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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)
advice
Hello,
So i have decided that i wanted to spice up my life and change how I looked and the style that I currently have just to make me feel confident about myself. I want to look sexier and more fun.
My question is what sorts of things could I do. I want to get a hair cut and change how that looks since i have had the same hair cut for the passed... 6 or 7 years haha,
I also wanted to change the style of clothing just to look sexier. Now, i do have smaller breasts, but thats NOT gonna stop me. =) I just need things that appeal to smaller breasts that's all.
So, please let me know thanks. I will attach a picture just to help ya out.
http://img175.imageshack.us/img175/3960/hpim1460pq5.jpg
For the hair...keep it long, but go for something with a little more volume and layers, maybe some side bangs.
Ideas:
http://www.prettycelebrities.net/actrices/jennifer_love_hewitt/jennifer_love_hewitt20.jpg
http://i236.photobucket.com/albums/ff173/camr_15alejandra/hilary-Duff.jpg
For makeup, less is more.
Try a very, very small amount of black eyeliner (blended as close to your lashes as possible) and nude gloss for day. It's a lot more subtle and sexier.
Nude gloss:
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=88152&catid=98641&cmbProdBrandFilter=34742
For night you could try a smoky eye. Instead of the traditional black/grey, try a color like purple. Again, less is more. Here's how:
- Line your eyes using a very very thin line. Line your upper inner rims and lower inner rims as well.
- Apply a light, shimmer highlight color, like champagne or white, to the inner corner of your eye and your browbrone.
- Now apply an eyeshadow trio, starting with the darkest at your lashline. Apply a small amount of the darkest shade under your lower lashline.
- Blend, blend, blend!
- Curl your eyelashes and use black mascara.
Again, nude gloss will work for you with this look.
Try this palette, will last forever and has really good colors:
http://www.physiciansformula.com/en-us/productdetail/eyes/shadows/02220.html
(The "Brown Eyes" one)
Or this trio:
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=164496&catid=98578&cmbProdBrandFilter=49789
(Comes out darker than it looks- but skip the green)
With a highlighting shade like this:
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=179567&catid=98578&cmbProdBrandFilter=53088
I recommend Smashbox or Covergirl Lashblast mascara.
For clothes, simple is sexier, you don't wanna look like you're trying too hard! Like with the makeup, pick one area you want to show off- legs, boobs, stomach, whatever. Dark jeans are better, and shoes make all the difference. Heels and earrings can make jeans and a tank top look sexy.
Examples
Shirts:
http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Clothing-Sleeveless&product%5Fid=44525
http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Clothing-Sleeveless&product%5Fid=56673
http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Clothing-Sleeveless&product%5Fid=71266
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=8U-207069&page=1&cgname=OSCLOBTPVIL&rfnbr=2220
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=8U-207052&page=1&cgname=OSCLOBTPVIL&rfnbr=2220
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=8U-223273&page=1&cgname=OSCLOBTPVIL&rfnbr=2220
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=8U-177746&page=1&cgname=OSCLOBTPVIL&rfnbr=2220
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=8U-210358&page=1&cgname=OSCLOSXYZZZ&rfnbr=3367
Dress:
http://www.wetseal.com/catalog/product.jsp?categoryId=104&subCategoryId=124&productId=12448
Shoes:
http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Clothing-Pumps&product%5Fid=12002
(would be cuter with a lower heel)
Colors that are good on you: White, red, navy blue, black
Biggest thing: confidence. Smile! You look so unhappy in that picture. Walk like you know you're hot, that's really what guys like.
Let me know if you need any more help, especially with the makeup- I loooove makeup and can do a tutorial and send you pics so you know exactly what to do.
I can't remember the word, but it's a term learned in psychology. I'll try to explain it as best I can.. It's when something from the past makes it harder to learn new things.
For example, say a person played tennis their whole life, then picked up volleyball. They are used to serving the ball the "tennis" way, which makes it harder to serve a volleyball the "volleyball" way.
Thank you sooo much if you know what it is!
Are you talking about prograde/retrograde?
well it my bf bday in like 5 days and i still dont have a present i have no idea what to get ?
any ideas??
fav coulour -- black and red
very punk
he's into punk music
skateboarding
drumming
- Concert tickets for a band he likes
- Skateboard stuff- wax, grip tape, new wheels, etc.
- Drumsticks- if you look online you can get customized ones with his name or whatever on them
Why did the age change for jobs? Most jobs you have to be 18 now. Even in grocery stores, fast food restaurants, etc. There's only ONE fast food place that hires at 16 and of course it's already full. What happened? Most 16 year olds have jobs already but every time I try to apply elsewhere.. they say I don't qualify because of my age (17) I just wanted to be bagger for a grocery store! I'm moving out next year and I don't know what to do! I know I'm getting kicked out so am I just supposed to live on the streets until I'm 18?
Retail's a lot easier to get into. Drugstores, like Walgreen's (got a job there when I was 16 with no experience), Rite Aid, etc. Clothing stores, anywhere in the mall. Maybe food places, like ice cream places. Just keep asking and don't give up.
14/f
I don't have that much time to get a tan this summer, because it's not that easy for me to tan. basically, all I want to know is; is it possible to use makeup to make it look like you have a tan, that will cover your face, AND not look fake? If so, any suggestions? Thanks!
I used to be really iffy about bronzers, because for the most part they all look really unnatural.
But I tried this one and it's absolutely amazing. Yes, it's a little pricey but it is so worth it, lasts forever and looks like you with a tan, not like you with lots of makeup.
Right here:
http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/601-7065733-8376145?ASIN=B0017HRQUC&AFID=Froogle&LNM=B0017HRQUC|Physicians_Formula_Organic_Veil_Bronzing_Powder_Bronze_Fair&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=B0017HRQUC&ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001
Does anyone know songs that are good for going running? Slown or fast i don't care, just a song with a beat that wont make you feel like stopping or slowing down.
Go on Itunes and search for a podcast called PODRUNNER. Every week you get new music. You can't tell from the previews (it just sounds like generic techno), but it actually is real, good music. And each one is labeled with the heart rate per minute so you can decide how fast or slow you wanna go.
Also try:
Swing- Savage
Disturbia- Rihanna
When I Grow Up- Pussycat Dolls
You could also try looking for DJ mixes. My local radio station, Wild 94.9 (wild949.com keyword: mix) has some amazing mixes.
Is it true that this Saturday (June, 28) that Old Navy's flip flops are only going to be $1?? Cause some lady that my mom works with told her she saw a commercial that said that, but my mom wanted me to make sure it was for sure Old Navy. I looked on the website, but it didn't say anything. So if anyone knows could you fill me in please! haha, thanks bunches!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just saw the commercial. Yeah, it's true. Might wanna get there early, though.
is it possible at all to delete a friend you've added on facebook? i added someone that keeps sending me all these invitations to things i dont care about and i would like to delete this person from my friends list
Yeah. At the top, where it says "Profile Friends Inbox"? Click on Friends. On that page, below where it says All Friends, click on the tab that says Everyone. Each person has their own little window, click on the X in the top right corner of their window and you're done.
As an alternative...next time they sent you all invitation, on the bottom right it should say something like "ignore all invites from this person."
My girl friend recently broke up with me...... i do not want to live any more..... i want to end my life....... she was all i had... she loves me still i know she does... her mom just passed away and she said she needs to be alone....... every day i cry all day. its the only thing i think about...... im 24 and i have never been hurt this bad in my life.so i think i am going to kill my self or badyly injure my self so she will stay with me in the hospital....... i am prescribed methadone, i take 100 mgs a day..... to day i am thinking about taking 700 mgs... dont you think that wil kill me in a quiet way.. if it doesnot kill me i am screwed becausei wont have my medicine and ill be even worse off and suffer withdrawl.. like i said i am prescribed methadone, i am the farthest thing from a drug addict ..... ive been sober for 2 years and this is the first time i have had to deal with my problems with out the use of drugs.. i want to die.. another option i am considering is taking a jog at night wearing all black and just jump in front of a car... i figure more than likely this will not kill me and it will look like an accident according to every one else... i know then my girl will stay by my side.. i am also tempting driving a honda civic into a wall or tree going at least 70 miles an hour.. i want to die, but i dont want to hurt my mom,, if she was not in the picture i would have done it already... so please tell me what you think and dont say shit like o go get help....... dont kill your self... god wont accept you in the after life... thats bull shit.. god will forgive me... i just can not go on with out this girl. please reply quickly..
You say you love this girl, and that she loves you and just needs a break. She's already going through an extremely difficult time, and killing yourself will make her life next to impossible. If nothing else, think of that. I don't have an exact percentage but the majority of people who try to overdose don't do it right- and I'm certainly not gonna tell you how- but they just end up really sick but still alive. How could you even consider hurting this girl so much just so she will "stay with you in the hospital"?! If your motivation is wanting attention there are far, far better ways to get it.
Jumping in front of a car is a horrible idea as well- do you have any idea how much that would psychologically screw up the person who hit you? I've read articles about it- it really, really messes people up. And even if it doesn't kill you, you will be in amounts of pain you can't even imagine right now.
Your only chance of ever being with this girl again is waiting. It's as simple as that. If you kill yourself that's a guarantee that you'll never be with her, ever. It sounds like she just needs to be alone for a little bit, which is perfectly understandable, although breaking up with you is a little drastic. If you really love her, you'll wait.
I would write her a letter explaining how you're feeling- not about killing yourself, but that you love her, really miss her, understand that she needs some alone time, but don't want to end the relationship.
are club bouncers generally pretty good on checking IDs to get in? my friends and i have been to this club twice on teen night, and they just ask us if we're under 18 and believed us when we said yeah. im 3 months away from turning 18, and now my friend is having her birthday there on the 18 & up night [she's turning 18]. if i went in with a group of 18 year old friends, and showed them my id, would they likely catch that im still 3 months away, or just kinda shovel me along with my friends who ARE 18? ps i am a girl, and guys have told me i wouldn't have issues getting in because im pretty, i just dont wanna not make it in. oh & we're NOT trying to get in to drink or anything, so dont say that. the club's near atlanta if it matters.
For teen nights, it's totally different, since most teenagers don't have any form of ID they can't really check it. If they caught you, probably nothing bad would happen- they just wouldn't let you in.
this is a poem i did i have bad anxiety its not about me its one of these poems where you need to think what its about in a life situation im fifteen =] thanks
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Its only a voice she crenched with fear Dont make me feel superior Im only here.
Dont mutter my words dont Violate my space Dont touch my tears Dont Look at my face
Because Ill smile when Im Hated and ill frown when im not . Ill retaliate to your speech because when your so cold i feel so hot . Let me be here forever let us hold hands and open arms wide in this beautiful weather
she quoted and then sang she laughed and then smiled . For the first time in her life she never felt so mild
the feels of her justice fell thorugh the sky her red lipstick smudged Proves her life was never a lie .
Just one more minuite she said to herself her body quivered through determination and though that she smiled one last time Let me love the people i once dislliked let me make a provision
let me draw a line.
It felt she was derierating into a dust so fine . As sudden as the cold weather went through that the sun started to shine . >>>>
EDIT: Well excuse me for trying to help you. No rough draft is ever perfect, I happen to have some poems published in magazines and the like. I didn't say "you have to do this"- all just ideas. No need to get all defensive. Clearly you do have a lot of issues if you respond like that. Real writers know that criticism, not compliments, is what they need.
I really, really liked it, but saying that isn't helpful, so...
- Crenched? I'm not sure if that's a word (sorry for sounding like an idiot if it is, but you might wanna replace it with something more used)
- Inferior, not superior- superior means better than, which doesn't make sense
- The phrase about retaliating is too long- maybe "i'll react cause when you're cold i feel so hot"
That's not exactly it- the rhythm's still off- but something shorter, more like the smile/hated frown/not line.
- The line after that needs some work, too. Too long and just kind of awkward. I can't think of a fix for it right now, you may just want to cut it and rewrite it shorter and minus the cliches about staying forever and beautiful weather.
- Line after that: "she quoted, she sang, she laughed and she smiled"- flows better. Line after that doesn't flow either, too many syllables.
- The "feels" of her justice? Not sure what that's supposed to mean.
- "Her red lipstick smudged proves it wasn't a lie"- more concise
- Just one more minute line-
"A minute, she said to herself as she quivered. determination made her smile one last time. let me love mine enemies, let me make a provision, let me draw a line."
- "She disintegrated into a dust so fine, the cold went through her, warm winds took her far...where the ice had no hold on how the sun could shine"
Please don't think that I hate your poem or that I'm trying to make it into something else. I like it a lot, which is why I'm trying to offer specific suggestions. General ideas like "be less vague" don't help. Obviously you don't have to do anything I said- just some food for thought.
Good luck, that really has a lot of potential.
what are some flirting tips that guys really find cute and attractive?
*please don't say be yourself and it's different for different guys.i already no that i just want some tips =]*
thanks =]
Here ya go:
http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm
I bite my nails all the time.
Not enough to make them bleed, I stop when they start to hurt.
I don't even know that I'm doing it.
I tried keeping nail polish on at all times on my nails, but I've gotten used to the taste of nail polish and even end up scraping off the nail polish with my teeth, which is even work cause I end up swallowing nail polish.
I figure any type of thing that makes my nails taste bad I will get used to, so you do you have any other ideas for stopping me from biting my nails?
They make a special kind of nail polish that tastes foul, like to the point where you'll wanna gag. Drugstores sell it. Sometimes it's in the baby section cuz it's used for thumbsucking, too.
And french tips are pretty much impossible to bite off.
i am looking for a cereal i use to eat about eight years ago, and it suddenly stopped being sold in ohio, which is where i live. i am curious if it's still being shipped to other states. i heard talk of california?
it's called 'french toast crunch cereal'.
clearly i don't mean cinnamon toast either,there is a difference. the french toast is literally shaped in pieces of bread, like french toast.
I live in California and our grocery stores sell it along with Cinnamon Toast Crunch and Peanut Butter Toast Crunch.
I have the coolest English teacher ever, he's so funny, and doesn't give a shit as long as we pay attention and do the work (like we can drink or listen to music in class)
Today was the last lesson of English(tomorrow is the last day of school) and I'm really gonna miss him over the summer (I have him next year as well)
:\ Is that rally fucked up?
I get along with him well, and I donno...I just miss him? :\
Is there anything wrong with me?
EDIT: Yeah, I figured, just saying.
Nothing wrong with liking a teacher. Hell, nothing wrong with having a crush on him (although it doesn't sound like you do). You're fine :)
We all here are probably in school, or out of school but we have all atended it. I'm that girl that's not good looking but have friends of both genders. I hear Im very bubbly, and outgoing. But at home Im the complete oppisite. I think I am suffering from depression, I just dont have the guts to tell my parents about it.
I do not get along with my Father at all. We can't have a decent conversation EVER. And my Moms never home, but when she is she's never listening. Anyway, during the past 9 months I haven't slept over anyones house. I hate my home but I have the oppurtunity to leave, but say something like O my Mom wont let me, or Babysetting sorry. And sometimes I get all excited and be like Yehh and ask and everything but right before be like Nooo I shouldn't and lie about why I can't. I dont know why... at school Im happy and sometimes forget about something that happiended at Home. But at home, it's like facing a concrete wall that goes on for miles. And I waste my tiem trying to see thru it.
I feel like im shutting everyone out... and im not trying to. I donno if its because Im scared or what. But tomarrow is the begining of summer and Im going over Skyes house. I a, kinda second guessing myself tho but i want plans for the summer.
Can you explain to me why I am shutting people out? How I can stop... and how do I get the corage to talk to my Mother about possibly being Depressed and how do Doctors find out?
Do they like check ur brain or something? I have no clue[obviously.]
First of all, you're not weird. I do the same thing and I know people who do, too, especially the whole thing about plans. That being said, counseling really will help a lot. I groaned and moaned, thought it would be horrible...it helps tons. It might be hard, but try talking to your parents about it. I don't know how to tell you how to, but if it's easier leave a note or something.
Good luck!
okay so I have this best friend who is really clingy and obsessive. If I don't get to call or talk to her in like 3 days she freaks out. She calls basically 4 times a day and exspects me to always be waiting by the phone to answer it. Recently I haven't been able to talk to her and she claims I have changed, that I've been miserable and sad, and that I've been hiding from the world. I seriously have no idea what the heck that means.. and I even told this to her; yet she still doesn't make any sense. Another thing she does is freak out when she finds out I'm hanging out with other friends that she doesn't nessisarly like. It's like she wants to spend every second of the day with me and sometimes it just gets on my nerves. I mean I love the girl to death but I always feel like I'm being suffocated. Help! what should I do?
thanks,
Michellemonster
Talking to this girl won't make a difference; the best thing you can do is distance yourself.
Only answer when she calls once every 3 days or so- she'll get used to it. When you make plans with her (again, not too often), invite other people, too, and include her in group plans. Eventually she'll get used to it and you can still be friends without any awkwardness that would come from talking about it.
(16/m)
What do girls like to get as a gift?
(only girls answer!!!!!)
It kinda depends on the occasion and the girl- if you could add why or what she's into, that would be great. But I'll try anyway...
A nice night out, like you cook dinner for her, then go see a show or something.
Concert tickets.
Flowers.
Jewelry (doesn't necessarily have to be expensive)
Mall gift card
Music
I can't talk on the phone without shaking or driving myself nuts beforehand. I can't communicate with people without sweating or anxiety attacks..it takes me about 15 minutes to work up a hello in a social situation...and when someone doesn't reply or acknowledge it, the awkwardness fills me up and tears me up. I cry a lot over this. Hysterically. I can't be left by myself in any social situations. Usually, I'd have my dad or mom walk with me, get me into programs, register me, talk with my teachers, etc. I've been raised like that for the past 10 years now. I'm in this comfort zone and when I'm tossed out there in the real world, I can't project my voice, I can't go a day without someone going "aww, she's so shy," I can't go a day without disappointment. I feel like I need my parents to lead me and take me by the hand. And I push myself, like..go out there, knock..say hello...say it loudly. I do it and then I feel like I'm a failure. I feel like crying. I mess up relationships with my friends because I like being by myself more than with them. And then I regret it. I don't know what to do. I'm SIXTEEN. And I feel like I'll NEVER be able to communicate with people. I get on with the friends that I have left...but when I talk to teachers or any authority figures, I feel as if I subconsciously put on an act...with a lowered, innocent voice (as if my parents beat and starve me at home..) and I talk like please, please don't hurt me teacher...with closed eyes or something. What can I do?
16/f :(
I'd definitely recommend professional help, like a counselor or psychiatrist. I know you're probably groaning- I did the same- but it really does help a lot.
It sounds to me like anxiety/possible Aspergers/HSPT. But I'm not a professional.
I just had my birthday and i got a TON of money. I want to buy a bunch of clothes so that way I have a ton for highschool - I'm going to be a freshman. 14/f btw. Even though i have a lot of money i don't want to spend to much on everything i buy so that way i can get more. =] what are some good stores?
Whats in right now?
Forever 21 and H&M have amazing cheap clothes.
Other good stores:
Anchor Blue
Pacsun
Wet Seal
Macy's
Kohl's
even Target