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ok well i asked her about it like one of this people toldme to to do but she wants to wait and i dont want to wait! and i have begged and stuff but she wants to wait what should i do?
andi have so much presure like these guys that arae going all the way with there gf and i just want third base!
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As they say, "good things come to those who wait." Give her time and don't pressure her. When she's ready, it will happen. If you really like this girl, you'll be glad you waited. But if you keep pressuring her before she's ready, she may break up with you... and then, of course, it will never happen! And next time your guy friends ask how far you've gone with her, just say "well, that's between me and her." Also, keep in mind that some of the guys who are bragging about what they've done with their girlfriends may be stretching the truth a bit!
sorry this'll be so long. im thinking about taking sex out of the relationship im in, or if not completely then atleast every onnnce in a while. im 15, and please dont judge me. i see my bf on the weekends and honestly, we have sex atleast like 4 diff times each day. its pretty much 3/4 of wut we do when were with eachother and im sick of it. also, i feel so guilty doing it, specially when im around my dad and i think about it. i know it would hurt him so much if he found out n i feel like a failure or something. and i feel as if im like addicted to it, because ill have sex even when im not in the mood, or im bored n its just like heyy its sumthin to do. so now to my question. ive been with him for a year and 4 months now, and i do not want to break up. now first of all, our relationship is not just based off of sex. so, do you think by taking it out it would ruin our relationship in any way? i mean as far as how close we are and stuff? you get what i mean? i just dont want it to get weird between us or anything. because i know when you decide to have sex and everything with somebody it brings you a lot closer, and i dont want that taken away. so, help please?
I think if you sit down and talk to your boyfriend about it in the right way, he should understand. He may not love the idea (ha ha!) but if your relationship is truly based on more than just sex, he should be willing to agree to your wishes. Start by telling him how much you love him, and you hope that your relationship will last a long time. Tell him that while you love the closeness that sex brings you, you kind of regret that you've started having sex so early, because you're afraid that you'll both get bored of each other and not have anything to look forward to later on. So in order to keep it special, you want to cut back some, so that the times you do have sex will be even more exciting. He will probably disagree with you at first, but if he really loves you and wants to stay with you, he should be willing to do this.
Guess I'm not as cool as I used to be...
I'm sitting outside in my back yard, typing on my brother's laptop, taking in the beaming gleam of the sun. it seems like I'm losing all my friends to a number of illegal substances. No one wants to come to my house anymore, because they aren't going to get plastered or toke up a fatty. As if I'm in a competition with drugs to have friends, I don't invite people over anymore, I don't even look foreword to weekends anymore, because my house is a boring place to go all of the sudden. I guess when you grow up to a certain age, you have to start doing drugs and drinking to be fun? How long ago was last summer? No one ever mentioned drugs last summer, what with the change? I guess life is boring without uppers and downers, being sober is being square. My house is a last resort for people to go to have fun. "hey guy, let's just go to my house, there aren't any parties tonight, I guess we'll just have to be sober for once… goddamn.". I only have one friend that hasn't smoked or drank. And we hang out all the time, and have a lot of fun. But I guess it isn't actual fun because we remember it. I guess we're just boring people, it almost makes me want to toke up and get hammered just so that I can hang out with all my friends that have ditched for the shit. But I won't, and I guess that means I have to continue living my boring, sober life alone, with my one friend… in my boring house. Any generic after school special would say "well, those guys aren't your true friends, go find some real ones!" sure thing A.S.S. I'd love to. But I don't know anyone that hasn't been incapacitated. Not only that, but those people ARE MY REAL FRIENDS! Just today Anthony ditched me, at my house, we were all about to leave to go to bowling green, to go to lake malone with my brother; he didn't even say 'bye'. What the hell is that? That sounds like something my brother would do. And it is something my brother has done. I don't care if he went to do drugs, it was still a shitty thing to do] But I'm not here to cuss out my friends, I'm here to query myself, to ponder… I don't do drugs, that makes me a loser, no seriously, it does, I have lost all but two of my friends to drugs, and it kills me. Goddamn it, and people wonder why I play online games? I play them so I can interact with people and have fun! I can't any other way! I don't have any friends! I'm not going to hang around drunken and high people, unless it's Westray, because he's the same sober as he his high! I didn't mean this as an insult, I'm saying that Westray is a cool person to be with no matter what, we can talk to eachother and laugh with eachother, no matter what]
But I guess that's the end of this rant. If I can't have friends while being sober, I guess I won't have friends, maybe I'll find some more real friends like kaleb and nic. But i just gotta live and find out. I know that things won't be the same this summer, I won't have many memories this summer, not without buddies to make them with. and my old buddies that get high and shit, they won't remember the memories that they made. I thought I was cool, but I guess you can't be anymore, not without that shit.
Have any advice for me?
Well, first of all, you are EXTREMELY cool. Cool people are confident and secure enough to do what they want, not what all their friends are doing.
Let me tell you about this guy Chris that I went to school with. He went through his entire high school years without ever drinking, smoking or doing drugs. He was a super nice, fun guy and everyone liked him. He went to all the parties where nearly everyone was either drinking or doing drugs. He never looked down on them or lectured them about what they were doing... his attitude was, "If you want to do that, that's cool, but I'm not going to." He would just hang out and have fun with everyone while staying sober. People would sometimes try to tempt him to do something, but only half-heartedly, because they knew he never would. And everyone really respected him and liked him. He was really one of the coolest people at our school.
You can still be friends with your old buddies -- they aren't terrible people, they've just gotten into something that you prefer not to join in on. You may not be as close as you once were, or hang out as often, and of course you're going to miss the good times and close friendship you once shared. And I know this doesn't make it any easier, but it's very common and natural for friends to drift apart as their interests change. It happens to everyone, but I guarantee you WILL find other friends.
Good luck. You sound like a very nice and intelligent person, and I'm sure you're going to get through this and come out just fine. And cool!
okay, this may seem really wierd but in this one movie (it was on t.v. the other day)there was this vanity table and the top opened and there was a mirror and storage. im guessing the mirror weight about 5ish pounds. okay so this girl was sitting there and the top came down on about the middle of her arm (between her wrist and her elbow) and she broke her arm (she slamed the top down on purpose) so to the point...could she have really broken her arm that way? just wondering because it seemed fake which i kno it was but could it have happened in real life?
Well, if the mirror came down pretty fast, and hit her arm at the right angle... and if she had weak bones (which some people do), i think it's probably possible that it could've broken her arm. But like you said, it was just a movie. Maybe the director should've found a vanity with a heavier-looking mirror to make it more convincing! =]
I wasn't very social during the school year,so I'm trying to work my way back into.I REALLY want to get with people,but I just don't know what to do in a social situation anymore.I'm worried that if it's one on one we'll just be sitting in awkward silence like idiots,and if it's with a group I'll be the weird quiet kid dragging along in the back.I just want to know how to keep things moving and how to prevent dull moments.Basically,I just want to know what to do when I hang out with people.
Some people are blessed with a natural ability to make small talk, and can strike up a conversation with anyone, any time. But for most people, it's a skill that has to be developed with time and practice. So don't feel like there's anything "weird" about you... just jump in and start doing it, and it will eventually become easier!
It might help to sit down and make a list of "conversation starters"... things you can say if there's ever an awkward silence. The best way to start a conversation is to ask questions about something the other person is interested in. People love to talk about themselves! So think of questions that will get people to open up and start talking.
Keep in mind that you don't have to be "the life of the party" in order to fit in and have fun in a social situation. Yes, there are some people who always have something funny or interesting to say... but for every talker, there also has to be a listener. If you aren't the person who's doing the talking, you can be the person that people want to talk TO, by showing a genuine interest in what they are saying.
Don't think that you have to be dazzlingly witty for people to like you. If you show an interest in other people, they will automatically become interested in you.
okey, my friend lets call him [n] well hes wayyy to sensitive. here are some examples. last year, he was too afraid to ask out my other friend that when she was standing right next to him, he went behind a tree and called her on her cell from 3 feet away to ask her out!!! omggg, and also when ever im talking to him online, he reminds me like im talking to one of my girl friends, he just wayyy to sensitive. and hes going out with this other girl [l] and he wrote a 2 page note in her yearbook saying that he cant live without her, and he would die if she ever left him, "i love you more then anyone in the world and i know you dont love me as much as i love you, im just glad you love me at all" if you need more info, ask. so what should i do to man him up, what should i do?
Your friend is just a very emotional and sensitive person. It's part of his personality, and nothing you or anyone can do will change the way he feels inside. However, you can help him change the way he ACTS. But keep in mind, people will only their behavior if they really want to, or feel the need to. So you will have to convince him that some of his behavior may end up causing him to be hurt. His note to his girlfriend, for example... acting too clingy or desperate may make his girlfriend uncomfortable, and he may lose her because of it. Tell him this in the nicest way possible, and suggest some other ways he can act. You're a good friend to want to help him. But remember that many lessons in life have to be learned the hard way. It may take an unfortunate event (such as losing his girlfriend) to make him realize that he need to change the way he acts.
so i just went to this place to get my eyebrows done and she like totally did it horrible. im not going to ask for my money back or anything but i am definitely never going back there.
they do not match my face shape and she even waxed the top hairs! i don't know what do to now, i look so ridiculous, im about to cry.. well maybe it's not so bad (i'm not quite sure, but I don't like it) so idk. this sucks and i dont know what to do.. is it going to grow back in horribly? how long will it take? gah..
Well, the good news is that hair grows faster in the summer, so they will probably grow back faster now than if this had happened in the winter. Maybe a couple weeks? A month at the longest. In the meantime, you can try getting an eyebrow pencil and filling them in a little, if you can make it look not too obvious. That will also help cover up the little stubble when they first start growing back. But once they grow back, they should look just like they did before.
ok im a 16/f and this girl who goes to my school won't stop bothering me on myspace. and i've decided that the best way for this to stop is to call her house and talk to her parents but the problem is i can't find her number. i tried looking in the phonebook and way too many people have the same last name as her and i don't want to call every single person. so what should i do?
Well, you can block her and she won't be able to send messages or comments any more. If you really want to talk to her parents, you could try getting her number from her school, or one of her friends who would have her number.
Will the iphone be avaliable at Cingular? And does anyone know how much it will cost?
Yes, it will be available at Cingular (and only at Cingular) and will cost $499 - $599, depending on the options you get with it.
ok so i know alot of people ask about this but me and my friends like to walk around alot when we hangout so i'll pretty much be hanging out with them all summer so do you think if i eat helthy exercise and walk when i hangout with my friends do you think i could lose 30 pounds or more??
Well, eating better and walking will certainly be good for you, and probably help you drop a few pounds. But if you want to lose 30+ pounds, you'll probably need to do a little more vigorous exercise. Find some type of aerobic exercise you enjoy - something that gets your heart pumping and makes you sweat - and do it for at least 30 minutes a day. Some ideas are running, swimming, jump roping, dancing in front of your mirror, biking, or an aerobics class or video.
Is it slutty for a girl and a guy (that liked each other) to publically, loudly, & obnoxiously flirt..like in class? How far would be too far?
Thanks
Well, I would have to say yes... if it's loud and obnoxious, it may be seen as a little trashy. And I would say that anything that disrupts class, or makes people stop and watch, would be going too far. You can still flirt and let someone know you like them without having to let everyone ELSE know, too.
okay so for the past 4 years ive gone to this amazing camp and at the end of this school year i thought i didnt want to go this summer just cause i thought a bunch of amazing stuff would be happening here but today i realized i REALLY REALLY want to go to camp and its not too late to sign up although it's this sunday..they still have spots..so it should all be perfect right? i mean my good friend meredith came last year and shes able to come again this year its all working out perfectly but heres the thing..even though i tell myself I WANNA GO SO BAD AHH I CANT WAIT! something inside me is doubting it and i keep feeling like i should stay here and something important may happen while im gone and also the guy that ive loved for over a year now (and he loves me as well we broke up but we still hang out) is gonna be gone most of july and i feel like im gonna miss out on experiences with him while im at camp but i dunno..is it bad that i keep feeling like i should stay here even though i would LOVE to go or do you think its just common secondguessing and i was just wondering if you guys think i should go or not?
Well, if you go to camp, you're pretty much guaranteed to have a good time. If you stay home, something may happen with this guy, or it may not. I'd go with the sure thing... go to camp! If things are meant to work out with you two, a little time apart will not change things. And besides, like they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. You can still write to him or call/text him while you're gone, and talk to him about some fun things you can do when you're both back home.
Hi I need advice! Can my gyno tell if i masterbate?
No, your gyno will not be able to tell. But even if he/she could, it would not be any big deal at all to him/her, because most people do it and it would be something he/she sees every day. So no worries.
situation:
i was at this party last friday and i ended up making out with this guy who's infamous for hooking up with a lot of girls. my 'friends', L, A, and S, were the ones who made me do it. they said "come on its your first make out and you should do it". without a defense, i did. the next week at school, they told everyone who would hear. they told my prude friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd be ashamed of me), my best gay guy friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd make fun of me), and basically everyone else (because they'd judge me).
problem:
what the heck do i do?!?!
do i stick up for myself?
do i make a joke of it?
do i apologize to my friends who are ashamed of me?
i regret it and i'm mad at L, A, and S.
We've all done things that we regret or are ashamed of. It's part of life! Everyone makes mistakes... and when you do, the first step toward making it better is to forgive yourself. You can't change what happened, but you don't have to let what happened change YOU. You're still the same person with the same feelings and values; you just made a mistake.
Of course, once you've forgiven yourself, you still need to deal with the others who are talking about you or judging you.
I wouldn't necessarily "stick up" for yourself or make it sound like what you did was okay. (if you regret doing it, then obviously you don't think it was okay). If you don't want people to think it's something you're proud of, be honest about that. If the subject comes up, just say, "Yeah, I can't beleive I did that. It was stupid and I wish I hadn't done it."
For the same reason, you probably don't want to make a joke of it. Then it will appear that you think it was no big deal.
Don't tell people that L, A and S "made" you do it. I know you're mad at them for talking you into it, and for blabbing it all over school, but blaming them will just start a fight and turn this into an even bigger deal. And truthfully, they didn't MAKE you do it; you did have the power to say no. You just made a bad choice.
I don't think you need to apologize to your friends (after all, what you did wasn't hurting them)... but it will probably make you feel better if you talk to them about it. Let them know how much you regret doing it, and that you know they're ashamed of you, and that you're ashamed of yourself. If they're true friends, they will understand.
Try not to worry about it too much, though. It may seem like a huge deal right now, but it will blow over soon and everyone will forget about it.
So I am graduating so im 18. The guy I like is also 18. We go to the same school. We're friends. I can tell him anything. Just recently, he started calling and texting me. And he also started making a lot of plans with just the 2 of us. When I hang out with this other guy I used to like (and my friend knew I liked him), he stops talking to me for that day; pretty much completely ignores me or isn't nice. I don't know if he wants to be just friends or more. Help!
Well, it does sound like he may like you! Just keep going with it and see what happens. He may be unsure of how you feel, whether your feelings for him go beyond friendship or not. So let him know in subtle ways... call and text him, suggest things to do together, sit and stand a little closer to him than you normally have, touch his arm when your talking... and see where it leads!
I was looking through your answered questions, & I saw you did a search on a last name.
What is the origin of the last name ZELINA? I know its Irish, but yeah. Its my boyfriend's.
What about Szabo? That is mine.
Thanks!!
Szabo is Hungarian... it means "tailor." Most Zelinas are from Czechoslovakia. So you and your boyfriend's ancestors were pretty close neighbors. =]
Okay, so I know everyone asks tips on how to lose weight, and I'm sorry, but I am another one.
In three weeks, I am going to live at a beach for about a month. I would really like to be confortable with my body in a bathing suit.
I am not like obsese. I am about 5'4, probally a little less. I have fat thighs, and a not flat/kinda chubby stomach/hip area, everything else I'm okay with.
So please, just tips on more things I could do [I don't have access to a gym] Would just running/eating right be enough? but then how often/for how long should I run? Also how could I motivate myself?
Find some type of aerobic activity that you enjoy and can do every day, or at least every other day; something that gets your heart pumping and gets you sweating for at least 30 minutes. A few ideas are:
1) treadmill/stairmaster/stationary bike
2) bike riding
3) aerobics class
4) jogging or walking
5) swimming laps
6) dancing in front of your mirror
Planning out your excerise regime is the easy part, but staying motivated can be hard, especially since it takes a while to start seeing the results. A few tips for staying motivated:
1) If you can, bring a magazine, an ipod, or a book on tape while you exercise, to make it more enjoyable.
2) Make short-term goals and reward yourself when you accomplish them. For instance, for every 5 days you exercise, get yourself a pedicure or a new pair of earrings.
3) Even if you don't feel like exercising, force yourself to do it. It's really easy to get out of the habit if you miss one or two times! But once you get into the habit, it really does make you feel good and you want to keep it up!
Good luck!!!
My cat keeps killing animals. Today it was a baby rabbit. How can I stop him from killing animals? (without making him an indoors cat, which is impossible because he'll go crazy.)
Get your cat a collar with a little bell on it (they sell them at most pet stores). The bell will warn the animals that danger is approaching, and hopefully they can get away in time. Be sure to get the kind of collar that will automatically snap open if it gets caught on something, so your cat won't get stuck on a branch or get strangled.
All of my boyfriend's friends tell me I'm ugly and he can do so much better than me. What are some ways I can improve the way I look? I just don't think I look pretty.
here are a couple of pictures of me (my hair isn't blonde and brown anymore it's dark brown/auburn)
http://s52.photobucket.com/albums/g14/kiirstinthegreat/?action=view¤t=DSC00108.jpg
http://s52.photobucket.com/albums/g14/kiirstinthegreat/?action=view¤t=l_77a2cb1b3f4578957a051490d299f973.jpg
Those are the only pictures I have that you can really see my face
Well, you are definitely NOT ugly!! You are BEAUTIFUL!! You have a very pretty shaped face, GORGEOUS eyes, and pretty lips! You have a true natural beauty. What I would suggest is letting people see what nature has blessed you with, and don't cover it up with too much makeup. If you use a little less eyeliner, but maybe a tad more mascara and eye shadow (in a soft, natural color), people will notice your beautiful eyes instead of just noticing the eyeliner. And play up those pretty lips with some soft lip color.
And tell those stupid guys to take a flying leap!
how can i convince my parents to let me get a cell phone? my mom and dad have one, my older sister has one, and im like the only one except for my baby brother that doesnt have one! and im a 7th grader and like everyone has a cell now except me. and its hard to talk to some people who may not have AIM or something.. plus cellphones are just cool. i mean i dont even have an ipod, pet, or other special privileges other kids get. or maybe i just live in a rich area.. i dunno but often its just not fun.. i always have to listen to the radios like mostly online cause i have like one CD which my friend burned for me.. my parents have like 200 cds and us kids, have like none. its just really not fair.. and like how can i convince them to get me a cell? um also cause my dad's setting up this big company in a diff state so my mom says like we cant do all these things.. like it makes me so mad that like my friends can have sleepovers (I CANT EVEN HAVE THEM!! and my parents wont explain. its just cus they didnt have it probably.. cause i cant even have them with like really close friend and they know the parents and stuff) and always have fun with their families. im always like "your lucky" ALL THE TIME. its barely ever that like people would be like "wow your so lucky you got blah blah" i havent even gone shopping since last year and let me tell you it is HELL to try and not wear the same things over and over.. i borrow my sister's clothes but she doesnt want me to.. but i dont have a choice. it sucks really badly. and its cause my mom likes me having a clean room SO FRICKIN MUCH and when its clean she doesnt say anything and when it isnt she makes a crapload of a fuss about it. and she says she wont buy me clothes till i clean it... i clean it every week and i havent even gotten new bras since.. last year too and i almost was gonna get them last week but she got mad at me and bought my sis stuff.. which she always does when she has so much clothes she can actually put away clothes from lastyear while i still have things like from frickin fourth grade. i occasionaly get bad grades too.. but its like i have nothing really to work for to get them. i mean maybe i'd be more motivated and stuff if i got some perks like that.. i mean i wanna do good in school, but i feel like my childhood may not be as fun since i dont have some stuff. yeah yeah its better to not be materialistic.. but i barely have materials. its like always been this way. my cousins had gamecube and then we wanted it and by the time we got it there were newer better stuff.. and we only had one game. and with gameboys, we got gameboy color, and then around that time everyone had advanced.. and i wanted advanced so bad, then i wanted DS. and other games like DDR and guitar hero 2.. oh my lord. sometimes i know its bad but i wonder what its like to live in a diff family with nicer parents.. not too strict, not too nice, but my parents.. they just arent normal at all and i mean it. we're not necessarily poor or anything too.. i mean why have money when you dont spend it? the last time i went on vacation was in 3rd grade to chicago.. like 4 years ago since im now a 7th grader. we always visit relatives and stuff in maryland and like dont even do anything except be cooped up in a house, the adults talk and cook african foods (im cameroonian) and its very boring at times and i know my cousins also kinda feel the same... that we dont get as much since we have to then like play video games all day.
and one last thing, i just told my mom about like six flags.. i had a field trip to go there but i overslept and we got there when the buses left. if my mom were nicer like alot of my friend's moms, they would have just drove me to six flags, but no i stayed home that day after refusing to go to school. anyways i got my ticket back and its valid through all of this summer coming up. my mom's like "i dont really have any plans to go to six flags this summer i think you should sell your ticket to someone or something" and im like WHAT? cause me and a friend planned to go to the same day.. cause her parents are nice they'd let her just do that and come with me.. but nooo. i cant even go with her family because my family has issues with me being by myself at like places like that. they dont even want me to go to a private pool by myself with my friends at their houses!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! stupid mucH??? ughhhhhh someone please help me or i seriously dont know what id do..
Well, you've listed a lot of different problems here, but let's talk about the cell phone. You need a plan to convince your parents to get you one. But to make a good plan, you first need to figure out the real, main reason that your parents don't want you to have one. It could be any one (or more) of these reasons:
1) They really feel they can't afford it right now
2) They can afford it, but they don't think you *need* one so they don't want to spend the money on something that isn't necessary
3) They're afraid you won't be responsible and will go over on your minutes, costing them a bundle
For reason #1 (they think they can't afford it): You'll need to convince them of how LITTLE it's going to cost them. Most cell phone companies have family plans that let you add additional phones at very little cost. Call the company that your parents & sister use, and find out exactly how much it would cost to add another phone to the plan. Type out the information and give it to your parents. It may be less than they think. If it's going to cost them, say, an extra $50 a month, and they still think that's too much, you might want to offer to give something up that costs about the same price (classes you're taking, etc). Or ask them if there is some job you can do around the house to earn that amount of money.
For reason #2 (they think you don't need one): You'll need to convince them of how CONVENIENT it will be for THEM if you have one. They can call you any time to make sure you're okay, or to find out what time to pick you up from activities, etc. It sounds like they don't like you to go out by yourself with friends, because they're worried about something happening to you. If you have a cell phone, you can call them or they can call you at any time to make sure you're okay! Having a cell phone will give you and your parents more freedom and they won't have to worry.
For reason #3 (they're afraid you'll go over on your minutes): well, of course you're going to promise that you won't do that. And the logical arguement is to tell them if you DO go over your minutes, they can take the phone away. But once they sign a contract for the phone, they will still have to pay a monthly fee, whether you're using it or not. Just tell them that even the THREAT of having your phone taken away will be enough to make you very careful about being responsible with it.
By the way, my daughter is in 8th grade and she has a cell phone. For a long time I didn't want her to have one, because I didn't think it was necessary. But now that she has it, I'm soooo glad she does! It's been great for both of us, because I don't have to be by her side at all times now. I can let her do more of the things she wants (going over to friends' houses, football games, parties, school activities) and I always know that I can call her whenever I want to see how things are going. She can call me when it's time to pick her up, instead of me getting there early or late. You can tell your parents that, and maybe that will help some!