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He won't leave me alone!!!!!
I was wondering about something really important to me. I have this boy that has been stalking me for a while and wants to do it(have sex) with me. I really don't like him like that and don't really know him but he still stalks me and looks at me in the wrong places. Can you give me some advice?
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I had a similar experience. Mine went away when i got a guy friend of mine to call him and abuse him. But that's not always the answer.
Be firm and clear that you WILL NOT be having sex with him, today, tomorrow or any day in the future.
Explain that you are not an object and if he looks at you again and propositions you again he'll be spoken to by the police. Because it is illegal, what he is doing. Stalking, propositioning... If you told the police that you are fearful of him then they can speak to him.
Otherwise, tell your parents. They'll likely get angry and speak to his parents. No one wants their daughter treated as a sexual object!
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Jeez... how awkward...
Well you should make it clear you don't want ANYTHING to do with him. I mean, literally, do something. Tell him off, get a friend to tell him off (preferably a close guy friend)... because what he's doing is totally inappropriate especially after telling you he wants to have sex with you. i would tell you to get an adult to help like in school or something, but im not sure if you're willing to put up with the drama. It's really unfair what he's doing though. It's either let him know verbally, or physically. and i dislike promoting violence but you gotta do what you gotta do. Good luck
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He needs to get the message that
you do not like him, do not want
to date him or have any kind of
relationship with him. Do not be
nice about it. He will take that
as encouragement. Do not smile at
him, do not have friends "talk"
to him for you, do it yourself.
You can have friends with you
when you talk to him, just make
sure he hears it from you.
First, lets make sure he is really
stalking you. Legal definition is
at the bottom in brackets. If he is,
then you need to tell your parents
and consider strongly calling the
police and letting them handle it
for you.
If he is merely bothering you at
school, let your teachers and
principle know about it and let
them deal with it.
[Stalking laws in most states pertain to a relatively new crime involving a clear pattern of conduct in which the offender follows, harasses, or threatens another person, putting that person in fear for his or her safety. An individual may be charged with stalking regardless of any pre-existing relationship with the victim. Stalking victims can range from celebrities to former spouses who have obtained a protective order against their ex.
For example, Dan spends a number of hours each week harassing Victoria, his former girlfriend, by following her home from work, sending her threatening emails, and calling her in the middle of the night]
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You MUST make it 100% clear to him you do NOT like him in that way and don't appreciate the way he is towards you.
Don't be afraid to be firm with him.
If you don't, he will carry on, assuming you like it.
If you've told him and it still carries on, it's time to get an adult involved - teacher, parents, older sibling, etc.
This boy needs putting in his place.
Good luck.
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Well have you told him how you feel? If not then you should do that maybe he will then move on.
If you dont think you can talk to him or if you have talked to him but he still stalks you then tell your parents and maybe they could warn him to back off.
If he still stalks you then you should file a complaint to the police.
Hope this helps hun x
Nikitaa-Mariee.x
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You should inform your parents about it, let them know what's happening. Afterwards it's better to lodge a complain to the police so that anything bad that might happen to you (which I hope nothing) they would have a primary suspect. It could be really dangerous if someone is stalking you the way that this guy does. I mean, just take his reason for doing this, its about sex, its nothing you can just easily brush off.
Sisterly advise: take care of yourself whenever you're going out. It won't hurt if you know a thing or two about defending yourself, not just with this particular person but considering how dangerous the world we live in, I say go and get yourself a self-defense lesson.
Stay safe!
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