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do i let him go? =[
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okay so my whole "problem" started in september when my friend gave this fine guy my number his name is edwin rodriguez he called me that night and we talked the whole weekend. then on sunday he asked me out i said yes. He did tell me that him and this other girl just broke up but he said they only went out for 2 weeks and he felt nothonig for her. well the a week and a half while we're going out he told me they kissed. he cheated on me. the first time that ever happened to me. but since he told me i didnt break up with him. but at the end of the week we broke up. because he still had feelings for her. but over the weekend we were still talking. and he asked me back out sunday. but then monday i broke up with him because i knew deep down he still had feelings for her. well we were still casually talking to each other he still walked me to my classes and stuff. well then i went to the homecoming dance. and i must say i looked pretty good. =] laugh out loud. but anyways he was there and yeah he did try to talk to me before he did cindy (that girl he still has feelings for) but i blew him off. just to show him. but thats when he went running to cindy. i was PISSED. so i was all over this other guy. but at the end of the night they were together. crap. well about 2 weeks past and they were stil together. and then they broke up and he I.M.ed me on myspace. saying yeah you were fine as hell at the dance and all this stuff. and he was like DONT TELL CINDY. i didnt. we talked on the phone that night too. I remembered why i fell for him to start with. But i was talking to my ex korrie. like we was gonna get back together. he is a really GREAT guy i should of stuck with him. But i didnt. that weekend i went to the "movies" and got picked up from there by edwin and his friend dra and ingrid was driving. we went to the top of the city. it was all perfect. we cuddled and kissed the whole time he told me he loved me he said all of the sweetest things to me. i believed it. so then were on the ground looking at the stars holding each other. =]. well we were SO close to having sex but i had a promise ring that i wouldnt have sex till marriage. a promise to God a promise to my mom a promise to everyone. and he said i'll wait for you. i wish i could have froze time then because after this all hell broke loose. well i got back to the movies right on time. but i snuck out later that night 3:00 in the morning. once again we were all snuggled up. but this time i gave it up. =[
it wasnt worth it. i wish i could take it back but i can't. we stuck it in about 5 times and then he stopped. he said he didnt feel right. he took off the condom and got up. he said oh my gosh babe i took your virginity. he was pretty much flipping out.it was his first time too. so at first at school we kept it on the dl and i had to btell korrie we couldnt see each other. i told my closest friends what happened but i told the wrong person and every1 in school knew. i guess it was a really big deal because it was me. no one would ever think me. but yeah. so we went out for a week and a half. and he told me he STILL had feeelings for her. i broke down. i gave him my virginity something i can't give anyone else i thought we were really gonna be together. my mom found out to i hurt her so much she wouldnt let me talk to him or anything! she was almost about to switch schools. but she didnt. well we broke up. thats when i relized that was the biggest mistake of my life. he is going out with her now. again. on her myspace is all this stuff with him and her kissing and she said they're in love. it hurts so bad. i dont know what to do. do i let him go. or keep holding on. please someone help me
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It sounds to me like you and this other girl were convienences to him. When he would break up with one, he would immediately tell the other what they wanted to hear. I'm not trying to say girls are stupid when it comes to emotions, but they can be easily manipulated by guys who seem "too good to be true" Not only did you give your virginity to this guy who has cheated on you, and lied to you, but he also hurt your reputation, and may have ruined your chances of getting back with your ex, Korrie. But at least you can use this as a learning experience, and hopefully you are now wiser to the way some men operate.
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wow. uh, ok this is the best i can come up with. if hes gonna take your virginity and then dump you to go out with this cindy chick, well i'd say let him go. but i've been in your position....sort of. i was going out with this guy and i was going to give it all away to him, but he broke it off before i could. everyone is telling me to let go but i'm not giving up yet. and you shouldnt either. you obviously love him. first love never dies. and by the way it sounds, he sounds like hes doing a pattern...and hes eventually going to ask for you back. what i would do when that happens is to tell him to choose: you or cindy. and if he chooses cindy, thats when you let him go. but that's just me. you don't have to do it, but i'm just giving you my opinion. take care. :)
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you should move on because he has obviously. however, people can't just say move on and like a dog you'll do it. it'll have to come in time. and it'll hurt for a while but then, one day you'll realize, oh, hmm, i don't care anymore. ha! i think the best solution for now is lots of time with your girl friends. and no boys allowed :p and then eventually you should start dating guys again. it'll be something that will stick with you forever since he took your virginity, but it just won't hurt as much later in life. so you shouldn't become obsessed over it.
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It doesn't seem like there is anything to hold on to. It seems that since he took your virginity that you want to be with him in order for it to seem like fate. That's not the way to go.
You made a mistake. We all do. Promise rings are more to give parents hope than anything. People have sex. Most people don't make it to marriage. You're normal. You're human. Waiting until marriage used to be possible, but people were getting married at 15. It's unrealistic to think you are going to be perfect and not give in to tempation.
You did make a promise to God and I know you feel bad about not keeping it. But do you think you would have made this promise without pressure from your family? More than likely you wouldn't have.
You didn't do anything highly wrong. In a perfect world we would all wait until marriage and would only be with one person ever. This isn't a perfect world and you aren't a perfect person. If your worries are with God, then God knows how you feel about it. God forgives all of those that ask.
Since really he only just penetrated and you two didn't complete what you started, I don't even know if I would count it. It is an intimate moment yes and yes penetration but it is gray area in my mind. It's still not quite the same as giving yourself completely to someone and ahve someone do the same for you.
You're going to get through this. But you did learn a lesson on what friends to not tell secrets to. That friend created more problems than you did.
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