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Ok i kinda snooped my bf of 4 years facebook inbox (it was an honest mistake it autologged him in and i thought it was me and saw a new one in the inbox but didn't bother looking at who was signed in until i was reading something i didn't want to read ... ugh)
Anyways, i found a conversation back and forth between him and his ex (who he dated about 2 years before meeting me). They were talking about how they still had sexual dreams about each other. Well she is single now and as i kept reading (by this point i didn't want to miss a detail ...) i saw her ask "do you think we should do something about these dreams?" and he sent her back "Like what?" and she replied with "Act on them ..."
Here comes what makes me mad. he sent her back "the thought crossed my mind..." and she sent him back "Well i have a few suggestions. Are you opposed to a trip out here?" (note: She is in ohio we are in NY. She is also the reason I am out here ... she brought me out here to be with him so she KNOWS he is taken) He hasn't responded yet but i need to know what to do? Should I be worried? He tells me that he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me, but lately i don't think i am fullfilling all his needs or he wouldn't be "considering" acting upon sex dreams with an ex right? I just need help in general i don't know what to think anymore.
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ell I always say when you go looking for negativity you usually find it. And we as females sometimes snoop threw our boyfriends things because sometimes we can get a little insecure. Especially if our relationship is spiraling down hill. Second of all he is totally wrong to conversate with his ex. It's selfish, inconsiderate and wrong. He can't possibly care for you that much if he's entertaing his ex. don't care if he hasn't had sexually contact with her, he's still cheating it may not be mentally but it's phyysically, and I think you need to really think about is that someone you really should be with... Because odviously he don't value your relationship as much as you do... The best of luck to you
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While I disagree with the fact that you snooped, it was an accident, and you admit that.
I really think you that you need to talk to your boyfriend. People cannot help the type of dreams they have. Some people have dreams about crazy things & it is pretty much out of their control. I don't like having dreams about people trying to kill me, but I have them, and that's not something I can control.
You need to talk to him though. It is wrong of him to be e-mailing his ex about that type of topic. He is taken, and has been with you for 4 years. His ex & sexual intercourse with her should be the last thing on his mind. Bring it up & see what he says. I really don't think the relationship should continue though. If he's having thoughts about being with his ex & isn't being true to you then you need to let him go. You deserve much better & you need to get yourself with a guy who truly does care about you.
You also need to talk to her. Don't be hostile, but just tell her where you stand on this whole thing. If she's the reason you guys are together, then she needs to back off. She's imposing on your relationship & that's unfair to you - especially if you were friends previously.
I hope you can get your feelings across to your boyfriend. Really take the time to re-evaluate your relationship & whether or not it's worth it (in your opinion) to continue it. My opinion is that you shouldn't, but I can only suggest things to you. I really wish you luck. Sorry about your situation. :(
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