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Does he even like me?
Im 14 and my boyfriend and i got together in december. He's kissed me twice, but he wont talk to me. I sit next to him and his friends everyday at school because he saves me a seat, but when i save him a seat with my friends, he just walks past me. On the rare occasion that he does talk to me, he wont even look at me, even though when i stand up in class or he sees me in the hall, his eyes are glued to me. Texting is the same way. When he texts me, in the middle of our conversations he cuts it off saying he has to work out or go do chores or its family movie night. When i text him, he rarely ever replies. This happens every time. There has been some problems with his friends thinking im weird annoying and stupid, but he swears he doesnt think so. WHat do i do. Im scared to confront him because i dont know how and i dont want to ruin this relationship.
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Are you his first girlfriend? It sort of sounds like he isn't really sure what it means to be in a relationship.
It sounds like he likes you, but doesn't know how to talk to you or what to say or how to act, so he finds it easier to just avoid you. The way he doesn't respond to your texts makes him seem rather disinterested. Perhaps he just had a bit of a crush on you and liked you but wasn't as interested when you became official, and doesn't know how to act in a relationship?
Why don't you call him and ask him for ten minutes of his time. Explain that you feel like there's a misunderstanding in your relationship, and you're not getting what you want. Let him know that you find it odd that you are supposedly dating, but that he doesn't really talk to you much.
He may realize that he doesn't want a relationship, and may end it. That's OK. Do you really want to be in a relationship that you are unsatisfied in, just because you like him? You'll get over it, trust me.
Good luck!
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Honestly, I just think he's scared of confrontation. Some guys are cool with the physical stuff but can't handle the emotional side of things. Maybe he's just sort of confused on how to act or gets mood swings. The best way to solve this situation is try to either confront him but if you're too shy try to silently convey the message that it is not comfortable for you (act the same with him. sometimes the best way to get a person's attention is by not giving them yours.) If he gets hurt then he is serious about you
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I know you're scared to confront him, but you seriously need to. Because let me tell you, my outside of the box point of view is this: It doesn't sound like he isn't into you or anything, but it does sound like he isn't being your boyfriend.
Honestly, it doesn't sound like you really have a relationship to speak of at this time, so what is there to ruin? By talking to him about it, you have a chance to BUILD a relationship. Like I said, it seems like he does like you, but we ladies must always remember that guys are not mind readers, so we have to tell them how we feel about things, hard as it may be sometimes.
If you want things to get better, you have to communicate with the guy. Communication is one of the key ingredients to a healthy relationship.
So, tell him you need to meet up with him in private sometime outside of school and just open up. If you're worried that you'll run him off, then piss on him- he was wasting your time to begin with. But its worth the chance of bringing you closer and establishing a better relationship that works both ways.
IF he won't talk to you? Then he IS wasting your time. Break it off and find someone who will appreciate you. Ok?
By the way- just because his friends think you're weird doesn't mean he thinks the same. He isn't his friends.
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Well I just want you to know that you are still young. I am 17 years old... I remember when I was 14 liking boys... Dating boys... Breaking up with boys. I realize u want this relationship to last a little longer, confronting him is the right thing to do if you want to actually have a real relationship. Is it possible for a breakup? Of course. But you have 4-5 years left of school, if a real up did occur there is always a chance of getting back tOgether in high school when most people start maturing and an actual real relationship can happen
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