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18/f
I'm sorry, this is long... But advice and responses would be much appreciated! Thank you!
So me and my ex-boyfriend broke up a month ago. But we were still acting like we were together for a while. A couple of days ago, he was acting a bit weird and he was becoming less affectionate. He said that he didn't notice, and that he was just stressed out about a lot of things. And 2 days ago, he told me he loved me and 30 minutes after that he texted me saying, "we need to talk. I read your blog." My blog was a place I write in private and he was the only person he could read it (which he only does once a month).
My blog was about him. How he's been treating me a bit badly, and I was writing out how I felt and afterwards I would feel better. (He usually doesn't like it when I talk to him about how I feel because we're not not together).
He texted me the next morning telling me that I should make my life easier and just move on.
During the beginning of those text messages, I said "if you don't like me, then just say so." And he said, "ok. I don't like you. Take care" So because of that text message, that's when the whole conversation happened. And I asked him if it was true because it didn't make any sense when he told me he loved me the night before. And he said, "it doesn't matter." And I said, "I want you to be honest with me. I don't want you to say that just because you want me to move on." He replied, "On what conditions would you move on?" And I said, "Idk... But is it true?" And he said, "Whatever you think." "I want to know." "I don't care."
We messaging back and forth that day, until I basically got the last word. He didn't answer because I was "too stubborn to get through." and because he was "tired of this."
And after all of the text messages, he texted me 4 hours later randomly saying, "my family are at ______" Me: Huh?? Him: "They're going to be back tomorrow." Me: Oh. Him: "Let's have sex. Come over. Just kidding." Me: What??" Him: I was kidding. Me: K. Then afterwards he said, "bye" and I asked why, and he said that he was moving to another country for a year to study there as well.
And of course, I'm a very gullible person so I called his best friend and asked. His friend told me that he's most likely joking because he already applied for another university and he got a loan to go there. So I tried tricking him into telling me the truth after I heard that. And at the end he said, "He needs to eat. Plus, I don't want to go over there to tell you. It was a joke."
I'm not sure if he did that because he was bored, or because he wanted to get a reaction out of me since I wasn't talking to him much after that conversation. Or he was saying that to try to get me to move on. And right now, he's acting cold-hearted to me. We haven't spoken all day today. But he still kept our relationship status up on facebook.
So does he still like me?
Yes, it was my fault for venting on my blog. I should've put it on private for him not to see. (link)
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I think he definitely still has feelings for you. If he just wanted to end your relationship, he wouldn't continue to play his games, and as insignificant as it sounds he probably wouldn't have kept his relationship status the same. If he decided to randomly text you 4 hours later without talking, then he definitely wasn't kidding. He wanted to see how you would react. That's what guys do...they say what they're really thinking, then they say "just kidding" so they don't get themselves in trouble for what they say. Trust me, one of my closest guy friends does this all the time and it gets me so mad.
I think there needs to be some changes in your relationship...definitely consider making your blog private or try talking to him about things first before you put it online.
So yes, I definitely think he still likes you. Good luck girl :)
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Alright so I woke up at 9:30pm and I'm still awake. I'm so0o0o0o0o0o tired, but I don't wanna go to sleep! I'm trying to stay awake til like 8 or 10pm. I'm trying to get my sleeping schedual switched around. So what should I do to stay awake? HELP! (link)
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I would take a couple naps throughout the day so it won't mess up your sleeping schedule, but I think after a few more hours you'll start to get your second wind :) it always happens to me. Take 5 hour energys or drink Monster/coffee...it can really help!
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Okay, this is random but I just wanna know okay :))
I may need a genealogist or whoever knows how to compute these kinds of stuff.
My dad is a full Canadian.
My mom's dad is half Canadian and her mom is a full French. (That'd make her 1/4 Canadian and 3/4 French?)
Anyways, what I'm trying to ask is what is the fraction/percentage of my French and Canadian roots?
Growing up I usually say I'm 1/4 French and 3/4 Canadian but is that really the right computation?
When I add a full Canadian (1) with a (1/4) Canadian, mathematically, that'd make be 5/8 Canadian. Doesn't sound cool to say "I'm 5/8 Canadian"
LOL. Really, I'm just curious. And it's hard to explain to other people cause I'm not exactly half French and half Canadian.
So yeah. If you could help me out, that'd be really nice.:)
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I think you kind of answered your own question here! When I added it up, I got 5/8 Canadian and 2/8 French. This means you still have 1/8 of some mystery nationality since you said your mom's dad is only half Canadian.
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When my boyfriend and I cuddle, what does it mean when he playfully nibbles my back, neck, and ears?
female 18 (link)
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It means he's definitely really into you..and probably wants to do more than just cuddle.
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im talking to a guy who is 21 and im 17. i really like him and he says he really likes me. but i heard the only reason he is talking to me for sex. my friend asked him and he said no. what should i do. should i keep talking to him or not. im still a virgin and he isnt. (link)
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How did you hear that? You can never know for sure, so I'd give this guy a go. Tell him that you don't jump into things and you like to take things slow. If he is really just in it for the sex, I highly doubt that he would be willing to spend the time to slowly develop a relationship with you. And if he does..then good for you because it means he's really into you :-) Good luck!
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I'm 14. I'm supposed to be having the time of my life at school, but my life is anything but fun. I've never had a best friend.. and I'm far from popular. I used to be friends with a gang of girls but when I got close with one of them all of them were really mean to me and started ignoring me. They're the popular ones now. So I kinda became friends with these other bunch of girls but they ditch me all the time and I can tell they don't really care. I just started a new year of school, and I've been nice to everyone I know. And the popular girls talk with me like friends but they just start planning on hanging out even when I'm around but don't invite me. And today I was standing with the only girls who talk with me and the popular girls just called all of them and invited them to go to a movie in front of me but left me out. Like, WTF?! What did I do to make them go out of the way to make me cry? 'Cause I cry everyday and I have NO FRIENDS. Should I just die? (link)
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Here's the thing: you're awesome, and you shouldn't die. I think every 14 year old has experienced this at some point, probably even the ones you consider to be popular. I know you've probably heard this so many times, but it's the truth. And everyone always learns it when it's too late...but BE YOURSELF. Don't try to fit in with other people because people know when you're trying. People are drawn to other people that have their own unique being. Even if you aren't a natural-born leader, you can try to do something new. Instead of waiting for an invitation, ASK others to do something. Have a party at your house or something. People will ask you to hang out more if you ask them to hang out too! Trust me, this happens to everyone and this is just a phase. The beginning of high school can be the worst sometimes..but find a good group of nice people and invite them over!
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im 13 female and my boobs hurt....but not growing hurt...everytime i grab them it hurts and i dont even grab them hard......is this normal...whats happening??? im confused!!!!! (link)
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The same thing happened to me when I was your age too, I think it happens to everyone. I know you might think it's not growing pains but honestly it probably is. It also means that you're due for your period pretty soon-the sad and unavoidable fate of all women.
Trust me, you've got nothing to worry about! If you get too nervous about it you can talk to your doctor for some peace of mind, but I think this is just a stage that every girl goes through.
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I'm sorry, I've posted my love life questions over and over again but I don't know what to do. I just need help.
My boyfriend used to be so sweet to me. He used to shower me with compliments and make me feel so happy and so loved. He is the first guy that I've felt strongly for in a long time. We get along so great but lately our relationship has been on a rough track. He ignored me all day Thursday and I got very worried. Long story short he was out drinking and got mad at me when I was only concerned. So today I really was depressed. He ignored my call when we were supposed to make plans to see each other today. He's changed so much since when we first started dating. He's very short and blunt with me and he doesn't compliment me or reassure my doubtful feelings. All he says is, "we're fine" or "sorry". We talked about it and he said I am getting too clingy and he doesn't like that I got upset when he didn't talk to me on Thursday. I told him I'm sorry and I just am naturally a very loving person that cares too much. (My therapist told me since I was abandoned as a child I always get attached easily and care too much and I need to stop doing so..) I told him we'd work on it and that's that, but I would like if he puts some effort in making me feel appreciated too.
I'm probably going to see him later tonight but I need to grow out of my clingy tendency. Please help... (link)
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I've been in this same situation before and the best advice I could give you is to stop trying to contact him. At this point, he knows that regardless of his behavior, you will still be there to call him and you still want to be with him...and he seems to be taking advantage of it. As hard as this may be, you should give him a taste of his own medicine. See if he comes to you. I think that you NOT talking to him would peak his interest more than continuously calling him or being clingy. He's still your boyfriend, so even if you don't initiate conversation he WILL eventually have to. You should give it a try, it may turn out better than expected! Good luck!
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ok i like these 3 guys and i dont know for sure if they like me or not. one of them has a girlfriends and the other 2 dont. like any other middle school girl i keep my love for them a big secret. my question is how to make sure i know that they like me or not. (link)
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Stay away from the guy with the girlfriend! That's just asking for trouble. As for the other two guys..try to flirt with them or talk to them a bit to let them know that you're interested. Your question didn't really give me much of an idea how the other two guys feel about you- how do they act around you? If you want it to go anywhere with one of the two guys, I wouldn't keep your love such a big secret anymore :) Start a convo with one of them and see where it goes from there.
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I love animals -- and I've always loved animals. Now, I have a kitten and he's absolutely sweet, and adorable though he likes to bite and scratch me sometimes.
Regardless, I honestly just feel like hurting him but I don't know why! All sorts of things come into my mind on how I can hit him, or kill him.
And I've already a couple of times, roughly thrown him or shoved him off of me when he was jumping on my hand/fingers to bite.
I mean I also get these thoughts about my family members from time to time as well like my brother. I love him, but even sometimes I want to kill him and I get really odd thoughts like wanting to stab him while he's asleep, or this one time when I was renovating my closet.. I felt like bashing his head with a hammer while he was alseep.
I don't know what's wrong with me (besides being crazy)! (link)
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Aren't we all crazy though. I think you should just lay down and evaluate yourself...any reason why you could have pent up anger or want to hurt something? I know that sounds stupid but it's the truth. I don't think you're crazy. This happens to my best friend too...he's the funniest and most awesome dude you'll ever meet but he always tells me how he fantasizes about the way he would kill people when he doesn't like them or if he's mad at them.
Basically, having the thoughts isn't the problem, it's doing it that's the problem. Everyone is crazy, everyone thinks they're crazy in some way....but as long as you can keep yourself controlled then it's ok. DON'T throw or shove your cat..if you really can't control it then you have no business owning a cat I'm sorry to tell you. And for the love of god please don't stab/hammer your brother.
Hopefully if you just chill and think about what makes you like the thoughts of hurting something...whether its some kind of pent up anger, etc....you can figure out for yourself how to stop having those thoughts.
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this is long but I'll try to make it short. so I've been seeing this boy for one year now but we broke up recently because he said he's still in love with his ex but i told him i'll wait on him maybe his feelings will fade away however the other day i was running true my girl friends phone which is his friend too but she happen to be really close to him than me anyway i saw some text msg from him telling her how he's crazy about her, during our relation we had problems because of her but he would always say they jus fren and she would say he's jus like i brother to her thus i found out that she would be talking about me with him how im with his friend etc . i still like this gay altho we left we still act like we together we still ahve sex etc . is he worthed and is she really my frien? (link)
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From what I hear it sounds like you initiate most of your relationship. The fact you told him that you would wait for him even when he admitted to being in love with someone else after a whole year probably makes him think that you are always someone he can depend on if he wants a relationship. He's obviously talking to your friend but he still acts like he is in a relationship with you and he still has sex with you.
I don't think this guy is worth it. There are plenty of guys out there and even if you feel like you love him now, you're probably gonna meet someone a thousand times better in your life and laugh at yourself for even liking this dude. As for your friend, I don't think she's really doing anything wrong. I mean, the guy is the one who told her that he was crazy about her, it doesn't necessarily mean the same for her. If she's a good friend to you otherwise, keep her.
Hope this all works out for you girl!
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So my boyfriend went out of town a few weeks ago and promised he'd kiss me when he got back and that sorta didn't happen we both got nervous and he kinda kissed me right above my lip... so anyway he's gone again and I had been so mad that I didn't go for the kiss the last time so I promised I would kiss him on our next date which is in a week. I'm terrified! I really want to kiss him because I love him but I'm just so nervous about how to bring it up and when to actually do it on our date. This is my first kiss and his also so I have no idea what to do.
14/f (link)
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Trust me, I've been where you are. I've had my fair share of awkward first kisses and things like that. Maybe you feel that you're not ready and that you're too nervous...but who really is ready for a first kiss? If I were you, I wouldn't "bring it up", I would just try to let it happen. When you talk to him, be kinda flirty and keep getting closer to his face...maybe make a joke about it somehow saying he missed your lips last time. Basically, no advice is really gonna help you with your first kiss. You may have a plan all worked out, but it totally changes once you're in the situation. All I can say is...good luck and kiss that boy!
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