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i love my friend from down the street. WE shared so many things together, ive known him since i was 2. He grabs my one day and tells me he loves me and kisses me softly. I really thought he meant it. The next day my total flirt best friend comes and steals him away. I know he still likes me but it was so hard seeing them flirting. He may like her. I am hurting so much inside knowing that there could be someone else besides me for him. What should i do? i really love this guy.

Aww thats cute until I read the rest then I felt so bad =( Guys just don't know how much they hurt girls! Errr. But, first I would talk to your best friend and tell her how you feel about this boy you have loved for a long time. She should understand and she should back off if she's your best friend. And then when you're done talking to your best friend, go and talk to that boy. And just tell him how you feel about him, say something like "We've known each other since we were 2 years old! And that one day when you grabbed me and kissed me and told me you loved me, I felt the same about you, but then the next day you forgot about it and flirted with my best friend, and that really hurt me, because I honestly really do love you. And I just want to know if you love me too." Just say something like that and tell him how you feel about him! Good luck and tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox!!

xoxo Kourtney

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You know how they have the Welcome, ________! and it has like your inbox, your advice column, your questions, etc. Go to: Edit Settings
and when you get there, it says: Email Address and then it says Password (only if you want to change it) put your new password there and then scroll all the way down and hit Submit! And then your password is changed!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i LOVE my boyfriend and all but i dont know if he loves me back b/c everytime i say i love u on the internet hes like ya luv ya and im like ok... ( i think that) and i always wonder if he likes me or not.
please i could use yalls help on to see if my boyfriend likes me or not like tell sum things like how u can tell that ur boyfriend loves u,
please and thank u!
luv yall... yall help so effin much!
sweetheart00

Yea, I agree with the person who answered this (superstar10) because you can always tell if they're lieing or not by looking at there eyes. If they can't look at you when they're talking, they're lieing. Or, you could always talk to him about it. Just be like "I feel like you dont like me or love me at all because everytime I say I love you to you, you don't seem like you do. So, I just want to know if you like me and love me?" And then if he still does like you, then maybe he isn't ready to say I love you yet and tell him "If you're not ready to say I love you, then tell me when you are, because whenever you're ready I'll be ready too. Just talk to him about it. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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I'm pretty, smart, athletic, funny, happy and really fun to be around according to my friends. But is it true that alot of 14 year old guys dont pay as much attention to flat girls? I mean In my oppinion think im girlfriend material! Why dont guys like me as much as they like my skinny developed friends who have gone thru puberty? I know it sounds stupid but please help me!

Because sometimes boys just don't think! lol. They're just immature right now and all they care about is what their friends will think. Thats just how they are sometimes and plus you wouldn't want a guy who would go around saying "My girlfriend has big boobs" You rather have a boyfriend who doesn't care if you have big boobs or not, they like you for you and not your boobs! So, just wait til they grow up and are mature, you'll find him! If you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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I thought you would be the person to let me know that it is ok to be able to trust people , to let them know how you feel.

I thought you could show me how it feels to have someone who really cares about me.

I thought I could depend on you to always be there for me.

I thought you really cared about me.

I thought you really wanted to be with me.

I never thought you would be the person to hurt me.

I never had a thought you and I would never be together.

I always thought you were going to be there when I need you.

I never thought any one could hurt me as bad as you did.

I would have dreams of me and you being together till death did us part.

I never thought you would cheat on me like you did with other gurlz

I never thought u could ever lie to me.

I never thought the worse could happen between us but the worse has yet to come.

WOW!!!! I REALLY like that because I can relate to some of that. I thought that was really good. Good job on it!! Keep writting the way you do!! Because I'm sure MANY people like it! I DID!! lol.

xoxo Kourtney

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how do u make out???

Its actually not that hard to make out! You won't believe me, but really it just comes natural. Like you two will lean in and your lips will meet and you will just follow his lead. Like if he goes fast, you go fast, if he goes slow, you go slow, if he sticks his tounge in your mouth, then you do the same thing. Hope this helps!! And remember practice makes perfect!!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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im almost 15 and ive never kissed a guy..am i a loser?

NOOO!! You're not a loser. Some people take it really seriously about it. I waited for the guy I really wanted to kiss and makeout with. And when that guy comes, you guys will kiss. He'll come sooner or later. Don't just kiss a guy to get your first kiss over with, make it romantic or something. But, don't worry your first kiss will come!!

xoxo Kourtney

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There is this guy I really like, I have liked him for a really long time. There is just one problem, he is sort off out of my league. Is there anything I can do to make him like me more while still being myself? I rate!

Flirt with him a lot and smile and laugh and stare at him. Try getting his number and getting to know him or give him your number or something and then go hang out with him sometime. He's bound to like you if you guys hang out. Just try giving him hints that you like him. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox! Good luck! Just have fun =P

xoxo Kourtney

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I started going out with this guy in Feburary 10th, broke up on April 5th the reason was I liked someone else which I didnt then I found out he went out with this other girl after a month he broke up with her because she kissed some other guy and he asked me out 2 days after he dumped her its been a month n 3 weeks. One day he had a girl over at his house "just friends" he said that she was their bc she was waiting for a ride, then my bfs friend got their we all hung out then he left n she went w him, when she was suppose to be waiting for her ride then another day we were in his room n hes like are you a virgan n I said "yes" then I asked him he said "no I just did it w one girl her name was christina" wat bf tells his gf the girl of the girl he fucked? Last my friend called me one day n we were talkin then she told me my bf and his 2 friends were their n my friends friend was also their n my bf was saying " i love you dont leave me I love you" to my friends friend then I called him to ask wat that was about n he said he was "fooling" around but I dont see why his friends werent doing that too n later he told me "shes was just my friend on the first day i got to school" which I dont think is true then he got upset because I was accusing him of who he loved n he said "I dont care if you belive me or not belive ur friend n not me" So am I like totally OVER-REACTING or WHAT SHOULD I DO? someone pelase help me I dont wanna be w the wrong person n not know it n the other thing is If I do break up with him I dont wanna REGRET it. Like the last time thank you...

I think you should have a talking with him and find out whats all going on. Just ask him anything you want to know. Like about the girl he had sex with.. which I think was wrong to just come right out and be like "Oh I had sex with Christina" but o well guys will be guys. And just ask him about her and anything you want to know. And about the girl who was just "waiting" for a ride. And about him "fooling" around but his friends weren't. Just ask him questions like that and how he feels about you and just be like "I want to know everything, about the girl you had sex with I mean how old were you? The girl that was just "waiting" for a ride, I mean I just don't know what to think anymore... and you need to tell me how you feel about me" Just say something like that. And if he doesn't have feelings for you or you just don't trust him anymore or something, then you need to break up. But don't break up with him if you don't talk to him because you don't want to regret it. So, talk to him first and then you'll know what to do. Hope this helps, just post a message in my inbox if you still need help! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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i bought a thong but it's really uncomfortable! Do you have to get used to them? any tips?

Yea, at first they are not comfortable, but once you wear them more, then you get use to them. If you dont get use to them, then only wear them when you need to.

xoxo Kourtney

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if u ask a guy out nd he says no cuz hes gonna go back out wit his x and then they go back out and break up again and now theyre strictly just frends would it be like completely hopeless for her to say yea if u asked him out again??

*Ker~Bear

Well, he did say no before, so you wouldn't want to get turned down again. But maybe try talking to him and asking him if he has feelings for you before you do anything. Just be like "I know I asked you out before and you said no, but I just wanted to know if you have feelings for me now" Just say something like that. And if he does then you can ask him out. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well there is this kid i like i think i dont know im having a really hard time figuring out whether i like him or not because we kinda talk but then he ignores me for a long time of will randomly talk to me after not talking to me for a while or he will be a jerk to me for no reason and im like what is going on? i mean i didnt do anything to him and he makes me like him then he makes me hate him or he will ignore me and talk to other girls around me and look at me the whole time and i kno this because i see it out of the corner of my eye and then after they leave he will talk to me and its just weird and i have no idea wut is going on! please help

signed - confused =/

Geeeez boys are so confusing! I hate when they do that! But, when you guys do talk just tell him what you just told us, how you feel and stuff. Just be like "Why do you always do that to me, like one day we're talk and then you won't talk to me for awhile, and then you'll talk to girls and look at me, I can see you doing that in the corner of my eye, I just want to know how you feel about me, because you're so confusing, I dont know how you feel because you do all that stuff to me." Just say something like that and what you just told us tell him that. Hope this helps and good luck. Just leave a message in my inbox if you still need help.

xoxo Kourtney

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you know for the whole relationship thing? is boo the girl? and is kitty the boy? or is kitty the girl and boo the boy? and whats some good love songs.. that are not sloooow but not faaast.. please dont say all my life because that is mine and my x bf's song.. or is it wrong to have the same song with ure new bf as u did with ure x?

I'm pretty sure boo is the girl and kitty is the boy. But some good songs are:

Relient K - Getting into you
Nu Flavor - 3 Little Words
LeAnn Rimes - I Need You
Michelle Branch - I'll Always Be Right There
NB Riders - I Wanna Get Lost In Love With You

I don't know if those are songs you want, but I hope I helped =D

xoxo Kourtney

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On the last day of school, these mean popular girls came up to me and started to pick a fight just for the fun of it. I got a little emotionable. Now next year I dont want that to happen again. What should i do to avoid that?

~*AhHhHhH*~

Girls can be mean. I'm sorry they did that to you. When school starts you can either try to be nice to them and hold a conversation with them like nothing ever happened and just be friendly. If they are still mean to you, the best thing you can do is to ignore them, because once they figure out its not bothering you, they'll stop. So if they're not nice to you again, just ignore them and walk away. =D

xoxo Kourtney

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uh, i just wrote this poem and i wanna see if u think its good.i dont kno wut to name it tho. so here it is:

There's love i miss
A desired kiss
A someone to hold
Their loveletters to unfold
Love i wish to have
But this i can't
To risk my heart i shan't
To take that risk
Is to risk the miss
Of losing something that once was
All because
We fools who love
Will risk beyond and above
To have that chance
To take that fall
All because of love's true call

by:me,taryn collins!
wut do you think?i hope you like it.

I think its a really good poem. You guys did really great on it and a lot of people can relate to it! So good job. Keep writting them and posting them because I really liked them! Keep up the good work!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok my name is ashley and i am 14. i have a boyfriend and i like him and all but recently he sent me a pic of him and i really dont like his face. he has a nice body and everything. but he lives in indiana and comes out every weekend to his dads. i know u all r thinking im shallow and ur prolly rite and everything but i just cant help it!he is nice and says i am super precios an dsweet but im not sure if he says that to other ppl bc of where he lives. neway i dont kow what to do. i dont wanna eb a bitch and break up with him but i also dont want the situation to come up where i have to kiss him and i cant stand his face!i really need help. for my advice i really dont want ppl to tell me im shallow and to not care if he is ugly bc i know all that but as a person that i am i cant get over that nd i know that is horrible!i really need advice!thanks!

No, I wouldn't say you're a shallow person or anything. But, when you're in a relationship, you have to be comfortable with that person. Its not about all the sweet things he says to you or anything, its being able to trust him and being comfortable with him And in your situation, you dont seem very comfortable with him. And when you guys kiss, you want it to be romantic and sweet and stuff, you don't want a kiss like "eww I hope this is almost done" or "this is like kissing my brother" So, if I was you I would break up with him and find someone you're more comfortable with and someone you can kiss and not be grossed out by it lol. Hope this helps!! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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k soo ..i kissed my best friend and i want to do it again but he gut a girll who is older than him ..but i dont like her that much..but still..its funn..and i think i like him..do i keep doing it?

I would first talk to your best friend and tell him how you feel. I wouldn't kiss him til him and his g/f break up. Because I mean you wouldnt' want a girl kissing your b/f would you? But, just sit him down and be like "I know you have a girlfriend, but I like you" And see what he says and tell him you guys wont kiss til they break up. Just tell him how you feel. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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yet another poem-

There is a little place, here, inside my head, where everything hides, everything I dread.

There is another place where all funny things hide, all the laughs that I've had stay quietly inside.

There is one last place where my love stays apart from the rest, this little place is my heart and I think I like it best.

I really like that poem because it just describes a lot about life and stuff, if you know what I'm talking about lol. Its hard to explain lol. But, I really like it and you did a really good job on it. So keep up the good work =P

xoxo Kourtney

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I really like this guy...but he has a gf. What should I do to get him to like me?? I really need to know...SOON!!

Well, don't get in his relationship because you wouldn't want any girl to do that to you, would you? So, try to put yourself in his situation. But, just tell him be like "I'm not trying to get in your relationship, but I just wanted to tell you that." And just hope they break up soon and when they do, go right to him and talk to him again! If you still need help, just ask!

xoxo Kourtney

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I really like this kid. I asked him if he liked me online one time, and he said yeah. So the next day in person my sister says "Ohh you love her!" and he goes I only like her as a friend. I don't understand though, cuz he said he liked me. He acts like he doesn't like me most of the time, but sometimes he kind of acts like he's flirting. My friend thinks he likes me, but does and doesn't want to show it at times. Do you think she's right? Please help me! I'll rate ya :)
signed,
boy trouble!

I'm not answering this because I wanted to get rated. lol. But, maybe when you two are talking online you should be like "I asked you if you liked me and you said yea but then you say you only like me as a friend, so can you please just tell me how you feel about me so I know." Just say something like that because then you'll know if he likes you or not. If he doesn't, then its his loss! Good luck hun, tell me if you still need help.

xoxo Kourtney

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