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my boyfriend dated this girl jessica, i dont know how long they dated but they did date for at least a few months! this was at least a year ago because we have been dating for a lil over a year and it was before us. he was her first kiss and stuff. now out of the blue she is calling him and he told me that they always talk during jazz band (class) and my friend justin said they always go in this dark room to talk and sometimes this other kid goes in there with them but its usually just them. this girl told my boyfriend that she likes him and she thinks he likes her. he said that he just wants to be friends. (im going off of everything he told me). then for his bday a week ago, she made him cookies... he said he asked her to get him something for his bday and she had cookies left over so she gave them to him but there were a lot of cookies in there so idk. the girl is constantly at his locker and talking to him and HE sits by her at lunch ALONE TOGETHER and she calls him and they talk for hours at a time. everytime i come around she leaves. i dont know what the hell to do but its not going away. i tried talking to him and he said that he doesnt wanna feel like he cant be friends with her. how do i deal with this cuz im ready to just bitch her out and be really really mad at my boyfriend because hes going with it and allowing it to happen. thanks in advance! also jessica keeps saying to everyone how hot my boyfriend is and she wont stop talking about him and stuff. now were fighting and he just doesnt understand anything. i tried talking to him but it doesnt work. everyone else (including guys) understand but he doesnt. grrrrr
Talk to him again, but make sure you're going about it the right way. Explain to him what shes saying and point out how shes trying to break you two up, and how she always leaves when you come around. Tell him that you like him a lot (or love him, depending on how you feel) and that you dont want anything to come inbetween you two. Say that he can be friends with her, but it makes you uncomfortable how they are always alone and how she says she likes him. Say if he and her are really just friends, then the three of you should be able to hang out. ( I know shes a bitch and you wont wanna do that, but its better than them being alone. Plus if he doesnt want to or she doesnt, then it shows there is more then just friendship) Just make sure you are really sweet, and say you are trying to cope with it. Just dont yell or say they cant hang out at all, because then you seem like the needy girlfriend. And try to throw in a compliment or 2 ("I can see why she wants you, I mean your so hot" or something like that)
Good Luck, I hope I helped! If you need anything else, Leave one in my inbox... Keep me posted!
Ok I have a presentation to make tomorrow (7 minutes long min.) and whenever I go up in front of the class.. i get soo nervous that my voice starts to shake! it is so embarrasing! and the weird thing is i really don't care about being in front of the class.. but for some reason my voice shakes? can anyone help me with my problem??
Thats the same exact thing that happens to me, But my legs also shake really bad and I dont really care about being in front of the class either. I always just try to take continuous deep breaths starting a few minutes, and I repeat to myself that its okay, that theres no reason to be nervous and just keep breathing deep. And make sure you practice and know your presentation very well.
Good luck tomorrow!!
there is this guy that i like and he says he likes me to and we have been talking for about two months and we act like we are datin ans everyone thinks we are but were not. why hasent he asked me out ?
There could be plenty of reasons.
He could be the type of guy who just goes for a friends with benefits relationship.
He could be to shy to actually ask you. Its nerveracking for them.
He could want to make sure that you are right for each other before actually asking you. He might be the type thats into serious relationships.
He could be waiting for a special occasion or the perfect moment.
He could just wanna keep you around for if he doesnt find another girl.. (you can usually tell if its this)
Just bring it up and ask what he thinks they are. Ask him about being official or not. Who knows, he might already think you guys are dating, some guys are like that.
Good luck! If you need anything else, leave one in my inbox!
whats the fastest way to get rid of a white head(like a pimple)
Clean and clear spot treatment acne remeover will get rid of it fastest. Toothpaste makes the redness go way down, but it wont get rid of it. It will help hide it though!
theres this guy that i like alot and my friend likes him too.well he tells everyone that he likes us both.he flirts with us and everything but then we see him around campus and he is doing the same thing to everyone eles.he told my friend he never answers the phone but everytime i call he answers or hell call me all the time.does he like me or do you think he is doing this to like every girl??
Um well If you see him around campus doing it, as much as you dont wanna believe it, hes probably a wannabe player lol. but You dont want a guy who flirts with you AND your friend. You should just find a new guy. If you stop paying him as much attention, you will be able to see things a lot clearer, like if hes jealous or not. But it sounds like he just likes girls' attention, and you deserve better than that!
How can you tell if a girl likes you{dont say flirting}? How can you tell if a girl knows that you like her? Does anyone know any advice on girls that is hard to learn on your own or that no onr told you and you figured out yourself.
Thanks in advance.
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--Caden--
Well if a girl likes a guy, sometimes: She will act really cute towards the guy. She will give him hugs a lot..long hugs. She will try to make the guy jealous a little bit. She will get really shy around the guy. She always smiles at him. She gives him obvious compliments. She calls him for no reason, or gives a lame excuse. She teases him and playfully hits him a lot.
Advice on girls (at least some girls)
We love to feel special. We love to get compliments(but too many freak us out). We love special hugs (just not how youd hug your grandma).
We love when guys pay attention to us more than anyone else, like if carmen electra walked by, you wouldnt turn your head. We love when you are just as sweet to us when you are around your friends as you are when alone. We love getting shown off, like we are something to be proud of.
I hope I helped. If you need help with anything else, just leave one in my inbox!
My boyfriend just asked me if it was alright for him to spend the night at his best friend's house. His four best friends are girls. there's gonna be two other guys, but I still don't really like the outlook on it; he's gonna be all night with 5-6 other girls.
is this dumb of me?
You are right. Theres no good outcome really. Even if nothing happens, people are bound to talk and make up things. Ask him if you can go. If he says no, then why wouldnt he want you there? Thats not good. And tell him if he wants to hang out with them that bad, tell him to take them to a movie or something, just not something that requires them to spend the night together.
so i really like this guy and i dont know how to get him to like me. what do you think i should do? have you ever liked a guy sooooooooooooo much that you start thinkin what his last name saounds like with yours? if do did it turn out well? i would really like to get advice. and o yeah one more thing. my parents think that im to young to go out with guys. im a girl about 13 years old. thanks for your help!
Dont do anything!!! If you want him to like you, be yourself! If not, then hes not really liking you. But other than that, dont be afraid of him. Hint around that you are interested. Flirt a little, but dont be obvious, guys usually dont like that. And as for your parents, 13 is young. No offence, but 13 year olds who "go out" dont even go anywhere, unless their parents take them, but I guess if you like him, just go for it. But I'd advise you dont go against your parents wishes too much. It could bite you in the ass down the road, and When you start getting into the highschool scene, your parents are good people to have on your side, trust me.
good luck! If you need anything, drop one in my inbox!
how can i over come my fear of thunder storms? im in 7th grade and i think its babyish to freak out and like scare REALLY loud.
so how can i over come it?
I was soooooooo scared of them from like 4th grade to like 6th. I used to watch the weather channel, and if it was going to be a severe storm, I would pretend I was sick so I didnt have to go to school. I just stopped watching the weather, and I started watching the storms and now I LOVE them, especially while Im trying to fall asleep. You are missing out by being scared. There is nothing more soothing than the sound of a storm. Just remind yourself that nothing can hurt you and that you have been through like a million, and you are still fine
I like american eagle favorite v-neck tee's. The only problem is, now that school is back in session, they're a little low for school. I trie wearing one of the those spagetti-strap tops, but it added extra bulkage and made me look fat (im not ruler thin). What do I wear under this that won't add extra bulk, but will add some coverage?
Try a cute but thin camisole(cami) (they are thin, spagetti strap tops, but they are made to be thin and go under shirts) they have them EVERYWHERE, even like kohls and places like that. You can even get really cute ones that are beaded at the top to make it look even cuter
hey I wanted to remake my room and make it something like this http://www.kohls.com/main/vendor_home.jsp;jsessionid=0001ZO3Z2FJ2UJLCT4YT0X3ZMZI:u1v27uba?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=230963855&bmUID=1124676204661 my floors are all messed up I was wondering what do you think would look better wood floor or a rug or paint it but wat color and what color plankit cuz I like the strips that she has and all the different colors I have a like bubble gum pink on my walls now and I don't like it at all but I don't wanna paint it over so what would look good with that can you give me some places or websites where I can get more furniture or can you tell me your sn and help me more with this
I think a wood floor would be better, just get a big area rug or a few, small rugs in cool colors. Now for your walls... Just get a cute bedset that has pink in it. Or you could do your room in black and white, with a little bit of pink accents, and the pink walls. Or just pink and black. thats really cute. If you are able to paint at all, you could pick out one wall, and paint vertical black stripes so its an equal amount of pink and black, then have a pink satin bedspread with a black or a zebra throw at the end and a black canopy over your bed, and then lots of pillows.
On Pbteen.com, theres a TON of more colorful bedsets with pink in them, plus they have awesome furniture and lamps and such.
Wakeupfrankie.com has funky bedsets that are very unique.
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how does weed affect your health? I mean, can you get lung cancer from it? What illnesses can you get if you're a pothead?
http://www.nida.nih.gov/Infofacts/marijuana.html
Has effects of pot and such. You can also google it. Just type in 'effects of pot' or something like that
i moved away 2 years ago but i go back and visit every summer and talk to my friends at least once a week so we're still really tight. one of my best friends' dad just died. He's been sick for a while but i dont know what to do. I dont want her to think im abandoning her. I want to call her and tell her that im here and stuff but im scared its too soon. what should i do to tell her im here but not upset her more. its only been about a week since he passed.
See if you can send her flowers or a care package or something to let her know you are thinking of her, and include a note that says Im here to talk when you need me or when your ready (not literally those words) that way youre not abandoning her, but you are not pushing her to talk before shes ready.
im 13/f and i am a very strong believing catholic. i masterbate once in a while. im wondering if that is a sin. i read in books and stuff that its completley natural but i wanna make sure that its not a catholic sin. please help. i rate high!!
I was told that its a sin because of the thoughts that go along with masturbation for the most part. Its bad because you are thinking of sex and for most people, its in a dirty nature. Especially if you are thinking of a certain person, or are using porn or something like that. Plus when you are masturbating, you are stimulating sex, which is forbidden before marriage. So masturbating is also what people view as a loophole, which isnt too good either. I hope I helped
I'm thinking about getting my cartilage pierced.. but im afraid its gonna hurt a lot. Does it? How much does it hurt? (How much more than getting ur lobe pierced?)
Um for me I couldnt even feel the earring go in when she was actually do it. I could only hear it pop when It went in. But after.... It hurt to lay on it, talk on the phone, and if anything touched it. Now I dont do that well with cheap earrings because Im kindof reactant to the metal, But I dont think that had anything to do with it, because my best friend felt the same way. My other best friend(we all got them done together) said It hurt right when it got pierced, but not after, so It might all depend on your pain tolerance and your body.
Hey, This is the girl that was asking about what to pic, religion or Alan? yeaah. i got a question, and i thought I would be able to ask you.
Okay, like, I've known him foreveer, and he KNOWS we arn't supposed to date until we're 16, and this is totally awkward, cuz he's only 14 himself, and he says that he keeps his standards, but he keps asking me out...what do i doooooo?!
Well You just have to know yourself. Think about whats important to you. Alan could be the love of your life, your future husband. But Chances are, hes not. So think about if you want to go against your religion (which you really seem to value) and date this boy, or if you want to wait. You could ask him to wait a couple of years. Give him his freedom and if you both still feel the same way when you're 16, go for it. But you probably wont. There are plenty of guys out there. When the time is right, you will find one. But if you think its the right thing to do, go out with alan. Its all whats important to you. If you choose religion, dont feel bad about telling him. If he really likes you, he will be sad, but he will respect your decision to remain faithful to your religion. I cant tell you what the right thing to do would be, but I can tell you, just do whats right for you. Good luck with it! Im happy to help with anything you need, just leave me one again in my inbox!
ok sorry i know ive asked but i was told all this stuff on lower and upper stomach so...would it work if i did 30 crunches in the morning and 30 6 inches in the evening everyday?????...i just need a routine i can start doin and how long till i see a difference??? thank u so much xxx
Hate to be the one to tell you, but You need to do many, many crunches a day to see results. Like we are talking hundreds. Just work your way up so you dont wear your muscles out.
im the movie the hot chick, when the two girls are playing the hand game, what are the words?
~Boys are cheats and liars
~Their such a big disgrace
~He will tell you anything
~to get to second baseball baseball
~He thinks he's gonna score
~If you let him go all
~ the way Then you are a
~ Horticultureists study flowers
~Geologists study rocks
~The only thing a guy wants from you
~is a place to put his
~cockroaches beetles
~butterflies and bugs
~nothing makes him happier
~then a giant pair of
~jugglers and acrobats
~a dancing bear named chuck
~all guys really want to do
~is forget it no such luck!
There's this child actor i really like !!hes 13 and i'm 11 and a half. i am like soo in love with im it's crazy, but he lives in London, Engalnd and i live in Newyork. And if i ever got the chance to meet him ( which i have no clue how) i would be so crushed if he didn't like me back and whenever i think about it i feel so depressed. I wanna find a way how to meet him and get to spend some time with him and get to know him..but how?
yours truly,
head over heals in love
You're not in love. In order to love someone, you have to know them very well inside and out. Do you know how many regular people are "in love" with stars? about 234083908295. Yeah. Its not going to happen. Sorry. Keep looking at him, by all means, but find someone in real life you like and stop with the famous people.
hey okay well im going to this place on wed with the guy i like not by myself something for school and i need some good ways to turn him on not alot so hed like make out with me just so he likes me more and i dont want to be to like agressive and scare him away..plz help ♥
Ask him a lot of questions and be really interested in him. Give him attention and copmliment his shirt or how he looks or something. But also, dont be a stalker. We dont want to scare anyone. Just try to put yourself out there so he knows you like him. A lot of guys (not all) get flattered and big headed if a girl seems amazed by them. But just remember dont be intimidating. Good Luck.
Ps- Dont try to do the whole Low cut shirt thing or anything like that. You want him to like you for whats in your brain and not whats in your bra!