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I'm 13/f.Me and my current ex boyfriend decided to break up.But we promised we'd try and move on,and if we couldn't,we'd get back together.Now,I really wanna get back with him,but my mind and heart are saying two different things.My heart is saying yes,but my head is saying no.I'm really confused.What should I do get back with him,or don't? (link)
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Why did you break up in the first place? What was the reason? Were you happy in the relationship or not?
There's plenty of fish in the sea. No one can tell you what you need to do. You need to decide that for yourself. When I was younger I go look for answers to questions that only I had the answer to. Be smart about it and don't just go back to him because it's safe or familiar. Good luck!
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So I finally have a boyfriend, which I havn't had for about 2yrs now. Iv only had "friends with benefits"... and I think I might be a little overdramatic because he hardly talks to me. I get like 2 txtz a day and no calls since we had sex. Am I being weird? I mean he works but he doesn't work all day, I even txtd him and he told me he was with friends, I said well txt me when u have time 4 me, and nothing... :( (link)
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Have you talked to him face to face and told him how you felt? If this guy is your boyfriend you should be able to talk about anything. My belief is that if you truly care about something you wil go out of your way to call them for 5 mins out of your day. If it's making you this upset I would walk away. Why do you want someone treating you like that? You deserve someone who is going to make you feel good about yourself and someone who wants to hear how your day was. Don't settle for this guy...move on and say "NEXT".
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I'm a 26 year old female and I have a dilemma, I've been talking to a guy for over a year... but it's mostly been on the phone. And like today I told him I love him, he didn't say it back...well I texted it to him, and he didnt text it back... he just said "lol wrong person"... and then I replied back like," that was a jacked up response"... and he just shurged it off... and when we finally got on the phone, he didn't even talk about it. And I felt soooooo awkard that I opened myself up to say that and he didn't even respond back. So I kinda forced him to talk about it... and he said that he like me but he didn't feel the same way... because we mainly talk on the phone... I was crushed because I talk to him all day, well I text him all day and talk to him on the phone all night... and this has been for over a year... what should i do...? should I move on? (link)
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My advice is to move on. He told you how he felt, he said "he liked you...but didn't feel the same way". Rejection can hurt but don't let it get you down. The way he handled that situation just shows that he's immmature.
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Hey my husband has been deployed about a year now and he will be coming home in the next month or two. We've been married for about 2 years now and we have no children. Lately I've felt like I've been very disconnected emotionally with him. We do talk almost everyday but its not like how it used to be in the beginning of the deployment. He doesn't seem excited to talk to me we have been bickering a little more and i'm starting to take a step back and think what is happening here. I've become a completely different person than i was a year ago. I'm more independent, realize i can actually live by myself and take care of myself (something i never thought i could do) I know people say it's the distance just wait until he gets home but when he came home on his 2 week leave all we did was bicker about little things. I'm afraid that when he gets home i'm still going to feel not as attached as i was in the beginning and that scares me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated i do rate so please anything would help. Thank you! (link)
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Sometimes relationships have ups and downs. I'm not a therapist but it maybe that there is a distant coming between you or maybe its just a phase that your relationship is going through. Question is: Are you happy?
Do you think that this may continue through your marriage? What do you bicker about?
I think if you're feeling a disconnect its definitely something that you should worry about. You need to find answeres to these questions and figure out something thats going to work for you.
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I'm 16 ;3
My boyfriend broke up with my yesterday and I feel terrible. We've been dating for a year and 8 months..and I don't want it to be over. He's in a general an amazing guy, we've had *ALOT* of issues, but we always got threw them..
I'm the type who gets attached, when I fall more in love..and when I fall more in love I become more cautious. He said I don't trust him, I worry to much.. etc.
He said he'll always love me ;// but I want him to come BACK..we've had so many good times, we've connected so much & I miss him, I really do.
Is there any hope of him coming back?...Should I just give up? ;/ (link)
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Well has he told you the reason why he wanted to break up? Was there an issue that maybe never got resolved?
I'm exactly like you when I'm in a relationship I'mm cautious but I've learned I need to worry more about me and not the other person. I worry way to much about losing the person that when I actually do lose the person I'm caught off guard. Maybe you can talk to him and see what he says and see how he feels. Maybe what you two really need is a break or maybe its not meant to be. I can't tell you whether or not he's coming back thats up to him and what he wants. You can tell him you want to work it out but its up to him whether or not he wants to. You also need to respect his decision whether good or bad. Worry about you right now and what you want. Try not worrying about him. Good luck and feel better!
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Help!! what should I do if my ex-bf says were going out but were really not??? but he thinks were together though. but I told him that were not and he still doesnt get it. what do i do??? (link)
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The only thing left to do is to cut ties with him. Don't contact him whatsoever. (Phone, Facebook, Twitter, etc) Make it clear and known that you are not dating and that he needs to respect you and leave you alone.
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My best friend and I use to spend almost everyday together. We are both females & 26. I have a 1 year old daughter and my best friend is/was a significant part of her life as well. Her boyfriend just quit his job because he is moving 6 hours away. He's not positive when he's moving but possibly in 2 months. Now that he has quit his job they spend every night and day together. The only time I see her is if her BF has something else to do. This really hurts my feelings and I'm feeling taken advantage of. She came to my house last night,for the 1st time in 3weeks (her BF was at one of his friends house). She couldn't get here until 12:30am but we planned on watching one of our favorite shows and even though I had to get up at 6am w/ my baby I so badly wanted to spend time w/ my friend. Well we didn't even get to watch our show because a half hour after she got here her BF called and said he wanted to go get something to eat and so she left. I'm not the kind of girl that gets jealous of my best friends relationship w/ her bf. It just drives me nuts because I could never imagine treating a friend like that and then expecting that friend to be there for me 100% when my BF moves away. Its even more hurtful because I have a one year old daughter that she use to see everyday and now hasn't seen her in over a month. My friend always says "I feel so bad that I haven't seen you guys but he's moving so I want to spend as much time with him as possible". I feel like my friendship is being taken for granted. Am I being selfish or being taken advantage of? (link)
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I know how you feel, I have a friend spends time with her boyfriend. Have you talked to your friend about this? Have you told how you're feeling? I told my friend how I felt but she's going to do what she wants to do and I have to accept that. I can't make her hang out with me but I can however tell her how I feel. Maybe ask if you can have a day during the week that is planned for just you and your friend? That day is dedicated to the two of you. That way she isn't spending all her time with her boyfriend. If that doesn't work than I would suggest finding some new people to hang out with so you aren't always waiting around for her. It stinks but sometimes things get in the way of friendships. At this time its a little bump in the road but I'm sure you two will figure something out.
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Me and my boyfriend just broke up because I couldnt seem to feel secure in the relationship and he just wasnt making me happy anymore.
Ive never felt so bad though :/ like i honestly think i might be going into depression. I broke it off last night but I cried a lot and he just kept agreeing and saying we werent meant to be right now. He did say that he really wanted to date me in a year when he wasnt so focused on school and boxing. (It was long distance) I just feel so hurt and like none of our 2 years was real :{ I guess im asking for help and advice on how to get over this. im in a really bad place and I dont want to feel this pathetic and sad for too long. Do you guys think he really means it when he says he wants to be with me in the future? (link)
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Break ups are hard.
It's going to take time especially because it was last year. It's not like you're planning on going out tomorrow and going a date. You had feelings for him but it just didn't work out. You also did what was best for YOU, and you weren't happy. You need to grieve for a bit and just think about what you want. Don't worry about him in the future. If you two are meant to be you're meant to be. If he is the one you're meant to be with it'll happen. There is no telling what the future holds for you though because there maybe someone who fits you better. I believe things happen for a reason. Try to stay positive! Good luck!
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I'm 15f I want boys to like me but how can I get them to I feel like the guy should make the first move but when I do I feel stupid bc it ends up failing and me being upset... I want to be happy I seem t cry way to much and I hate it I want to be happy and carefree I hate having to care about what to do bc of boys I just want to be happy help (link)
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Well first off a boy is NOT going to make you happy you have to be happy with yourself. A guy is just something extra in your life he's not a necessity. You need to be yourself and be comfortable with who you are first. Guys don't always need to make the first move. For example there have been many times I have put myself out there and the guy didn't feel the same way. And that's okay. I always said to myself what's wrong with me? Until I met this guy that I had been crushing on for quite sometime. I finally told him how I felt and he told me he didn't feel the same way. I apologized told him I felt stupid for even saying anything. He told me I shouldn't be ashamed to tell a person how I feel and that whenever "one door closes another one opens". He was right. Don't beat yourself up because you don't have a boyfriend. You don't need to have a boyfriend. Try putting yourself out there and meeting people and eventually you will find a guy who can make you happy but add on to the happiness you already have. Good luck and hang in there!
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I'm 13/f,and my boyfriend Derek 16/m and I have been dating for a week and four days.We talk alot,but don't get a chance to see each other,because of our busy schedules.We used to talk everyday,but it's been a week,since the last time we talked.We have time to talk,but we don't.Well,I'll talk to him,and he'll say hi,and he missed me,and I won't hear from him again,unless I talk to him again.I'm really confused.Does he still love me? Should we keep our relationship,or call it quits?Help!!!!! (link)
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Sometimes age can be a factor in a relationship. It can sometime hurt more than help. And sometimes our lives go in different paths as well. You have to ask your questions:
Does he make me happy?
Is he what I want in a boyfriend?
Do I see a future with him?
If you answered yes to these questions then I would say stick it out. Maybe talk to him and ask him seriously where he feel like this is going. If you answered no to all these questions I would just move on. If you're waiting around for a response from him all the time than you should think do you want to continue in a relationship like that. It's up to you to decide in the end.
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17/F
My boyfriend and I just aren't working out. We share interests and stuff, but he hardly talks to me and then he apologizes for messaging me too much, when he hardly does at all. I tried to tell him it was fine and I wanted him to talk to me, but he said he just doesn't know what to say. I'm pretty sure he does like me, but he doesn't know how to act. I'm his first girlfriend, I'm assuming.
There's no passion in this at all and I feel like we're strangers whenever we meet. Problem is, I just don't know how to break up with him and ask to still be friends. I've never been good at breaks up and I always waited for the other guy to go first, but I don't think he's going to break up with me any time soon... How can I break up with him and still be friends? (link)
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Breaking up is never easy but its something we all must go through. If you don't feel like its working out then you should end it. And it looks like you have made that decision. I think the best thing to do is meet him face to face and tell him. Be honest. Saying it face to face is a respectful way of doing it even though it might be hard for him. Instead of doing it over the phone he'll have much more respect for you if you just tell him in person. Tell him how you feel and let him know its not working out. Let him know however you would still love to be friends. Just be honest with him and things will work out. Good luck!
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I'm already in a long term relationship, but I have had a crush on another guy for almost 2 or 3 months now. I know it's wrong for me to have feelings for someone else, but it's not going away. I even told my boyfriend about it, because I feel so wrong about it, and I feel like he deserves to know since he is the one I am with. My boyfriend obviously was upset and since he knows the guy, he basically hates him now, which is to be expected and I completely understand.
So naturally I don't know where I stand with my boyfriend now. We've discussed my feelings, but I definitely have mixed feelings. I have love for my boyfriend but my mind keeps wandering towards someone else.
Everyone I've sought advice about this has said the same thing: It's wrong for you to have feelings for someone else, so stop communicating with the new guy you have feelings for and eventually the feelings will go away. And reevaluate your relationship with your boyfriend: either be in it, or out of it.
So I've tried to stop talking to the guy I'm crushing on, but I honestly don't want to. I keep going back and fourth about it.
And I think I have chosen to continue to stay with my current boyfriend, and I think we're both happy to be dating each other, but I still have these other lurking feelings for someone else and it's BOTHERING ME so much!!! What do I do? (link)
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It's not easy being in that kind of situation. I've been there before and its hard to figure out what is right and what is wrong.
First off, its unfair for your boyfriend because this could make it seem like he's missing something or not doing something right. What does this other guy bring to the table that your boyfriend doesn't? What is it about your crush that attracts you to your crush? Is it his looks? Or do you like his personality? In the end its about the personality and looks aren't everything, I'm not sure if it was the best idea to tell your boyfriend but since you already did you may have worried him about where this relationship is going and how you really feel about him. Relationships go through many tests in life and it depends on how you keep it together through the good and especially the bad times. I was a situation like this for a year and a half, sadly, I was thinking about this other guy constantly. I never told my boyfriend at the time but I figured he knew. I would sneak off to talk to this guy and just to hang out with him. In the end not only did I create a conflict for myself but i was hurting someone else. I followed my heart and it lead me to other guy who I cared about so much. That's not to say that you should leave your boyfriend but put yourself in his position. How would you feel if he did that to you?
You need to really think about this and think about what you want. And you should figure out soon because the more you become curious about this other guy the more you'll push away your boyfriend and miss what's really important. Take sometime to think and listen to your heart but think with your head.
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You know i use to think i had everything figured out for my own good but looks like this is just something i need alot of answers. Heres my situation: Me and my boyfriend have been dating almost a year next month. And we went on a break not too long ago like late july. Well...on his birthday july 23rd he invited me and i rode with him to his party. It was me and him and my best friend his brother sister and the rest of his family. then he invites this girl. Who he had apparently grown to like on our break. well that hurt my feelings because we were suppose to be working on "us." but we got back together shortly. and now that we're dating i told him to lose contact with her. and a couple times hes slipped up and texted her and stuff.Well so yesterday and today she went to cvs where he works and bought things like a drink and stuff. And i told him i was going to text her, "Theres a walgreens across the street." she doesnt have my number and its not even mean. But he flips out telling me not to do that or hell be pissed. and then i said ok im just going to ask her if yall still talk. And he said DO NOT DO THAT. and a bunch of bull about he doesnt want me to texting her and i should trust him. But if he isnt talking to her shouldnt he not worry about me asking if they are?.... (link)
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Trust in a relationship is one of the most important things in a relationship. Communication goes along with that as well. If you took a break from the relationship things happen your significant could either being thinking about if the relationship is a good move of if there is something else out there. Now that you two are back together you should just trust the fact that he picked you and that he's with you. Worrying if there is another girl is only going to make you go crazy. Understand that he is with you for a reason and concentrate on the relationship that you have with him. If there is evidence of why you shouldn't trust him or that you feel he maybe cheating then I would suggest sitting down with him and having a talk and if he does change move on. It's not healthy to not have trust and communication in a relationship.
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14/f
Last night a boy that I've liked for 2+ years started texting me. We talked for 2 hours and then he asked me if I wanted to go to the Exhibition (like a fair, with rides and stuff) with him. I really wanted to, but I told him I was going to my cottage and couldn't. I don't think I'm allowed to even go on group dates, let alone one on one. He also asked me to a dance 2 years ago, but I didn't really like him then, and I said no.
The thing is, my family sort of knows about this boy, but not in the best way. I used to tell them stories about him, cause he is a bit crazy and nerdy, but sweet and cute at the same time. I kind of left the sweet and cute part out. I really want to ask my parents if I can go, and they aren't crazy overprotective so they might say yes. I just don't know if I can handle all my family (aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, sisters, and parents) and friends, with their opinions and ideas. What should I do? (link)
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Do you care about this guy? Does he make you happy?
Then in the end thats all that matters its not about anyone else its all about you and him. I've had boyfriends in the past that my family has absolutely wanted nothing to do with but at the end of the day I realized its not about them. It's about me. Some may say you're too young to be dating, but if you really care about this boy I would say go for it! And why not? If he makes you happy than its all the more worth it. I'm sure your family is just looking out for your best interest and they want whats best for you. In the end they just want you to be happy thats all! Good luck and have fun!
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17/F
I asked a few questions a while back about dealing with my overly shy boyfriend. Recap: He's super shy and he's a couple years younger, but he acts even older than I do sometimes. He knows when to be a kid and when to be an adult. Problem is, he doesn't seem to know how to act around me. He turns red and squirms when he has to kiss me or if he's sitting next to me on the couch.
And this is how I tried to solve it. I myself am shy, but I forced myself to overcome it today and invited him to a double date in town. I tried so hard to get him to talk and to order something to eat, but he wouldn't. He just smiled some of the time or laughs quietly as if he was stuck. I tried to urge a conversation about his job and about how life is, but he wouldn't go into it. I know guys draw the line at talking about certain things, so I avoided deep questions. Just normal questions. I really hate to say this, but I don't think this relationship is working out. And it's hurting me to even think about breaking up with him, but he won't discuss it. Should I just break up with him and ask to be friends or maybe keep trying? (He does seem to like me, but he's just too shy to do ANYTHING.) (link)
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The question do you see this relationship as a long term thing? And are you happy? If you're not happy I would consider ending it. Your boyfriend being shy is the way he is. If you can accept it than continue in the relationship but if you can't accept it I would talk to him about it and consider just being good friends. It really in the end depends on what you want and what makes you happy!
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I'm sorry, I've posted my love life questions over and over again but I don't know what to do. I just need help.
My boyfriend used to be so sweet to me. He used to shower me with compliments and make me feel so happy and so loved. He is the first guy that I've felt strongly for in a long time. We get along so great but lately our relationship has been on a rough track. He ignored me all day Thursday and I got very worried. Long story short he was out drinking and got mad at me when I was only concerned. So today I really was depressed. He ignored my call when we were supposed to make plans to see each other today. He's changed so much since when we first started dating. He's very short and blunt with me and he doesn't compliment me or reassure my doubtful feelings. All he says is, "we're fine" or "sorry". We talked about it and he said I am getting too clingy and he doesn't like that I got upset when he didn't talk to me on Thursday. I told him I'm sorry and I just am naturally a very loving person that cares too much. (My therapist told me since I was abandoned as a child I always get attached easily and care too much and I need to stop doing so..) I told him we'd work on it and that's that, but I would like if he puts some effort in making me feel appreciated too.
I'm probably going to see him later tonight but I need to grow out of my clingy tendency. Please help... (link)
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No need to be sorry you just want answer and a reason why theres nothing wrong with that.
Well its best that you both come to an agreement of what you want out fo this relationship. I love my boyfriend but I love my space too. So what I like to do is hang out with him but I like to make time for my friends as well. We might hang out one day and not talk or call each other the next day and thats fine. Thats how my relationship works. I know everyone is different though. Maybe you and your boyfriend can come to an agreement of some kind of routine. Don't worry so much about him, you need to worry about yourself and take care of yourself. I am the same way with caring too much I wear my heart on my sleeve all the time. Just be comfortable with you and be confident in yourself!
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I've been dating my boyfriend since June 8th. It was perfect from the first time we met. We had good chemistry and a lot of things in common, with the same interests and quirky silly attitudes, to the love of animals and art. He and I got along so great.
In the weeks that followed, it couldn't be any better between us. He was everything I wanted, complimenting and comforting me, so loving and so romantic. He always showed me he cared and never let me down. He told me how much he loved me everyday and made so much time for me and invited me to family events. His family really enjoyed me. But somehow it all went downhill. I became punished and got my phone taken and wasn't allowed to see him but when I was off punishment he practically died when he heard I was back. He was so excited. Everything went great and we called each other every night, but then around Thursday, things just got sour. He ignored me all day and I got worried. We got in an argument because I got scared and he didn't tell me he was out drinking, so on and so forth. The next day everything was fine. He apologized and so did I, and it went smooth. However, yesterday wasn't so good. I called him and he ignored my call but answered my texts saying that he is awake. He stopped texting me back and then I stopped talking to him and asked what was wrong. He said I was too clingy and he got mad from what I did Thursday. So I gave him space. Today he and I are supposed to go to the river and he was told to wake up at ten but he isn't answering and I'm upset. He disappoints me all the time. I love him but I don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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Well you have two options.
The first option is to confront him about it and ask him why he's acting the way he is. Most guys in the beginning of a relationship are in the honeymoon phase. So ask him about whats going on and how you can fix it. And then see if he fixes it and if not you should think about option two.
The second option is move on. No one likes this option but its something you should consider. If you aren't being treated right why would you want to stay with him. One person can be the relationship because it takes two people. If he is going to ignore you and treat you like this its not fair and it should notbe allowed.
So my advice is talk to him and see what happens. If he doesn't change you need to consider the other options. Good luck!
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I've been with this guy for a year. he's been nothing but good to me. He used to tell all his friends "She's the one." "She's the one i want helping me make a life." we're packing 'em up for college here in August.. I need help, before i can't get out.. I've lied to him. My friend was having a sleep over && we, kissed. i mean it was no make out or touching but (kiss).. I mean not horrible? && i haven't cheated.. But, i talked to my ex. He text(ed) me a time or two? i text(ed) back. I felt as if i had no other choice! he was trying to get to me threw my sisters.. once my boyfriend found out the my e was trying to get with me, he went & beat the snot out of him! when he found out i talked back to him.. he was pissed.. i mean.. he didn't even care if i wasn't flirting or not.. he didn't leave but, i know how bad he wanted to.. he says i'm a horrible person && that he has no more trust in me. i asked him the other day why he was still with me and he answered with, "cause." I'm not a bad person?.. everyone makes mistakes right?? why is he still with me?? (link)
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Although you were honest you still kissed your ex and after the fact you stood up for him. I can see how your boyfriend would be upset and very concerned as to why you a) kissed your ex in the first place b) why you would even want to text your ex and c)when you talked back to him as if you were almost standing up for your ex. An ex is an ex fort he reason. Your ex is the past and your boyfriend is the present. Last year, I was texting old flings and my boyfriend knew this. My boyfriend was curious as to why I would even want to keep in contact. Your boyfriend is probably really hurt right now and is wondering what to do. Boys don't cry when they get upset they get angry. My advice let him cool down I'm sure he still has feelings for you but you have to realize hes hurting right now. You're not a bad person but you did however make a mistake. We all make mistakes thats what makes us human. He is still with you because he cares about you. Relationships are hard and this is a bump in the road. Now its up to your boyfriend if he can overlook this little bump in the road or maybe its something that he might not be able to deal with. Give him sometime to cool off.
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I like my bestfriend who happens to be dating my other bestfriend:/ I feel like I'm betraying my bestfriend just by liking her boyfriend. I've had this "connection" with him for 2 years now but it just never lead to anything serious like a relationship. He flirts with me and it's obvious he has feelings for me. But he's dating my bestfriend and I would never do that to her. I don't know what to do. I had my chance with him last year but I let time go and now I'm his "best friend for life" as he calls me:/ what can I do? Tips on how to get over him? Thank you:) (link)
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First off, you're not betraying your best friend because you like her boyfriend. You can't help who you like, it just happens sometimes. Its nice of you to understand though that you can't pursue this any further than friends because you clearly care about your friend and her happiness. I can't give you tips to get over him but what I can say is go out and meet other guys. Meet new people and just realize that someone will eventually come along and you'll find someone too.
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We live across the country from each other and I am visiting him this summer... scared of his family, I'm pretty sure they don't like me already and I'm afraid it's going to be really awkward, HELP (link)
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I live 5 mins from my boyfriend's family and I was pretty sure they didn't like me. Just be yourself and get to know them. I didn't think his family would like me at all but it turns out I'm okay with them. Try to get to know the mom and maybe even his siblings. I'm still shy with my boyfriend's fmaily but I'm slowly coming out of my shell. Have fun and don't worry too much about it!
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