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my parents are SO ANNOYING
how can i convince my parents to let me get a cell phone? my mom and dad have one, my older sister has one, and im like the only one except for my baby brother that doesnt have one! and im a 7th grader and like everyone has a cell now except me. and its hard to talk to some people who may not have AIM or something.. plus cellphones are just cool. i mean i dont even have an ipod, pet, or other special privileges other kids get. or maybe i just live in a rich area.. i dunno but often its just not fun.. i always have to listen to the radios like mostly online cause i have like one CD which my friend burned for me.. my parents have like 200 cds and us kids, have like none. its just really not fair.. and like how can i convince them to get me a cell? um also cause my dad's setting up this big company in a diff state so my mom says like we cant do all these things.. like it makes me so mad that like my friends can have sleepovers (I CANT EVEN HAVE THEM!! and my parents wont explain. its just cus they didnt have it probably.. cause i cant even have them with like really close friend and they know the parents and stuff) and always have fun with their families. im always like "your lucky" ALL THE TIME. its barely ever that like people would be like "wow your so lucky you got blah blah" i havent even gone shopping since last year and let me tell you it is HELL to try and not wear the same things over and over.. i borrow my sister's clothes but she doesnt want me to.. but i dont have a choice. it sucks really badly. and its cause my mom likes me having a clean room SO FRICKIN MUCH and when its clean she doesnt say anything and when it isnt she makes a crapload of a fuss about it. and she says she wont buy me clothes till i clean it... i clean it every week and i havent even gotten new bras since.. last year too and i almost was gonna get them last week but she got mad at me and bought my sis stuff.. which she always does when she has so much clothes she can actually put away clothes from lastyear while i still have things like from frickin fourth grade. i occasionaly get bad grades too.. but its like i have nothing really to work for to get them. i mean maybe i'd be more motivated and stuff if i got some perks like that.. i mean i wanna do good in school, but i feel like my childhood may not be as fun since i dont have some stuff. yeah yeah its better to not be materialistic.. but i barely have materials. its like always been this way. my cousins had gamecube and then we wanted it and by the time we got it there were newer better stuff.. and we only had one game. and with gameboys, we got gameboy color, and then around that time everyone had advanced.. and i wanted advanced so bad, then i wanted DS. and other games like DDR and guitar hero 2.. oh my lord. sometimes i know its bad but i wonder what its like to live in a diff family with nicer parents.. not too strict, not too nice, but my parents.. they just arent normal at all and i mean it. we're not necessarily poor or anything too.. i mean why have money when you dont spend it? the last time i went on vacation was in 3rd grade to chicago.. like 4 years ago since im now a 7th grader. we always visit relatives and stuff in maryland and like dont even do anything except be cooped up in a house, the adults talk and cook african foods (im cameroonian) and its very boring at times and i know my cousins also kinda feel the same... that we dont get as much since we have to then like play video games all day.
and one last thing, i just told my mom about like six flags.. i had a field trip to go there but i overslept and we got there when the buses left. if my mom were nicer like alot of my friend's moms, they would have just drove me to six flags, but no i stayed home that day after refusing to go to school. anyways i got my ticket back and its valid through all of this summer coming up. my mom's like "i dont really have any plans to go to six flags this summer i think you should sell your ticket to someone or something" and im like WHAT? cause me and a friend planned to go to the same day.. cause her parents are nice they'd let her just do that and come with me.. but nooo. i cant even go with her family because my family has issues with me being by myself at like places like that. they dont even want me to go to a private pool by myself with my friends at their houses!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! stupid mucH??? ughhhhhh someone please help me or i seriously dont know what id do..
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Wow that's kinda rough. I have a brother that's in 7th grade so i think i know how you feel. I had a similar situation, minus the cell phone. I got mine right before 8th grade because i got lost at a theme park... but that's beside the point and i don't recommend getting lost. for now, ditch the idea of a cell phone or ask for it the way that Jeanne suggested. as for clothes, layer them, change it up a bit... ask your sister nicely for the clothes she doesn't want. i didn't get a lot of clothes back then and really, you will be ok. you outgrow them too fast anyway. for bras and shoes, yes you can beg for those cuz you probably needdd them. what i think you should do is make a list of things you need and things you want and be specific so you can't just add 14 more shirts to the list. example:
need--
gym shoes, 2 for $5 flip flops, 2 underwire bras, 3-4 undies, white beater, brown cami, green shirt (get basics that you can wear with everything)
want--
mp3/cellphone, trip to 6 flags, psp.
then make priorities... get the stuff you need (and find the cheapest place possible) and maybe try for ONE of the things you want.
after like 8th grade, i don't think any girls really play with video games... computers & tv win over games. do you REALLY need an expensive game thing? just play it at a friends house. you only want it because you don't have it.
the trip to 6 flags won't make you life amazing. it's nice to go but you can live without it. if you set LOW expectations, you will get at least some of what you want.
my family vacations when i was younger were more than hellish... no really. you will grow up soon enough and get to do whatever you want. i know it seems like you are going to be 13 forever, but really, it gets better. save up your money for high school... the things you want now will just seem childish to you by then and high school is what really matters. if you need anything else, let me know. <3
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you really really don't need these things. I went through middle school without having a cell phone and I was fine. You have a house phone to call people or have people call you.
You don't have video games? We didn't have a television until I was 10 and we got cable maybe 3 years ago. My brother had a gameboy (the original in black white) when the advance came out because he was able to buy it off of a friend. I had dolls that my grandma gave me and we generally just played a lot with the neighbor kids. A lot of stick-ball. No real bats or a place to play so we made things up to get by.
I also didn't have a great deal of clothing until junior year in high school and it shows in pictures. But who cares? I was a kid. You don't need to be fashionable when your big concerns are passing 8th grade and going to high school. It may seem important now, but I'm actually really glad that my parents saved money then. Now that I need to be presentable for working, I can look the best because of the money my parents set aside. Sure, you need bras and underwear, but it sounds like you demand so much that your parents are put in the awkward position of having to deny most of everything otherwise your demands will get bigger. There are an infinite number of things to buy in the world and you have finite money that you don't earn yourself. To your parents, your pleas for bras may sound like a ruse just to get you things.
so what do I suggest? a little ingenuity. Go to the library and take out books on tailoring and making clothing. Just take out books period. They're a great deal better than video games and they're more convenient for any situation. My first suggestion is Honky by Dalton Conley. Take up a cheap hobby or a useful one like cooking. Give a little for your family in a way that suits you best and maybe they'll give a little back when they see you doing more than being miserable. We live in a priviledged world, so take advantage of what you have to work with and don't worry about keeping up with your peers so much. If you absolutely have to then do something that makes your parents want to help you out of your situation. Do chores or try to find work to do in your neighborhood. If you go to church regularly, ask for information about childcare. These things you don't need to be 16 for and you might enjoy them and you will enjoy the money.
After all, your parents could see you doing things and do little things for you like lend you a cell phone when you go somewhere with your friends so they know you're safe or buy you a new pair of shoes. You never know until you try.
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Don't worry to much, Parents can be like that. Maybe you should ask your mom about it. Also ask if you can have a sleepover, ask for a cell phone, ask for new clothes, and keep asking, not mean or annoying like, but mentioning it like.
Good luck!
Abigil
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lol ok number one...leave the cell phone aside now,its not as important as the clothes and underwear.I think you should tell your mom that you need to talk to her,sit her down and DONT ACT RUDE or raise your voice.Act all sad and sensitive and tear up(thats how you feel RIGHT!?so its not lying)and tell her that it hurts you to see that everyones getting new clothes all the time and you havent gotten anything for a whole year,tell her that you feel leaft out at school and that everyone gets new things and that you dont.Tell her that your breast size grows and obviously your gonna need bigger bras and newer underwears and stuff,you cant possibley wear the same underwears that you wore last year.Get that problem solved first then chek with the others.
As for the sleeping over your freinds house,you might see it totally normal like everyone eles does but your parents dont.And tell you the truth they have a right to not let you sleep over.What i mean is all the shit happening out there about girls getting raped by their best freinds brother or father,or girls turning lesbian and all confused cuz of slumber partys and sleepovers,im pretty sure thats why your parents wont let you.The seventh grade is a sensitive year with mixed emotions and stuff and your parents dont want any confusion for you.They wont explain to you now because they probably think your too young.Mabey when your older theyll let you,when they think youve matured enough.MY PARENTS DONT LET ME SLEEPOVER AND IM 16 loool haha.
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Well, you've listed a lot of different problems here, but let's talk about the cell phone. You need a plan to convince your parents to get you one. But to make a good plan, you first need to figure out the real, main reason that your parents don't want you to have one. It could be any one (or more) of these reasons:
1) They really feel they can't afford it right now
2) They can afford it, but they don't think you *need* one so they don't want to spend the money on something that isn't necessary
3) They're afraid you won't be responsible and will go over on your minutes, costing them a bundle
For reason #1 (they think they can't afford it): You'll need to convince them of how LITTLE it's going to cost them. Most cell phone companies have family plans that let you add additional phones at very little cost. Call the company that your parents & sister use, and find out exactly how much it would cost to add another phone to the plan. Type out the information and give it to your parents. It may be less than they think. If it's going to cost them, say, an extra $50 a month, and they still think that's too much, you might want to offer to give something up that costs about the same price (classes you're taking, etc). Or ask them if there is some job you can do around the house to earn that amount of money.
For reason #2 (they think you don't need one): You'll need to convince them of how CONVENIENT it will be for THEM if you have one. They can call you any time to make sure you're okay, or to find out what time to pick you up from activities, etc. It sounds like they don't like you to go out by yourself with friends, because they're worried about something happening to you. If you have a cell phone, you can call them or they can call you at any time to make sure you're okay! Having a cell phone will give you and your parents more freedom and they won't have to worry.
For reason #3 (they're afraid you'll go over on your minutes): well, of course you're going to promise that you won't do that. And the logical arguement is to tell them if you DO go over your minutes, they can take the phone away. But once they sign a contract for the phone, they will still have to pay a monthly fee, whether you're using it or not. Just tell them that even the THREAT of having your phone taken away will be enough to make you very careful about being responsible with it.
By the way, my daughter is in 8th grade and she has a cell phone. For a long time I didn't want her to have one, because I didn't think it was necessary. But now that she has it, I'm soooo glad she does! It's been great for both of us, because I don't have to be by her side at all times now. I can let her do more of the things she wants (going over to friends' houses, football games, parties, school activities) and I always know that I can call her whenever I want to see how things are going. She can call me when it's time to pick her up, instead of me getting there early or late. You can tell your parents that, and maybe that will help some!
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