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I love a guy who has a girlfriend
I've been in love (not just a crush) this guy for years. Except now he has a girlfriend and it's breaking my heart. Should I tell him what I'm feeling? I'm worried that if I do I might ruin our friendship but if I don't, I think that my heart will just continue to break.
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That's a really hard situation.
I would completely understand if you wanted to tell him how you feel since you've been holding back all these years but, since he's not available, it wouldn't be fair to either of you.
It wouldn't be fair to you, because what if he really likes his girlfriend and he doesn't want to leave her to be with you?
It'll be putting him in a tough situation because his friend likes him but he has a girlfriend.
Plus, if they are happy, you don't want to ruin a happy relationship. Even if they weren't happy, it wouldn't be your place to get in the way.
So you can tell him, but you couldn't expect anything in return. Remember that.
You could move on. Which is definitely easier said than done. But if you wanted to, it wouldn't be impossible.
Or you can wait around till he's single again.
Honestly, I'm not sure what you are expecting out of this. No matter what you do, there is possibility of heartbreak.
So you see all the possible choices, and you'll know what's best. Good luck and I'm sure things will get better.
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You've been in love for how long? You say years, which must be more than a couple which is 2. So I will assume for 3 or more years you felt that way.
Next Your choice of words "Now he has a girlfriend" would indicate that back in the past he did not have a girlfriend, that it is only recently. So what was happening all that time? How could he not know you were in love with him unless...you are extremely shy?
Is he treating this "girlfriend" any different than he was treating you as "a friend"?? If he is not treating her in a romantic fashion, then perhaps she is just another female friend. If this is the case, you have nothing to lose in confessing how you feel. If they seem to be experienceing romantic love together, telling him at this point is not a good idea. You'd have to cut your losses and hopefully learn to make a move sooner. Even if you had made a move sooner, he may not have reciprocated. He may have wanted you for a friend only, not a romantic sweetheart.
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I think you should probably distance yourself from him. Although you may have feelings for him, He is not on the market. It would b very uncool to just tell him how you feel to make yourself feel better. In fact not to be harsh but you could end up being a real home wrecker and instead of getting your hopes up he may have feelings back, he could end up resenting you for coming between his relationship. Seeing you have had these feelings for years indicates that you have have had plenty of time to tell him when he was available.
No, I do not think you should tell him. If it is meant to be it will happen but don't become someone who comes between someone's happiness or you could very well loose.
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