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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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I am 23 .I broke my hymen by masturbation.I am very simple girl and only child of my parents.I am having guilty of masturbating.The thought is killing me.I am getting mental weakness due to the thought of my broken hymen and marriage.I am very emotional and leaving a relationship just coz of this tissue will kill me.But telling to my parents is difficult.If i had known about it before.i had never masturbated.i can manage the amount of money needed for hymenoplasty but my heart is saying no to me and also i am not having anybody with me to visit the doctor .I am having sleepless nights just because of this thought.Whole day i just think of my lower part.When my parents talk to me about marriage i totally get irritated and donot lyk to marry anyone.I had study in co-educated schools but never had bf or any other relationship i am totally pure but no proof.I am dying day by day
Hymen is a very thin membrane, and very seldom stays intact long enough for a girl to lose her virginity. You can break your hymen riding a bicycle or a horse. In all honesty, your hymen has probably been gone for a couple of years by now, since you are 23 years old. Believe me, its perfectly natural for it to be gone. Its very thin and delicate, and breaks easily on its own.
If you were bleeding, it is because you stuck your fingers in a hole not prepared for such an entry. Will you bleed the first time you have sex? Assuming his penis is larger than your fingers, yes, you probably will.
Adviceman gave outstanding advice, and you should really listen to him.
Stop looking at yourself so harshly. You're going to be fine.
ive been feeling very week latly and my heads been hurting alot. Could eating junkfood cause that if so what should i start eating?
Junk food can do that to a person. What you should start eating is healthy food. Vegetables, whole grains, fruits, meats, dairy... Your four basic food groups.
However, you should probably get checked out by your doctor, just in case it is a medical issue. You don't want to risk something being wrong and letting it go.
Okay so I had unprotected sex, I know, not a good idea. However, I got my period about 2 weeks afterward for 5 days. I haven't had sex since but my period is 7 days late. I have only had my period since I was 12 (16 now) so I could just be irregular although lately I haven't been. I know I'm young, please don't hate & say something judgmental I just need your advice.
Well, I'm going to lean towards no since you had your period after. BUT. Let's play it safe, and say you should take a test and be sure. What a relief it will be when it comes out negative, right? I'm sure you're just having an irregular month. It happens when you're a teenager. But like I said, play it safe and be sure.
Got Dollar General Stores in your area? You can get a test for 99 cents, and believe me, they work just as good as the expensive ones. Or go to your county health department. If you don't have any money, they'll test you for free.
I'm not being judgmental, but I am going to say that always, always, ALWAYS use a condom. Even if you get on birth control, because, honey, you don't honestly know where he's been and what he could be passing on to you. Ya dig??
I get it- You're 16, you're sexually active (at least a little, obviously) Do yourself a big favor and do some research on STDs. Know your enemy, that way you truly know how important it is that you should always carry a condom in your purse, and make that guy wear it!
Like I said, not being judgmental, just speaking from a mother's perspective, and I'm a realistic mother.
so, this is mainly for AliO22 so if anybody here can contact him/her, that would be great :). So... I already tried some stuff you suggested, she crummples up my notes, she got switched out of my classes that i had with her, and shes been pisssed now for about 4 months. Any other suggestions? Oh btw. Is anerexsia really that bad that she needs medical attention?? :( this is that oregon kid with the lady problems
Below is a link to their column.
You can go there, at the top select "Get Advice" and you can put this question in their personal inbox. That is your best chance of getting a direct response from them, since they will get an inbox notification.
And yes, anorexia is something that should definitely be treated. Some people have to go to hospitals. Sometimes people with anorexia and bulimia go into rehab centers for people with eating disorders, just as someone with a drug or alcohol addiction would.
It is considered a disease, and with the proper treatment, guidance, and environment, your friend can overcome anorexia. But, just like alcoholics and drug addicts, she has to open her eyes to her problem and be willing to seek treatment.
I'm assuming from what you've posted that you're trying to get her to have that eye opening? Don't give up on her. I'm sorry she's mad at you, but you are a dear friend with a good soul to risk her being so pissed at you, because you care enough to try so hard to help her.
I wish you the very best of luck in helping her, and I truly hope she seeks help, and soon.
If I can help in any way, let me know. Do inbox Ali022 at this link, because they know the whole story:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=AliO22
Im 14 and my boyfriend and i got together in december. He's kissed me twice, but he wont talk to me. I sit next to him and his friends everyday at school because he saves me a seat, but when i save him a seat with my friends, he just walks past me. On the rare occasion that he does talk to me, he wont even look at me, even though when i stand up in class or he sees me in the hall, his eyes are glued to me. Texting is the same way. When he texts me, in the middle of our conversations he cuts it off saying he has to work out or go do chores or its family movie night. When i text him, he rarely ever replies. This happens every time. There has been some problems with his friends thinking im weird annoying and stupid, but he swears he doesnt think so. WHat do i do. Im scared to confront him because i dont know how and i dont want to ruin this relationship.
I know you're scared to confront him, but you seriously need to. Because let me tell you, my outside of the box point of view is this: It doesn't sound like he isn't into you or anything, but it does sound like he isn't being your boyfriend.
Honestly, it doesn't sound like you really have a relationship to speak of at this time, so what is there to ruin? By talking to him about it, you have a chance to BUILD a relationship. Like I said, it seems like he does like you, but we ladies must always remember that guys are not mind readers, so we have to tell them how we feel about things, hard as it may be sometimes.
If you want things to get better, you have to communicate with the guy. Communication is one of the key ingredients to a healthy relationship.
So, tell him you need to meet up with him in private sometime outside of school and just open up. If you're worried that you'll run him off, then piss on him- he was wasting your time to begin with. But its worth the chance of bringing you closer and establishing a better relationship that works both ways.
IF he won't talk to you? Then he IS wasting your time. Break it off and find someone who will appreciate you. Ok?
By the way- just because his friends think you're weird doesn't mean he thinks the same. He isn't his friends.
My B-day is on Valentines day and i dont know what theme my party should be. I am going to be 13 and i love rocknroll, animals, and nature. Can you help?
Thanks
What an awesome day for a birthday, right?
How about you make the theme something along the lines of animals in the wild, whether it be African safari, or perhaps a jungle, or something that shows off your favorite animals. Then rock out to your favorite rock music?
Hey... if you do a jungle theme, you can try to get everyone to wear Tarzan type costumes. That would make for a very memorable party for you and your friends.
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This is a site to seek and give advice.
Your post would be better suited for craigslist.
I know this is really wierd but what is a hyman?
A dictionary is a wonderful tool.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/Hymen
I have an iPhone 4, which I bought from my friend when he bought his new iPhone 5.
I was hoping to delete the iCloud account of my iPhone, because it is his account and I want my own.
I'm just worried that it would permanently delete the account entirely, meaning that it would also be deleted off of my friend's new iPhone 5.
If I delete the iCloud account, will it also be deleted from his phone, or just mine?
Ok, I'm going to be honest and tell you I have no clue when it comes to iphones. I'm one of those lame folks who uses Tracphone because I don't use a cell much. But I found something online, so let's see if this bit of info is any help to you. I know you've been waiting for an answer for some time now!
So here goes:
"...One note to make though is when you delete your account it asks you if you want to remove all the items from your iPad. I chose 'NO' on that question, re-entered my new account info with the new email and it all came back up in seconds. Thanks!"
BrettNL's reply at this link:
https://discussions.apple.com/thread/3145367?start=105&tstart=0
I truly hope that helped you!
Hey recently I have been having a lot of trouble remembering things and I was really suffering at school one of my friends suggested that I use Procera AVH but I am afraid that it might have some side effects I just needed advice if I should use it.
I really wouldn't suggest taking stuff like that unless you have fully researched it. A good place to start gathering information is to go talk to your pharmacist. But I strongly suggest you don't take that without consulting your doctor.
Speaking of your doctor...
If you are having problems remembering things, perhaps you should visit with your doctor, because something has to be going on all of the sudden for you to have started to have memory issues. There could be a medical issue as to why you are having memory loss.
This is definitely something to be taken seriously, as it is greatly affecting your school work. So you should try to get in to your doctor right away so they can diagnose and treat the problem, and you can get back on track with your studies.
I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to look healthy. What is the quickest way I can look healthy and get abs?
There is no quick and easy way, you have to put time and effort into working out. A good start would be doing sit ups. Do you live near a gym, or a rec center? Those would be excellent places to go to get yourself in shape.
Just remember- It doesn't happen fast, but your hard work will be well worth it in the end.
I dropped a bottle of red crackle fingernail polish on my tile floor and it also got on the wall (not tiled). Its been sitting there for about 2 months and i got off most of it, but how can I get rid of all of it?
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Your question: What is CLR?
CLR is a more powerful than average cleaning product used for cleaning calcium, lime, and rust out of places like showers, tubs, and sinks. I believe it comes in a silver bottle. You should be able to find it in the same section where you'd find other bathroom cleaners.
It should say CLR in big letters, and also say calcium, lime, rust on the label.
Last time I got some, it ran between $6-$8 per bottle, but it is handy to have around, especially if it cleans up the polish.
I hope that helped!
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I'm assuming you've tried nail polish remover.
Something like CLR might possibly help. I can't say that it will, but it is powerful enough to clean calcium, lime, and rust deposits/stains, it may just work.
Worth a shot, anyway.
What should I do about my boyfriend issues?? There isn't anything wrong with my boyfriend it's just I get really shy when he is around his friends and stuff.
Well, it sounds like his friends are who you are shy about. Try to get to know them a little. Jump in on a conversation here and there, and slowly you'll start feeling less shy when around them.
okay so im lost in a world full of men who love love love bitches? sounds weird right? but true. i don't know how to play "the game" making him chase you showing him other guys want you and all that jazz. like wait for 5 dates to have sex or..call him after 3. text him after 10 mins all these stupid rules. if i like a guy i dont care i'll text u when i want to.. i dont consider myself klingy.. but guys get scared im straight up hey i like you..yet they run because im upfront. and i notice guys love materialistic girls. i don't mind paying and what not. and these girls who use guys for money end up getting the guy? and when girls are bitchy guys are like puppies. im so confused its so easy getting a guy to be interested but then this game is suppose to start with all these bullshit rules? should i start playing this stupid game? because apparently straight forward no mixed messaged stuff scares guys off?
Nah... You don't want to act that way, because you don't want the type of guy who wants that type of girl. Seriously. I know it seems like that type of guy is every guy out there, but I promise you that is not the case. There are guys out there who will appreciate you for being a straight forward girl who doesn't play stupid bitchy head games.
Hey guys!
So all my life i've kind of been a slave to my hair. I'm nineteen now and have been straightening it since i was maybe thirteen. And even before that when I was like nine or ten I was always finding ways to control my crazy maine. I'm half hispanic so my hair is extremely thick and frizzy and very unruly. It looks good when I straighten it, but I spend so much time doing it in the morning and after I shower it's just becoming so tiring.
I really hate the frizz and I dont look good with curly hair so there's really no question that I want it straight.
So now my question haha.
I've been looking up japanese perms (also known as thermal conditioning) and keratin brazilian treatments and have been weighing the pros and cons of what I found out.
From what I found, apparently both could be consididered harmless to your hair. The keratin treatment is apparently healthier for it because it's a conditioning treatment, but my only problem with this is that they say it still probably wont be 100% straight. It just smooths it over.
The Japanese perm is supposed to work extremely well and last a lot longer, but they use chemicals.
Does this harm your hair and/or cause pain while applying?
Is the Keratin treatment reliable and if it is what is it like after hair is washed and no products are applied?
Im looking for something that will not require me to constantly straighten it, and will air dry straight.
The other reason Im doing this is because over the summer I am going on a vacation in Mexico, and then later on in December will be spending a month in the Philipines with my boyfriend.
Ive been on vacations with his family before so they know how I am, but in the Philipines electricity is limited and I really honestly dont want to have to constantly worry about my hair. Plus even if I could straighten it, the humidity would ruin it.
So what is my best option here?
Thanks so much!!!
Keratin Brazilian Treatment FAQ:
http://www.lovelyish.com/742487841/ask-a-hairdresser-brazilian-keratin-treatment-faq/
Japanese Perm FAQ:
http://www.beautychoicesalon.com/faq/
I see my ex every day at school and i relize i still like him. I have a boyfriend and it makes me feel really bad that i still like my ex. How do i keep from thinking about him during a typical school day?
You need to focus on your boyfriend, or quit wasting his time.
I have a huge crush on this boy at school named Chase. I even have dreams about him. I never have dreams about my boyfriend. I really like him but i dont want to break up with my boyfriend. Chase doesnt even like me but he knows i like him. WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!
You can't control what you dream about. Try focusing less on Chase, and more on your boyfriend. I'm sure you wouldn't much like it if your boyfriend was having a huge crush on some other girl, right? So try to simmer down about the other guy and the dreams will start to go away.
does anyone know any motivation to keep wanting to go to school. i really dont want to go anymore. i am SICK OF IT! i am a senior in high school. i want to drop out! i hate it ( i cant drop out my parents will kill me & i never would but..) AHH! but some teachers hate me & there my teachers & i have to deal with it for another semester and some days. i want school to end already!! i'm the type of person that HATES SCHOOl!!!!!!! if you didnt know that already haha! (im female by the way hehe:)
Just think of how far you've come, and how close you are to being done. In a few short months, you will walk out of those doors forever. WITH a high school diploma.
Think of how proud of yourself you will be, and how proud your parents will be.
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I got my belly button pierced in November.. It's still infected .. I don't know if I should let it close or not? How would I know?? And If I did let it close how long would it take to heal? I want to get it repierced somewhere else.. Help please bcus I'm dated /:
Ummmmm.... If it's infected? Yah, you need to go to the DOCTOR. I love my body piercings, too, and some issues you take to your piercer, but some things, such as being infected since November (Very Bad!!!) you take to your doctor. You need antibiotics! And you may need to take the antibiotics before removing the jewelry.
From now on, NEVER go that long with an infection. Infections are hazardous to your body!
ok so today a boy asked me out but he just got dumped by my best friend last week and I only like him as a friend but I have NO idea how to tell him no but still be friends I would appreciate if you gave me advice ASAP I promised I tell before I go to sleep Thank You I am a girl 13 years old
~RaeleneAndZayn
Simple: You tell him, you are flattered that he asked you, but you are only interested in keeping your relationship on a friendly level.
No need to hash up anything about how he just got dumped. His being dumped is probably why he's asking you out to begin with. To rake him over the coals about that would just cause him to be hurt all the more, and that's just cruel.