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How do you know if you're in a relationship?
I feel like "Will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" is grade school. When you're an adult how do you know?
I've been talking and seeing this guy for a couple months now and I don't really know how to bring it up. I'm ready for a relationship with him but is he? I don't want to seem like I'm rushing him into it or if he even wants one period.
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I know exactly how you feel. these days its too old fashioned to ask him out on a date, so ask him if he wants to go for a drink sometime, or meet up one weekend. Then see if he arranges anything with you after that if he does he's clearly that interested. If he wants to see you he'll make it happen. after a while ask if he wants to start 'seeing' you this prettuy much means carrying on going out and it may lead to going out, but it won't mean he's under pressure and I doubt he'd say no to that, good luck :) xx
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Oh gawd. Okay, so I've been with this guy for close to 8 months now and honestly, I've had to have 4 "talks" with him to clarify what we were and weren't.
There is no explicit rule that says "If he does X, Y, and Z, you're official." You can't also play things like this by ear. If he just wanted to date you but didn't want to be "official" with JUST you, then there will be a lot of feelings hurt. I know it sounds "childish" but you do need to explicitly have a talk with him.
Just ask something along the lines of
-Where are we going in this relationship
-What are the boundaries
-I want more commitment/solidarity from you
-I want to clarify what we are and where we stand
-etc.
You don't have to verbatim ask "Are we bf/gf yet?" but you can ask around that to get enough information to determine that.
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Ask him to dinner or for drinks its more to the point
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Ask him!!1 Look i know you like him but dont waste your time. Ask him if you are in a relationship because he needs to know that you are exclusive and cant do other things that he can. There needs to be bounds or else you will get hurt. Dont be afraid to ask. You really need to find out and i suggest soon.
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