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falling in love ... with a second guy?
ok this is wierd but i have been with my bf for 4 years. i love him but i am starting to think our relationship is not as strong as it used to be. now we met online in a group for wrestling fans. well in the past year i have been chattin with this one guy and we exchanged phone numbers nd we chat alot and we call each other and swap pix often ... i am starting to feel the same way i did before i moved in with my current bf. like, he anawesome guy and i think i may be falling for him ... but i still love my current bf. whatni wong with me? some one just tell me im insane. what am i feeling and why?
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This is completly normal, especially for people who are in long relationships. Your not in love with this new guy, yes you might like him a lot but you wont love him as much as you do with the person you've been in a relationship with for 4 years.
Your boyfriend will do the same thing, he will look and talk to other girls that he might like but its normal and there is nothing to worry about. Just try not to let this new guy get in the way of you and your boyfriend, It happens a lot and it never turns out good. You dont have to stop talking to this guy but maybe dont talk to him as much and let him know that your perfectly happy with the person your with and your not looking for anything serious.
If you dont feel yours and your boyfriends relationship is as strong talk to him about it. And honestly tell him about this guy that you have been talking to i promise you will feel a lot better about it. and open relationships are the best.
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My opinion is, I feel that you are in the wrong for putting yourself in the position to fall for someone else. First of all you shouldn't have exchange numbers with someone else and you're already in a relationship and, you're living with someone. How would you have felt if your BF would have done that to you. And because you put yourself in that siuation you are now naturally gaining feeling with the other guy.
You need to be true to your boyfriend and yourself and figure out what you really want. Theres no such thing as having your cake and eating it to and, I think thats what you want. You need to figure out which one you really want to be with and then date that one an only that one.
And if you don't want to choose your current boyfriend. Than let hin Go. Let him have the choice to find a women that would be loyal to him because odviously you're not.
The grass may seem greener on the other side. But I have always played it on the safe side and Stayed on my side of the fence.
You may not agree with me and it don't matter I'm very blunt and I don't do what I do for ratings. The best of luck to you.
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you are not crazy so do not worry.
When you first get into a relationship it is fun and exciting to be with someone new. As time gets on it grows and grows, but it does get to a point where you become very comfortable with the person you are with. When that happens it's not the same feeling you had when you first went out. You feel safe, and secure with the person. and the times that you have been through build up your relationship together making you closer.
You might not feel the exact same for your current bf as you once did, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. If you feel that you have fallen out of love with him than of course you should break up with him and try to find someone new.
But if you think that you still love him, but you want that same feeling you had years ago try to do some new things together instead of the normal things you would do together.
Ultimately if you still think you like him then talk to him and tell him how you feel, communication is key.
About guy # 2 if you love your current bf like you say i do then i would distance your self from guy # 2 a little bit, because when you get too close to someone of the opposite sex (especially) one you might like it a lot easier for mistakes to happen. IF you don't want to fall for him then just distance yourself a little, not completely.
Hope it helped
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~InsaneChildz~
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