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15/F and never had a boyfriend
Ok well I'm 15/F and really shy. I mean when people hear me speak they're like, "ohmygawd I've never heard her speak before" and I've been at this school for like, a year and a half.
I've never had a boyfriend or anything and I can honestly say that more than half of my year at school are in a relationship and it makes me sad 'cos I'm not one of them. Not that I want a boyfriend just 'cos everyone else has one or anything. :|
I'm ugly but I know not all guys go for looks.. but I'm so shy that even boys who go for personality aren't gonna go for me 'cos I don't talk.. I CAN'T. I must have something wrong with me 'cos when people I don't know very well speak to me I feel physically sick and my mind goes blank and stuff, it's scary :S
Anyway, how can I kindof be more confident and stuff? 'Cos I'm probably gonna be single for like, ever, if I keep being all shy and stupid.
thanks <33
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..You just have to try and be more outgoing, that is all that i can really think off.first try it on ur close friends..and then just be more outgoing in school..join groups clubs and met new friends and just have fun with your year and be outgoing, i hope i helped..i hope it works out for u
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oo all u really need is confidence. So stop calling yourself ugly and stupid!! Think of good things about yourself. and about being shy, if you work on it you dont have to be shy anymore. I was use tp be shy then one day i just couldnt take it anymore. I am so not shy anymore and I feel like people know me so much better then before. Just remember that confidence is the most important thing to not being shy. Just say whats on your mind, your opinion is just as important as anyone elses!! And once you show everyone who you really are you will attract tons of people and especially guys. goodluck hun!! <3 Rachel
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Listen, things will change through the years with your shy feelings. I know it seems like it will always be there, but it won't. Do not call yourself stupid. The more you put yourself down, the harder it will get to start talking and feel ok about it.
Try not to feel the need to have a boyfriend because every other girl has one and they've had a boyfriend before 15. How many high school relationships do you think will last anyway? Especially freshmen or sophmore relationships. You meet more people as the years come through. Know that it is ok to be 15 and without a boyfriend. It means nothing. It doesn't identify you, it doesn't say anything about you. It doesn't make you less of a person or less attractive. It means absolutley nothing. Here are a few things that you can do to boost up your confidence level.
1. TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS EVERYDAY- If you see a friend in the hallway, say hello, or give them a hug. If they are in your class, ask them how they are doing!
2. DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS- If theres someone in your class that seems a little lonely, ask her what classes she has or start a conversation.
3. DON'T BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES- We are all human. So we make a lot of mistakes. If we make one, don't put yourself down for it. Admit that you did it, and then just say, "At least I understand what was wrong now".
4. ASK FOR HELP WHEN NEEDED- If you can't understand something in class, don't hesistate to stop her and ask her to repeat it or explain. There are usually other people who will wonder the exact same thing as you. So it may not be just answering your question!
5. BE OPEN AND GO OUT- When someone is talking, talk back, be social. And make weekend plans to go see a movie with one of your friends. Being outside will make you feel happier about not having a boyfriend.
You have to learn that if you just be a little more openly to people, you'll find it that it's really not that hard and as stressful as your mind makes it.
-TheTeenGirl
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it doesnt matter that you havent had a boy friend if you would like to meet more people than try joining a club (knitting, cheerleading, volleyball, ect.) or since you are 15 try to get a job you could boost your confidence by working with people and getting used to having to talk to them. hope this helped.
**sleepiesheep**
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Don't worry about guys. If you are looking for a boyfriend because you feel left out, you are looking for one for all the wrong reasons. Love comes to those who wait. So be patient. Try to overcome your fear by pretending the people you are talking to are like people really close to you like your parents for example. Act around them as if you have known them forever.
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Your like me but im 13. Just wait for him :) Guys don't always go for looks. Sometimes the jocks, and preps do. But Just wait for him he will come. Im not shy, and im pretty ugly, but you have to believe in yourself and he will come hun, dont worry.Hope i helped/
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