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I need help badly
My sister is already 18 years old. My parents don't let her do anything at all. They think that if she leaves that she will have sex and end up getting pregnant. That's what they always think. Everywhere she goes like if she asks to go to go to her friends house or hang out with her friends they say no. This morning they started arguing because my sister wanted to go out. I hate it when they argue. So I went and told them to stop thinking bad thoughts my sister is really not what they think. I know her more then they do. So she hit me like really badly. She said that if I say something else she will break my mouth. She is really agressive. She said that I have changed. But that's not true I haven't she has, ever since she started working. I need advice. I can't talk to her she is so agressive. And she holds grudges.
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Your sister is so scared of your parents that it's sickening and leading her to lash out physically at you because she deeply fears what they might do to her if the secret of their emotional abuse and controlling her every movement comes to light by you telling someone the truth or encouraging her to say something.
The fact is your sister is 18-years-old now and legally considered an adult. She can come and go as she pleases, be sexually active, socialize as much as she wants and they cannot do anything more than argue with her about it unless they are hitting her.
Your parents fail to realize they have emotionally, physically and developmentally scarred your sister rather than "protect her" Your family is in dire need of professional help here.
Your sister likely does not make the kind of money to live on her own and must reside with your parents still and live under their roof. What needs to heppen is either you or your sister break the silence about what has been happening for years to a trusted adult be it a teacher, family member, family friend, guidance counsellor about what is going on at home.
Your parents and sister will then get the help they need and your sister might be able to live with a friend, family member etc and develop into a strong adult. You know what you have to do dispite your sister having hit you.
You can just tell that she's needing help and doesn't know what to do about this. Her agressiveness, anger, grudges, and change in personality are all part and parcel of the problems she faces at home.
If she hits you hard again defend yourself or at the very least get her off of you some how. If bruises are left or you think she assualted you no matter your relationship to her you can have her charged with assualt. I think things will get better over time for her and yourself when you finally tell someone the truth.
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did your sister or mom it you? well if it was your sister she really should'nt have because you were trying to help her and you should "apologize" and say u were just trying to help. but if it was your mom you should probably apologize and tell her you just hate it when they argue and you were just trying to help. if your sister is that aggresive you should tell your mom and let her handle it. but if your mom is abusive or aggresive you should talk to your dad or a councilor if its that bad.
hope i helped :)
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Wait, your sister hit you? She shouldn't be. Anyways, let your parents do what they want. They're the parent & what they say goes. You can't change their minds, and that's that. Just respect their wishes & it'll be alright.
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