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My friend is sinking deeper and deeper into depression about
One of my best friends just can't seem to get a date. Because of this, he is extremely depressed...and it's been getting worse and worse. He gets frequently depressed, sometimes even if the tiniest thing happens, and as a result, he punches walls, he verbally lashes out at my boyfriend, goes into his room and listens to depressing music...and sometimes he has even talked about suicide...he even says his family has a history of this kind of thing...
My boyfriend and I have talked to him over and over and over again, but nothing seems to help...most of the time when we're talking to him, he just ignores what we're saying and gives us cynical comments. Even if what we say cheers him up, it just happens all over again within a day or two...We're running out of things to say to him.
When the talk of seeking help comes up, he just plain refuses to see a therapist...
I am in desperate need of help...Anything, please...
Thank you.
That Gothic Chick
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Get your self some Niacin you can get it at any GNC or vitamin shop.
It is why suicidal patients get better. Look it up.
Its your only option Most people will be totally cured from depression im a matter of weeks.
I have tried every thing there is and this is the only thing that works.
Dont stop taking it. With out Niacin it is impossible to get better.
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well im deppressed and gothic. do not say a therapist. i hated that more than anything. when they tried to get me to. i went crazy and got violent. ive had suicide thoughts and told my friends. their gothic to. i just made new gothic friends and im alot happier and ive not had suicide toughts since i met them. get him some friends that would understand it better im not saying you dont. but they helped me more then you can imagine. they saved my life. dont be with your boyfriend as much around him that also made me very mad. ive never had a boyfriend. get him friends that are going through it before anything else. just stop talking about it if he starts to get mad at all or looks down alot the main thing i say to do is make friends with some gothic kids but it depends on what kind. and it will save his life trust me im going through all of that. and if you try to cheer him up and it works for a day hes not totally deppressed my other friends couldnt cheer me up. dont be so nicey nice but not xtremely mean we are really rough with eachother. but get him gothic or deppressed friends first. i hate it when people are so nice. no offence. just trust me.
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When I was depressed I read something that changed my life...
Basicly it was... "You ungrateful little brat. There are kids in Iraq who've had their legs blown off just because they were in the wrong place at the wrong time... And you have the nerve to whine about your lack of a boyfriend? If you're depressed it's your own fault. Your happiness is your responsibility. Stop waiting for other people to give it to you... Because they can't. Stop wallowing in your own self-pity and get off your butt. Do something about it."
I'm not saying that you should say that to him... But I will say that sometimes tough-love is better than a pep-talk. No one ever likes to hear it... But they'll get over it.
As for your friend... I'm not a doctor, but I will say that this sounds more like a case of the blues paired with a ploy for attention rather than clinical depression. People who suffer from clinical depression usually down play the severity of their illness and avoid discussing any plans involving suicide. But there are definite physical signs. Here are a few...
1.) Sleeping habits. Does he either sleep too little or too much? Both extremes are symptoms of clinical depression. Both extremes can also happen simultaneously. Does he experience frequent bouts of insomnia and then sleep for days?
2.) Eating habits. Does he forget to eat or complan about a loss of appetite? Or does he eat constantly or go on eating binges? Just like the sleeping habits, he can alternate between both extremes.
3.) Inability to concentrate or focus. Does he have a problem paying attention during conversations, comprehending what you say, or is unable to form conherant thoughts or finish sentences on a regular basis? Does he have problems reading and/or writing? Finishing projects?
4.) Forgetfulness. When you're depressed, it actually affects your memory. Does he forget relatively simple things? Walk into rooms and then forget why he is there? Or performing and task and suddenly forget what he is doing?
5.) Numbness. Not a physical numbness... But emotional numbness. Is he unable to get excited about anything, be it negative or postive? For example... Let's say his favorite band was in town and you bought him tickets. How would he react? Does he often act indifferent to his circumstances? Example... "Hey, you're mother is in the hospital. I think it's serious..." Would he get upset or just stare vacantly?
6.) Does he experience panic attacks, anxiety attacks, or social anxiety? During a panic attack, your heart usually starts to race... Most people actually think they are suffering from a heart attack when experiencing a panic attack. Anxiety attacks can also result in an excelerated heart rate... But the big tip off is that they can't calm down because they're so frightened. Social anxiety is kind of like an extreme paranoia when in public.
If he is displaying the symptoms that I mentioned... You should definitely be concerned. Talk to his family and his friends. You can't wrestle him to the ground and drag him to hospital... Well, actually you could if push came to shove... But you might want to try an intervention before resorting to violence. :P
The BIG tip-off when someone is planning to commit suicide... They start giving things away. For example, years ago a friend of mine (we'll call him C.) was hanging out with one of his buddies. C. borrowed his friend's jacket and when he tried to give it back, his friend told him he could just keep it. A few days later, C. got a call when he was at work. His friend had hung himself. If you're friend starts acting like this... Keep a close eye on him and contact his relatives immediately. It will take all of you to talk him down.
If you have any other questions, feel free to leave me a note in my inbox. You and your friend are in my thoughts... Best of luck. ;)
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I have a guy friend that is exactly the same way.
What happened for him is, is that he actually made new friends and completely forgot about being single. Chances are, your friend just needs a change of pace. Try to take him somewhere he hasn't been in a while, or never has been. See if you can get him to meet new people or even get a new hobby. Being single is just the most reasonable excuse for the hole in him. Try filling it with something else.
But, really, I wouldn't suggest setting the guy up.
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Well, if you think about it, i hate to throw this out and it may seem completey random but, maybe he likes you...and hes just jealous that your wth another guy and he just wants to be with you. Im not very good with suicide but one of my friends used to talk about it may times. I did a small trick saying we were going to the mall with my parents but instead we drove him to a therapist.
I really hope i helped, and hope your friend makes the rights choice!
~.:*liviy*:.~
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well what i think you should do is go to a counselor and tell him its for his own good and that he needs help and u are tryi to help him so e wont be so depressed ok
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Find a girl for him. And set them up.
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sit and talk to him
and reminisce about the goood times
and how things were before
but i think he needs to see a doctor
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