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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

theres this kid i want to hook up with.. hes my friends cousin.. we havnt met yet but we probably will soon.. the thing is hes skater/punk and im like prep... i dont know how we will be able to go out together with eachothers friends if were so different.. my guy friends would probably make fun of him.. and i dont want that.. i just hope he likes me for me..

Aww .. hehe. If you both like each other go for it!! I`m sure he would like you for you because if he didnt like you then why would he talk to you before? l0l I know how you feel tho but it doesnt really matter what your friends think about him but then it does. If they say anything about him talk to your friends about it. Hes the same person as any of them but he just dresses differently. But again.. if you both like each other go for it! x0

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Okay, my friend...Let's call her Jill, is really in love with this guy...Let's call him Jack. She's liked him since 6th grade. Well, Jill is one of my best friends and Jack, he's in my 2nd period and hes been flirting with me alot the past few months, and i'm sorry to say I've flirted back.
Well, this morning, he gave me a note and explained to me that he liked me. And then I heard him talking to his friend about me.

I really like this guy and I want to go out with him but I still want to be friends with Jill.

-I know that I should talk to her about it, and everyones telling me that if she's a good friend she'll support Jack and I's relationship, but i know deep down that there will be some sort of awkwardness around Jill.

So the question here is: How can I have a relationship with Jack, without ruining my friendship with Jill?

O0 gosh I hate when that happenes. Do you really like this guy as much as you say you do? Would you risk loosing a friend like Jill for a dude? Think about it. Guys come and go but friends.. its different. I know you like him and you guys should go out but if she likes him to then.. well other people are right if she was your true friend she would respect you 2 liking each other and going out. I know that she would be hurt inside. Just think about it and do what ever you think its best! x0

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I just found out my boyfriend is a bisexual...i don't know what to do, it freaks me out

Lucy

l0l dont freak out! hes the same dude exept he likes guys to! im sure he would want to go out with you still because of that so ask him about it. x0

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Alright, I was up at a skating rink I always go to and I was skating, I saw this guy who was skating backwards. Im one of those who just doesnt let a guy get to me. For some out of the blue reason, he started talkin to me. I was so stunned by him, thers no way anyone could understand how shocked I was to see him. I didnt even know him. So about a week later hes down here again at this rink. We talk and I find out hes from Brewton, AL. Its only about 50 min. away from Milton. Im a Sophmore and hes a Senior, theres something about him that strikes me (in a good way) We start goin out about half a month later, Things were so good between me and him for weeks and I liked him a lot, I even lost my virginity to him. I dont why but I coudlnt resist him. It felt like something told me it was okay, so weeks later Im starting to feel like he doesnt like me, because hes not comeing down to see me. (Plus he had a good reason he had wrecked his car a couple weeks back because he was driving home from my house at like 3 in the morning and hit a deer.) For three weeks I keep my calm, and listen to his reasons for not comeing.. Finally on the 4th week I call him for 3 days in a row.. not getting an answer, I finally leave a message. Saying that " We cant be together and I dont think its gonna work and that if he wants to talk give me a call" A week goes by and I decide to call him, We talk and I ask him why he never returned my call.. he says he was too mad that I had ended it. I asked him if thats the way he wanted things to be, he sed "No,not at the time, but it would have ended that way eventually" Thats about all was said.. So here it is a month later. And my friend sees him down at Opps Alley a place down here close to Milton, She talks to him about us breaking up, and if thats what he wants. He tells her no,but now it doesnt matter anymore. I really have feelings for this guy, and he doesnt know it. I know, that to call him wouldnt make a difference, because its just not gonna work. But I think about it and what if Im suppose to call him? If something wasnt meant for me and him at all..Why'd God put him there that one night at the skating rink,when he lives miles away? And why was it me he noticed, and what made me notice him ? You think theres was anything there..or am I just tryin to make myself believe something might actually be between us ? And before you answer I've had lots of quick relationships,except for 1 that lasted about 6 months. So Im not falling for him cause hes like my first boyfriend or nothing, I've had experience.

I`m not trying to sound mean but I think he just might of used you for sex. I mean right after it he left and didnt call or anything. But that might not be true and I dont know. Maybe you guys had something there between you guys or maybe not. He seems like an asshole for doing that to you!! I honestly think that you should move on. If you really love him maybe you tell him how you feel and see what he would do about it. You guys could try again. But I think that you could do better without him because he seems like one of those people who doesnt change or even knows what they are doing wrong. By moving on, you wont have to worry about him hurting you again or anything and I`m defenetly sure that you can find a better guy for you because you seem really sweet! Hope I helped!! Good luck! x0

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Sometimes I don't know who I am anymore. For the most part ive become a really sophisticated, goody good with really STRONG morals. I always do homework and go to church. I never -- cheat, steal, drink, cuss, smoke, do drugs, ditch school, party, sneak out, have sex, listen to rap, etc. But sometimes i get sick of being like that. Sometimes i just want to bust out my old dirty, rap collection and live life a little. But then later the goody/serious side of me DESPISES rap because its so degrading and disgusting. The thing is.. it's not about rap music. (That was just an example of how im like two different people within hours or days.) I really dont think i have a split personality or anything to that extreme. I just dont know who I am anymore. One part of me wants to stay moral, and the other part of me wants to break free and live. How do I find out who i truely am when both of these WAY DIFFERENT personalities keep showing?

Live life!!! I know that you wanna be good and theres nothing wrong with that but theres also nothing wrong with having fun! Your only gonna be a teenager once and never again so you wanna have fun right now! I think you should hang out with more energetic and fun people!! Live your life now you cant go back later! x0

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can u get herpes from giving someone without herpes head? like do they have to have the disease for u to get it? PLEASE HURRY! im very worried :(

no

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I need to know some of your opinions on popular computer brands. I'm in the market for a new computer. The one I'm on right now is a Peice-of-Crap. So, if you have any experience with certain computers or prefer any certain computer please let me know.

Get a DELL. They are good! x0

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13.f
alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.

I rate 5s.

Manda.

Oh my gosh. I`m so glad im not the only one. I know exacly what your going through and belive me I know how hard it is. I havent been doing it that seriously like really really deep but I have done it pretty bad. My friends found out and they took it like it was a huge deal which I didnt think it really was. All they were saying was stop and stop and you have to but they really dont understand how freakin hard it is for me. I know it must be really hard for you to stop too. But I havent done it for about a 1 and half just because of my friends. They care about you and want you to stop before you do anything really bad. Try not to cut your vain. Your friends are right tho. You should seriously try to stop because of them because they just want the best for you. They dont want to see you hurt. Think of all the people that love you and who would never ever want to loose you. I know life is tough but you have to get through it and it will get better. Trust me. I always used to think how bad I had it but think of some other people. Cutting isnt the best thing to do but I know it helped me get through things a lil better but there if a better way I could get through my problems. Please try to stop. Try your absolute hardest. No one would ever want to loose you. EVER! Dont think about suicide or anything anymore, please. Go to counsling and that might help you. Please take my advice and think about every who loves you and just wantes the best for you. If you need anything else IM me at x0x Teza or hOlLiSteRxBaBeo9!! Best of luck! x0

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at school, there's this boy who's been bullying me for ages. he's nasty anyway, but he always picks on me. it's stuff like hitting me on the head with his folder, hitting me with a ruler, putting things like selltape and pencil sharpenings in my hair, calling me a minger, and saying stuff like 'your hair is nice, *ahem*'. my hair is horrible, but he has to say something nasty about it. i've spent loads on products to sort my hair out, but nothing worked. sometimes in the corridor he just pushes me into a locker, or into someone, it's embarrassing. if i'm happy, he will do something like that, and i'll feel really depressed, like i want to die, 'cos i'm worthless. i can't tell a teacher, 'cos 1. it's embarrassing, and 2. his twin sister and mum will hate me for getting him into trouble, he's from a rich family and he thinks he's better than everyone, he always gets his own way =/ sorry it's so long, but please help? thanks xo

stand up to him!! omg if some1 evr did that to me i would end up slapping him uh! l0l but seriously the next time he pushed uou push him back who gives a crap if hes rich of something push him and when he hits uou with a ruler break it on purpse and dont let him make fun of you! whats wrong with yourr hair? well if its rele curly or frizzy try getting it straightened or buy john freeza products for frizz! x0

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ok so me and my boyfriend went out for 6 months... and then things started to change. so i broke up with him. then the next day he asked me back out and i said yes. and then after like a week i broke up with him again because it was different then before and i didnt like it. and he keeps calling me when hes in tears and i dont know what to do.. if i went back out with him ide be doin it because i feel bad for him and i dont wanna hurt him. more and more people are telling me "he'll change for you... he'll be different" and its all retarted and i dont wannna go back out with him.
any suggestions on what to do next???
thanks in advance
13/f

guys always say that they r gonna change.. but they wont tell him that you just want to be friends with him for now and nothing more! x0

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hey, me and my boyfriend, were both 18, want to get married, and his mom has absolutely no problem with it, because she already considers me her daughter, but my dad is totally against it. what should i do

do what you think is the best thing for you. talk to your dad about it again and tell him that you are in love with your boyfriend and you absoloutley have no doubts about this! try to convince him and maybe if he got to know your boyfriend a lil better maybe he would change his mind! x0

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oki like these two girls but i dont know wat one to go out wit how can i decide

decide on which one you like better and why

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my dad hits me. and i'm really afraid of him. when he comes home from work i stay in my room. but whenever i do something wrong. even when i get less than an A on a test he'll hit me and say i'm not living up to my potential. i don't know what to do. He hits my mom to and i get badly bruised from the battles. what can i do? who can i go to? and is there anyway possible that i can get out of my house and be adopted or something? help me Please.

i know how you feel but try talking to your friends about it. try going over to your friends house a l0t and spend the night there until things get a lil better you could also try councling like maybe you could talk to your school counslor about it and she might be able to help you! x0

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okay well like my boy friend like has this best friend and they get to close u know what i mean like they poke n talk n and stuff he does more with her than me like talking and stuff! okay please dont tell me to talk to him because that shit wont work! so do you have any other ideas
but i really like this guy and the other girl is his best friend some times i think he may like her but i dont know! i go to your school and you know me very well! bye bye

i think i know who this is.. well i rele dont know what to tell u but talk to her bout it and if they are best friends they just mess around 4 fun it might not be a big deal but yea anyways i think i kno who this is about! x0

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Hey how do u first kiss ur girlfriend without the chance of embarrassment like if she doesnt want to. got any techniques on kissin too

well .. girls expect the guys to make the first move .. but if its your first time then dont make it seem like it is just lean forward and look in her eyes and kiss her ! hehe x0

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In the begining of the schoolyear, I made a new friend, Carol. I started to hang out with her alot. Now, I don't want to be her friend anymore because she steals and smokes. Now, Elissa, my old best friend who i want to be close with again, is best friends with carol! In my Xanga (KirksSkater) they said to stop talking about them. All it said was "Which Do I prefer :Carol or Elissa" and it was a fill-in thingy for other people. Now, I have no friends because of them. What should I do?
AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH
TarA

o0 gosh!! you shouldnt stop being friends with some1 just because they smoke even tho thats bad! grr l0l anyways tell elissa and carol that you arent talking about them and try to hang out with them more and be close with both of them! x0

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my boyfriend tells me im a REALLY good singer, and he says that i should go out to be big, because now i just sing small gigs in coffee houses and stuff, but im afraid too. how do i overcome the fear?

dont be scared of anything if you love to sing and ur pretty good at it then you have nothing to worry about!! just have fun with it and do ur best! x0

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this might be long

i got my first kiss at this campground i go to, and it was with this kid whos always been my friend, and we always hang out with like 8 other people. none of them know that me and him had a connection. well a couple of days ago my brother called me on my cellphone while i was out with my boyfriend and a couple friends and he said that the boy i kissed had called him and told him because he couldnt keep it a secret anymore. so my brother called me and told me he knew, and he was flipping out on me, and i guess he was being so loud that my boyfriend heard it, and he got upset and wouldnt talk to me and was always avoiding me. it was a long time ago that we kissed, but he didnt know that so he thought i was cheating on him, and he got pretty upset. i dont know what to do, because he wont listen to anything i say. and im afraid my brother will tell everyone else at the campsite, and i dont want them to know because then when we hang out things will never be the same.

you have to try to talk to your boyfriend again and be honest.just tell him that it wasnt when you guys were going out. if he doesnt want to listen to you talk to one of his close friends and maybe he could talk to him. x0

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Hey,
well ive liked this guy for a long time now, and i heard he likes me to but hes gone out with a couple of girls...
now its like hes been ignoring me and i told my friend and she asked him and he said its cuz i was ignoring him...
but he said that he likes this girl danielle.
so what should i do?
i realli like him...

he`s going out with a couple of girls? how many? anyways i think that you shouldnt give up on him and tell him that you like him yourself and talk to him more and dont ignore him. x0

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Okay I really love to swim and cheelead but next year I will be a freshman and I will need to chose.. I love both.. but which one would be better for me?? I am 14 and I have a pretty busy life.. my sister is also a cheerleader and she quit swimming.. plz help me out.. but now i got to go to 7th hour in school.. thank you..

Kaydee

well its really up to u but i would pick cheerleading because you will meet more friends and you will have fun at the games and yea.. its fun! x0

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