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complicated love life
I dated this guy for a year and then I broke up with him when I was 19 almost 20. I have always loved him and held on to feelings for him, but I broke his heart and he withdrew from me and finally I didn't hear from him at all for about 4 years. I broke up with him because I focused on his imperfections instead of all of his wonderful qualities. Also, he wanted to get married and I don't think that I was ready for that at 19 or 20 and was scared. I am 26 now and more prepared for marriage. The thing is he called me up out of the blue about a year ago and told me that he had been married for 2 years and was now seperating because she cheated on him. We have been friends for the past year and his divorce is final and now I want to tell him that I want us to get back together but don't know if I should write a letter, or tell him in person, or write a brief letter and then talk to him in person or what I should even say. I don't know how he will react to this. What should I do?
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Sometimes I think a letter is better because you can take the time to express your feelings just the way you want to without the nerves. Also, a personal confession might be a little overwhelming for him considering he's just divorced. Even though the divorce may be justified, its still a very traumatic thing for anyone to go through, and he might not be totally ready to dive into another serious relationship. You have to be prepared for that. Also, if you truly care for him, you definitely don't want to be the "rebound" girl. I would suggest continuing the friendship for a while longer, letting him recover a bit, and then maybe writing him a letter telling him how you feel, how you've always regretted how you treated him, and that you hope there is a future for the two of you at some point. Then the ball is in his court. Good Luck to you both.
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I think that you should tell him in person. I will and that's the best way I feel to give important news to someone. You might be a little nervous about talking to him but, What's the worst that can happen. He can only tell you no. But I will still be aware of the fact that he has just gotten out of a marriage. So please take your time and think wisely about that. And if you do get back with him. Please treat him right he seems like a great guy that has been threw bad things with women.
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