ballerina04's advice column

i went to amifat.com just bcuz i wanted to c what is would say and it said "You are emaciated. Consult your doctor or dietitian!" what should i do and wat does that mean?

it means you are extremely thin..if you are worried about your weight you should do what they suggested. maybe being thin is just your body type though.
the calculator on that may not be extremely accurate though
please send me something if you need more advice or just need to talk.

xo Kristen

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ok i am 5'2 and i weigh 147..i was really pretty last year (and skinny) but this summer i gained alot of weight..imk still pretty i just wanted to know how to loose the weight..?(i rate good!)

you need to start exercising and eating right. go on walks, run on the treadmill and outside, go to the gym. you'll need to cut down on junk food. an occasional cookie is fine, but you really need to cut down. cut carbohydrates (bread, pasta) and calories. if you need anymore tips or help, or just want to talk, send me a message!

xo Kristen

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My boyfriend said that on the first date he wanted to have sex with me but I don't think I'm ready to. I told him I wanted to wait and he said okay we'll wait but now everytime I talk to him he still brings up the subject of "doing it" on the first date. What do I say to him to tell him that I don't want to go that far on the first date?

it's seems like he only wants one thing. i think that you should tell him it's your body, and you won't do something that you don't want to do. dump him if he keeps it up. he's pressuring you to do something u don't want to do and he's doesn't have respect for you in that area. send me a message if you need more help or just need to talk.

xo Kristen

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Im very hot and everything great y wont the perfect guys ask me out?

because no one wants someone who is conceited and thinks they're just so freakin great and terrific.

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im getting my wisdom teeth pulled to and im wondering what u sugest to do after like what to eat what to do i think i should do afterwards?

stuff like jello, ice cream, pudding... basically soft stuff

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i have been babysitting scince i was 11 and now i am 14 and the kids start gettin out of control what should i do ???

sighned undicided

i guess you have to just show them that you're the boss. i don't mean yell at them, but u can't let them run around and do whatever they want. bring games or coloring books to try and keep them occupied.

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I really like this guy (im 15/f) like i think it might be love.. but he has a girlfriend.. me n him always chill n like make out n stuff.. and he always tells me he loves me.. but why is he with her?

he's cheating on his g/f with u. think about it. do u really want to get in the middle of this?? do u want to be the person he's cheating on his girlfriend with? he either has to break up with his girlfriend or u have to break things off with him.

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Omg,there is this gurl in class n shes n Indian n I really really like her.Can anyone tell me how Indian chicks are?I havent spoken to her in 4 years?

she's the same as everyone else. just because she has a different culture doesn't mean she's radically different from you. just go up to her and strike up a conversation.

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hi im 5'4 and 90 pounds. im worried that i dont weigh enough. everyone thinks im anerexic but im not so i dont care but i feel like my weight might be too low. should i gain weight?

as long as you know you aren't anorexic, don't listen to them. if you really feel uncomfortable, go to your doctor. ask them for healthy ways to gain weight. it might just be your body type though. good luck!! send me something if you need more help or just wanna talk

xox Kristen

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ok my freind got this hair cut and i told her i was gonna get it in may and she goes o kool i dont like that hair cut! well yesterday she went out and got it!!! i am so p.issed off!!!
wat should i do?

ugh thats sucks. i'd just try to find another haircut or people will think you copied her. get cool highlights or something

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What time in the day should you work out? (mourning, afternoon, night?)

And does stretching help lose wight??

-Zero

i think you should exercise in the morning

stretching only loosens your muscles so u don't pull them while really exercising.

Kristen

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I am 23 years old. I just moved to California from Alaska with my boyfriend. The problem is, i do not think i love him. I am still in love with my guy friend back home. I am very unhappy in my current realtionship. I told him i wanted to go back home to Alaska. He agreed, but i am afraid once we get there, I will not want to be with him anymore. I want to be happy. My guy friend back home loves me also and i know that he would be with me and we would be happy but i do not want to break my boyfriends heart. What do i do to make this easy for us all?

do what makes you happy. don't stay in a relationship that is going nowhere. you are going to have to break up with your current boyfriend if you want to be with someone else. it's your life, dont stay somewhere where you are unhappy. best wishes! send me something if you need any more help, i'm here for you.

xox Kristen

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I keep making myself throw up in the shower and my boyfriend just broke up with me but i dont think im fat or anything whats wrong with me? Am i bilemic? i dont think im fat... but i am kinda suicidal and i do cut myself sometimes.... is it just a way for pain or what... someone help me out!!

that is bulimia. even if you don't think you are fat, you are making yourself throw up and you are hurting yourself. first off, you need to stop. get professional help. they will help you get to the root of the problem. best wishes. please send me an IM, an email, or a message to my inbox if you need to. i'm here to help.

xox Kristen

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Hi, MFS here again...

This is not really a question, but a request...

Can we please stop it with the "I rate" and "Rate me!" crap? Are getting ratings THAT important to you? Does it somehow make your life complete? This site isn't a game, people... ratings are not for keeping score. There is no competition - just advice. The ratings are supposed to be for keeping the bad advice off the site, much like we have the moderators in place to help keep the really bad questions off the site.

I mean, when I see a question that says "I rate!" in the body or even subjet of it, it just screams "OMG! PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO ME!!!!!!" It is getting kind of pathetic, as we're seeing it ALL THE TIME!

Let's give it a rest.

thank you. i agree. it pisses me off

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HEY EVERYONE ITS HOTBLONDE AGAIN. The whole deal with my boyfriend and wanting me to give up some sports was cause he had some serious stuff to talk to me about. He is sorry that he asked me to do that and he doesnt want me to. I just found out that I was accepted to stanford and he was too. On our date last night he asked me to marry him. I am so excited.

congratulations!

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Male 15
Theres this girl at skool right and i realy like her but im to shy i first step to a relationship is friendship but im just way to shy and neva now wat to say its like my mind goes blank around her. Wat should i do?

practice what to say beforehand. or talk on the computer or on the phne. good luck!! send me something if you need more help or advice.

xox Kristen

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i went out wiht this kid for ova a year and he cheated on me 8 times. i have a huge issue with trusting poeple becuz i am constantly afraid of gettin hurt. . i am way over him now, but i like my bestfriend =( he went out with my bestfriend[a girl] and she still likes him too. But, a few weeks ago i met this guy, he is truely amazing. he is everythin i need from a guy, he is sweet, romantic, trusting and he cares about me. now i have a big problem with trust and so does he bc he has also been hurt in the past. should i give up on my best guy friend and let my best girl friend have him, [bc i dont wanna fight wiht her] or should i go for the new guy? Help please!!

go for the new guy! don't go after the guy your friend likes because you don't want to ruin a friendship over a guy. the new guy seems good for you. good luck!! send me something if you need more help or advice.

xox Kristen

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It doesn't seem like we have touched on this subject much. I know how contravercial it is...so please dont pass judgement on me. I want advice not a lecture. 2 years ago on Aug 8th I has an abortion. I was 7 weeks Pregnate. I strugle every day with the descion i made. This time of year is the worst though. I had no support from anyone who knew including the scumbag who I had sex with. I mad a rash descion. And to this day I know it was the wrong one. It was increadably selfish. I had more options but I took the easy way out. I should have taken responsibilty for my actions and I didn't. With all that said, my quetion is...what are my chances of being able to conceive a child again. Are they less...or does it make it more difficult becuase of the abortion. Please let me know any info or websites you may know of that can help me. Thanks for your help ! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

i think you can have a baby again.
go see a counselor!! they can help you with the emotions you are feeling right now. best wishes. send me something if you need more help or advice. i'm here for you.

xox Kristen

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I asked a question about weight loss. i didnt ask if i was fat, i asked if nayone knew about pills or patches i could use since im 13 and really insecure. they deleted it and i dont understand why.

they probably deleted it because questions of that nature have been asked so many times.
don't use pills or patches to lose weight. do it the healthy way. eat healthy foods and exercise. go on walks, run, so on. good luck. send me something if you need more help or advice. i'm here for you!

xox Kristen

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