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couple of nights ago i had sex with one of my best friends we were really into the moment and we did it without a condom i pulled out way before i came and she orgasmed and the next mornin she started her period. i know im prolly being paranoid but i always hear theres a chance of a girl being pregnant even if the guy didnt cum so if anyone knows how high the chance of her being pregnant is please tell me thank you.

if she got her period. then she won't be pregnant. plus you used a condom, so you should have been safe no matter what. but yeah, if she has her period, she's not pregnant, don't worry.

-scuffedknees

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my dad hits me. and i'm really afraid of him. when he comes home from work i stay in my room. but whenever i do something wrong. even when i get less than an A on a test he'll hit me and say i'm not living up to my potential. i don't know what to do. He hits my mom to and i get badly bruised from the battles. what can i do? who can i go to? and is there anyway possible that i can get out of my house and be adopted or something? help me Please.

dads-
that's a serious thing. you should not let it keep going on in your household for any longer. Go to your principal or your school counsler. They'll contact the proper authorities. They won't let him touch you or your mother again. They will protect you. Domestic violence is not something to take lightly. Do something as soon as possible. I really hope this improves for you.
-scuffedknees

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I have a 17 yr old nephew that I am fairly close too and really care about, yet not close enough where he trusts me enough to talk openly and honestly with me.
A couple of weeks ago he got into some trouble in school. This is the story he told his parents (my sister is his mom) and the school principal. A kid his age threatened to beat him up in sixth period, and even shoot him. Come sixth period, the guy took a swing at my nephew, infront of all the other students as well as the teacher, my nephew ducked, then punched the guy in the face. Then everyone was cheering them on when the another teacher broke it all up. Long story short, my nephew gets suspended, and since this was his third suspension, all for stupid, stupid actions on his part, he was sent to a local continuation high school. Coincidently enough, so was the bully who threatened him.
I fear for my nephew. I want his entire family to move out of their bad neighborhood, but they are too scared to face the facts. I am on the outside looking in, and I can only imagine what the future holds for my nephew and his other siblings.
My nephew appears to have no aspirations for anything. I have always been the nice uncle who has freely experienced the world. I want to help him, I want him to see that there is a HUGE world out there just waiting for him, but how? How do I help him see outside his little box?

troublednephew-
Myself having a nephew, know that the bonds can be close. If i was in your situation, i would go to him first and express your concern. He might not be perfectly honest, but it might get through to him on a deeper level, even if he denys it. If it appears not to help, you should go and talk to his parents. Tell them everything. If they won't hear it, that's all you can do. But even if they don't respond to your concern, they also might start to think about it and do something. You just have to hope that everything will work out. If it escalades to a higher level, you should contact the authority in the neighborhood/school and see if they will change the schedules so they never have contact with one another.
-scuffedknees

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okay. well i'm 14 years old and my best friend is a guy. and i do have a boyfriend whom i really love. but my best friend recently has been flirting with me and crap. but i only think of him as a friend and my boyfriend is starting to think i'm cheating on him. i want to tell my friend about what he's doing but i still want to keep him as a best friend...what should i do? how can i tell him to lay off?

best friends-
You should be honest. You don't want to lead him on. Tell him that you care about him...but only as a friend. Make sure to make it clear that you want your friendship to last, but you're not intestested in him romantically. If he's a good friend, he should understand.
-scuffedknees.

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