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My Fiance Is Confused And So Am I We Dont Know What To Do..
ok my prolbem is my fiance is confused as to wether she wants to be with me or her ex boyfriend he hurt her so much because she loved him more that she ever has anyone and he knew how she felt and he left her now he wants her back and she is wondering what it would be like if she got back with him but she loves me and is confused as to what to do who to be with what do i do?what do we do?im so hurt by this i just dont know what to do.... ok and btw my name is Jonathan and im 17 and im a male of corse cuz where not the greatest when it comes to things like this kind of sitition..
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Very complicated siuation John. And I read a couple other advice colomunist, and I totally agree. You deserve the best, and you deserve a person whos going to give you their hundered percent like you will. She may not be in love like you because if she was, her ex would have not been able to cause a riff between you two. Now what are you going to do about it? Are you going to wait around why she makes her choice? Or are you going to say to hell with her? I deserve some one who's going to love me unconditional like you would them. Your 17 you're young sweetheart it's puppy love. And another thing would you really want to spend your life with someone like that. Or would you want to spend your life with someone who's cut from the same cloth. I'm sure you rather hurt now than later. The best of luck to you
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If your fiance is second guessing the relationship with you for her ex than clearly I don't think she is ready to be engaged yet alone even be thinking about marriage. Marriage is a commitment, A sacrifice and it is a bond between two people. If you can't trust one another than I can almost assure you that the marriage is not going to work. I would think long and hard about being with your "fiance" as not only is the wedding going to cost you but divorce is not cheap either. Also yes I agree with the person below me, I believe she still has feelings for her ex and has the entire time.
What do I think you should do?
Well, Clearly she is not committed into being in a relationship with you if she is thinking about going back to her ex boyfriend. You can sit her down and talk it out, forgive her, take her back or whatever but here is the question...
The fact that she is concidering her ex over you now while you two are engaged, What makes you think she won't do something like this when you two are married?...You've got some serious thinking to do. Personally, I think the girl needs to take a hike, Marry someone who wants to be with you and loves you and won't play with your feelings.
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19/f
First off I think you are too young to get married. Even if you weren't young there is a bigger problem here and that's the confusion she has. At least she was honest with you and didn't hide her feelings from you, so be happy for that. And if she wonders what it will be like with him then let her find out. You say her ex hurt her a lot and you sound like you really love her so I think she needs to get hurt again to see what she is will be missing on. You say she loves you but is confused on what to do. I don't think she just found out about her feelings for him I think she has loved and missed him this whole time you have been dating her and now that her ex wants her back she wants to go with him. I say you deserve better and don't need to hold on to someone who can't value you and is missing someone who hurt her. I think its best for you to leave her, let her go to him, and find someone who will love you and only you. If she loved you she wouldn't be doubting whether or not she wants to be with you or him and if she really loved you she wouldn't have to think twice about being with you.
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