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So Complicated A Million Problems In One
So the only guy I truely have feelings for and I now live about 2 hours away from eachother. His name is jason and I went to go hang out with him about 3 days ago and I was supposed to go to my dads at ten pm to stay the night then I would go home the next morning. Well while we were hanging out we drank a bit and I noticed he was spending alot of time with my homegirl mariah and it pissed me off so I made out with his best freind matt. Then like 2 hourse later me and mariah walked to round table to meet this girl that wanted to hang out with us. Her name is leighanne and she is not allowed to chill with me alone so her mom sat in the parking lot of the pizza place, and me and mariah told her if she wanted 2 drink that we would go get the bottle and bring it back 4 her. So when she gave us the money we bought a bottle of vodka and went back to jasons house (ditching leighanne with her money/bottle). Anyways me mariah jason matt and this guy martino all drank the bottle then we went to a place where there was more drink and we drank there then left. We went to this pond where me and jason had a really long talk about our relationship that turned in to a huge fight. Mariah and Matt left and Jason told me he wanted me to stay the night at his house so we could talk some more. Me not caring about my ten pm curfew went back to his house with him and martino. .......Well I guess earlier Leighanne (the girl we ditched/jacked) snuck out the back of the pizza place with her boyfreind and when her dad caught her it was already 12:30 am. My dad was with her dadd and they were looking for us so when they found her since she was obviously mad at me for ditching her she told my dad where jason lived. So My dad shows up at jasons house and is telling his parents im a runaway which is not even close to true. I was simply 2hours late. THEN I see leighanne walk up with her dad and I was unabled to stop myself from putting my hands on her. I guess I hurt her really bad (thats what my dad says). But besides that Jason is so mad all that drama was brought to his house and he refuses my calls and wont reply my myspace messages, He even told mariah he is pissed at me cuz he thinks i was a runaway. I am unabled to explain to him anything plus he was already upset with me that day for making out with matt and our fight. Since im so far away from him also I cant just go find him and talk to him in person. I feel like it may really be over between us and that hurts especially that it ended this way! Plus I really want to call and make sure leighanne is ok and talk to her. I know I was EXTREMELY messed up to her that day but at one time she was my best friend. That day just pretty much fucked up my life! :::My parents dont trust me to come home on time! I lost A best friend! And may have lost the love of my life.
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hellooo, okay about your boyfriend i really think you should go to him, this way it will be harded for him to avoid you. every human has a heart and i dont think hell slam the door in your face :) and your parents, well talk to them both, sit them down together and really spill your heart out, no yelling or crying just tell them that u messed up and you are really sorry and you deserved your punishment and all you ask is that in time they begin to trust you again and you will see that they will begin to let you go places and trust you. now, as for your friend, explain to her that you are sorry and you were drunk and that still is no excuse but you will make amends :P.. and as for you... really dont drink, you abviously have no controle over yourself when you drink, and if you keep drinking most likely you will end up right here were you are now.. asking for advice becasue you messed up again. lol. so please be carefull and safe, and i hope everything works out. remember to smile :) lifes real short, before you know it, half of it will already be gone. hope i helped..
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Well lesson learned. I don't mean to be cruel, but from what you say I beleive that you deserve the affect that has come to you. In life theres a cause and theres an affect. So you make your causes the best, if you wish to recieve a positive affect. In one day you betrayed three people, your boufriend, your parents and also your friend. And from what I'm reading, you don't seem like a very good person. You seem very negative, and you need to worry about trying to turn your life around if you want better future responses. You acted very selish towards everybody, ad you seem perplexed as of why your parents don'trust you and your friend and your boyfriend want respond. Andd you had he nerves to put your hands on that girl after you did her wrong in the first place. What I suggest you do is start apolizing to the people you've hurt. And after that you start to get your life in order... Because the way you're going is to nowhere land... You may not like my response all that well but I don't really to much care fro high ratings... And I not good at telling you what you wanna hear I tell it like I see it... The best of luck to you and I do hope you get it togeather
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Please stop drinking. This will only be the beginning of all the trouble you will bring on yourself if you continue. We cannot control our impulses when we drink. You may not be able to make it up to anyone that you hurt that night, but you have years and years ahead of you. Years in which you can build good strong loving relationship, or years when you will be writing to Advicinators each month for more advice on how to fix something that you and alcohol really screwed up. Stop now.
Grow and become more mature before you pick up a drink again. If you don't, your emotional growth will stop, and your life will be one big drama scene after another.
When and if you ever run into Jason again, he'll see the "changed" person that you are and he'll be interested, and you can just chalk up that bad evening to the drinking, which you can then say you have a handle on now, and you know better than to drink that much again. Or should you run into him and find that he is still drinking a lot again, then you'll be so over him. It won't matter.
Good luck to you, you'll need it.
Michele
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Ahhh...it sounds like you dug yourself a pretty deep hole. Sorry, but it sounds like you need to find some people who aren't so into drama. Drama is probably one of the dumbest things on the planet, look where it got you and your buddies.
Sorry for your troubles. I'm not you and I don't know the whole situation. If you can't fix this or talk to whoever keeps refusing to talk to you, then what CAN you do? Try, and if that fails, you just have to move on. You'll get along alright. Haha, wouldn't it have been easier if you'd of at least called your parents to tell then you'd be late?
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The Boy.
First you need to give him a little bit to cool off.
After that send him some short messages that way he cant really ignore what they say. Start with "I'm sorry I was really drunk and i'm not a run away" to " please talk to me I don't want to lose you." Those simple messages will grab his attention and eventually break him. If he doesn't respond within a week though you might be in trouble.
The Friend.
I would start by apologizing like no other and maybe buying her a replacement bottle for the one you took. You need to let her know that you were completely drunk and that you didn't mean for any of that to happen. your just going to have to do a lot of kissing up to try to make that work.
Your parents.
Eventually they will trust you again but your going to have to earn it. It's going to take some time but make sure your on your best behavior.
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Well hun your in a mess and I was at one point too. Its going to take a lot of making up to do. Yes I am glad you know what you did was extremely wrong because I can probably guartee you that the friend you ditched is there for you more than the others one will ever be....this guy the love of your life shouldve never even looked at you friend in that way if he had feelings for you so be careful there in making sure he just doesnt want a bootycall for you. All I can do is tell you keep trying to explain and apologize but really I would try to make up with your friend first the hardest. Don't do it obssesively so they think your crazy but show them that you really mean it and that your sorry for your mistakes. It does suck but if it gives you any hope the guy and girl that this happened with with me the girl is my best friend... and the guy and I still talk I am now 4 hours away from him but we still text!! well good luck hun and don't worry everything happens for a reason. I wish you the best!!! let me know how things go plz!
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