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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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how do you make a boy like you? like he already likes me and he tells me that all the time but there are about 5 other people in love with him and i dont want to lose him but i cant go out with him because my mom wont let. i see him in the halls and stuff and we hang out with my friends and him on weekends but what can i say/do?
thanx!!!!!!!!

Just be yourself, and flirt with him. If he already likes you, then you've got nothing to worry about. =)

what are some happy pop songs?
like the up-beat, happy songs not like rap like girly happy kind of stuff?
thank you so so so much!!!!

Well, it'd take forever to list the songs, so I'll give you the bands that are pretty upbeat.

Hellogoodbye.
Cartel.
Cute Is What We Aim For.
All Time Low.
This Providence.
The All American Rejects.
Bloc Party.
Boys Like Girls.
Copeland.
Fall Out Boy.
Fergie.
Gym Class Heroes.
Head Automatica.
Motion City Soundtrack.
Nelly Furtado.
JoJo.
Beyonce.
Cobra Starship.
The Sounds.
The Hush Sound.
Augustana.
Jack's Mannequin.
Plain White T's.
Pink.
Paula DeAnda.
The Postal Service.
Pussycat Dolls.
Rihanna.

me and my bf broke up we just grew apart. it was great because we both stopped liking eeachother, all was good. exept the next day he went out with one of my best friends. she asked me first, so i wasnt mad at her, but i was kind of annoyed at him. like, but, it was kind of over the last week we were going out. but now like, we never talk. we said we would just be friends, but were not friends. i feel a little bad for him. my friend dumped him after a week because she says he was a loser. and now he was going to go out with one of my other friends (i was setting this up. enough time passed where i was okay with it) exept then he asked out a girl totally out of our group and she ejected him but shes like a ho no offense but shell date anybody and so now he feels like a loser and that everyone hates him. because now all of us are kinda p!ssed @ him bcz my friend hoo was going to go out with him was heartbroken. and then yesterday, me and my other friend were kind of yelling at him thro text, for asking out the ho. and so now, i just kind of feel bad i dont want 2b his sholder 2cry on or anything, and i dont want to talk with him in person but how can i let him know that the whole world dosent hate him? hes the type of person to start cutting himself over all this and like, i dont want to talk to him at all anymore but i dont want him to die!
theres a history with some of my friends for becoming suicidal when things go wrong and i just want him not to kill himself and be okay. btw you are a saint if ya answer this because it is way long and i just want another persons opinion bcause im pretty bias ya know?

Okay? So he made a mistake and asked out some other girl. So what? Nobody should hate him because of that. Hate him for the right reasons. Not because you're like 12 & have nothing better to do with your life.

Just be there for him. He has no one else, and if you shut him out like everyone else, then you're no better than him.

on my myspace you to request to be my friend you have to put in my last name .. i didnt know this at the time so i just put random letters as my last name so now no one can add me.. i still want my myspace to be privite but how do i make it so they can request to add me without having to know my last name ?

thankssssss =)

Go to Edit Profile. Then click NAME. Take out the letters in your last name, and then click SAVE CHANGES. =)

is he a solo artist or a group?

It's a group. I thought it was a solo artist too until I saw the video for "On The Hotline." I asked my cousin why they're called that, if it's a group of people & not one guy, and she said that there was another member named that, and I guess he died or whatever, so the band name is like a tribute to him or whatever.

i've decided to start a myspace quote site. i think i make really good quotes, plus, it helps layout sites make layout if there's quotes to inspire them. i'm currently working on it, but i have a hard time thinking of a name for my site. i want something catchy and unique.

if you have any ideas, please tell me.
thanks

[[I D0N'T LiKE Y0UR GiRLFRiEND]]

okay well i was talking to the guy i like. here is our conve...

me:how's your life lately?
him:pretty good, except i think i'm only living it 80%
me:yeah me too, maybe if i was more bold i could fill it up
him:i think if i had a girlfriend. you know like someone to hold and kiss that isn't your family member, that you can feel close to.
me:yeah i completely know what you mean

is he trying to hint something? b/c then i asked my friend to ask him if he likes me and he replied to him.. well we're really good friends and i really like her but not in that way. maybe in the future i could but right now i just like her as a friend.

so i'm really confused and i think my friend might have made that up b/c then he showed me an im of him telling the guy i like that i like him and he was like yeah i made that up it was fake. so how am i supposed to know if all of that was fake when he said maybe in the future.. im so confused.. what do you think?

Ask him yourself. Or have a RELIABLE person ask him; like on of your girlfriends or something.

okay so I was absent for a few days various times for different weeks because I got sick a lot, anyways I missed 2-3 of my math tests (he gives us like 2 a week though!) not on purpose! So anyways when I came back this one kids says stuff like

"Ohh you're actually in school today, how come you managed to come today?"

"When was the last time you saw her ass in school?"

the WORST was...
"Hey, there's a math test tommorow, are you coming to school? I'm making a bet with Sarah on it..."

a girl asks him how to use the word inclination in a sentence
"Like...(my name) has an inclination for skipping school)

then my english teacher hears and in front of the whole class asks us, "Wait, WHO is staying home tommorow because of a math test?"
--silence--
then that annoying guy speaks, "(My name), she has statistically missed every other math test this term."
I just stared at my paper I couldn't even say anything back to him because the WHOLE class was staring at me and my english teacher was evilly eyeing me and now probably thinks I'm a skipper

a few kids told that guy, "How could you call her out like that?!" and he's like, "Oh i love her, I just love messing w/ her" and they're like, "I don't think she takes it like that

and then the next day when I'm there for the math test, he hugs me and is like, "Yes I bet 5 dollars you'd be here today, I LOVE YOU" and the other girl comes up and is like, "HEY! There's a math test today you weren't supposed to be here..."

I don't know when they'll stop and it's really bugging me. I've had the flu, a virus and I'm so bad at comebacks and I'm really weak and cry easily in front of people (though I've kept it in so far).....

also he expects me to be nice to him after everytime he does this to me, and if it isn't this, he makes a smartass comment about something of me.

so..

ANY ADVICE?? Thanks soo much

He might have a crush on you. Either that, or he just doesn't realize that he's hurting your feelings. Pull him aside & let him know how it's making you feel. If you don't, he's gonna think it's okay, and he's gonna keep doing it.

ok well this guy i used to go out with broke up with me a long time ago. well a few nights ago i told him i still liked him and he said he still likes me too. well on his buddy info he says that he is scared to ask me out and i am scared to ask him out. we have been talkin ever since we both found out we liked each other and we have a great time talkin to each other. we both really like each other but i am scared to ask him out. what should i do

Don't be scared, just ask him. If he's not gonna ask cause he's too scared, and if you're not gonna ask because you're too scared, then you might as well just not go out. Jesus.

Asking someone out isn't hard.

What kind of things happen in drug rehabilitation?
Also, if you had the AIDS virus, would you be able to detect it in a standard bloodtest?

The AIDS Virus doesn't show immeadiately, so if your test comes negative, it might not have detected the virus. So, it's good to keep getting tested so you know for sure. But yes, a standard blood test will let you know.

And for drug rehab..

where can i find cute corsets at a good price that are not too revealing?

Hot Topic.

SCHOOL DANCE: theme is HOLLYWOOD... how can i dress like that ...??

So for the dance, its sadies and the girls are supposed to dance a little slutty haha... but so its sort of casual... no dresses. what should i wear clotheswise...?? THANKSSS

A mini skirt, some cute shoes, and layer your tanktops. =) Pearls and a cute headband will work too. Oh, and big sunglasses. =)

One of my best friends just can't seem to get a date. Because of this, he is extremely depressed...and it's been getting worse and worse. He gets frequently depressed, sometimes even if the tiniest thing happens, and as a result, he punches walls, he verbally lashes out at my boyfriend, goes into his room and listens to depressing music...and sometimes he has even talked about suicide...he even says his family has a history of this kind of thing...

My boyfriend and I have talked to him over and over and over again, but nothing seems to help...most of the time when we're talking to him, he just ignores what we're saying and gives us cynical comments. Even if what we say cheers him up, it just happens all over again within a day or two...We're running out of things to say to him.

When the talk of seeking help comes up, he just plain refuses to see a therapist...

I am in desperate need of help...Anything, please...

Thank you.
That Gothic Chick

Find a girl for him. And set them up.

what is the thickness of the drug heroine? i'm doing a descriptive essay on a girl who does that drug, but i'm not sure what effects it has or w/e. i don't want to know where it comes from or w/e, or how to get it, just general stuff, or things some people wouldn't know.

You should use google.

okayy im 15 and im in love with my boyfriend. so we had sex. and i think i might be pregnant.i had protected sex its just i havent had my period for like almost 3 months and i throw up a lot on random mornings. and i eat so much more than usual latley. and on top of that i cant see my abs anymore! i think im pregnant and im deatly afraid of what to do.! i dont know how to tell anyone. and i dont want to take a test cuz i know ill be right. i just dont wanna know the truthh. i cant handle a baby; things are too rough for me already. what WHAT SHOUD I DO!? PLEASE HELP ME!!!
-DESPERATE.

You're 15 & having sex? Nice. You're too young for that, but at least you're protecting yourself.

Anyways, you're still young, so your period will be irregular the first few years you have it. I went a few months without a period too. If you're really worried, take a pregnancy test.

And you can't see your abs? You're scared & worried. When you feel that way, you're stressed out. Stress can cause weight gain, so maybe you're just gaining weight because of how stressed out you are. And you're probably wrong.

Take a test. If you're pregnant, talk to your mom about some options.

13/f.my really close friend is pretty, smart, has a boyfriend for 8 months and everyone loves her. i love her too and im in one of her classes. she tells me that she never studies, and she gets perfect grades. her lowest grade EVER was an 89. alot of the time shes always bragging about things, thats just an example. shes basically a teachers pet in every class and sometimes its annoying. i just wanna go right up to her and say how she really isnt perfect, and its ok to make mistakes.
what can i do to calm myself down or possibly tell her(i'd rather not). UGH SO FRUSTRATEDD! help is appreciated.

Write a letter to her, but don't send it. You vent all of your feelings & get them off your chest. Or you could just talk to her about it calmly like she'd probably want you to do.

Well...there is this boy in my class who picks on me everyday.He only makes fun of me and not the other girls in the class.I laugh when he makes fun of me but on the inside it hurts me!and one of my friends encourages him and that hurts me too.What should I do???

P.S.he is very tough so if I tell him to stop,he will hit me.

Dude, if he hits you, slap the shit out of him. Don't ever let a guy touch you. Kick him in the balls, and tell an adult.

Also, just be like "okay, whatever." Or say "Thanks." There's not much they can say to that. See how tough he is when he's on the floor holding his dick though. I bet he's not as tough as you think he is.

15/female.
well lately things have NOT been going the way ive hoped. i got kicked out of skewl for drugs. my parents hate me. my boyfriend is getting annoying. and it feels like i just cant take it anymore. i used to cut. but then i stopped becuase i got some help from friends. but lately thats all i thinkk about doing and i cant stop. either that or smoking the pain away. getting high always seems to help. and i hate the way i think like that. i need some advice on how to stay away from weed and cutting. and just a lot of things. like life just doesnt interest me anymore. i really dont think id actually kill myself but it always runs through my mind. like i would never but i cant help thinking about what it would like if i died. i want to know. is there more to life then i thinkk. i just need to know. thanks. :]]

In order to stay away from weed, concentrate on something different. When you feel like getting high, go to sleep. Or watch a movie.

For cutting, write your feelings down. Get a livejournal & vent. Writing things down & recording them allows for self evaluation & you can calm yourself down.

Cutting is never the answer. I used to cut, and it's hard to stop, and you should know that too. Just ask your friends for help. I'm pretty sure they won't turn you away.

And there is more to life than you think. You can be anything you want. And you can be successful and happy, why ruin it?

I am 20 years old and i have a guy who i really like but i have never kissed a guy and i dont really know what to do and i have built it up to be so scary that it makes things worse help!!!

Kissing comes natural, so it's nothing to worry or be scared about. Just relax.

What are some good exucse as to why i was a no show to my last period class?

Say you got your period, or say that you got sick from lunch & that you were throwing up. Or say you went home that block.

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