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Q: i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.

i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?

Talk to him. Get to know him better. See if you REALLY DO like him! :) Then if you do, say something! See if he feels the same way. Obviously if you get to know him better you'll know whether you're his type or not, so go for it!

Hope this helps! ♥

Q: ok! Well this summer I was on a very intence swim team, and volleyball team! I weighd about 84 pounds! Then after summer when volleyball and swim team stopped, i started to eat more and i just stopped exercising what so ever! And i dont have gym in school! Now i weight about 112 pounds! I really want my body shape back i've tried to hold back my eating but i cant! Please help me what should i do?

You dont have to hold BACK your eating! Just maybe start an excercise plan! Maybe jog around your block every day, do about 50 crunches to keep your tummy fit, and for your legs.. you could do wall sits.. thats where you put your back against the wall and crouch like you're in a chair, if it hurts your legs really bad, that means its working! Also maybe you could join a gym or something! As for your eating habits, you dont need to hold back, just dont eat a lot of fat, and sugary foods. Also if you drink a lot of water instead of juices & sodas you'll lose weight :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: I'm a 13/f and my bday is coming up soon. My parents asked me what I want but i honestly dont know! lol What are things ($150 and under) that I could ask for?!?!

You could ask for..
* CLOTHES :)
* gift certificates
* computer games?
* perfume
* jewelery
* sneakers?
* cds
* or just money :)

But if you get money then, you can spend it on something you REALLY want and then it would be all worth while :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: well i am 13/f and i like 2 boys. ones joey and i've known him for a little while but not really my friend but something about hims really sexy if you know what i mean. and the other guys casey and me and him have been like best friends since 7th grade, we've been REALLY good friends but we've been like "involved" just never went out. they both like me but who should i get more interested in (easy 5's) please help

I think if Casey is a really good friend that you can depend on and really appreciate his friendship than maybe you should tell him "I really love our friendship & don't want to ruin anything.." And go for Joey just because if something went wrong with you & casey you'd lose a friend that you really cared for. On the other hand you might want to choose Casey because you know him better and you don't know as much about Joey, either way, goodluck! :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: a guy i like asked me out. he's so shy that he actually got my friend to do it. i think that's cute though. but i'm a little old fashioned and think he should make a move on me. i said yes, but today in school we went about normally like we're just friends.

i don't want to come off too strong, but i want to get him to acknowledge that we're going out. at least say it, or hold my hand or something. i think he might be a little embarassed if i went up to him and took his hand, because he's so shy.

advice please?

Well girls are ALWAYS more mature than guys, and even if you are sort of old fashioned, if you want him to acknowledge you two going out at all then you might have to make a first move, I'm sure once you do he'll get the hint and start doing it on his own, he probably just has to get comfortable with you being his girlfriend :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: so i had a boyfriend, but i heard that he kissed another girl and told her that he loved her so i didn't even think about asking him anout it and i broke up with him. i talked to him the other day on the phone and he said that it wasn't true. but now he's going out with one of my friends. me and him were friends but then she told him bad things about me. what do i do? how can me and him be friends again?

Well, maybe you should've asked him about it before you broke up with him.. during highschool rumors & gossip are all that goes on. He probably thinks you have no trust for him, and that hurts, for anyone, even guys. But the fact that they are currently going out, makes it seem like he might of kissed her & told her he loved her, but I'm not sure, maybe you should just, not so much APOLOGIZE, but just explain to him that you're sorry for jumping to conclusions and that you hope you two could be friends again! :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: Okay I use Cetaphil lotion and I was just wondering if I can wear makeup with it on or not? Because I have never tried it lol. So please answer my question. Ill rate...

I use a cetaphil lotion too. And it works with blush and SOME foundations, but with the foundation I use it ends up looking kind of spotty & dry, but I love Cetaphil so I just dont wear foundation as much :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: i think this guy is cute but im afraid to tell him bbecause im scared he wont talk to me im really afraid of rejection so what should i do should i tell the guy or keep to my self.

I think you should SO tell him. If you like him then he is probably pretty nice. If he does ignore you than he isn't worth your time so it will help you move on! But who knows he could end up feeling the same way. But maybe first, you should hang out with him a little, just so he isn't overwhelmed :)

Hope it helps! ♥

Q: Ever since I started 7th grade, I`ve had no self confidence. I`m always thinking I`m to fat, annoying, ugly, unpopular, a dork, mean, loud, stupid etc. I used to be so self-confident ;I used to love everything about my self, and people respected me more for that. Now I lie to make people think I'm more popular and I always catch myself acting fake or saying something completley mean. I always worry if what I'm saying or dressing like will make me seem more unpopular. I get jelous of my friends if their in the popular girl's profiles as their bff`s, or if I`m not invited to hang out with them. I worry no guys like me, I worry I`m not good enough. I try to fix in to certain cliques such as the populars ; goths ; preps ; jocks ; nerds etc. just to feel accepted and I'm always changing my self to please people. I can't stand this anymore, I want to go back to being me. I dont even know who I am anymore. Please help. I know it longs, but I'd appreciate any help!

Okay, well first off.. stop lying to yourself. Be who you are inside, not who you think other people want you to be. "Its better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for who you're not." I know it sounds stupid, no one wants to be hated, but your friends dont want to be lied to either, they want the true you, and if they are your REALLY good friends then they'll stay your friends even if you change. 7th grade is a really hard year, it is when you start junior high and there are so many more pressures. You just need to find out who you are and then find people who accept you and then you'll feel better about yourself and other people will like you better because they won't feel as if you're coming off as a fake! :)

hope it helps! ♥

Q: ok I know I always talk bout my bf in here but. I want to know is it scary when u first like make out with someone? Like I want o and stuff but it's scary

Oh man, when I first made out with my boyfriend I was TERRIFIED. It sounds stupid but I was because, it's a new person and as long as you really like him & he really likes you it will go along smoothly :)

hope it helps! ♥

& i hope you have fun ;)

Q: tomorrow i am trying out for my favorite sport TRACK & FIELD!
i am in 7th grade so i have to try out for J.V.

for the try outs i have to run 6 laps around the track under 12 minutes [plus some other things but thats the hardest]. this is going to kill me! im not good at distance running. i do sprints. what if i dont make it? i live for track! is there any way i can get faster? i trying out with one of my best friends. we are the only ones trying out tomorrow becasue everyone else already did. i'm so nervous.

what can i do today till tomorrow at 3:30 to make me do better?
what are some tips for when im running?
anything you want to tell me!

thank you so much this is SO important to me.

Okay, I'm not so in love with running. But I know that you cannot just get faster or better by 3:30 tomorrow. When I started field hockey in the fall I could HARDLY run 2 laps without fainting but by the end of the season I could run 8 laps with hardly any work at all. All you have to do is pace yourself, bring water, and don't over work yourself. If your friend is a good long distance runner than maybe she could help keep you motivated, but you cannot really change your skill level by tomorrow. Just try your best and over the season you'll improve :)

hope it helps! ♥

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Hi I'm Samantha.

I'm 15.

I'm a sophmore at BHS.

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