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confused..being pressured..
16/f
yeah..so idontknow if youve been seeing my posts, ive been posting a lot that are similar to eachother because i am kind of in a bad situation
right now about this entire thing..so this guy i kind of like [by the way, im pretty sure he is only using me to see what he can get out of me..he even said he wants to become better friends with benefits. he does not like me.] so he keeps on telling me that he wants me to moan when im giving him a handjob. and he wants me to moan so loud and "be a naughty girl and spit on it" first of all, i feel like im not gong to moan, this is because..i dont know..i just cant see myself doing that..sometimes when im home alone i moan so see what it would sound like..definitly fake and it makes me sound really stupid. i dont even know the right way to?! and i know he reaaally wants me to. he always mentions how he wants me to moan so loud. ugh. and then second of all, im not even sure about giving him a handjob, its so risky and stupid of me because he is a freshman im a sophmore, i met him at my friends house, he doesnt go to my school but he used to, and he is totally using me..but i still want to..but i know its a bad idea..but..ugh. and so he wants me to spit on his d*** during the handjob but uhm isnt that..awkward..and im kind of fearing that he'll push my head down onto it when im spitting on it..cause he keeps on bringing up the idea of blowjobs and then he says justkidding but i know he isnt. he keeps on asking and i keep saying idontthink so sorryy and he keeps saying, ugh come on please youll like it
like no..i wont..ill feel like a hoe.
ugh:[ and we havent talked since monday. listen ot this-
monday night we were talking and basically about what were gonna go at our friends house. and then he said he had to leave but then he said, can i get pics of your thong? and hes also asked me to send pictures of my chest but ive said no. and i told him, i dont think so sorryy. then he said okay be on again at 815, go online
so then he texts me and asks again for a pic and i say idontknoww dont get disapointed i just dont think its a good idea. then he said, ok but then im gonna be rough when he do the stuff :] and i said how rough and he said hard haha and i said okay haha and he said yeah and then i said, so what did you do today? and he never answered. and he DID get the text, i saw that he did. so i went online at 815..waited..and waited. he never showed. i texted him at 915 and said, so im on..haha and then he got it the next day and never responded. he was online about an hour ago for a half hour, im pretty sure he saw i was online too. and he didnt facebook IM me..why not...i dont know..ugh..im flipping out. did i do something?! i didnt even do anything! ill be SO SAD if he stops talking to me. and theres no reason to! im letting him do this stuff to me and im doing it to him so..why would he just not answer me or talk to me?! ugh. this whole situation drives me crazy. i just want to cry.
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You KNOW he is using you.
You KNOW he is only after what he can get from you.
Hunni, you are ONLY 16 years old and look what you are getting yourself into.
I wish your life would fast forward to a point where you would realize how silly and naive you're being.
I know you like this boy and for some unknown reason you wanna please him and make him happy, but why the heck should you get hurt in the process?
I'm sure many, many people have been in a position like this, but most stop before it get's too far.
It's still not too late for you to basically tell him to F off.
This is a clearly a game to him and it's screwing you up.
There are REAL guys out there, who will respect you and treat you well.
Don't make the mistake of friends with benefits. Believe me, it's such a bad idea. Someone always, always gets hurt.
Show yourself some respect and please, stop doing things with him. If I were you, I'd just stop talking to him, full stop.
Deep down, you know the right thing to do, I can tell. SO DO IT.
He's waste. and definitely does not deserve you.
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Are you kidding me?! Are you kidding me?! I am almost speechless. How old are you? Is this what women have come to? Are there any women out there who have any self respect, self esteem and just plain old fashioned morals? This is not the first post I've read where this kind of situation is going on. It's repulsive!
Listen...this is the proper way to respond to this type of garbage. Yes, he is garbage.
I tell it like I see it. You need to tell this creep to stay away from you. How could you ever allow any man to treat you like this? To use you like this? You should be repulsed by the way he speaks to you. Why aren't you grossly offended? What he is telling you by his behavior is, 'You're nothing to me and I'm gonna use you. Then when I'm satisfied, I'm tossing you out. That's all you're good for.'
And...you apologize because you don't feel comfortable preforming sex acts on him?!!!
You need to re-evaluate the way you do think of yourself. You should never allow anyone to talk to you that way. No man on earth is worth allowing yourself to be degraded and demeaned. It would be better to never have a man in your life than to tolerate a piece of **** like that. I'll tell ya, if you were my daughter, you wouldn't look at a guy who didn't respect you. This guy is no good. Stay as far away from his kind as you can possibly get!
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You are only setting yourself up for a heartbreak. You know this. So, why are you doing it? Every time you share yourself sexually under a bad circumstance, is going to be one more hurdle for you to have to overcome with the man who sweeps you off your feet. Right now, you may feel goofy, gangly, and out of sorts, but it usually the woman who felt this who end up the most beautiful in the long run. Do not allow yourself to treat yourself badly.
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