life on hold he's moved on and theres proably even someone else in the picture... I've been sigle for over a year and you know what... I've never been happy occasionaly I go out on dates but it's nothing serious... I have accomplished many things that I never would have in a relationship. I'm stronger wiser and better... And mentally I'm able to attract a way better guy that I have in the past... So yes to CHANGE... And if you want to take that job DO IT FIND YOURSELF... And although it hurts now time will surely lessen your pain... And please don't wait for the past... My sister told me this when I was in your siuation '' SOME PEOPLE JUST WASN'T MEANT TO TRAVEL YOUR SAME JOURNEY" The best of luck to you
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Ok my story is a little bit long am sorry.
My boyfriend and i roke up in april 18 of 2009. then in may 03 he got with another girl. after that i made them brake up because i didnt liked the fact that he was with another girl. Ok he broke up with her in may29. Then in july 30th he got back with me.He was telling me all this stuff that he cantk with him because i really do love him. Then now in agust 1 he left to the dominican republic.Just 2 days ago i found out he has another live without me and sooo on.I whent bacgirl ovethere. at fisrt i thought his friend were just kidding but then i saw some pictures of him huggind with the girl and too closed together.there is another one with them in the pool together.right now he doesnt know that i know he has another girl. he is coming back on sunday. i dont want to call him and insult him because then he will end up staying ovethere,and i will be debastated.If you were in this position what will you do??
Very complicated huh? But I need to know, why do you even want to beith a guy that you know and have the proff that he's with another women. Odviously you can't mean that much to him if he feels that he has to have a double life. And if you mean anything to him, it could be just him. Maybe he has sometime of sickness that involves being with multiple women and one can't sasisfy him. I mean the first time you g broke up in weeks he aleady moved on.
You know what I would really do. I would move on with my life and leave him far behind. But first I would confront him. I would wait till he's down here. An then I would ask him to meet me in a quiet place. I will confront him with the edvidence and then I would here him out. Because nothing would pleasure me more than to here his sorry story. And then I would build up the courage to kick his sorry a** to the curve.
I don't know if you have read some of my previous advice. But I also tell peoplethat's it's not so bad to be alone. I've been in your shoes, nd I know how it feels to put some much love out there and get a stab in the back BACK. You're wasting your time with a guy that proably would never give you a true sense of happiness, anduntil you realize that, things are going o continue to surface... The best of luck to you and if you shall need to talk anymore please feel free...
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I was with my ex for 11 months and we split up in march this year. We had our ups and downs to the relationship and decided to split up as we felt it just wasn't working and the romance was gone n we would be better off just friends before it ended badly. My friends and family were supportive of this as they felt that he didn't treat me right anyway. But at the time ididn't notice it and when we split up i was so happy like i felt like myself again.
It's been about 6 months since we split up and we've now started getting really close again and spending alot of time together and we've both admitted we miss each other and want to give it another shot but take it really slow. Only thing is is that my dads opinion means everything to me i'm such a daddy's girl but my dad doesn't like my ex and i'm scared to dissappoint him by telling him we're getting back together, same goes for my friends as they dn't think it's a good idea, and thats fair enough but i still really love him.
Well I wouldn't want to back track. Sometimes it dont work out the second time rarely it do. I wouldn't rekindle anything with him especially if he didn't treat you right in the first place. Save your Dad and friends the dissapointment and move on and trust me you'll be sorry if you stay and happy if you move on maybe not now but down the line...
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I have a problem where I get attached to boys very easily, if I am talking to them a lot or hook up with them and then it randomly stops I get extremely upset. It's to the point where I'm scared to even start anything with a boy because I know I'll end up getting hurt from it eventually. So there is this boy who just graduated and is now in college who I met and he was trying to hook up with me, but his ex-girlfriend is extremely jealous and said she wanted to beat me up so I told him I couldn't do anything. He told someone he was really into me and they gave him my number, and he kept acting like he liked me this whole night. Then he texted me and we've been talking through texting, on the phone or on facebook atleast twice a day for like 2ish weeks. We both really like taking to each other and I'm worried because I think I"m gunna start liking him, If I already don't. The reason I know that I've become attached is because the other night he was home for the weekend and we were supposed to hang out, we were both at the same place and he was texting me telling me to come hang out with him. We said hi to eachother once but I'm all paranoid about people knowing we're talking because I don't want to get beat up, so I told him I couldn't hang out with him in front of everyone. So then he didnb't know I was watching him, but i saw him leave with his ex-girlfriend and I saw them holding hands and stuff. I texted him and said something about how he lied and then he told me that she kissed him..I wasl ike um wtf? I thought you were just holding hands. Then my friend told me she heard someone say they were going out again. So i flipped shit because the whole time that we had been talking he always said he didn't like her at ALL and that she was obsessed with him and follows him around and stuff, which I know can be true to a point but that night I felt like he was giving some back. So I was being so mean and saying I can't beleive how many times he lied to me and stuff like that. I drank soooo much that night (until I passed out )because I felt completely used and screwed over and i was drunk texting him that night and he was claiming they were nothing, but he was being an ass which he usaully isn't. So the next day I was still upset and tried to admit to myself that we were done and he sent me a really long message on facebook saying sorry and how they aren't together at all she still really likes hiim though. I was really mean in my message back and was explaining how I'm not just someone to hook up with, I'm not a booty call, I'm not thek ind of girl you can have on the side while you have a girlfriend and he was like omg i know i never ever thought that i really like takling to you and then we had like a normal conversation, so i guess we're giong to keep talking. But i KNOW this is bad idea. but the thing about me is i like having a boy to talk too, and i have no one right now except him. How can i continue this and prevent before-hand me getting hurt in the end? cause i know i'm going too, I just want to prevent my sadness now instead of when it happens.
Maybe part of your promblem is, you are meeting the wrong guys, and even after they betray you, you continue to date them. Is it because, you have certain selfesteem issues, or you just afraid to be alone. And if it's either of those, you really need to work on things concering yourself. Trust me I've been were you are. And it's been alot of things that I have tooken from guys because, I didn't want to be alone. And now that I've been alone for over a year I can honestly say it's not that bad. Because any order for you to attract good guys, you have to make sure that everything in your life is put togeather. And you have to find the strength to leave these loosers where there at... This guy you're talking to is no good and you know it... So I don't know why you even put yourself threw the heartache... Men LIE alot, they tell you all these things about the other women especially to make them look bad so they could look good... And the gulible ladies that we are we believe them... First of all you should go by the saying believe nothing you hear... And half of what you see... And with your own eyes you seem him with this women that he claims he don't want... But he TELLS you theres nothing really going on... REMEMBER believe nothing you see... Go by your instints an focus in what you SEE... The best of luck to you and remember to please use wisdom...
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So the only guy I truely have feelings for and I now live about 2 hours away from eachother. His name is jason and I went to go hang out with him about 3 days ago and I was supposed to go to my dads at ten pm to stay the night then I would go home the next morning. Well while we were hanging out we drank a bit and I noticed he was spending alot of time with my homegirl mariah and it pissed me off so I made out with his best freind matt. Then like 2 hourse later me and mariah walked to round table to meet this girl that wanted to hang out with us. Her name is leighanne and she is not allowed to chill with me alone so her mom sat in the parking lot of the pizza place, and me and mariah told her if she wanted 2 drink that we would go get the bottle and bring it back 4 her. So when she gave us the money we bought a bottle of vodka and went back to jasons house (ditching leighanne with her money/bottle). Anyways me mariah jason matt and this guy martino all drank the bottle then we went to a place where there was more drink and we drank there then left. We went to this pond where me and jason had a really long talk about our relationship that turned in to a huge fight. Mariah and Matt left and Jason told me he wanted me to stay the night at his house so we could talk some more. Me not caring about my ten pm curfew went back to his house with him and martino. .......Well I guess earlier Leighanne (the girl we ditched/jacked) snuck out the back of the pizza place with her boyfreind and when her dad caught her it was already 12:30 am. My dad was with her dadd and they were looking for us so when they found her since she was obviously mad at me for ditching her she told my dad where jason lived. So My dad shows up at jasons house and is telling his parents im a runaway which is not even close to true. I was simply 2hours late. THEN I see leighanne walk up with her dad and I was unabled to stop myself from putting my hands on her. I guess I hurt her really bad (thats what my dad says). But besides that Jason is so mad all that drama was brought to his house and he refuses my calls and wont reply my myspace messages, He even told mariah he is pissed at me cuz he thinks i was a runaway. I am unabled to explain to him anything plus he was already upset with me that day for making out with matt and our fight. Since im so far away from him also I cant just go find him and talk to him in person. I feel like it may really be over between us and that hurts especially that it ended this way! Plus I really want to call and make sure leighanne is ok and talk to her. I know I was EXTREMELY messed up to her that day but at one time she was my best friend. That day just pretty much fucked up my life! :::My parents dont trust me to come home on time! I lost A best friend! And may have lost the love of my life.
Well lesson learned. I don't mean to be cruel, but from what you say I beleive that you deserve the affect that has come to you. In life theres a cause and theres an affect. So you make your causes the best, if you wish to recieve a positive affect. In one day you betrayed three people, your boufriend, your parents and also your friend. And from what I'm reading, you don't seem like a very good person. You seem very negative, and you need to worry about trying to turn your life around if you want better future responses. You acted very selish towards everybody, ad you seem perplexed as of why your parents don'trust you and your friend and your boyfriend want respond. Andd you had he nerves to put your hands on that girl after you did her wrong in the first place. What I suggest you do is start apolizing to the people you've hurt. And after that you start to get your life in order... Because the way you're going is to nowhere land... You may not like my response all that well but I don't really to much care fro high ratings... And I not good at telling you what you wanna hear I tell it like I see it... The best of luck to you and I do hope you get it togeather
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I love him sooooooooooooo much! I dont want to! I want to forget he exists. I know if there was a way I could see him more we could be together because the times I spend with him are INCREDIBLE! The thing is I never get to see or talk to him barely ever! I love a guy I know I could never be with and it hurts not only mentally but physically! I sit at home and do nothing but sleep, eat, watch tv., and sit on the computer! I turn down all offers to hang out with anyone but him. I feel like if I cant have him I will eventually die. I used to dream about him now I have nightmares. I used to smile when I thought about him now I cry. Its so hard wanting something so bad when you know you will never have it. Is there anything I can do?
First of all, I would want to know the reason as of why you can't see or barely talk to the guy. You really didn't give to many indept details about the matter. So I really can't give yo the best advice concerning that. Second of all something bothers me about some things you have written. I don't knowfor sure your age but, it seems as if you put this guy in te center of your world. It not first before anything or anybody. I don't know if you have selfesteem issues and some other self issues but, the way you're talking isn't healty. And being clingy and needed ia complete turn off to any guy and you will only kill the relationship further. But if theres really no way that you can see or be with the guy than maybe you need to learn t move on with your life. No MAnN should ever get you to the point where you feel depressed. And you have to realize if it was meant to be you guys would be togeather but if its not, you just going to have to suck it up and move on with your life. We as females have to learn how to become happy by ourselfs, in order to prosper in any present or future relationships. God is suppose to be first, and than yourself. So you need to understand it, stop eating all day and being on the computer, enjoy your life and be appreciative of the face you're here.
A while ago I broke up with my boyfriend and I truly fellt life was over for me.I loved him more than life, and like you I nade a drastic mistake of making a man my all. But you kno what I had to get over it. And for a year and a half I've been single. And you know what I'm happy ALONE... The best of luck to you... And if you ever need to talk please don't hesitat leaving a message in my inbox...
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hey, so my best friend is also an ex boyfriend. we dated for 5 months about 2 1/2 years ago, and we've been best friends since then. we really ar BEST rfiends, like practically family. we go on vacation together and everything. my boyfriend, who used to be my best friend unti lwe started dating, knows that i dated this guy and he gets really mad when i hang out with him. and i hang out with him a LOT, but i have no feelings fo rhim. i only have feelings for my boyfriend. but anyway, my boyfriend has a best friend whos a girl. they were together for a little while and they had sex, and she fell in love with him. he wasnt in love with her but he liked her a lot. shes still in love with him and he knows that. but they still text 24/7 and talk on the phone sometimes and theyre really close. when me and him fight he always goes to her and tells her everything and i feel like he flirts with her soemtimes but idk. i get really jealus when theyre talking or hanging out or something. so idk, is it like the same thing me and my best friend and him and his best friend?
Very complicated. First and formost, it's natrual sometimes when a bestfriend get a little jealous when you are in a relationship and hanging out alot. It's a hard change and sometimes they haveto get adjusted to it but, your bff is an ex, and there could still be feelings... That's something you two have to really talk about because if your freiends harbor any feelings your friendship can grow really unhealthy... On the other hand your BF is friends with his ex and... she loves him... but you can't really get to mad because you're kinda in the same siuation... And honestly if you to have any chance of a healthy relationship in the future... You both might have to end your friendships... But then again you have to decide is each other really worth it... The best of luck to you
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female/ 16/ senior
So, since the start of July I started to "talk" to this guy. He's 18,and a freshman in college this september. He made it clear that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be in a relationship because he wasn't sure if he was going to meet someone in college. The college is literally 5 minutes away from my house. Anyways, we would text eachother every single day. I liked him alot and I was sooo sure he did too,just that gut instinct. He told me he liked me but he didn't know how much. So all of a sudden, last week; he just stops texting me. Then, when he finally decides to text me, he stops responding to me after 2 texts. So, 2 days ago I decided I don't have time to deal with immature guys. I told him, we should stop talking and he said he didn't want us to stop talking. well it sure seems like he wanted us to. he told me to wait 3 weeks and he would decide what he wants. wtf. no.
What do you think about all of this? Do you think he's playing a game? Or he really doesn't know what he's doing wrong?
He did tell you that he wasn't sure weather he would meet someone in college. And to his credit adleast he told you that up front.So you came into the relationship already with that knowledge, and nine times out of ten he proably have meet someone else. And if so, he needs to tell you and not lead you on because... That's wrong on his part... Usually when theres change in a relationship especially communication wise... Theres someone else in the picture and you need to thimk to yourself is it worth the heartbreak... The best of luck to you
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Ok i kinda snooped my bf of 4 years facebook inbox (it was an honest mistake it autologged him in and i thought it was me and saw a new one in the inbox but didn't bother looking at who was signed in until i was reading something i didn't want to read ... ugh)
Anyways, i found a conversation back and forth between him and his ex (who he dated about 2 years before meeting me). They were talking about how they still had sexual dreams about each other. Well she is single now and as i kept reading (by this point i didn't want to miss a detail ...) i saw her ask "do you think we should do something about these dreams?" and he sent her back "Like what?" and she replied with "Act on them ..."
Here comes what makes me mad. he sent her back "the thought crossed my mind..." and she sent him back "Well i have a few suggestions. Are you opposed to a trip out here?" (note: She is in ohio we are in NY. She is also the reason I am out here ... she brought me out here to be with him so she KNOWS he is taken) He hasn't responded yet but i need to know what to do? Should I be worried? He tells me that he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me, but lately i don't think i am fullfilling all his needs or he wouldn't be "considering" acting upon sex dreams with an ex right? I just need help in general i don't know what to think anymore.
ell I always say when you go looking for negativity you usually find it. And we as females sometimes snoop threw our boyfriends things because sometimes we can get a little insecure. Especially if our relationship is spiraling down hill. Second of all he is totally wrong to conversate with his ex. It's selfish, inconsiderate and wrong. He can't possibly care for you that much if he's entertaing his ex. don't care if he hasn't had sexually contact with her, he's still cheating it may not be mentally but it's phyysically, and I think you need to really think about is that someone you really should be with... Because odviously he don't value your relationship as much as you do... The best of luck to you
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I really liked this kid, a whole lot. We both liked each other, but no move was made to do take our relationship further than just "friends". So he moved on, and I'm still upset over what could have been. I know he doesn't care, because he likes someone else who likes them. Its extremely awkward because I see him every time I go to my friends house, and we both get that weird feeling of old-like. I'm positive he doesn't like me anymore though. So, I want to move on really bad. How do i get rid of him in my head? How did you move on from someone ? Every been in this situation? What did you do? Please, I find it hard to like anyone else now, Thanks everyone :(.
16/f
-Unrequited.
I know your feeling all to well. And the hardest part of breaking up is moving on. But moving on is a must. And it's starts with demolishing all contact, don't talk to him, and try your best not to be around him. If you know he's around that friends house, DON'T GO THERE. Because seeing him is going to oly hurt you so try to spare yourself the pain. lso find hings you like that intrest you, hang out with friends. Watch movies you like, read, join in activities, redecorate your room,help your parents, babysit, go shopping, get a make over, pick up book pertaining to moving on... It's so many ways and it's starts to day... And trust me time would past when you want even remember his name... That's life theres alot of imposters but you'll go threw enough untill you find your prince charming and with that comes wisdom... One day you'll be giving a young lady like yourself advice... The best of luck to you
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ok my prolbem is my fiance is confused as to wether she wants to be with me or her ex boyfriend he hurt her so much because she loved him more that she ever has anyone and he knew how she felt and he left her now he wants her back and she is wondering what it would be like if she got back with him but she loves me and is confused as to what to do who to be with what do i do?what do we do?im so hurt by this i just dont know what to do.... ok and btw my name is Jonathan and im 17 and im a male of corse cuz where not the greatest when it comes to things like this kind of sitition..
Very complicated siuation John. And I read a couple other advice colomunist, and I totally agree. You deserve the best, and you deserve a person whos going to give you their hundered percent like you will. She may not be in love like you because if she was, her ex would have not been able to cause a riff between you two. Now what are you going to do about it? Are you going to wait around why she makes her choice? Or are you going to say to hell with her? I deserve some one who's going to love me unconditional like you would them. Your 17 you're young sweetheart it's puppy love. And another thing would you really want to spend your life with someone like that. Or would you want to spend your life with someone who's cut from the same cloth. I'm sure you rather hurt now than later. The best of luck to you
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Well, I've liked him for a really long time now. We started talking this year after a lot of friend introduction (managed by me). But now we're talking a little, and everything's pretty good. The thing is, I'm attracted to him for looks, and I guess personality too but I'm not 100% sure I like what he does for fun. He likes to do weed, and get drunk. I mean, not a lot or not too often, but ya know, the fact that he did it kinda bothers me. Also, I'm scared to get closer to him because I feel that he's had more experiences with girls than I've had with guys. I'm really shy around him in person but can talk about pretty much anything online. Last night, we were having a conversation about our "freaky-ness" level. It got me really nervous cuz I'm really worried about his expectations from me. What should I do? I really want to be with him but at the same time, I don't know if he's serious or flirting or what? And if he's serious, then how do I get over my fears because I'm a pretty innocent girl.
I'm not sure how old you are but, you need to really be careful who you set your sight on. Because you can get involved with someone and that person can be your downfall. Trust me I know and it was years before I was able to rise back up again. In life our roads can get really curvy but, if you want to advoid some and stay on the straight and narrow, it's best to use some common sense. You need someone that's on your pace, you don't want some one pressuring into things you don't do. Best of luck to you
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So, it has been 6 months since my ex of 4 years and I broke up. It has been very difficult to move on but have been doing the best I can.
I took all the necessary steps in mending my heart from the break-up. I've been hanging out with friends most often, getting in touch with old buddies, and also have been going out whenever the opportunity presents itself. I have even dated a few guys since my ex but haven't had much of a serious connection with anyone.
Just recently I have started talking to my ex again online and we have decided to be friends. So far it has just been casual conversation, nothing to indicate that he still has feelings for me. The conversation is usually pretty light and friendly so it's comfortable in a way.
The problem is that I still have strong feelings for him and it has taken me until now to realize how bad it is. I'm definitely not over my ex! In fact, I'm still very much in love with him and now that we are talking again I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm trying to date him--dropping my plans to sit online and chat with him! I just can't go back now and tell him we shouldn't be friends because then he will want an explanation. I seriously don't want to tell him that I still love him.
Anyways I have no clue what I have gotten myself into. I need help!
Wow! I have really been in your shoes before, so I know how you feel. But you actually have the pleasure of adleast talking to your ex, when I had no contact after our break up. Do you feel that he has other intentions other just talking to you casually? Or do you feel that he's just being friendly. Because if you feel that he may still have feelings for you than, I think maybe you should tell him how you feel. But if you feel that he's just being friendly, than I think further conversations can really be unhealthy. Especially if it's at your own suspense, you should never drop any plans to chat with him because he's not your PRIORITY anymore. And if you really feel that he's just want to be friends, than you need to vanquish all contact. Because what you really want is to be happy and move on, and you can't truly move on when he's in your life. You will only be confused and hurt. The best of luck to you
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