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Recent Breakup - Implusive Decisions
About breakup: I cared very much about him, but he said he needed space/wasn't me it was him/need to get a better job, etc.
I am heartbroken, but I figured if he really cared about me, he wouldn't have cut me off like that, and it is time to move on.
I've looked around for other people to date, and it is probably too soon. I keep sabotaging anyone I talk to with either talking a little while and not responding, or making up some excuse not to go out with someone.
So to give up on it, I'm tempting myself to get a seasonal job at a ski resort, to throw myself into some good hard work in order to get over it. I thought if I was in a place that was fun, that I could choose later what I wanted to do.
The thing is, I don't know if I'm being impulsive or not. I have a decent place to live and a job now, I just feel down and I thought the change of pace would be better.
That, and I think I have the slightest hope that the ex might call and say he made a big mistake and wants me back. If I'm in Colorado or someplace else, it'd be harder to just move back. So I wonder if I'm holding myself back or not.
I've always been 'with' someone. Since I was 18, I've always had that guy that took care of me. I don't need taken care of now, but I just feel very alone.
Is finding new work in a new location going to be helpful? Should I consider doing something else?
I guess I need a sounding board on what I should do next.
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Well it seems like he maybe needs to find himself...depending on his age he might feel overwhelmed by having a relationship like you have. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means he is less mature than you are and just needs to evaluate what he wants in life.
But I do think if you can afford to leave you should. You don't know the next time you will have the chance to do something like this. If he wants to be back with you he can wait until you come home. You are an independent woman and you should not wait around for him. Go and have fun while you can!
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I know how you are feeling all well and I know it sucks... No one should have to be heartbroken but its a part of life... ometimes we just meet people who's not right for us... And you're right if he love you unconditionally he would have never broken up with you... But what is best in my opinion for you is to be alone right now... You need to glue the broken peices of your boken heart back up... Ad there noone who can do it but you... And if your break up is recent getting into another relationship is bad idea... I honestly think that you should use your alone time to continue to find yourself... You said that you hae been in a relationship since you were 18... I'm not quite sure how old you are... But I can tell you I was just like you... I was in relationship to relationship starting at he age of 15... And about three years ago I meet the guy that I felt I would spend the rest of my life with... And when he broke up with me I felt life couldn't get more worse...
Do you know I would put my life on hold and wait for him to come back... And a year and a half later he never did... So never put your life on hold he's moved on and theres proably even someone else in the picture... I've been sigle for over a year and you know what... I've never been happy occasionaly I go out on dates but it's nothing serious... I have accomplished many things that I never would have in a relationship. I'm stronger wiser and better... And mentally I'm able to attract a way better guy that I have in the past... So yes to CHANGE... And if you want to take that job DO IT FIND YOURSELF... And although it hurts now time will surely lessen your pain... And please don't wait for the past... My sister told me this when I was in your siuation '' SOME PEOPLE JUST WASN'T MEANT TO TRAVEL YOUR SAME JOURNEY" The best of luck to you
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I don't think its impulsive. I think its smart. You are realizing you need to make a change in your life. You need to learn how to be more independent. Its smart, kind, and independent women attract good men. You need to find yourself and who you are before you are ready for a healthy relationship. The best way to do this is to challenge yourself. I say go. Go quickly. Go now. Look at it as an adventure. You're young. You have so many years ahead of you. Do as much as you can while you can, so when you finally do find that man of your dreams who loves you the way you deserve to be loved, you'll be able to offer him the love of a woman with no regrets and experience that makes her interesting and exciting. And finding new challenges and new interests are the best way to get over a broken hard. Go for it! You never know what exciting things lay just around the corner, if you only take the chance. Look at it this way - the only thing you know for sure is that if you DO nothing, nothing will happen. But if you do SOMETHING... well, you fill in the rest for yourself. Good luck!
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