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my dad hits me. and i'm really afraid of him. when he comes home from work i stay in my room. but whenever i do something wrong. even when i get less than an A on a test he'll hit me and say i'm not living up to my potential. i don't know what to do. He hits my mom to and i get badly bruised from the battles. what can i do? who can i go to? and is there anyway possible that i can get out of my house and be adopted or something? help me Please.
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Go report it to the police...! you should definitely do that! then you will find out more about adoption and stuff!
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you really need help. well my advice is to go to a guidence councler at you school, or talk to a teacher that you can trust to do something to help you, or even talk to a friend that can help you get away from him
hope i helped
becki
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first i ask this, is your father an alcoholic? if he is, that is most likely the main reason of his beatings. i had an alcoholic father as a small child. my mother divorced him in fear that i would end up the same way if i grew up with him. the first step is to see an intervention specialist at school and let them know about your fathers anger. WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT LET SOCIAL SERVICES GET INVOLVED. they will make your life even more miserable than it is. and talk to your mom about all of this, convince her that its not hers or your fault that he hits both of you. have her and your father go to relationship counciling and try to get him into some anger management classes. if he's drinking, get him to alcohol classes as well. be strong and do what you know is right in this situation. dont be afraid to stand up to him. he may hurt you more, but persist at it and he will fall to the will of a stronger willed person. please keep me updated on your situation. i want to help. my e-mail is ph03n1xr4v3n@gmail.com
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you should call the child abuse people. im totally serious thats fucked up.
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i would go to the cops if this is a really serious problem. talk to ur mom and ask her to get a divorce from him and if she does, get a restraining order.. i hope all ends up good for you.
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you should really call the police on him next time your over your friends house(if you really trust their parents though) because you caould tell your friends parents and thety will probrably do someting.....or next time your dad hits you or your mom, the next day after school or something call the police.........he's doing a horrible thing you know...
hope i helped!
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omg call 911 like now. they're bound to help you, bacause that's the police's responsibility.
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Wow, I'm sorry. Who do you feel you can trust the most? A teacher, a councilor, a friend, obviously not a parent, but just who can you trust? Who do you talk to about anything. Back when I cut my wrists and stuff I was afraid of trying to find who I could go to. I had one teacher that I told, and she sort of new my situation, and I had another teacher who found out, and who went to guidance. The guidance councilor will probably try calling your house, but unless you have a teacher you feel you can really be open with, that's your best bet. Maybe tell your best friend you have something serious to tell them, then the two of you can go to guidance, or can go to your favorite/most trustworthy teacher together and just talk. They'll find some way to help. But when he hits you again, if there's a bruise, or any other physical evidence, show it to whoever you tell. Guidance/the teacher/friends parent might call child protective agencey, but it's for the best. I'm glad you realize that you need to get out of the situation your in, and remember it's not your fault no matter what anyone tells you, it's never your fault. Your father (no offense) has serious issues, either he was beaten as a child, or he has mental issues (I'm being serious) Nobody will hit you to get you up to your potential. If someone wants you to work hard, then they'll find a fun way of getting you to work. That's why I procrastinate so much, because I have no fun doing the work. But yeah, back to you. You NEED to tell a teacher/friend/friend's parent/guidance counciler. Or just (with physical proof) go to the POLICE! If there's physical proof, then they HAVE to do something about it. Or if you want the teen talk number, then it's on my column, I'm sorry but I don't know it by heart. But you can call that number and I guess explain your problem. I almost called it once, but I chickened out. I'm sooo sorry for your situation, but you do need to go to someone IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!! update me on what happens if you want either through the inbox, or my newest e-mail address, Basketball_Babii_08@yahoo.com
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well, i think that you should first find out if your dad drinks and he might be a little drunk. And that might be whay he hits you. But if not, i think that you should report your dad. Even though that he is your dad, he shouldnt be hulting you like the way that he does.And if you tried your hardest, than that is all that should matter. I think that oyur mom should divorse with him and then go live somewhere or kick him out.
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If you have a guidance couciler at your school tell them, they usually won't tell anyone. You can tell the police to get your father some help.
x0x bree!
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You definitely need to call the police on your dad because he can get arrested and you and your mom don't deserve to be physically abused by him and it's wrong. The police will believe you, since you have bruises to prove it and I bet your neighbors can hear everything when you and your parents are fighting. To get out of your house, you can try living with a relative that lives close to you or you can stay at a friends house. Your dad needs help, really, you need to call the police on him.
-Karen
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you need to go to the police. its all you can do. if your mum has stayed with him this long i doubt she will leave him now but you can ask her to. you need to tell the police the next time it happens. and if he is beating your mum call the police while hes doing it. if the police say they cant do anything about it tell them that he will hit you if you dont get out and ask to stay at a friends place. you need a close friend with a nice family that you can tell. tell her parents so they know whats happening and ask to use their house as a safe house. then, whenever your dad hits you, go to your friends and call the cops. your in a difficult situation and you must be careful because he might do more than just hit you next time. so tell the police and they should sort it out. if your dad has to go to court and you have to testify, do it. dont be scared coz if you dont he will hurt you but if you do he will go to jail.
goodluck!
if you need anything at all e-mail me at angiemills88@hotmail.com
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u relly need to tall a teacher or something and dont hide it because nobody need to be treated.thats not what love about. i know you still love him but thats not what its about i read this book that happen in the same situation.
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You can go to the police, or someone at skool -- Dont be afraid to talk, your dad has no right to do that to you or your mom -- Both you and your mother can get out of there -- They will put you in a program and get you a family...you have to be open though
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You can kick that dumb bitch in his balls. You can go to a couselor, teacher, family member. Anyone you feel close to. And yes, you can be adopted. GET THAT DUMBASS ARRESTED....
Besta Luck
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that's a serious thing. you should not let it keep going on in your household for any longer. Go to your principal or your school counsler. They'll contact the proper authorities. They won't let him touch you or your mother again. They will protect you. Domestic violence is not something to take lightly. Do something as soon as possible. I really hope this improves for you.
-scuffedknees
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i know how you feel but try talking to your friends about it. try going over to your friends house a l0t and spend the night there until things get a lil better you could also try councling like maybe you could talk to your school counslor about it and she might be able to help you! x0
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Your dad could get arrested. What hes doing is horrible and makes me want to personally go over there and kick his mother fucking ass. Tell the police, or at least a guidance counseler, and tell your mom how scared you are. Hitting you because you do less than perfect is stupid, but the fact that you get bruises and he hits your mom makes it even worse. Your mom could get a restraining order against him also. If you and her are afraid to bring the police into it you could sneak out and move away and stay in a hotel or something.
Like I said, I want to kick his ass. I may only be 15 but I can take him ;) lol. It'll all be ok in the end
jope i helped hun
N I K K I
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you can go to a phycologist...maybe move in with your grandparents, uncle, or aunt...any kind of family member or someone you can really trust and see maybe your guidence counsler ant school!
hope i helped and good luck
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