You're right, Jane is really immature for doing the things shes doing. You need to get the principal involved and your parents at this point. Not only is she threatening you, but shes two years older than you!


It doesn't matter how much you don't want to get people involved, it needs to be done. Yes, it's immature, but this isn't something you can ignore. You have to get this mess cleaned up, and not only that, but delete that away message. It's time that you start moving on from Jack and his idiotic girlfriend.

Also remember, don't ever think about fighting someone just because they are saying things about you. Do you think that anyone goes through their lives without being talked about? No way. You can't spend your whole life defending yourself to words, it's silly. Don't think about making petitions for anyone ever either. It doesn't matter what this person has done, you have to do whatever is possible to keep yourself innocent, that way, she can't say something to someone about you doing something to her. Start getting your parents involved, you've done nothing wrong at all. You cannot get over someone in a second. You have no choice right now, you like him a lot, you can't control that at the moment.



-TheTeenGirl

If you want to be his friend, then you should probably ask him what happened and start suggesting to continue the friendship. Tell him through e-mail that you miss the strong bond you both had last year.


About his love life, let him do what he wants with that. I know you want to tell him a lot about who hes dating and the consequences, but a lot could end up happening with you and these girls possibly. You just never know with what he might say if you begin to tell him things. Right now, you should just start beginning the friendship you had and going from there.


-TheTeenGirl

Theres only two things that you need to NOT do while you're getting over this girl.

1. Do not call her, or speak to her AT ALL.

2. Do not go see her or visit her.


If she calls you or e-mails you, you need to say that you're busy and stop talking to her. If she comes up to talk to you, tell her you are doing fine and keep the conversations shortened. The more you hang out with this girl or have a lot of interaction with her, the harder it will be to start moving on. If you aren't doing any of these things, then you're doing great so far even if you feel like you've gotten nowhere. Each day that you go without talking to her or anything, thats a tiny step closer to moving on. So everyday, you get over her little by little. Also, stop telling yourself that she was the best girlfriend in the world. I know you strongly liked her, but the more you say it or think about it, you'll keep feeling like you aren't good enough for anyone else. There are tons of other girls you'll be meeting later on. There are lots of other girls that are meant for you, it's not just this girl that you're upset about. Know that this is her loss, she may realize later who she got rid of, who knows, but don't expect that to happen. Expect yourself to move on to new girls and not go backwards to her.



-TheTeenGirl

Do not take him back. Do you know how shallow that guy was being? That is telling you that this guy cares what other people think about who he dates. Thats a really shallow thing. Let him regret it more by saying no. A guy who dumps a girl because someone else may not like it is pathetic, hes letting other people think for him. He needs to learn that he dates for a reason, because HE likes them, it isn't up to OTHER PEOPLE.


-TheTeenGirl

Yes, it is wrong. That will be the exact feeling that other girl will get if you flirt with her boyfriend. Every girl will have feelings just as you do. When you flirt with guys that have girlfriends, think about how you feel everytime it happened to you and you had to be the girlfriend. Think about others' feelings.


-TheTeenGirl

What really makes me wonder is when you complain about how unfair it is that your parents don't trust you. Well..don't you think that your drinking and drugs might be at least a few reasons why they don't trust you?


Your parents are being parents when they call where you are suppose to be at and make sure you are there. This is your parents' job whether you like it or not. They lecture you and get mad at you for no reason? Are you high right now? Because you ave to be pretty high to not understand why your parents don't trust you and monitor you the way they do. You drink and do drugs. You really don't deserve trust either, just wait until you become a parent and struggle with what your parents are struggling with today.



-TheTeenGirl

Well, you probably don't want to give up until you at least have a chat with him about this. Ask him what is going on and if he gets mad, then you should start saying that you have no other choice but to end the relationship because hes being shut down toward you and won't help.


If there are problems with you and a boyfriend, you have to use communication. That is the only way to actually get somewhere. If you can't get anywhere, then it's time to start thinking about breaking up. To me, it sounds like you two maybe growing apart with your differences. His morals, and your effort to try to fix every little problem that goes on in relationships. I could be wrong though. Maybe hes dealing with a problem that he may not have told you about yet. There could be a lot of reasons why hes stopped the touching and the hand holding. Your job is to find out why. Talk to him, then go from there.

-TheTeenGirls

Listen, things will change through the years with your shy feelings. I know it seems like it will always be there, but it won't. Do not call yourself stupid. The more you put yourself down, the harder it will get to start talking and feel ok about it.


Try not to feel the need to have a boyfriend because every other girl has one and they've had a boyfriend before 15. How many high school relationships do you think will last anyway? Especially freshmen or sophmore relationships. You meet more people as the years come through. Know that it is ok to be 15 and without a boyfriend. It means nothing. It doesn't identify you, it doesn't say anything about you. It doesn't make you less of a person or less attractive. It means absolutley nothing. Here are a few things that you can do to boost up your confidence level.


1. TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS EVERYDAY- If you see a friend in the hallway, say hello, or give them a hug. If they are in your class, ask them how they are doing!


2. DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS- If theres someone in your class that seems a little lonely, ask her what classes she has or start a conversation.


3. DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES- We are all human. So we make a lot of mistakes. If we make one, don't put yourself down for it. Admit that you did it, and then just say, "At least I understand what was wrong now".


4. ASK FOR HELP WHEN NEEDED- If you can't understand something in class, don't hesistate to stop her and ask her to repeat it or explain. There are usually other people who will wonder the exact same thing as you. So it may not be just answering your question!


5. BE OPEN AND GO OUT- When someone is talking, talk back, be social. And make weekend plans to go see a movie with one of your friends. Being outside will make you feel happier about not having a boyfriend.



You have to learn that if you just be a little more openly to people, you'll find it that it's really not that hard and as stressful as your mind makes it.



-TheTeenGirl

You have to find out what is going on here. You can't just decide for yourself that he just doesn't love you anymore if you havn't hung out with him for a while. You have to put in some effort.


Here are the possibilities for why you two may not be going out anymore:


-One of you are no longer interested in the other

-Something in his life may be going on right now that you aren't aware of thats withdrawing him

-You both have just stopped making plans and expect the other one to call and plan a date.


Take in these choices. You need to explain these feelings before you decide what to do. Tell him that you feel like things are starting to fall apart and ask him if he agrees, and then discuss what you can do to fix it.


-TheTeenGirl

Before you jump to conclusions, you have to explain to your friend that you won't let this guy get in between as you said. Your friends jumped to conclusions too if they went and ditched you because you told one of them that you liked her ex boyfriend.


I think the biggest reason you all are spread apart is because of the separate schools. School was a huge part of your friendship with these girls. Thats what kept you updated with each other and kept you making plans on the weekend. So this might be just you thinking that they are ditching you, I may be wrong, but school changing is a huge deal. Your friendship won't be like it was with different schools. But again, before you decide to feel mad and just shut out, call that friend and tell her that you felt like you needed to tell her and that you didn't know that she would be sensative to it. You were being a friend by telling her. Don't give up on working this friendship out. It sounds worth trying for.



As for the friendship, you should start asking them about their weekend plans and then asking to tag along with them. You don't want to throw this away, make a girls night.



-TheTeenGirl

That hair will always come back later on all prickly, theres no stopping it. If you're afraid that this will be a turn off to your boyfriend, then stop worrying about something that silly. If he can't deal with something women can't help, then get a new boyfriend. It sounds like you need to talk with your boyfriend a lot more about your fears and feelings on having sex with your boyfriend first. What will make sex comfortable is to ease the pressure of what you might look like naked or what you are afraid of and having him letting you know that it won't matter to him. It probably won't, but you'll appreciate this coming from him. So when you go on your holiday with him, talk to him at least, you'll feel a lot better.


-TheTeenGirl

I think you are probably having the urge because you want to be considered cool in your school. You said that everyone else is doing it, so that must be why you want to.

Starting young is the worst thing that you can do to yourself. It drags you out of your childhood, and you feel the need to grow up faster. I don't know why your sister started smoking so young, but it's a stupid decision to make. She did it to be cool. It's not like she had smoked before and just felt like she needed one, she did it to feel cool to everyone. It's the same thing for you. You've never even tried smoking, so how could you have the urge as if you need it badly? The only other reason is to feel like you're fitting in. You have to be the family member that sets the example. You have to keep yourself from wanting to smoke. Think about how precious your reputation is right now. You're 13 and a great kid as you said. You really don't want to ruin that. You really don't, I promise. And you'll see what changes will take place in your life quickly if you smoke.



-TheTeenGirl

No, you aren't overeacting. For one, this is such a big mess with you and Daniel. Stop trying to be with him and doing things with him! If Daniel is just being with a girl whose easy, then that should be enough reason to dump him.


The main reason you need to get rid of him is because he is playing around with both of your minds. He wants the both of you. Do you want to be in a love triangle? If not, leave Daniel alone, let Caitlin see who he really is later, as for you you've got much better things to be doing then getting messed with. I know 7 months is a long time to be with someone, but really, you're being cheated.



-TheTeenGirl

Theres really no other way to go back to yourself other than just going back to yourself right now.

You have to understand that if you aren't good enough for the popular people, then they are bitter and selfish people who think they are popular. Popular is when you are a nice person and you have a lot of friends, not when you are the bitch of the school spreading rumors and making fun of people. It's good thing that you admit to yourself that it wasn't you when you said something mean because thats the part of you that is going to turn you back into your true self. You need to live up to who you are, live up to your standards, not your best friends', not your popular crowds' standards. Think about how much you're stressing to be someone you aren't. Think about how much you're stressing to get guys to like you just because you may not have a boyfriend right now or nobody has been telling you about a guy liking you lately.

You know who you are, don't worry. You have that guilt to kick you when you've done something you wouldn't do, thats how you'll know. Don't act like you hate people, don't focus on who you dislike. If someone hears you running your mouth, it looks bad, nobody wants a friend who spends their time talking badly about somebody. Always look to the good side of people, if you and someone have a disagreement, then go your seperate ways, don't get a fight going or start going to people and telling them how stupid that person is. You have to be a person people know that can keep a secret. Even though people aren't noticing you right now, they will eventually! People will know you by a really nice girl, if you don't start fights, or anything. If a friend needs advice about a mean person, give them advice, don't talk trash with them about the person. That way they know that they can come straight to you without having to hear you trash someone. Know that you're a great person even if you aren't the most noticed person in the school.


-TheTeenGirl

I really think that something has to be going on if hes getting very defensive and upset with you when you just try to ask. To me, it sounds like it isn't very worth it if he can't understand that you are going through a rough time with everyone saying that you're being cheated on. If he heard that you were cheating on him that would make him ask over and over again too.

If you want to solve this without ending it, then you'll have to stick with the rumors until you find out if they are true or not. But I really think you should probably take in the fact that hes being really jerky toward you when you want to know if hes cheating. If he truly isn't cheating on you, I think he'd try to do anything in his power to make you know different and treat you like his girlfriend more instead of getting upset and making YOU feel guilty for even asking or thinking that. Doesn't that make you think? It doesn't have to do with him being a guy either. I think you need to think about this stuff I mentioned before you try again with him.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, if shes ignoring you then thats probably a good indication that she isn't interested, especially if shes on and off with a boyfriend it sounds like.

Just let her come to you instead this time, make her talk to you, you've done all that you could, so if shes interested, let her step up and say so. I'm not sure what you really want me to say about her boyfriends coming up and talking to you about it except if you don't like it, tell them that you can handle this on your own.


-TheTeenGirl

You ignore the guy and never buy him anything ever again. What a jerk. He shouldn't be letting anyone else wear it no matter what. You spent over $100 on him and this is how he repays you? This isn't about the girl he gave the bracelet to, it's about the idiot who let the girl wear it. You need to tell him that your friendship or whatever you and him were is over for good, what a horrible thing to do. I think you need to tell your parents about this bracelet being broken by her and let them try to figure out something, as for the guy, dump him.


-TheTeenGirl

I really think that you should be able to get back into geometry, I can honestly feel your discomfort and I'm not even you.

I can definetly understand the way you feel out of place because everyone else is black. Algebra is honestly easy, you just have to pay attention and concentrate on only that. The good side to staying in your algebra class would be not having close friends in that class. Friends tend to distract, and the teacher needs your full attention to teach you every step of the way in Algebra. So if your parents or your counselor don't let you switch back, think of things that way, because it's true. I'm not saying that you won't make new friends, just not close friends in the class to distract you. And also, if the teacher is mean, I know thats the last thing you need for a math teacher, but don't hesistate to stop the teacher and ask them to show you how they did the problem again, and if you still aren't understanding the second time, ask after class. The teacher will respect you when he/she knows that you turn in your work on time and truly do your best to understand.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, let me explain where you went wrong. It does not EVER EVER EVER matter whether him and his girlfriend were close or not, it is their relationship and now you know that they obviously were close, you didn't know. You need to leave guys alone that have a girlfriend, because sometime later on it will happen to you and you will hate it.

You would be extremly hurt if a girl were messing around with your boyfriend. You obviously don't know the feeling if you're dishing it out. And it also doesn't matter what Alle did to him either. They need to work this out themselves if they want to continue. It's pretty obvious that this guy is still into Alle, so I really think that your chances of getting him is low. Just think about this: What if your boyfriend were running around flirting and BITING another girl's neck?



-TheTeenGirl

The best way to stop acting crazy is to know that you just have to put off the act and be your mature self. This is how you get comfortable around guys, by acting like you all of the time instead of being full of tension and thinking of what to do or say next.


This is very normal, you want to draw attention to yourself from the guys by showing off, it's perfectly normal. It doesn't mean you can't be loud, or happy, just be the girl you are. Just remember, if a guy ends up liking you because of the stupid things you do, he won't be fit for you later when you just go back to you. It isn't that you aren't interesting, the problem is that he likes the girl you're putting out there, put you and your true identity out there so that you'll know for sure that when a guy likes you, he really likes you.


-TheTeenGirl

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