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Trust problems
I'm 14 and I'm a good kid.
I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, and I even
get good grades. My best friend was in a big
drinking phase and they knew about it. Even
though they know I've never drank before,
they've been treating me like I'm five for the
past month or so. (After not drinking for
almost 7 months) my best friend drank one time again, and they found out, so I can understand why they wouldn't trust her, but me and them have talked and they understand that
I won't do anything like that!
Whenever I try to make plans, they won't
let me go anywhere or they guilt me and tell me
how much of a hassle it is. They make me come
home before 6 and they ask so many questions they
don't need to be asking. Its really frustrating
because they didn't used to be like this and
we used to be really close. I've never done
anything bad and they treat me like a criminal!
How do I get things back to normal?
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I'll assume when you use the word "they" you are referring to your parents. If you aren't doing anything wrong, then what do you have to hide? Answer their questions & do what they tell you to do. It may be annoying, but you're only 14 & you're not going to see complete freedom for awhile. But if you stick by their rules & respect the fact that they love you & are just looking out for you, then they'll eventually back off. In the meantime, keep up what you're doing. They'll realize they're lucky to have a good kid & you'll have more freedom in the end. Trust me! :)
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Maybe your parents are worried about you and don't understand how you feel about your best friend drinking maybe you should tell them a couple of time that you dont drink or do any of the dangerous stuff that your best friend does or maybe you tell make new friend that won't do that and maybe they can let you out with them instead that might get thinks back to normal
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Hey,
Ok, I'm going to infer that "they" is referring to your parents, correct?
They don't want you to make the same mistakes as your friends. But anyways, I know this is a pain since my parents used to be the same way too.
My advice is to start going out with other more RESPONSIBLE, and TRUSTWORTHY friends. Tell them you're willing to take a drug/alcohol test if they don't believe you. I know this sounds ridiculous, but if worse comes to worst, say your ABC's to prove your sober. lol.
They're doing it for your own good, not to annoy you or treat you like a little kid or anything, you know?
If you need any more help, leave me something in my InBox. I'd be happy to help!
I wish you the best of luck!!!
-Jam
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They probably think your friend will get you into that stuff since she does it. Just tell your parents that it's not gonna happen, and get them on your terms. Tell them you'd like to stay out longer & that it isn't fair how they're treating you. Although since you're young, what they say goes, so you should respect their wishes. They do these things for a reason.
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Umm ok, 'They' would be your parents am I right? Well, I guess they're just worried that your best friend will start trying to get you to drink and her being your best friend you'll do it. Tell your parents(again and again) That you don't drink at all and you're smarter than that, and it's getting annoying that you can't do anything with your friends without not being able to go or being guilted into not going! Stuff like that, and maybe say 'Have I done anything to make you guys not trust me?' and things like that. And if that fails, sit down with them and talk again, and just say 'I know you guys understand that I don't drink and wouldn't do stuff like that, but why are you doing all this to me if you trust me?' and after all that and they still act like that, it's better to just do as they say for awhile, and hopfully they'll see you're doing what they ask and that they can stop asking you to do that. I hoped I helped, and I wish you the best of luck!
~Vera
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