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Should I Just Die?
I'm 14. I'm supposed to be having the time of my life at school, but my life is anything but fun. I've never had a best friend.. and I'm far from popular. I used to be friends with a gang of girls but when I got close with one of them all of them were really mean to me and started ignoring me. They're the popular ones now. So I kinda became friends with these other bunch of girls but they ditch me all the time and I can tell they don't really care. I just started a new year of school, and I've been nice to everyone I know. And the popular girls talk with me like friends but they just start planning on hanging out even when I'm around but don't invite me. And today I was standing with the only girls who talk with me and the popular girls just called all of them and invited them to go to a movie in front of me but left me out. Like, WTF?! What did I do to make them go out of the way to make me cry? 'Cause I cry everyday and I have NO FRIENDS. Should I just die?
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Here's the thing: you're awesome, and you shouldn't die. I think every 14 year old has experienced this at some point, probably even the ones you consider to be popular. I know you've probably heard this so many times, but it's the truth. And everyone always learns it when it's too late...but BE YOURSELF. Don't try to fit in with other people because people know when you're trying. People are drawn to other people that have their own unique being. Even if you aren't a natural-born leader, you can try to do something new. Instead of waiting for an invitation, ASK others to do something. Have a party at your house or something. People will ask you to hang out more if you ask them to hang out too! Trust me, this happens to everyone and this is just a phase. The beginning of high school can be the worst sometimes..but find a good group of nice people and invite them over!
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okay, first of all you should NOT die. these girls are just acting like little girls and are insecure. I have a friend just like you, i noticed that my other friends were being mean and little witches towards her. i'm on the popular side of my school and problems like yours always happen. i told my friend to just keep her head high and ignore them. She thought i was just lying to her to make her feel better. she finally realized who her real friends were and she was happy again. DONT cry. its nothing that bad to worry about. sometimes my friends do that to me to. its just not people who arnt popular its everyone. i don't worry about it and i just let it pass by because at the end of the day i rather have no friends then have friends that act like that.
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The truth is school is tuff and it will be tougher if you let it. First I want to say Im very sorry what your going through. I went through something similar around your age and I just felt like nobody gave a shit about me, etc. To quickly answer your question:NO!!!!! You should not kill yourself here are some reasons and some tips to survive what your going through, So listen up:
1. Do you really want to give up on precious life cause of some catty girls? Yeah this is a tuff question cause I totally understand you want to fit in and of course who doesn't want some friends to hang out with. But if they are being bitches towards you, forget them. Don't let anyone make you feel less of a friend or like your not cool enough etc. You are you and by the sound of it you sound very cool and down to earth. Be yourself do what you like, activities, sports, dance etc. where you can meet people that have the same interest as you.
2. Do you really want to give those catty girls the power of YOU?
Ok, so they are popular well known around the school etc. BELIEVE ME sweetie it is not the end of the world. You are way to cool and precious to even be close to give someone else the power. How about you do your own event and/or outing? Friday night comes around ask some friends to catch a flick. None of those friends want to then be-friend someone in your class that you never noticed. You will be surprised how many kids in your school are not involved in the "popular circle" or whatever. If you notice the popular girls are scooping in to take YOUR friends away, confront them. My point is, don't EVER let anyone have the power and/or control of your life, cause it's true you should be having fun not thinking of killing yourself.
3. If the popular girls wanna hate you it has to be cause your just that fabolous. The number one reason why people do things as what your going through is cause they have low self esteem and are purely jealous.
4. Now to tackle the hardest part, your parents. This is hard cause they gave you life and now say mean things. Im a mom and I cant imagine saying those things to my son, however I do admit how frustrating parenting is. That is absolutely no reason to make you feel horrible. I strongly suggest you call your own family meeting between you and your parents and express how you have been feeling and how that comment they made to you has affected you.
I truly hope you gain the will that you need to tackle all this. You are very courages and I hope I have helped you at least little. Please don't kill yourself, take it one day at a time and I promise things do get easier. If you need to talk or need more advice inbox me. Good Luck and stay strong. Don't let them get you :)
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Suicide is not the way to go. Instead of following the people at school and trying to befriend anyone you can, why not start your own image? Look through your closet, match up a new outfit or buy a new one, get a hair cut, and do a makeover. The key to getting girls like that to like you is how you act. If you act like you don't need them, they will come to you. Instead of befriending the girls, you should be trying to befriend the boys. Getting the boys helps get the besties faster. It's not you at all, its how you are presenting it. Girls prey on girls they can make cry and feel like they are worthless, but if you present yourself as this confident, carefree girl, they will respect you. And in turn, want you to join their group.
I don't know if you can get this, but sure I can help more just send me an inbox message.
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No you should not kill yourself.. You are a nice caring person and if they cant see that oh well... The song Mean by talor swift reminds me of you... they hurt you now but someday you are going to be better off then them... they are just jelous of you because they know that you are wonderful and you are going to do great things and their lives will always suck and all they are ever going to be is mean... good luck best wishes
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