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15/f
Well i am sorta talking to this guy. He supposedly like me a whole lot so i am getting to know him better to see if i like him and see if we would ever date. He texts me everyday and we talk a lot. Today is the first day he hasn't texted me or called. We never had a fight or anything, so i don't know what's up. We said goodnight last night and the said he would talk to me today. He ususally texts me in the morning but today he didn't. Now i am wondering why he hasn't texted me. Any suggestions or reasons why?? thanks!

2 possible reasons.
He might be busy OR he wants you to txt him first, if you don't normally do that. You shouldn't always let the guy do the chasing around.. it can get a bit tedious.
Just txt him and ask him what's up. :)

is a box of chocolate and a card enough to give my boyfriend for valentine day?

We don't know the amount of money you're willing to spend/how long you've been together etc etc.
If you, personally, don't think it's enough but you're short of cash, make something. Not just anything, but with meaning behind it, like a scrap book of pictures together and quotes, insides jokes etc.

I got highlights in my hair about three months ago. Now, I want my hair all one color and am opting for a medium brown color. Would my highlights turn a funky orange colors or something if I put box dye over them to make my hair a uniform color? Thanks!

Pretty much.
I used to dye my hair lighter. I got sick of it over a year ago and STILL, if I want to keep a darker hair colour I have to dye it every few months.
I even tried a purple tint not even a month ago.. needless to say it's coming out already and my hair's getting lots lighter.
Highlights grow out.. and if you don't mind dying your hair every so often with a kit at home, talk to a hair dresser and see what they can do.

I went through my boyfriend's phone and saw that he texted his friend that "Ashley's friend is sexy. I like her, is she over 18?" We've been dating for two years and I know he loves me and would never act on anything, but I feel awful. Advice?

Thankyou for your question.

You can either:
1. Keep quiet, hurt inside and not trust him
2. Confess you invaded his privacy and saw the txt

I'd do the second.

If he loved you, he wouldn't have done that in the first place. It's clearly not even an innocent txt where you simply misunderstood. It's clear and he spelt it out for you.
You can't seriously sit back and let him do this.

Okay, you were wrong to read his txts.. but to be honest, it's a flipping good thing you did.

Come clean. Listen to what he says. Then, it will be clear what to do from there.

Best of luck hun.

recently i bathed my dogs and changed shampoos. ever since that my vagina has been itching. I'm not sure if this is the cause or if i have an infection. I don't have an STD because there are no absesses or sores. My boyfriend has no STDs. Is there anyway to solve the problem without going ot the doctor? Or can anyone tell me what the itching is?

How long ago was it?
It could simply be irritation from the change of shampoo.
If it lasts longer than 3 days and you don't see any improvement, get yourself to a doc to rule out any infections etc, because nobdy here can diagnose you over the internet.
For now, try to ease the itching. Have a cool/warm bath with no bubble bath/shower gel in it.

Well to start one of my chorse are to do the landry. For a couple days now when I check in my sisters underwear if there dirty (she puts clean clothes in the landry basket cause she dosnt want to put her clothes away) and Ive noticed that there has been whitish clumpy stuff in her underwear. I have no idea what it is cause it never happend to me. Could some one please tell me what it is and if its bad or not? My sister is 11 if that helps.

Are you male or female?

Anyway, it just sounds like discharge. Basically, it's a natural lubricant and a way for your vagina to clean itself. Girls get it before hitting puberty and it carries on through out. If you're female, it simply might not have happened to you yet, or, you just don't get much to notice.
It varies. Some people produce alot - some people don't.

16/f

yeah..so idontknow if youve been seeing my posts, ive been posting a lot that are similar to eachother because i am kind of in a bad situation
right now about this entire thing..so this guy i kind of like [by the way, im pretty sure he is only using me to see what he can get out of me..he even said he wants to become better friends with benefits. he does not like me.] so he keeps on telling me that he wants me to moan when im giving him a handjob. and he wants me to moan so loud and "be a naughty girl and spit on it" first of all, i feel like im not gong to moan, this is because..i dont know..i just cant see myself doing that..sometimes when im home alone i moan so see what it would sound like..definitly fake and it makes me sound really stupid. i dont even know the right way to?! and i know he reaaally wants me to. he always mentions how he wants me to moan so loud. ugh. and then second of all, im not even sure about giving him a handjob, its so risky and stupid of me because he is a freshman im a sophmore, i met him at my friends house, he doesnt go to my school but he used to, and he is totally using me..but i still want to..but i know its a bad idea..but..ugh. and so he wants me to spit on his d*** during the handjob but uhm isnt that..awkward..and im kind of fearing that he'll push my head down onto it when im spitting on it..cause he keeps on bringing up the idea of blowjobs and then he says justkidding but i know he isnt. he keeps on asking and i keep saying idontthink so sorryy and he keeps saying, ugh come on please youll like it
like no..i wont..ill feel like a hoe.
ugh:[ and we havent talked since monday. listen ot this-
monday night we were talking and basically about what were gonna go at our friends house. and then he said he had to leave but then he said, can i get pics of your thong? and hes also asked me to send pictures of my chest but ive said no. and i told him, i dont think so sorryy. then he said okay be on again at 815, go online
so then he texts me and asks again for a pic and i say idontknoww dont get disapointed i just dont think its a good idea. then he said, ok but then im gonna be rough when he do the stuff :] and i said how rough and he said hard haha and i said okay haha and he said yeah and then i said, so what did you do today? and he never answered. and he DID get the text, i saw that he did. so i went online at 815..waited..and waited. he never showed. i texted him at 915 and said, so im on..haha and then he got it the next day and never responded. he was online about an hour ago for a half hour, im pretty sure he saw i was online too. and he didnt facebook IM me..why not...i dont know..ugh..im flipping out. did i do something?! i didnt even do anything! ill be SO SAD if he stops talking to me. and theres no reason to! im letting him do this stuff to me and im doing it to him so..why would he just not answer me or talk to me?! ugh. this whole situation drives me crazy. i just want to cry.

You KNOW he is using you.
You KNOW he is only after what he can get from you.

Hunni, you are ONLY 16 years old and look what you are getting yourself into.
I wish your life would fast forward to a point where you would realize how silly and naive you're being.
I know you like this boy and for some unknown reason you wanna please him and make him happy, but why the heck should you get hurt in the process?
I'm sure many, many people have been in a position like this, but most stop before it get's too far.
It's still not too late for you to basically tell him to F off.
This is a clearly a game to him and it's screwing you up.
There are REAL guys out there, who will respect you and treat you well.
Don't make the mistake of friends with benefits. Believe me, it's such a bad idea. Someone always, always gets hurt.
Show yourself some respect and please, stop doing things with him. If I were you, I'd just stop talking to him, full stop.
Deep down, you know the right thing to do, I can tell. SO DO IT.
He's waste. and definitely does not deserve you.

i want to make my boyfriend cookies for valentines day. what else can i do for him? nothing sexual please. by then itll barely be almost 2 months. and i want to make valentines special for the both of us. please and thankyou! in advance

Well hunni, you know what your boyfriend likes more than we do.

Do you want to spend any money? If you're stuck for gift ideas, you must have some idea what he wants/needs/likes, whether it's a CD, shirt, etc.

Get a card and in it, explain what he means to you - put a few inside jokes in there too, if you have any. They're always fun!

Perhaps you could take him for a meal somewhere, or depending on the weather, have a picnic outside.

Other things you could do are go to one of your houses and make it romantic, maybe light a few candles, watch a movie..

If you want to be more creative, make him something else to go with the cookies, like a scrap book and fill it with pictures of you both/quotes/etc. Or for each day you've been together, write a reason why you like him.
A favourite of mine are what I call "IOU's" where basically, you make these little tokens and on each one, you write something, for example "IOU a kiss" - it doesn't have to be things like that, you could do him favours too, like clean something for him etc etc etc. Just use your imagination! and it's always fun to leave some blank and let HIM come up with things he'd like you to do.

It's the cute, meaningful things that matter.

what are some really cute love songs?
about like being happy and all that,
none of those sad ones please.

thanks. =)

"So Much Love" by The Rocket Summer

TRS has many more, too. and most of the songs are known for their up beat, happy feeling.

I purchased ghd hair straightener from hairstraightenercare.com And its working well.
But i am worried that is it good to use hair straightener twice in a week?
Please suggest me.

Twice a week is absolutely fine.
This is coming from someone who straightens their hair EVERY DAY for the past 8 years! (I do NOT recommend this though, because yes, my hair is damaged).
If you're worried about damaging your hair, get all the protection you can, use a shampoo/conditioner specifically for use before straightening and spray your hair with protective spray before you straighten. You will be able to find these products along with hair care in most shops.. or hair care websites. I got mine from the GHD website.

http://www.ghdhair.com/uk/thermodynamics/step-one

http://www.ghdhair.com/uk/thermodynamics/step-two

a few days ago, i noticed i got a cold sore on the side of my mouth. it's not very noticeable, it doesn't hurt, but i know it is a cold sore. i know this is a form of herpes, it's just from the cold weather or chapped lips [not due to anything sexual], but would i still be able to kiss my boyfriend? or is that too risky?

No, no, no.
They're highly contagious, even if you are treating it and it has scabbed over.
Have some decency and wait until it has gone, please.

this is deff under the wrong category but whatever.
how can i smoke pot in my room and hide the smell from my parents?

Weed has a distinctive smell - covering it up in your ROOM will not work.
Been there, done that. I had friends over and some genius decided to light up. Parents weren't in, but I could even smell it downstairs, even when my room door was shut and windows open etc.
Things in your room will smell of it, your clothes will smell of it, your hair will smell of it....disguising it will not be easy. Burning incense to hide it will probably make it worse and make your parents more suspicious anyway.
What were you planning on doing after you've smoked it anyway? Let your parents see you stoned? Nice one!......
Do yourself a favour, show some RESPECT and don't smoke weed in a house which you don't own.
If you gotta do it, find somewhere else I'm afraid.

Is it possible to love someone in highschool, get pregnant, and stay with that person?
And i don't just mean puppy love.
I mean REAL REAL love. We're you go through bad times and hard times and fun times and sexual times and aren't ever embarassed in front of eachother and tell the 100 percent truth.

It IS possible and HAS happened.
but it is rare.
A lot of high school relationships never work out, even if they feel they are in "real real love". The sad thing is, people change as they mature. Relationships included.

I know this sounds disgusting but will I be okay if my dog licked my vagina? Seriously- will I get any diseases or illnesses? Isn't it true that dogs mouths are cleaner than humans? I would like some advice from a knowledgeable person. I was just experimenting and I'm worried that I might get sick or get an infection,

They've supposedly tested this on myth busters and stuff and a human has more germs.
But to be prefectly honest, even if that is true (which I still don't want to believe!), I would never let an ANIMAL which goes through trash and eats it's own feces come into contact with that area.
You CAN get an infection, so doing it is at your own risk.

yesterday i had went outside and i was in the builtding and some guy came out of no where and throw me on the wall and started touching me i was so tight and i don't know what to do i heard that he rip a girl

How old are you? You MUST tell someone. Don't let him get away with it. It's a very serious matter and he will be dealt with appropriately. Also, if you go to the police about him, you could be saving him from other victims.

I was wondering about something really important to me. I have this boy that has been stalking me for a while and wants to do it(have sex) with me. I really don't like him like that and don't really know him but he still stalks me and looks at me in the wrong places. Can you give me some advice?

You MUST make it 100% clear to him you do NOT like him in that way and don't appreciate the way he is towards you.
Don't be afraid to be firm with him.
If you don't, he will carry on, assuming you like it.
If you've told him and it still carries on, it's time to get an adult involved - teacher, parents, older sibling, etc.
This boy needs putting in his place.

Good luck.

my boyfriend got arrested for threatening his adopted parents and hes in teh hospital under suicide watch. he supposedly in there for 3 weeks and his phone got turned off and everything. thats all i can think about and i cant stop crying. what can i do?

Is he allowed visitors? Find out. If so, be strong and go and see him. I'm guessing he could do with the company right now.
Whilst I'm sure it was a shock for you, he should be able to explain why he did what he did. He must be under alot of stress at the moment and in need of support - you can be the one to try and give it to him.
If for some reason he isn't allowed visitors, write him a letter/card/etc and ask someone in the hospital to give it to him.
Three weeks may sound like a long time right now, but you must remember, he is getting the help he clearly needs.
Just be there for him.

so the other day, i had my period but it was almost over .. soo my boyfriend was at my house and i didnt tell him i had my period .. but i diddnt worry cuz it was the last day. soo we started fooling around and my flow started getting really heavy and he was eating me out and all of a sudden he looked at me and there was blood all over his mouth!!!!!!! now he cant even look at me in the eyes. i dont know what to do! please help me!

Even if it was the last day, there's still blood, so you should have had the decency to tell him.
Is he angry? Embarrassed? Both?
Tell him you thought your period was over and you're sorry - it's all you can do, really.
Hopefully he will understand and put it past him, so you two can carry on your relationship as normal.
and next time, just wait until your period is fully finished!

ok i have two questions here:

one: i have a bladder infection. it hurts soooo badly. not only in my stomach, but also "down there" every time i go to pee. -.-'' WHEN WILL THIS END?!?!! i went to the doctor today and they gave me these pills but so far, i only feel better for a short time and then start feeling like shit again. so yeah. someone know when this will go away? please tell me. im dying.

second: my boyfriends mom asked him if we have been having sex because she says you can get bladder infections if you have sex too much. and he and i had sex 2 times the other day, and then once the next day. we're pretty sexually active. i dont think 3 times in two days is too much, but if i DID get my bladder infection from that, how can i prevent this from happening again? and dont tell me to not have sex, because we use protection every time. so just tell me how i could not get a bladder infection, but still have sex with my boyfriend?

thanks so much. if you only know the answer to one, go ahead and answer. you dont have to know both to answer. :)

1. The pills aren't miracle workers and obviously take some time. With most medicines, it can take up to 3 days before you start to feel any different.
Since we don't know what meds you are on or anything about them, you could call your doc and ask when they should start kicking in.
How long do you have to take them for? Most treatments are about a week, so you're obviously not goint to feel much better in the first day. Crap, I know.
but by all means, if you feel WORSE than you started with, they may not be doing the trick and you don't want this nasty infection spreading to your kidneys. In this case, should go back to the doc. but for now, hang in there.

2. Whilst bladder infections are fairly common, sex can be a cause, even if you do use protection, as condoms and spermicides increase the risk (this does NOT mean you should have unprotected sex)
To prevent it from happening again, you should: *Make sure you're clean down there before and you urinate after sex to flush away bacteria.
*When you need to pee, pee. Try not to hold it in.
*Drink water often
*Cranberry juice can help
Bear in mind, bacteria can spread from your anus, so make sure that's clean too, and wipe correctly (front to back)

Hopefully you won't have recurrent attacks and I hope you have a speedy recovery.

I recently got an Ipod touch and everytime I plug it in to my laptop, my computer keeps saying its a digital camera. I have the newest editon of itunes, the latest windows updates, windows xp, and I reinstalled itunes and it still doesn't work. The ipod still works on other people's computers. I asked almost everybody and nobody seems to have the answer. I NEED HELP!

Same thing has been happening to my iphone for the past month. Although that is a camera, itunes won't recognize it and I've done everything I can possibly think of. It also works on other peoples computers and my brothers ipod works on my computer :S SO frustrating.
Although this isn't advice as of yet, I'm hunting for answers practically everywhere and will edit this if I find any! If you happen to find an answer before, please share!

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