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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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So I have a boyfriend been together for 7 months. I have a cousin and shes been my best friend my whole life. My boyfriend is 3 years older than me and my cousin is 2 years older than me.

Lately I feel like my boyfriend doesnt want to talk to me. Like me and him are always talking about sex and we attempted it and it didn't work. So now he wont do it. He has said from the begining it was my choice and now i have decided i want to. And he was telling my cousin how sometimes he feel like im pressuring him into it. Because now he refuses to even try a second time. He said how i think anything not sexual is boring. But thats not true. Me and him never go anywhere. Everytime we see eachother which is like almost everyday he comes to my house or i go 2 his. We have never tried to go anywhere but our houses. I would LOVE to go somewhere. But am afraid to ask. And so now he just ASSUMES i dont want to go anywhere and that if we arent doing anything sexual im bored or pissed off. Now keep in mind he said this to my cousin not me. He told her over myspace messages and i went onto hers and now im always reading their messages to see what hes feeling and same with her. I feel like they turned their backs on me and decided to keep everything a secret from me and now tell eachother everything. Im getting really angry and jealous and im planning on not talking to him for a few days.
Now my questions are:
Am I over reacting?
Should I confront him about this?
If you were me would you be acting like this?
Am I being immature and over dramatic?
Anthing Helps
Sorry it was so long but i need some advice pleasee

I think you're reacting perfectly. He's your boyfriend, so he should be telling YOU this, NOT your cousin. He's in the relationship with you, not her, so if he has a problem with you or whatever, then you should be the one hearing it. You shouldn't have to go on MySpace to find out.

Anyways, next time you see him, tell him you'd like to go out somewhere. Maybe to the mall, or a movie. Or go out to eat somewhere. Talk to him about all of this. Tell him that sex isn't just what you want & that you're not bored or pissed off if it doesn't happen. You'd like it to but even if you don't get any, you'll be fine. It's not your whole world. Explain everything that's on your mind to him & then see what he has to say.

does anyone know where I can find good riddance, by Green Day? (instrumental verion) I need it without the words though, for my English project. Help please!

or is there any way to bleep out the words?!

If you have a downloading program, type in the song name, and then type in instrumental after it. You should get some results.

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Limewire, Ares, WinMX, MP3 Rocket. Programs like that.

1)How can you tell yourself to let go and not be so worked up over not being able to finish your sch work on time?

I force myself to understand every single impt point and if I fail to do it, I scold myself for being slow. Don't tell me to ask my teachers because it all boils down to me having to concentrate hard while reading through my text.

When I study, I expect absolute silence. I get very agitated when any of my family members talk or listen to music. When they switch on the tv, I tell them to lower the volume. I know I am capable of blocking out those noises but I CAN'T SEEM TO DO IT NOW! Somebody help! Tell me the obvious, whatever just help me!

P.s don't tell me to switch on the radio or listen to classical music. It doesn't help while I'm studying.

Go to a quiet place only you know about. Or just go in your room & study. You can tell them to switch the volume down, or switch it off, but they're gonna forget & they're gonna do it everytime you study.

ok i have a weird question. i had my period around the 25th of january, meaning i should have it around the end of february. the thing is, on friday i had really bad stabbing pain in my ovary area. i usually get it almost half way [so around 14 days]. what does this mean?? does this mean my body is preparing for a period?? my mom called it cysts, like i can feel them hitting against my sides or whatever. it's not horrible pain, i can stand it, but i can definately feel it.

thanks!!

You said you usually get them. If you're worried about it, see your gynocologist.

okay so i have this ex boyfriend who hurt me real bad and i have been moving on which i figure is best to do. Well he keeps calling my one friend and bothering her saying stuff like its funny how someone you consider your best friend talks crap on you when i didnt say anything. Then he will call her and say stupid fat whore and hang up. Then on the 8th about 2-3 days ago he called me, i know this because he is the only one who calls on a withheld number but i didnt answer, that would of been the day of our three month. What should i do about this, he is being very immature and i am speaking of an 18 year old here.

Call the cops on him & get a restraining order. He's harassing you & your friend and it needs to stop.

How do i tell the hair dresser how i want my layers? you know how everyones getting haircuts just below the sholder with layers ? well how do i tell them i want layers like that ? Also they're going to ask me where they should start, and i dont know! If you have layers like this,what did you ask for? thanks!

When they ask where to start, tell them you want it below your shoulder. They'll do it for you, don't be scared.

Where can I find Panic! at the Disco b-sides/rares/demos?

Try their MySpace, it has the link to their website. Or try www.musicmademe.com. Type in their name, and then their list of songs should come up. You'll see the ones on their album, and then ones they haven't released onto an album. =)

well im not sure what to do..this this guy kevin and were friends with benefit but were more like boy friend girl friend but without the title were realy close.he is very anti cheating even talking about it pisses him off.i want to be honest and tell him that when i was still dating jorden that i cheated on jorden with him but im scared of what he will do.i asked him but i said what if and he said he would probly be ashamed and might go back to old habits such as cutting,drinking.ect. what should i do i wanna be honest and tell him but i dont want to lose what we have pls help asap

If you like him, tell him the truth. You don't have to since you're not really dating each other, but since you are super close, I think he deserves that much. Let him know what you did, and that you'll never do it again. Tell him you've learned your lesson. Only thing is, you've gotta mean what you're saying. If you don't mean it, don't say it to just make it up to him. If he really cares, he might just give you another chance, or he can just walk away. I know what it feels like to be cheated on, so imagine how he feels. Cheating on someone is basically saying "They've got something you don't." And if that's how it is, you shouldn't be with that person.

But be honest with him because he deserves to know. Don't ya think?

i always feel like my mom likes my sister better. just because shes the perfect A student and nice and quiet and not crazy and hyper and procrastinating and rebellious like i am. i get good grades i dont do drugs i'm a good kid but me and my friends can get really hyper sometimes thats IT. and i tend to argue alot (my mom's genes..) so basically i do some "bad stuff" as a teenager such as talk on the phone too much, stay up late during sleepovers, etc... stuff EVERY teenager does! even including my perfect sister (who btw graduated high school now). and my mom picks on me soo much for all these little things while my sister..she didn't even care b/c my sister got perfect 98's while i get like..93's and procrastinate!??? i can't stand my mom i told her this but she just won't listen to me, what do i do? i'm not going to change myself just to please my mom because come on i'm not some crack addict but i asked my mom and she was like "yeah change". what do i do?????

Your parents tell you these things for a reason, you'll learn that when you're older. And then you'll regret blocking them out, and you're gonna think "Oh man, I should've listened to her. She knew what she was talking about." Parents do this because of one simple reason. Been there, done that. They know what you go through. Don't think that because they're "old" that they've got no clue what they're talking about.

And your mom doesn't love your sister more. Honestly, you should be proud that your mom nags you & not your sister. You said she didn't care what your sister did, but she cares with you. Isn't caring a way of love? And she nags you. Maybe that's her way of showing she loves you. She wants you to do good, and she wants a lot out of you. She didn't want that out of your sister. Feel good that she does it.

"They're living for the present and not the future’s well-being"

or

"They're living for the present and not the future's fulfillment."

what one sounds better and makes more sense? im writing a poem for school

I like the second one better. The first one sounds like an 8th grader wrote it.

I haven't seen one episode yet, but I really liked their commercials and I have been missing each episode because of school work. I have a few questions:

1) How many episodes has there been?
2) When do the re-runs air?
3) When do new episodes air?
4) What are the names of the episodes in order?
5) And can you sum up what has happened in each episode in order? And who is who?

I think there's been a few episodes, but I'm not exactly sure how many. They usually show the reruns randomly. New episodes are every Wednesday I believe, but I'm not sure. I'm not sure of the names of the episodes, or what's been happening in them. I know there's this one girl Chaunte or Chauntel, whatever. She's a real bitch.

Don't let the commericials fool you. I thought the show was gonna be good, but it just sucks. It's probably the worst show that MTV has ever put on air. I don't recommend watching it because I don't think you'll be satisfied. It's a really dumb show.

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It's NOTHING like Laguna Beach.

Two years ago I became best friends with Jess. She was so much fun to hang out with and she is just like me. My family became and like hers and I was practically in there family. But about 2 months ago she got a boyfriend. Now they are attached. They do pretty much everything together, and if you hang out with them both they make out like 500 in front of you. I never get to hang out with her. I tried to tell her and she agreed and said we'd hang out more but we have really grown apart. She has this new friend now and they are getting close and I hate it because she hasnt even called me. I've atleast tried to hang out with her but I guess she is done with me. But I do have another best friend. But my point is I miss her and all the good times we had and now it's over just because this boyfriend she has had for two months. Like I said I tried to talk to her. Sorry for the length.

You can't do anything about it. She's deserting you, so do it back to her. Her & her boyfriend will break up eventually, and she'll realize that friends are forever, boys however, are not. If you tried to talk to her, but didn't get through, leave it alone. Just go about your day, & spend time with your other best friend. =) Maybe she'll get jealous & see what she does to you.

i have never been fingered because i feel uncomfortable about people touching or seeing down there, also does every girl smell down there? I wanted to know if its a good idea to shave and when a guy fingers you does he get your cum and everything on his fingers.

It won't smell bad down there if you clean it & make it smell good. Take care of your bottom half, and it shouldn't smell bad. Anyways, it is a good idea to shave because hair & whatever might gross a guy out & it's possible for that stuff to get on his fingers.

I'm a 14/f. Well im not sure if i bi or not because i would definitely never get into a relationship with a girl, but i just think that doing sexual things with girls would be less stressful and more pleasureful because they would know what feels good. Like sometimes when i get SUPER horny and masturbating isn't enough, i feel like asking my best friend to do something with me...but i never do DONT WORRY!! I know im striaght but deep down id love to do stuff with a girl.

You're probably just curious. If it gets to the point where you wanna be with girls [date them], and do sexual things with them, then you're more than likely bi.

I had unprotected sex 2 days ago!and I don't want to get pregant!what should I do?

Get the morning after pill. It works 3 days after sex. If you use it after the three days after you had sex, it won't work anymore.

I'm 14 and I'm a good kid.
I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, and I even
get good grades. My best friend was in a big
drinking phase and they knew about it. Even
though they know I've never drank before,
they've been treating me like I'm five for the
past month or so. (After not drinking for
almost 7 months) my best friend drank one time again, and they found out, so I can understand why they wouldn't trust her, but me and them have talked and they understand that
I won't do anything like that!

Whenever I try to make plans, they won't
let me go anywhere or they guilt me and tell me
how much of a hassle it is. They make me come
home before 6 and they ask so many questions they
don't need to be asking. Its really frustrating
because they didn't used to be like this and
we used to be really close. I've never done
anything bad and they treat me like a criminal!
How do I get things back to normal?

They probably think your friend will get you into that stuff since she does it. Just tell your parents that it's not gonna happen, and get them on your terms. Tell them you'd like to stay out longer & that it isn't fair how they're treating you. Although since you're young, what they say goes, so you should respect their wishes. They do these things for a reason.

I JUST turned 13 and i'm i'm around 5 foot 4 to 5 foot 5. Also I just weighed myself and i'm about 102 pounds. Do you think I can grow about 4 or 5 more inches before i'm like 20 so maybe I can be a model, maybe even before 20? Also, do you think i'm skinny enough? Please tell the absolute truth. ALso, my legs aren't STICK SKINNY. They aren't like chicken legs, but they aren't fat either. Do I need really skinny legs?

You're still growing, so yeah, it's possible for you to get taller, but I doubt you'll get that much taller. It doesn't seem like a lot but it honestly is. I think you're skinny enough. I'd kill to be 102lbs. I'm 5'3" and I weigh a lot, haha.

My sister is already 18 years old. My parents don't let her do anything at all. They think that if she leaves that she will have sex and end up getting pregnant. That's what they always think. Everywhere she goes like if she asks to go to go to her friends house or hang out with her friends they say no. This morning they started arguing because my sister wanted to go out. I hate it when they argue. So I went and told them to stop thinking bad thoughts my sister is really not what they think. I know her more then they do. So she hit me like really badly. She said that if I say something else she will break my mouth. She is really agressive. She said that I have changed. But that's not true I haven't she has, ever since she started working. I need advice. I can't talk to her she is so agressive. And she holds grudges.

Wait, your sister hit you? She shouldn't be. Anyways, let your parents do what they want. They're the parent & what they say goes. You can't change their minds, and that's that. Just respect their wishes & it'll be alright.

15/f

ok i know this is going to sound very weird, but i am in love with my english teacher. I can't help it, it's not just a silly crush that can go away. But i'm not an idiot, obviously i have a
.000000000000000000000001 % chance of anything happening with her, i understand that. She is a poet, amazing, beautiful. I really like creative writing, like i'm very good at fiction, an I know she realizes that.
I'm just wondering, because i'm even happy just going to class everyday and seeing her, i want to impress her, so i'm just wondering, what can I do? Not to flirt or something like that, just to make her notice me, think highly of me, i don't know, but i am so in love and so desperate to impress her, is that wrong? what should i do?

Get some counselling. You shouldn't be in love with your teacher. If you wanna impress her, just try your hardest on everything you do, get good grades & have a good standing in the class.

does anyone know of any magazines that have adds for Vans and COnverse etc... im doing a colage and i need those pics. so thnx!

SPIN, Alternative Press, and Vibe have ads for converse. =) Vans, I'm not so sure. But I'm pretty sure they should have them.

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