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Visting my boyfriend this summer
We live across the country from each other and I am visiting him this summer... scared of his family, I'm pretty sure they don't like me already and I'm afraid it's going to be really awkward, HELP
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Simple psychology: if you think that they don't like you, you're going to perceive whatever they do as being negative. That in turn will make you act negatively towards them, which will result in them acting negatively towards you.
Think about WHY you think they don't like you. Have you had lengthy conversations and meetings with them? Could their abrupt or cold attitudes be attributed to how you were feeling that day or extraneous circumstances (i.e. the dad wasn't too cordial because maybe he had an argument with a co worker earlier that day? Are they just not as welcoming and social as the people you're used to or want/expect them to be?)
Go visit him family with a fresh mind! Especially if you're traveling across the country to see them! I recently visited my boyfriend's family (well, half of them) for the first time and I was anxious but everything turned out well even though his dad is a strongly opinionated workaholic and his brother is pretty dry when it comes to meeting new people.
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I live 5 mins from my boyfriend's family and I was pretty sure they didn't like me. Just be yourself and get to know them. I didn't think his family would like me at all but it turns out I'm okay with them. Try to get to know the mom and maybe even his siblings. I'm still shy with my boyfriend's fmaily but I'm slowly coming out of my shell. Have fun and don't worry too much about it!
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All you can do is be yourself,. parents generally sometimes don't like the person just because they are over protective people. Don't stress over it too much,. if it was meant to be,. it would be.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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