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Houston, We have a problem!
Okay, my friend...Let's call her Jill, is really in love with this guy...Let's call him Jack. She's liked him since 6th grade. Well, Jill is one of my best friends and Jack, he's in my 2nd period and hes been flirting with me alot the past few months, and i'm sorry to say I've flirted back.
Well, this morning, he gave me a note and explained to me that he liked me. And then I heard him talking to his friend about me.
I really like this guy and I want to go out with him but I still want to be friends with Jill.
-I know that I should talk to her about it, and everyones telling me that if she's a good friend she'll support Jack and I's relationship, but i know deep down that there will be some sort of awkwardness around Jill.
So the question here is: How can I have a relationship with Jack, without ruining my friendship with Jill?
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well, as corney as it is, cupid is right, follow your heart. be yourself and dont worry about them.
You should ask jill if she is ok with you going out with him first, before you say anything to him. friendship is more important than teenage flings
irish
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well, "everyone" are correct, but dont listen to everyone, listen to your heart. Would Jill prefer if you hid it from her or would she want you to tell her ,instead of letting her dream about a guy she can never ghave?
I think friendship is more important than some guy, there will be other guys. But if you tell Jill, and shes totally ok with it, then go for it.
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Let me tell you a story about my friend and the ending.. okay well there is my friend beth and the guy is tommy. Beth really liked tommy and told her friend morgan. Morgan began to like him and flirt with him. Morgan has been telling lies to Beth. Beth is beggining to be really hurt because morgan is "stealing" tommy. Soon Tommy asks Morgan out and she says yes. Now beth has lost her crush and her friend. Beth has been crying alot but i tried to help her. I hope this story gave you an idea! I would talk to jill about it and see how she responds... please consider if you like jill or jack better!
i hope this works out! good luck:) xoxo BLONDE911
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Your dumb. Why the fuck do people change the names of their friends like they are going to read an anonymous question and know that you wrote it.
Also you would be a total bitch to date 'Jack' and you should be punched in the face for asking if you should.
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O0 gosh I hate when that happenes. Do you really like this guy as much as you say you do? Would you risk loosing a friend like Jill for a dude? Think about it. Guys come and go but friends.. its different. I know you like him and you guys should go out but if she likes him to then.. well other people are right if she was your true friend she would respect you 2 liking each other and going out. I know that she would be hurt inside. Just think about it and do what ever you think its best! x0
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Friends first. If you really think there is something special with this guy and you know she'll support you then go for it. I've been in this situation b4, its akward at first but she can always have him when ur done. lol
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ahh..the ol' love triangle. t ell jack you just want to be friends with him, and tell jill that he said he liked you but you dont want to do anything to hurt jill. anyways, do you think the relationship b/w jack and jill is gonna work out? i mean he has feelings for you and its gonna hurt him if you tell him you dont wanna be friends with him. just tell him that jill likes him, but not for him to tell neone!! no no lieing is bad. but just remember...jack and jill::went up the hill. but then........they came tumbling down.
how symbolic.
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If Jill has liked Jack for a long time, then you should try not to start a relationship with Jack because it wouldn't be fair for you if you were Jill and if she liked Jack. If you don't want to ruin your friendship with Jill, then you should try not dating Jack. But since he told you that he liked you, Jill needs to accept that because he told you how you feel and is probably going to ask you out. You need to talk to her and just tell her everything. Tell her that a guy won't ruin your friendship with her. You just need to decide what would be best for you, Jill, and Jack.
-Karen
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if you value your friendship you will stay away from relationships with this person because boyfriends can come and go but people like jill do not there are there always to help you and provide support but boyfreinds can go off for other girls i think that you should talk to jill and see what she thinks about i wish you all the best with your problem and i hope my advice has helped
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