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We live across the country from each other and I am visiting him this summer... scared of his family, I'm pretty sure they don't like me already and I'm afraid it's going to be really awkward, HELP (link)
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Simple psychology: if you think that they don't like you, you're going to perceive whatever they do as being negative. That in turn will make you act negatively towards them, which will result in them acting negatively towards you.
Think about WHY you think they don't like you. Have you had lengthy conversations and meetings with them? Could their abrupt or cold attitudes be attributed to how you were feeling that day or extraneous circumstances (i.e. the dad wasn't too cordial because maybe he had an argument with a co worker earlier that day? Are they just not as welcoming and social as the people you're used to or want/expect them to be?)
Go visit him family with a fresh mind! Especially if you're traveling across the country to see them! I recently visited my boyfriend's family (well, half of them) for the first time and I was anxious but everything turned out well even though his dad is a strongly opinionated workaholic and his brother is pretty dry when it comes to meeting new people.
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I feel like "Will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" is grade school. When you're an adult how do you know?
I've been talking and seeing this guy for a couple months now and I don't really know how to bring it up. I'm ready for a relationship with him but is he? I don't want to seem like I'm rushing him into it or if he even wants one period. (link)
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Oh gawd. Okay, so I've been with this guy for close to 8 months now and honestly, I've had to have 4 "talks" with him to clarify what we were and weren't.
There is no explicit rule that says "If he does X, Y, and Z, you're official." You can't also play things like this by ear. If he just wanted to date you but didn't want to be "official" with JUST you, then there will be a lot of feelings hurt. I know it sounds "childish" but you do need to explicitly have a talk with him.
Just ask something along the lines of
-Where are we going in this relationship
-What are the boundaries
-I want more commitment/solidarity from you
-I want to clarify what we are and where we stand
-etc.
You don't have to verbatim ask "Are we bf/gf yet?" but you can ask around that to get enough information to determine that.
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I am skinny, yet my face is chubby, Hair cut advice, its looking dull and flat.. and makeup advice? thanks How old do you think i look in this picture? (link)
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Hair:
-Try out light blunt bangs or whispy side bangs
-Layer & shorten your hair a bit more & maybe some volumizing shampoo
-Maybe add in some waves or loose curls
Make up:
-Darken your eyebrows
-Dark eyeliner & mascara
-Soft lip color
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Can I put my period on hold for a day? I heard vinegar works but how? (link)
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You can't stop your biological functioning. If it was possible, every female out there would be putting their periods off forever. Maybe if you were on BC pills and skipped the "reminder week" it might work. But even that is up to chance.
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Can consuming Cum/sperms cause pregnancy? (link)
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Swallowing semen will result in semen going through your digestive system which is separate from your reproductive system.
NO.
Honestly, you shouldn't be doing any sexual acts until you know the most basic, common sensical information.
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If your boyfriend cum in you then you go pee does the sperm in the toliet to or not? (link)
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(1) urine and vaginal fluids come out of DIFFERENT holes.
(2) if he came in you and you went to the bathroom right after, due to the laws of gravity, semen will come out of your vagina while you're peeing.
(3) I suggest you hold off on sex until you're old enough to know these things.
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So there's this guy in his early twenties that I've been talking to for about 2 weeks now; we work together and he was hired recently.
I talked to him first: Besides the fact that I was drawn to him for some reason, I wanted to be friendly to him because he is new to the job. Turns out he has a really great personality and lately we have been flirtatious. The problem here is that we are both in relationships already.
Our flirting is all done in the workplace: very casual, mostly verbal although he has tried to make it physical - for example, today he poked me, and I playfully responded, "poking me? what is this, facebook?" and when he asked me for my number a few days ago, I told him I had a boyfriend, because I don't plan to take things further with this guy while I am in a relationship, although I do enjoy flirting with him and am anxious to see him again.
For the 9 months I have been dating my boyfriend, I have been completely faithful to my boyfriend, but I must admit that I have noticed this work guy - I mean, I'm not married and am still young so I guess it's okay to always have your options open, right? I am wondering: Do most guys think that way too about their relationships, or is it just me?
I am wondering why the guy from work is flirting with me despite the fact that he knows I have a boyfriend, (pretty much every time I encounter him lately he says, "where's your boyfriend?") and I know he has a girlfriend but I have not met her.
It doesn't seem like he is flirtatious with any other girls at work, so I guess I'm wondering if he is interested in me in spite of his relationship. To be honest, I've been thinking about him...guiltily of course.
I guess I need some evaluation on why I am flirting with him and why he is flirting with me. My question is: Why would someone flirt while in a relationship if both people involved are already taken? (link)
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Flirting with other guys to may be okay to some extent. But if you intent to let this go on for a long time, you may want to rethink your relationship with your boyfriend and this co-worker.
If you two have been together for 9 months and both of you think it's okay to flirt around with another person for extended periods of time, you two definitely need to talk and establish some solidarity between you two. Personally, if my boyfriend was doing what you were doing, I would be absolutely pissed off and wouldn't be able to trust him. Some guys are more sensitive to situations like this than others so I can't really speak for you boy. But I do know that if I was flirting with a co-worker the whole time I was at work behind his back, I would feel guilty AND he would not be happy and will reconsider our relationship or lack of.
Also, the fact that this co-worker of yours has a girlfriend and is flirting with you openly is sketchy. His girlfriend would not be happy. You may become "the other girl," whether it be true or not. And do you really think that this guy that is openly flirting with another person while being in a relationship is the "best choice"? I think that guys like him are always just out for the "thrill" and the "chase" - they want to know that they "still got it" and can "score chicks" even while they are in a relationship.
In my opinion, guys like that are just complete jerks and should not be messed around with. That's what they do and trust me, they will not be thinking of you nearly as much as you do of him.
You need to re-evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend. Do you really want to risk hurting his feelings and losing his trust (maybe even him) for a guy that is openly flirting with a girl while he has a girlfriend? Even if you two were to get together, do you want a guy that you know has no problems flirting other guys while he is a relationship with you? Do you really like HIM or the attention he is giving you despite your relationship status and his as well? Is it an infatuation or do you think it's more serious?
I would think more about this before making anymore flirtatious moves.
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so.. my friend and i had sex but not to the point where my cherry was broke & im not shure if he "got excited" in me or not.. if he did.. is it possible for me to get pregnant? (link)
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If his penis went in your vagina and you weren't using any form of protection (i.e. condoms, birth control pills, etc.), then there is always a chance that you can be pregnant. It doesn't matter if he "got excited" in you or not. If he was aroused, it is not unlikely that he would have at least had pre-seminal fluids. It is possible that there was sperm in there. If that goes in your vagina, it can fertilize and egg & result in pregnancy.
Not to be offensive, but you sound way too young to have sex, and have much to learn before you can be responsible being sexually active. I would hold off on having sex until you know what you're getting yourself into. And definitely use protection unless you want a baby.
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As a young kid, I was always fat. It never really bothered me until I starting going to public school in 5th grade. I wanted to do something about it, but I never ended up doing anything until 7th grade. That year, I was battling depression (I know it seems like a young age but I get upset really easily) and I started to skip breakfast and eventually lunch. I would eat a snack when I would get home and then a large dinner. Despite what health specialists say, I lost most of my stomach fat. A few months later, I stopped all of that. Recently (I just finished 8th grade), I started to feel fat again because I started gaining more weight even though all of my friends assured me that I'm not. I don't consider myself to be vain, but I just don't want to relive the fat years of my early childhood. I don't want to be anorexic again so what should I do??? (link)
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I know exactly what you're going through. I went through the same exact mentality summer after 6th grade and still do frequently. But sometimes you just have to tell your head to shut up and kick this "fat" mentality in the butt. I know it's really hard, I really do understand. I still go through long phases of anorexia and bulimia. The one thing I wish I did earlier on was realize what I was doing to myself and seeking help.
It's great that you're recognized that this is an issue and I'm extremely glad that you don't want to fall into this whole other world again. I know it'll be hard but it's best if you talk about it sooner than later. If you push it off, this "I'm fat" mentality and habits will become engraved deeper and deeper to the point where it will be impossible for you to even discuss it, let alone stand to hear the words "throw up" or "skinny."
You're still young and you really do need to "seize the day" and enjoy life. Don't let anorexia beat you and rob you of everything. Talk to your friends and help them keep you focused on eating 3 healthy meals a day. Cook dinner with your parents and go on short walks with your friends. You might not have to EXPLICITLY tell you friends and family you're dealing with anorexic tendencies. But if you approach them and ask them to join you in leading a healthy lifestyle, it may be easier for you to deal with this mentality and eventually bury it away.
Try to eat every meal with your family and friends, Spend lots of time around people and have some healthy snacks with you at all times.
I know you know that eating disorders are nothing to mess with. Now take that knowledge and apply it. I'm not saying that it's easy. It won't be. But it's worth it and extremely important that you deal with this soon.
If you need to talk, you can always inbox me.
Good luck!
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I have babysat before but I have never babysat this girl. She is really sweet and she is 7 or 8 years old. What are some things we can do? I'll be going over to her house. The job is tomorrow. Movies and pop corn? What all could I do with her? Some really exciting things. I'll be over there for about 6 hours. Thanks!!! Also what kind of food should I make for lunch? Thanks soo much!! (link)
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When you get to their house, ask the parents if she likes to eat a particular dish or if they have some pre-made food in the fridge for her. Usually, an Easy Mac or simple sandwich will do. If her parents say something vague, ask the girl what she would like to eat and they'll have no problem telling you what they want.
As for things to do, I'm sure she'll have toys and movies to keep herself entertained in the house. Depending on her personality, playing tag or kickball outside can be fun. Or arts & crafts and playing pretend games can be fun too. Watching a movie can be fun, but some parents don't like their kids watching too much TV or playing video/computer games so be aware of that.
It really depends on the child...But the one key thing is that kids of that age will have no problems telling you what they want to do. And they are perfectly capable of entertaining themselves when things slow down.
Don't try to plan out or dictate what will happen during those 6 hours. At 7 or 8 years of age, they're seeking autonomy and will let you know what they want and what they want to do.
Good luck!
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