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Too attached.
I'm sorry, I've posted my love life questions over and over again but I don't know what to do. I just need help.
My boyfriend used to be so sweet to me. He used to shower me with compliments and make me feel so happy and so loved. He is the first guy that I've felt strongly for in a long time. We get along so great but lately our relationship has been on a rough track. He ignored me all day Thursday and I got very worried. Long story short he was out drinking and got mad at me when I was only concerned. So today I really was depressed. He ignored my call when we were supposed to make plans to see each other today. He's changed so much since when we first started dating. He's very short and blunt with me and he doesn't compliment me or reassure my doubtful feelings. All he says is, "we're fine" or "sorry". We talked about it and he said I am getting too clingy and he doesn't like that I got upset when he didn't talk to me on Thursday. I told him I'm sorry and I just am naturally a very loving person that cares too much. (My therapist told me since I was abandoned as a child I always get attached easily and care too much and I need to stop doing so..) I told him we'd work on it and that's that, but I would like if he puts some effort in making me feel appreciated too.
I'm probably going to see him later tonight but I need to grow out of my clingy tendency. Please help...
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I've been in this same situation before and the best advice I could give you is to stop trying to contact him. At this point, he knows that regardless of his behavior, you will still be there to call him and you still want to be with him...and he seems to be taking advantage of it. As hard as this may be, you should give him a taste of his own medicine. See if he comes to you. I think that you NOT talking to him would peak his interest more than continuously calling him or being clingy. He's still your boyfriend, so even if you don't initiate conversation he WILL eventually have to. You should give it a try, it may turn out better than expected! Good luck!
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No need to be sorry you just want answer and a reason why theres nothing wrong with that.
Well its best that you both come to an agreement of what you want out fo this relationship. I love my boyfriend but I love my space too. So what I like to do is hang out with him but I like to make time for my friends as well. We might hang out one day and not talk or call each other the next day and thats fine. Thats how my relationship works. I know everyone is different though. Maybe you and your boyfriend can come to an agreement of some kind of routine. Don't worry so much about him, you need to worry about yourself and take care of yourself. I am the same way with caring too much I wear my heart on my sleeve all the time. Just be comfortable with you and be confident in yourself!
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well tobe honesy growing out of abandonment issues is a real bitch (excuse my language) but it is, and im not speaking from a therapist standpoint. I am actually a victim of it and i tend to feel like other people aren't clingy enough for me , so maybe u need to find someone clingy like you or just dont tell your boyfriends about the way you feel and try to not act concerned and maybe just tell a friend you can trust and stuff like that .. i hoped i helped
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