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self confidence = 0%
Ever since I started 7th grade, I`ve had no self confidence. I`m always thinking I`m to fat, annoying, ugly, unpopular, a dork, mean, loud, stupid etc. I used to be so self-confident ;I used to love everything about my self, and people respected me more for that. Now I lie to make people think I'm more popular and I always catch myself acting fake or saying something completley mean. I always worry if what I'm saying or dressing like will make me seem more unpopular. I get jelous of my friends if their in the popular girl's profiles as their bff`s, or if I`m not invited to hang out with them. I worry no guys like me, I worry I`m not good enough. I try to fix in to certain cliques such as the populars ; goths ; preps ; jocks ; nerds etc. just to feel accepted and I'm always changing my self to please people. I can't stand this anymore, I want to go back to being me. I dont even know who I am anymore. Please help. I know it longs, but I'd appreciate any help!
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Ok, you've probably heard "Be yourself" a million times am I correct? You and i both know its harder than it seems. The good thing is you know your doing what your doing, the bad thing is you don't know how to stop it. It's not out of the ordinary for girls... changing appearances, attitudes, everything until they loose themselves. Just stop trying to fit in everywhere! Now don't go letting yourself go and drowned into deep depression. The reason you probably think you aren't good enough is because you don't know you. Stop pretending and let that girl that was self-confident shine through...I bet some people miss her
-Iris
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I think yu should just be yourself, even if it's not good enough for anybody else. Start a journal and write down your feelings. Everybody goes through emotions like this, but he important part is that YOU accpet YOU. its ok to feel like you dont belong. listen to what ur head is telling you to do. just have fun and hang with ppl who accept you, thats what i do!
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Okay, well first off.. stop lying to yourself. Be who you are inside, not who you think other people want you to be. "Its better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for who you're not." I know it sounds stupid, no one wants to be hated, but your friends dont want to be lied to either, they want the true you, and if they are your REALLY good friends then they'll stay your friends even if you change. 7th grade is a really hard year, it is when you start junior high and there are so many more pressures. You just need to find out who you are and then find people who accept you and then you'll feel better about yourself and other people will like you better because they won't feel as if you're coming off as a fake! :)
hope it helps! ♥
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Theres really no other way to go back to yourself other than just going back to yourself right now.
You have to understand that if you aren't good enough for the popular people, then they are bitter and selfish people who think they are popular. Popular is when you are a nice person and you have a lot of friends, not when you are the bitch of the school spreading rumors and making fun of people. It's good thing that you admit to yourself that it wasn't you when you said something mean because thats the part of you that is going to turn you back into your true self. You need to live up to who you are, live up to your standards, not your best friends', not your popular crowds' standards. Think about how much you're stressing to be someone you aren't. Think about how much you're stressing to get guys to like you just because you may not have a boyfriend right now or nobody has been telling you about a guy liking you lately.
You know who you are, don't worry. You have that guilt to kick you when you've done something you wouldn't do, thats how you'll know. Don't act like you hate people, don't focus on who you dislike. If someone hears you running your mouth, it looks bad, nobody wants a friend who spends their time talking badly about somebody. Always look to the good side of people, if you and someone have a disagreement, then go your seperate ways, don't get a fight going or start going to people and telling them how stupid that person is. You have to be a person people know that can keep a secret. Even though people aren't noticing you right now, they will eventually! People will know you by a really nice girl, if you don't start fights, or anything. If a friend needs advice about a mean person, give them advice, don't talk trash with them about the person. That way they know that they can come straight to you without having to hear you trash someone. Know that you're a great person even if you aren't the most noticed person in the school.
-TheTeenGirl
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Did anyone tease so much that you thought you weren’t good enough anymore?
Don’t think about too much negative things about yourself. .I mean. . .be proud of who you are try to look for your weaknesses and improve on them. . .Did any incident happen that transformed you to a person who has no self confidence at all ? See look people respected you when you acted like yourself. . . when you were showing your true color. Don’t lie. . .because at the end they’ll find out that youre lying then they wont trust you anymore which makes another problem arise. If people think you dress weird then let them think that whats important is how YOU feel and most important what YOU want to look like. If you want your friends back just confront them in a calm way tell them how you feel. . . if theyd understand. . .you have a real friend ! ! ! Join any clique you want but never be or rather never try to be something youre not. You don’t have to lie to be accepted you don’t have to act. . . just accept yourself first gain some self confidence and when you develop you’ll be respected again and all. . .also you dont need a man to complete your life all you need are friends who'll be there for you til the end. . .the last thing I want 2 tell u is BE YOUR SELF ! ! !
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