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Hi,
There is this one girl from my school and sh keeps spreading awful rumours about me. like yesterday she told everyone i have lice and the day before she told this total nerd i liked him. I know i shouldnt stoop down to her level, but she makes me so mad. Can you please help me. (link)
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Ok...I'll give this a go. You're right you don't want to stoop down to her level, so you simply (no matter how hard it may seem) just take it as long as you can. If you retaliate and spread rumors about her then when a superior or parent finds out, your squeaky clean and they'll be stuck with the consequences.
-Iris
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what happens...when yu want a boyfrend but no one seems to like yu? i need help
what can i do? (link)
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It's not that no one likes you. Trust me I feel the same way at times. But you just have to hang in there until your guy comes around. Stay confident.
-Iris
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im an 18 year old male and my girlfriend has been acting very strange lately. She has been haning out with the wrong people and she is stealing and hanging out in bad places. I dont want to hurt her feelings but i want to tell her whats right and keep her safe. what should i do?
Bill (link)
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You don't want to be a jerk and say "Don't hang out with them, they're no good for you!" Just calmly explain that she's starting to pull away from you and going the wrong way. If she loves you at all, she'll take that to heart and maybe you'll find out why she's acting that way. Hope I could help.
-Iris
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should i IM my ex-boyfriend? i've been wanting to talk/chat with him, but everytime i try to, i'm always whether scared or there's something to stop me. so, should i talk to him or not? (link)
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I don't see any major reason why not. You might be scared but you're probably going to sit there wondering if you should forever unless you just hold your breath and jump in. Try and talk to him.
-Iris
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Me: bye baby io lkove you
Her: later
Me: ...?
Her: bye?
Me: i said i love yiou
Her): you too
Me: :-\
Is this girl still into me? Is she giving up on me or what?
I need to know because my heart can't take it anymore (link)
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You never know, but don't give up! I mean she just might be having trouble with something, a bad day, anything. Try asking her.
-Iris
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a guy i like asked me out. he's so shy that he actually got my friend to do it. i think that's cute though. but i'm a little old fashioned and think he should make a move on me. i said yes, but today in school we went about normally like we're just friends.
i don't want to come off too strong, but i want to get him to acknowledge that we're going out. at least say it, or hold my hand or something. i think he might be a little embarassed if i went up to him and took his hand, because he's so shy.
advice please? (link)
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Most guys are the dominant ones, they're usually holding your hand or telling all of his pals that your his girl. Once again most guys think girls that are always calling him or constantly labling him as 'hers' isn't exactly a turn on. But I'm going to be honest and say, it can get exhausting if your constantly trying to make sure he's comfortable all the time. But if you really like the guy try and soften him up a bit, show him there is no need to be shy around you.
-Iris
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Hey!
I usually don't ask these types of qusetions but this has really worried me. Me and my ex broke up about a month ago. I really like him. Me and him talk ALL THE TIME! Like last night when I went to the basketball game (he plays basketball yay!) he was sitting were I am always at with my friends. (my friends boyfriend is his friend). And anyway. One of my 'so' called friends said "Yeah we know who she likes. She likes Kody!" and he looks back at me and started smiling. My face turned blood red. Theres like some days we dont talk that much and some days we talk alot. He always jokes with me and my friend. I asked him today if he was mad at me and he said no. Soo whats going on? Rate all 5's! (link)
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Sounds like someone really likes you :) I don't see the problem whatsoever. If he's acting like he is and you really like him, then why not give it another go?
-Iris
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There is this super hot guy and hes just the perfect guy except he's stuck up, kinda. So, when i walked passed him i said hi to him and he just looked at me weird and walked away.The next day I was with my friends being crazy and i said stupid random things and he thinks im really weird. I really want to be his friend or at least make him think im not weird.What do i do? thanks&hearts
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Alright...I've done this before. Let's just keep it simple. If you want to continue with the weird stares then by all means follow through with what you are doing. But just keep cool, calm, and collected. Never ever try to act over the top just to get attention. Sorry if I came on harsh, hope it helps!
-Iris
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hi..ok i like this kid and he is really cool and hes in my classes and we talk all the time and we flirt ALL the time too...but the only thing is that he has a girlfriend..now i dont know what to do, do i flirt back when he flirts with me, or stay away? (link)
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First of all, there is nothing wrong with flirting :)Just make sure you don't get to caught up in it all. What I mean is, ifyou come on to strong then he'll think you're seriously interested. Then comes all the girlfriend problems and trust me its a headache. Anyway back to my first statement...nothing wrong with a litte flirting.
-Isis
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ok ;so i'm like the MOST SHY PERSON YOU WILLEVER MEET!!
how do you meet friends i keep getting imbarsed whenever i try mostly i just sit next to anyone at lunch and say hi................its so difficult for me i need help.........please anyone (link)
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It's not bad to be shy...but thats not always a good thing. There really is no need to be embarrased or shy. Just look at the possibilities of speaking up:
You could make great friends. You could realize a lot about yourself. Hey you never know...you could be charming, funny. Just keep it all together, it could change a lot just to show who you are.
-Iris
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Ever since I started 7th grade, I`ve had no self confidence. I`m always thinking I`m to fat, annoying, ugly, unpopular, a dork, mean, loud, stupid etc. I used to be so self-confident ;I used to love everything about my self, and people respected me more for that. Now I lie to make people think I'm more popular and I always catch myself acting fake or saying something completley mean. I always worry if what I'm saying or dressing like will make me seem more unpopular. I get jelous of my friends if their in the popular girl's profiles as their bff`s, or if I`m not invited to hang out with them. I worry no guys like me, I worry I`m not good enough. I try to fix in to certain cliques such as the populars ; goths ; preps ; jocks ; nerds etc. just to feel accepted and I'm always changing my self to please people. I can't stand this anymore, I want to go back to being me. I dont even know who I am anymore. Please help. I know it longs, but I'd appreciate any help! (link)
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Ok, you've probably heard "Be yourself" a million times am I correct? You and i both know its harder than it seems. The good thing is you know your doing what your doing, the bad thing is you don't know how to stop it. It's not out of the ordinary for girls... changing appearances, attitudes, everything until they loose themselves. Just stop trying to fit in everywhere! Now don't go letting yourself go and drowned into deep depression. The reason you probably think you aren't good enough is because you don't know you. Stop pretending and let that girl that was self-confident shine through...I bet some people miss her
-Iris
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Is it possible to find the "one" when you're only 14? I have been thinking about this alot. I have this boyfriend, he is the best guy in the world. He doens't pressure me to do anything. We have been dating for 3 weeks and he hasn't pressured me to do anything. Just yesterday it took him the whole football game to put his arm around me, and it wasn't even fully. He hasn't even kissed me yet. Personally, I love this. I don't like feeling pressured. He texts me and or calls me everyday. I like him so much. I don't know if I love him though. But that isn't really my question. My question is, should I be looking for "the one" right now? I know it is a really small chance that I will find the one so early. I am only a freshman and I can see this relationship is going to last a long time, but the next 3 years of high school? Is it possible that we can stay together for the next 3 years? (link)
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Now some people will tell you that it doesn't work like this ever, but they're wrong. Someone I know was completely head over heals for this guy at the age of 15. Of course it wasn't always sunshine and daisies but they got through it. It's funny because they're both teachers at my school now and they're married! Technically 'The One' can come at any age, but just because you seemed to have found 'The One' right now. Doesn't mean you aren't going to be 'The One' for somebody else in the long run. Keep your knight in shining armor as long as you can is my opinion.
-Iris
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