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How do I get over an ex that wants to be friends now?
So, it has been 6 months since my ex of 4 years and I broke up. It has been very difficult to move on but have been doing the best I can.
I took all the necessary steps in mending my heart from the break-up. I've been hanging out with friends most often, getting in touch with old buddies, and also have been going out whenever the opportunity presents itself. I have even dated a few guys since my ex but haven't had much of a serious connection with anyone.
Just recently I have started talking to my ex again online and we have decided to be friends. So far it has just been casual conversation, nothing to indicate that he still has feelings for me. The conversation is usually pretty light and friendly so it's comfortable in a way.
The problem is that I still have strong feelings for him and it has taken me until now to realize how bad it is. I'm definitely not over my ex! In fact, I'm still very much in love with him and now that we are talking again I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm trying to date him--dropping my plans to sit online and chat with him! I just can't go back now and tell him we shouldn't be friends because then he will want an explanation. I seriously don't want to tell him that I still love him.
Anyways I have no clue what I have gotten myself into. I need help!
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Wow! I have really been in your shoes before, so I know how you feel. But you actually have the pleasure of adleast talking to your ex, when I had no contact after our break up. Do you feel that he has other intentions other just talking to you casually? Or do you feel that he's just being friendly. Because if you feel that he may still have feelings for you than, I think maybe you should tell him how you feel. But if you feel that he's just being friendly, than I think further conversations can really be unhealthy. Especially if it's at your own suspense, you should never drop any plans to chat with him because he's not your PRIORITY anymore. And if you really feel that he's just want to be friends, than you need to vanquish all contact. Because what you really want is to be happy and move on, and you can't truly move on when he's in your life. You will only be confused and hurt. The best of luck to you
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Well you really should move on now and the only way to do that is cut off all connections with this guy so that means u cant be friends or your going to want to be with him and maybe he doesnt want to be more than friends so its just easier to end things now then to have your heart broken again later so just end the friendship now tell him that everytime you talk to him your feelings for him change and you start to like him and you cant hide your feelings and that if he doesnt like you back then you shouldnt be friends anymore because you could never just be his friend. I know this may be hard but dw once you get this over with you will feel better and finally have closure and will be able to move on.
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