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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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First my brother is 18 and im 13 i just noticed today that i wont be seeing him that often and i cant stop crying
.I can see all of the memories flash in my head what do i do?
Moving out does not mean someone is dying. It means he just will no longer live in the house. You're brother will still ve visiting and you can even visit him. You should be proud of him, This is a big accomplishment for him.
I live on my own too but you know what? I still see family often. :-)
Trust me dear, It's all going to be just fine.
I an 13 and I want a baby but, I don't know what to do what should I do
Have you lost your mind?
Listen, If you do live on your own, pay your own bills, work a full time job then you are nowhere even ready to raise a child.
Do you buy your own clothes? Do you still live at home with Mom and Dad? Do you go to school? No, again you are not ready.
Your only 13, You are still legally a child.
I am 27 and I have a son, You think it's easy? No. It's a full time job and a very expensive one.
Diapers, formula, clothes and even medical care alone is expensive!
Now let me ask you, Who is going to raise it? It won't be you dear, You are still a child.
Be realistic, Wait until you are at least out of high school. That would ve a SMART thing to do!
So basically, me and this friend of mine are extremely alike. We mirror each other down to our very actions (even things such as morals and humor and art.) We even get confused of being twins or sisters a lot of the time.
She's a great friend, but she's also my boyfriends ex girlfriend(from years ago.)
Granted, they only dated for about a month, and it was awhile ago- However I feel like if they were ever to meet they would connect again.
My feelings only felt more validated when I had a dream the other night. The dream went that she was just better than me in every way shape and form - Doing everything I've done but better- and my boyfriend was head over heels for her.
I don't know where this is coming from, but I feel like I have a seed of jealousy growing inside of me , due to my friendship with her.
And in reality- I do feel a bit of jealousy towards her in those aspects -
We tend to copy each other a lot , she usually buys the same things I buy/ material things like that.
But lately - it's been getting on my nerves.
I feel questionable towards my identity-- for some odd reason - is this normal?
We have plans to start an online shop together , and she's kind of been feeding off of all of my ideas. I'm starting to question my friendship with this girl, but I know none of this is her intention.
I feel like if she can steal my ideas , she can steal my boyfriend-
For my own sanity - I need advice
How can I block out these feelings, or finally discard them once and for all?
Thanks so much,
--The Inferior One
Dear Inferior One
Sometimes having things in common with people are wgat creates a good friendship. If her behavior is becoming obsessive or overwhelming for you, Then I would talk to her about how it bothers you. You see, I can't help but assume you are jealous in the aspect that you fear your boyfriend will become attracted to her considering you both share simularties. Rather I believe she may in fact idolize you but even so, Copying excessively can be quite annoying.
I would talk to her definitely and maybe even back off on the friendship some. Give her time to learn how to be independent upon herself and not others.
I've been in love (not just a crush) this guy for years. Except now he has a girlfriend and it's breaking my heart. Should I tell him what I'm feeling? I'm worried that if I do I might ruin our friendship but if I don't, I think that my heart will just continue to break.
I think you should probably distance yourself from him. Although you may have feelings for him, He is not on the market. It would b very uncool to just tell him how you feel to make yourself feel better. In fact not to be harsh but you could end up being a real home wrecker and instead of getting your hopes up he may have feelings back, he could end up resenting you for coming between his relationship. Seeing you have had these feelings for years indicates that you have have had plenty of time to tell him when he was available.
No, I do not think you should tell him. If it is meant to be it will happen but don't become someone who comes between someone's happiness or you could very well loose.
Lol this might sound weird but how do i get a bigger butt. And bigger thys. Help please..
McDonalds super size menu will do it.
No seriously, There is no way unless you consider surgery. This can be a costly and painful procedure.
Soo i went to a dance and it was sooo fun. People were twerking and grinning and so was i. But i have a boyfriend. I was on girls and boys ( im not bi or anything ) . But should i tell him what i was doing or not. Im scared he might be mad at me. Please help. Thaanks
I think honesty is important.
If you are scared he will be mad then why did you do it?
Lets reverse for a moment. How would you feel if your boyfriend went to a dance and was grinding on other girls?
Actions like this will end a relationship, It is dishonest.
If you care enough to save your relationship then start thinking before you speak and act or you will find yourself a single lady real soon.
i am a 13 years old boy.i am not very fat but little fat.when i do push ups i feel pain in my lower abdomen.what is it?Could anybody tell what is it and what are good exercises for a 13 year old boy??
Help.
I am not a doctor, but a lot of the times when we di certain exercise we contract muscles in our body.
If it concerbs you then you should see a doctor.
So this has been going on and off all year my group of friends we were all tightly knit last year and then we got to highschool. And we slowly drifted apart now one of the girls won't go anywhere near the other and now there fighting me and my bes t friend Lexi were talking about it and I realized its gotten to the point where she won't eat in the cafeteria with staci she sits in the avid room and eats lunch I'm at a loss for words cause now I'm being dragged into it to solve things and it only makes it worse any advice?
There is really not much you can do except talk to them.
High school is a world of drama, Much different then Jr. High.
People change, people drift, we mature and sometimes go our own way. It's just apart of life...
If you don't want to be dragged into bullshit then don't be. Tell them to solve it themselves.
It amazes me really, I am in my late 20's now but people spend so muc h time and energy in high school trying to "be cool", none of that matters once you graduate. The world is not bases on "who is and who isn't awesome"
A lot of the times we lean who are true friends are AFTER we leave high school. Meaning, If your friends are in an argument then let them put their big girl pants on and work it out. If not, then maybe they weren't meant to be friends to begin with.
so my friend of 14 years(she's 22, i'm 19), is trying to have a baby with her fiance, but he isnt able to "make good swimmers"(best way i can think to put it) and so she turns to me and asks for mine, since we've been friends since like, grade school. being a good friend, i think that i'd just donate, BUT here's where my question comes in. she wants to have in naturally, so like intercourse. she's talked it with her fiance and so have i, and he's totally fine with it, but i feel kinda...awkward. should i go through with it? cuz she says i'm her only choice for it
There is something fishy here...
You are not her only option, There are plenty of fertality clinics that have many options even adoption.
You don't just make a baby for whatever reason it may be. As long as you have been friends for, This sounds real bad. You need to understand that this kid wouldn't be yours. It is only yours through sperm as the agreement would be to give a child. This child will not know you as a father. Another worry, if for whatever reason her and her fiance split..
God only knows if she will come after you for child support.
Say NO! Let them go to someone eles. Do not fall for that trap or you will be setting yourself up for a long hall.
Why does it feel so good when my bf pushes his d*** against my v*****
Okay I am not sure if you are the one postibg several pointless questions but please stop seriously.
My daughter has been writing poems for several years, and I think she is good. I dont have much money, but I would like for her poems to be published. How do I do that?
You could start with the local newspaper.
Pick one up, They should have an editor and contact info.
Everyone, what's your favorite music? What kind, what band/artist, what songs do you like?
Underground Rap, Alternative, Rock, anything that sounds good.
Crossfade, Alice and Chains, Oasis, Creed, 3 doors down etc.
I'm thinking of making a new religion, just to see if it catches on at all, and what people think. Got any ideas? I want something weird, but not too weird. Something about as odd as christianity. I, personally, am an atheist, but I enjoy messing with people. Also, I'm 13, so take into consideration my limited resources and impact.
Why would you "make" up a religion?
Messing with people in such a way can come across as offensive depending on the person. Also, To be quite honest this post points out that you are desperate for attention. If you want to be unique and express yourself then fine, but to mess with people? Extremely childish.
I have a lot of cleaning to do on lino floors and tiled floors. At the moment I add dishwashing liquad into a bucket of water and use that.
They say a power cleaner must have is vinegar.
Try dish liquid, warm water, vinegar.
I'll get straight to the point.
19/f
I am in a 2 year relationship and up until this point have never had a problem with my boyfriend or myself watching porn. I always thought it was a healthy form of sexual expression and completely normal. Were very open about these kinds of things.
But then the more I started thinking about it the worse I felt. He doesn't abuse it at ALL and when I watch it, its maybe once a month or less, so these feelings came out of nowhere. It doesn't interfere with our relationship whatsoever.
(Also i'm not religious)
So I just need opinions!
1) Is it healthy/normal for a relationship?
2) It's not considered cheating ... right?
3) How could I maybe cope with it better?
Or anything else you guys wanna say please do.
I'm a little confused about the whole thing and have been feeling pretty bad every time we talk about it.
Thanks!
You will get different answers on this one
My opinion? Porn ruins a relationship.
If you are with someone and you both have a healthy relationship what's the need for the porn? Porn (again in my opinion) is an alternative for those who do not have partners.
Some say its a educational thing to spice up a relationship. DOo I agree? To some extent I do. As long as it is not excessive. I personally would not want porn in my relationship with someone. However, I am old fashioned. It is offensive to me because that it what your partner is for. (No, I am not religious either)
I have been told that putting baby powder on your underwear is good, but I've also been told that you may get cancer from it. Is it safe to use baby powder or not? I tried researching it and got a bunch of different results, some saying that it's good and some saying that it's bad. I need the real truth on it.
Cancer? No.
Baby powder is used on babies, I do not know where you heard that one from but its a crock of shit.
If you are looking for something for hygeine, they sell womabs body deordrant near the pads/tampon isle. This can be found at Walmart fir about $2.00
It's not that I don't like her, I do. It's just that I don't care what happens in the relationship. Is this relationship unhealthy or unfair to her? P.s. I'm a guy and 16
If you do not care, Then this relationship is not for you.
People can care about someone but sometimes we can "like" someone and not be in love with them.
You shall seek what is compatiable to you, not what meets your needs.
Keeping a chick around and not giving two shits is not a healthy relationship. Find someone that makes you happy, someone you can have fun with and relate too. On the other hand dude, maybe tour just not exactly...ready. :/
First off, I'd like to say that I know nobody here is a doctor. I'm not looking for a diagnosis, I'm just looking for opinions, maybe somebody here has experienced this.
Also, do not just tell me to see a doctor, that's too pricey for me at the moment without medical insurance.
This may be long because of backstory I feel like I should add but may not be needed.
Alright so, last week I was convinced I got external hemorrhoids. I had pain when I pooped, some blood, and a decent sized bump on my anus after straining during a large poop that was in no way coming out naturally.
Now the thing is, I've always had large poops and slight constipation growing up. There has always been pain because of these large poops and the pain caused me to go a couple weeks 'holding it in' when I was about 8 because I was just so scared of it. My family has never eaten a particularly healthy diet and it doesn't help that the only veggies I can stomach are potatoes and corn. (I'm currently trying to fix the constipating and large/hard poops by drinking more water, eating some more foods high in fiber and taking fiber powers packets or stir in water.
I always strain when I poop because I'm always slightly constipated, and I poop every few days rather than everyday.
For the passed few weeks I noticed a slight bump on my anus when I would wipe after pooping, it didn't hurt or itch. I ignored it - probably in denial of possible hemorrhoids. It wasn't until last week after that particularly large poop that the cut really grew in size and convinced me I had hemorrhoids. Immediately I looked up home treatments and I now have some TUCKS products coming in the mail to help.
Now just a few minutes ago, my 'hemorrhoid' was really itchy. I tried ignoring it, not wanting to irritate it. Eventually it got so bad that I lost self control to I went to the bathroom to gently wipe with babywipes to relieve some itching (it worked). I noticed there wasn't a bump. None. But my anus itches and when I shifted a certain way on the toilet there was a sharp pain on my anus for not even a second and it went away.
Now I'm wondering, do I have hemorrhoids or just a cut on my anus?
From what I understood while reading about hemorrhoids, the bump stayed. It could be removed with surgery or pain could be relieved by applying the appropriate products on it. Or am I wrong?
I'm not entirely sure, which is why I seek some opinions from people who may have experienced this or just know more about it than I do.
Also, I didn't get a REALLY good feel of the bump when I was convinced I had hemorrhoids because, honestly, I was a little too grossed out to attempt to touch it. But from what I could tell by wiping with baby wipes, it was a fairly soft bump. Due to it's size in width, I threw out the idea of it being a pimply because I had had a pimple near my anus once before and it was just different.
I've also tried to look in the mirror but it's just not happening. I can't bend right for that.
Holding in your bowels is dangerous, Our bodys waste contains toxins which can be potentially deadly if we do not relieve ourselves.
You see, Constipation is a bitch. While we can develope hemroids on the outside of our anus did you know it is also possible to get them on the inside as well?
So the solution, I would highly recommend trying Preperation H which is a hemroid cream meant for shrinking. If you feel constipated try stool softners.
About the cutting, It is very possible you may of caused a tear near your anus. When you pit strain on your body and hold it in, sometimes you can actually cause yourself to become more constipated.
I would see a doctor, This would really be your best bet.
Try getting in beans, fish, veggies, tofu, chicken. Change your diet
Why do people say suicide is selfish? It's not selfish to end your OWN life, everyone else is going to rot in the ground just like their family before them and before them.
I want to die, and that is a choice just as is everything else in "life" what's the quickest, least painful way I can do this?
It is selfish, It is selfish in a way that many many people never had the chance to even have that privilege. You, Have neen fortunate enough to live. You see, Family have passed away yes, but you also have family now and you will have family in the future. It is selfish to do such an act that will cause those who love you pain and misery.
There have been countless times I have thought of taken my life as well. Why didn't I? Because living is more important. I have family that love me and I was meant to live. I couldn't bare ti even think if the pain my family would live through if I weren't here. YOU are here for a reason, That is because god has choosen for you to make the best of your life.
Is it legal 4 a 13 yr old in england 2 send a 14 yr old boy dirty pics ? jw worried for a friend
You are a minor, Sending dirty pictures is concidered child pirnography. A cell phone is much like a computer, Even if someone deleted evidence, The phone stores data which is tracable. Not only would it be an extremely stupid thing to do, It's also illegal.